last minute appointments

[zach_wilson]

Latley i have noticed an increase in last minute attempted bookings, Obviously this can be difficult sometimes, as you may be busy or have plans made already. What do you do when you simply have plans with say the bf and the booking is for thirty minutes to an hr from when they call? Drop the bf or simply ask if the appointment can happen at a later time? I always almost feel as though i should go with option one as this is what I do for a living, however at the same time I have asked when i'm out of town with the bf if the appointment could simply be pushed back to the next day or so and gotten some responses that were very kind, and others saying well why cant you make it ext. hope to hear your thoughts on the matter.

[Greathands]

Zach ... I probably shouldn't respond to your post since this is the "Ask an Escort" forum ... but here's my thoughts from a client's perspective.

 

I think you should do what you feel you should do. This is your business and you have a life. As clients, we should respect both of those facts. If you're contacted for a last minute booking and you already have plans, you can simply say "sorry, but I already have another commitment" or "sorry, but i'm not available until ...". The client wouldn't need to know if your commitment is business or personal related, and quite frankly, it's none of our business which it is.

 

When you're contact for a last minute appointment ... or for any appointment actually ... it's up to you as to whether you can meet with the person. You may be able to change your plans (because YOU want to) or you may not.

 

I always appreciate escorts who handle their business professionally.

 

I learned this the hard way ... which I shared on this forum a few years ago ... when I hired a really hot (and really nice) guy for a multi-hour appointment. We started our time together with dinner where we got along quite well. He told me about his crazy day, which included moving into a new apartment all day. After dinner we went back to my room and started off by giving him a massage .. during which he fell into a deep sleep. Poor guy was so tired that he was out like a light. I completely understood, but wasn't thrilled that my plans didn't work out as I had hoped. In the end, I wished he had turned down my request for an appointment.

 

So, again, do what you feel you should do!

[Guest Rich.]

We started our time together with dinner where we got along quite well. He told me about his crazy day, which included moving into a new apartment all day. After dinner we went back to my room and started off by giving him a massage .. during which he fell into a deep sleep.

 

That'll teach you to book a 'boyfriend experience', Greathands!

 

Richard

[Electra 225]

Zach: When I contact an escort for a possible appointment, I always (and without fail) ask what his schedule permits. If we are "good to go" immediately, fine, but I always and fully understand when we need to schedule an appointment at another time or date. When travelling, I always contact a prospective escort when I am making my travel plans to make sure that our schedules and availability match and make an appointment at that time. By scheduling in advance (even if it is only a few hours or a day or two into the future), I find that both of us (the escort and me) are better prepared for the meeting and, more often than not, have had at least a couple of emails or phone calls to set up the encounter so each is somewhat prepared for what both of us like to do and expect of one another.

 

By the way, I think you are one of the good guys and it would be cool to meet you if Houston is ever in your travel plans (or I get to your area in North Carolina).

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

As a client, I think it is always appropriate to reply, "I have another appointment" and suggest an alternate time. I don't need to know if you are seeing another client, studying for the bar exam, or have a date.

[orbital sander]

That'll teach you to book a 'boyfriend experience', Greathands!

 

Richard

 

He must give a great massage!

[Decatur Guy]

I have made same-day appointments before (though I've never called at 8 and asked for an appointment at 9).

 

I do this full well knowing there's a good chance it might not work for the escort. But my time often isn't my own, and I often won't know that I am free until that very day.

 

I find that much better to take a last-minute chance and not be able to connect than book an appointment and then cancel, leaving the escort high and dry and hoping for a last-minute call from someone else.

[zach_wilson]

Aw thanks so much electra for the compliment . Also it is great to get feed back from clients as to what should happen as well. I feel as many posters here have said that the escort even a full time, has a personal life as well and that respecting it, as the escort should respect the clients is important. Thank you everyone for giving me a better idea as to how to handle things

[Decatur Guy]

Aw thanks so much electra for the compliment . Also it is great to get feed back from clients as to what should happen as well. I feel as many posters here have said that the escort even a full time, has a personal life as well and that respecting it, as the escort should respect the clients is important. Thank you everyone for giving me a better idea as to how to handle things

 

I don't think you should ever be insulted by same-day requests. And I read on here all the time about last-minute client cancellations. If I'm calling same-day, I usually just ask: "Do you find yourself unexpectedly free this evening and able to meet?" When I make a call like that, I assume I probably won't even get an answer. And if I do, I assume he's not free. But more than once, I've made a call like that, only to learn the escort is free or had a cancellation and is glad to have a substitute client.

 

Sometimes, I also "pencil in" a date. I'll call a week ahead and see if someone is currently free for the date I have in mind (to make sure he isn't traveling, already booked, etc.). I'll also say I can't commit to the time yet. So if the escort gets a firm offer from someone else in the meantime, he should take it and I'll completely understand. Then I'll try to call the day before, see if he's still free, and lock down the appointment at that time because I now know I am indeed available.

 

I don't ever set firm dates if I know there's a chance looming I'll have to cancel. I'd rather set a conditional date with the stipulation I lose the spot if he gets a firm offer from someone else in the meantime. Seems fair to both parties to me.

[zach_wilson]

Decatur,

 

I didn't mean for It to come out as being insulted by same day appointments, I meant it that some clients can get a little rude by the fact that you can not do a last minute because your busy. I do agree that your tactic on the matter is a great one. This way the escort has an idea of possibly meeting, and is aware it is not set in stone. I feel even a couple hours to a day in advance is perfect. Sadly though there are some whom give an hr to thirty minutes notice, which can be difficult to do. Even if your not with someone else, say your out running errands, get a call, and your free but you still have to get home, get a shower, get ready, and go. This puts strain on the escort, because no one wants to be late to the appointment. I appreciate your feedback,Personally I think its great.

[joeyboy107]

I learned this the hard way ... which I shared on this forum a few years ago ... when I hired a really hot (and really nice) guy for a multi-hour appointment. We started our time together with dinner where we got along quite well. He told me about his crazy day, which included moving into a new apartment all day. After dinner we went back to my room and started off by giving him a massage .. during which he fell into a deep sleep. Poor guy was so tired that he was out like a light. I completely understood, but wasn't thrilled that my plans didn't work out as I had hoped. In the end, I wished he had turned down my request for an appointment.

 

So, again, do what you feel you should do!

 

With any appointment- last minute or otherwise- it's reasons like this that I try to be honest with myself when considering seeing a client; always asking myself, "Am I really able to give above and beyond 100% right now?" If I can't, I won't make the appointment. If an escort is tired, not feeling well, or trying to rush through the motions because of another commitment, there's a good chance that, in the end, no one will be happy.

[Decatur Guy]

Decatur,

 

I didn't mean for It to come out as being insulted by same day appointments, I meant it that some clients can get a little rude by the fact that you can not do a last minute because your busy. I do agree that your tactic on the matter is a great one. This way the escort has an idea of possibly meeting, and is aware it is not set in stone. I feel even a couple hours to a day in advance is perfect. Sadly though there are some whom give an hr to thirty minutes notice, which can be difficult to do. Even if your not with someone else, say your out running errands, get a call, and your free but you still have to get home, get a shower, get ready, and go. This puts strain on the escort, because no one wants to be late to the appointment. I appreciate your feedback,Personally I think its great.

 

Yeah, it's pretty ridiculous for a client to call last-minute and FULLY EXPECT to get an appointment and get uppity about it if not. I fully expect to NOT get an appointment and then be happy at the turn of events if I do.

[kevininsa]

I am in the service industry and have the same problem. "Can you see me tomorrow? All day? It's my only time cuz then I'm leaving town! What do you mean you can't?!? Well, what should I do???" Seriously?

 

Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.

 

I schedule personal time in my day planner just like appointments. Be it a lunch, Dr appt, or time at the gym. If someone calls I tell them I am already booked and when would another good time be. I watch others in my industry run themselves ragged... and you know what? I'm just as successful as they are.

 

Good luck!

[Michael Wayne]

In the world of the high class, high end male escort to which you have said you aspire to be one of the greats there are two realities. #1. What we want to be real. #2. What is real. WE all want advance notice and multiple hour bookings. We want to be flown in, wined and dined. We all want the client to understand that we have a boyfriend and that he and our familiy and friends come first. That however is fantasyland. At my age and at this point in my career that is where I live and the fantasy world has now become my reality. The question is how did I and others get here. The answer is that I SPENT MOST OF MY MID TWENTIES- EARLY 30s SEEING LAST MINUTE CLIENTS! i WAS THE NICE GUY WITHOUT THE ATTITUDE WHO WAS FLEXIBLE and would do spur of the moment and change my plans. My bf had to understand that if we were going to live well there was a price to pay. At your age I reccomend that you put business first, get way ahead financially and then play from a position of power. Just don't ever stop being a nice guy.

[instudiocity]

Yeah, it's pretty ridiculous for a client to call last-minute and FULLY EXPECT to get an appointment and get uppity about it if not. I fully expect to NOT get an appointment and then be happy at the turn of events if I do.

 

The getting uppity about anything SHOULD be a deal-breaker. After all, it's a negotiation of the greatest intimacy. Unless Dom/Sub is being contracted for, Uppity should be totally OUT!

[zeyfur]

I have asked several escorts for last minute appointments-there are times you feel real horny and want it now ! Some have obliged and some have not. I never got uppity about it. If the escort has made plans, I don't expect him to change that just because I have got an erection and want release !

[Decatur Guy]

The getting uppity about anything SHOULD be a deal-breaker. After all, it's a negotiation of the greatest intimacy. Unless Dom/Sub is being contracted for, Uppity should be totally OUT!

 

I'd even go so far as to say uppity is out even in making dom/sub arrangements.

[fanman]

I've contacted escorts at the last minute, but I'm always understanding if they can't be available at the drop of a hat. I actually usually start my message with something like, "I know this is last minute so probably not possible..."

[Guest jonlondon]

I'm constantly surprised at the lack of consideration shown by some clients and escorts discussed on here but maybe I shouldn't be. There will always be some rude people.

 

From the client side, I do call at the last minute sometimes because plans change and I might be looking for some fun. I do understand that escorts have a private life and other professional commitments and so might not be able to meet me.

 

On other occasions when I can plan a bit more in advance but am not totally certain on timing or even if I will have free time I do let the escort know and say that if a firm invitation comes up he should that rather than wait for me. This tends to happen more with regular guys.

[essjay]

As a client my advise is to be honest and keep your word - don't say yes to a last minute appointment unless you are able to give 100%. If someone has made an appointment in advance be there. I have had several instances recently where an escort has cancelled at the last minute - didn't give them a second chance.

[zeyfur]

Indeed, a regular of mine who I hire quite frequently is often pesterted by me for last minute apointments. he mostly says he has already had a client and though he is happy to see me but is not able to perform ! Sometimes, I have ended up meeting with him for an hour just for hugs and cuddles.

[instudiocity]

Indeed, a regular of mine who I hire quite frequently is often pesterted by me for last minute apointments. he mostly says he has already had a client and though he is happy to see me but is not able to perform ! Sometimes, I have ended up meeting with him for an hour just for hugs and cuddles.

 

Please define and give 3 examples of "pesterted"

[zeyfur]

Indeed, a regular of mine who I hire quite frequently is often pesterted by me for last minute apointments. he mostly says he has already had a client and though he is happy to see me but is not able to perform ! Sometimes, I have ended up meeting with him for an hour just for hugs and cuddles.

 

Please define and give 3 examples of "pesterted"

Now now ! Be nice and sweet ! And since you have spotted my typo you can play the game from a position of power !