First date jitters

[gcursor]

So what do people do on "first encounters" when they finally meet an escort and want to have sex? I mean is there some set of pre-defined "code words" that everybody uses?

 

Also are escorts very shy about asking if they want to have sex or making the first move at all?

 

finally, who does their homework to figure out what somebody that they're seeing for the first time may like and not like?

[+ beethoven]

If you hire an escort, isn't sex the purpose? I don't think there's much "etiquette" or special words involved. Just act normally; you both know why you're there!

[seeker630]

So what do people do on "first encounters" when they finally meet an escort and want to have sex? I mean is there some set of pre-defined "code words" that everybody uses?

 

Also are escorts very shy about asking if they want to have sex or making the first move at all?

 

finally, who does their homework to figure out what somebody that they're seeing for the first time may like and not like?

 

I'm sure the answers here will vary depending on the persons - both the client & the escort. Regardless, communication is key and you shouldn't expect the escort to accurately read your mind.

 

I always communicate via email first, and I state very explicitly what I like and expect to happen; and I always state that I like to spend a little time chatting and getting comfortable before the 'action' begins. (If that's not YOUR preference, then you can state that as well.) I've found that some escorts will initiate contact (caressing. etc.) but in other instances I'm the one who starts caressing a shoulder or thigh. And when I'm ready to really 'get serious', I say 'Let's move to the bedroom', which is pretty obviously 'let the games begin'.

 

That's what works for me - you'll have to find your own comfort zone.

 

You should make sure that the escort you choose will be comfortable with what you want to happen by telling them beforehand and asking if they have any issues. I always ask them what their own ikes & dislikes are too, but I seldom get much of a resposne to that. The detailed reviews here are invaluable for determining compatibility, when such reviews are available.

[RexAll]

I've had escorts who as soon as either I get in the door for an incall ( from the escort's view point) or they have come to me and walked through the door who have immediately planted a large French kiss on me-- I like that. In other cases we have sat down to talk for just a bit. Sometimes they put their hand on my shoulder or chest. Sometimes I put my hand on their chest and ask if I can see what's underneath. If I'm really horny I've been known to touch their crotch thru their pants-- but I don't grab at it-- just lightly rub over it -- usually.

 

My 1st time is hard to remember. I was extremely nervous- wondering if this was a police scam, would the guy turn out to be a serial killer-- realizing since the guy had been advertising for a long time that these were unlikely. I think I came into his hotel room. I told him it was my 1st time. He was very gentle with me. He suggested we take a shower together. And we did-- things proceeded from there.

 

I was lucky-- this guy had been a former porn star probably 10 years before, and he had been escorting for several years. He didn't look as good as his glory years, but he was still an attractive guy. I don't remember if he had any reviews but I had been looking at his website for at least 2 years before we met-- when he just happened to be traveling to where I lived at the time which was nice because the very few local escorts didn't appeal to me very much.

 

My suggestion for you if this is your 1st time is to try to pick someone who has been doing this for awhile ( and not a Johnny-cum-lately) who has good reviews. Let them know beforehand that it will be your first time.

 

If you let us know what area of the country you live in and what you are looking for-- people here on the Forum are not shy in giving suggestions.

 

Just know you can either hire or not hire. I read the Reviews and lurked on the Forum for years. I didn't think I would ever get the nerve to hire. But I was closeted and looking at this site as well as a few others was the only relief I got. So if just looking at the Forum, reading the reviews, and looking at the escort websites is all you want to do-- that's fine. Don't feel pushed into hiring if you aren't ready yet.

 

Rex

[RexAll]

I've had escorts who as soon as either I get in the door for an incall ( from the escort's view point) or they have come to me and walked through the door who have immediately planted a large French kiss on me-- I like that. In other cases we have sat down to talk for just a bit. Sometimes they put their hand on my shoulder or chest. Sometimes I put my hand on their chest and ask if I can see what's underneath. If I'm really horny I've been known to touch their crotch thru their pants-- but I don't grab at it-- just lightly rub over it -- usually.

 

My 1st time is hard to remember. I was extremely nervous- wondering if this was a police scam, would the guy turn out to be a serial killer-- realizing since the guy had been advertising for a long time that these were unlikely. I think I came into his hotel room. I told him it was my 1st time. He was very gentle with me. He suggested we take a shower together. And we did-- things proceeded from there.

 

I was lucky-- this guy had been a former porn star probably 10 years before, and he had been escorting for several years. He didn't look as good as his glory years, but he was still an attractive guy. I don't remember if he had any reviews but I had been looking at his website for at least 2 years before we met-- when he just happened to be traveling to where I lived at the time which was nice because the very few local escorts didn't appeal to me very much.

 

My suggestion for you if this is your 1st time is to try to pick someone who has been doing this for awhile ( and not a Johnny-cum-lately) who has good reviews. Let them know beforehand that it will be your first time.

 

If you let us know what area of the country you live in and what you are looking for-- people here on the Forum are not shy in giving suggestions.

 

Just know you can either hire or not hire. I read the Reviews and lurked on the Forum for years. I didn't think I would ever get the nerve to hire. But I was closeted and looking at this site as well as a few others was the only relief I got. So if just looking at the Forum, reading the reviews, and looking at the escort websites is all you want to do-- that's fine. Don't feel pushed into hiring if you aren't ready yet.

 

Rex

 

PS Another suggestion-- seems I'm full of them today. While I always would like the escort to feel good too, they are in a service profession. Unless you are really into submission, the focus should be more on what you like. That's why especially for the first time it may be better to find someone who has been doing this for awhile and not someone who just started 2 months ago.

[+ azdr0710]

no, there are no code words that I know of....

 

as seeker says, communicate!...in the initial emails, I politely mention my own basic stats, what I want to happen at the meet (discretely, yet thoroughly), and ask if they have questions for me....always be friendly and respectful.....several escorts have told me that my email writing style is very friendly and sincere and that that puts them in a better mood for the meet.....

 

if meeting a guy for the first time, I'll want to chat a good bit at first....I'll think up some funny thing that happened that day or pick out a piece of news to talk about....though they may want to be discreet, I'll try to chat them up about their own life to find something more to talk about.....

 

when I want to move to the bed area, I'll simply say something like, "hey, let's kick back on the bed", and, of course, there won't be much resistance to that suggestion....chat some more, then move into some spooning, massage, etc. and it's on.....I may ask what do they like to do in bed......a good escort will make the first move in bed if he senses you're a bit nervous to proceed yourself....a simple arm around you or a quick hug from him can get things going.....

 

yeah, always a bit nervous meeting a person for the first time....natural, I guess....you can even say you're nervous and both have a laugh over it.....efficient pre-meet communication and a friendly phone call chat can really lessen the nerves a bit.....hopefully, the escort is a friendly dude himself and can break the ice, too, with something

[seeker630]

 

My suggestion for you if this is your 1st time is to try to pick someone who has been doing this for awhile ( and not a Johnny-cum-lately) who has good reviews. Let them know beforehand that it will be your first time.

 

Rex

 

Excellent suggestions!

[Guest Spanker01]

In my situation, after some general conversation, and after addressing any concerns he might have as to what is going to happen, I often will stand over him and say something like: "well young man, into the bedroom," pull him up by the arm, and escort (no pun intended) him into the bedroom. Many variations on a theme here, but it works for me.

 

Spanker