How Do Escorts REALLY Feel About Married Guys

[ErieBear]

I was just wondering how escorts REALLY feel about married guys. I've been on some gay chat sites where the gay guys really bitch and moan about married guys. And it made me wonder how escorts felt about them.

 

Thanks!

[gp0560]

I was just wondering how escorts REALLY feel about married guys. I've been on some gay chat sites where the gay guys really bitch and moan about married guys. And it made me wonder how escorts felt about them.

 

I don't go to chat sites very often. What kinds of things do they say?

[seeker630]

I was just wondering how escorts REALLY feel about married guys. I've been on some gay chat sites where the gay guys really bitch and moan about married guys. And it made me wonder how escorts felt about them.

 

Thanks!

 

I'm not sure you can expect honest responses on this topic, considering that any negative responses potentially damage the esort's business. (Not to say there isn't some precedent here for self-damaging comments tho!)

[doitb4ugo]

I would imagine they feel the same way as they do about small dicks, beer bellies, balding guys or just about any other attribute. My experience tells me that the escorts I have had the pleasure to know, seem to not be too hung up on anything but will enjoy the company of a guy who treats them respectfully and hire them to provide a little something special in their sex life...being some of the above, including married, I have not noticed any negative reaction to my hiring....If I were cynical I would suggest that the escorts see the color of money not the guy who's paying...but I'm not yet that cynical....the guys I have hired genuinely seem to enjoy what they do and the best one's make you feel like they are enjoying you....It is not much different that straight or gay sex outside of the escort arena....except that I can get my fantasies fulfilled more easily.

[Phlmuscle]

There are a lot of escorts and gay porn stars that are straight and married also.

[wayout]

Just as there is a wide range of professionalism among escorts, there is likely a similar wide range of attitudes by escorts towards their clients (married or not). Unless it is brought up by the client, I don't think it has to be an issue to be concerned about. In all my encounters (way too many to remember), whether I was married, divorced, single, partnered, etc has never come up because it has never been something I thought was important to our encounter and an escort has never asked.

[EZEtoGRU]

I guess I am totally confused by this question. What is the difference if a customer is married or single? Why would this even be an issue? Why would a gay escort, or gay man for that matter, bitch about a married guy? No comprendo.

 

I don't know this for a fact, but I would guess that a high proportion of male escort's customers are married men. Perhaps not the majority, but more than 5%. Perhaps some of the escorts on this forum could advise what percentage of their clients are guys married to women.

[ErieBear]

Thanks all. I've only hired one escort and he didn't seem to care (it got brought up in casual conversation). But I wondered if others felt that way or not.

[hunkymuscles]

I'm not sure you can expect honest responses on this topic, considering that any negative responses potentially damage the esort's business. (Not to say there isn't some precedent here for self-damaging comments tho!)

 

My response is actually an honest one. It really doesn't matter to me if the guy is married or not and why should it matter? A married guy is hiring me basically for the same reasons any other guy is. They are treating themselves to an experience that they don't normally don't get. Though I never ask, I've been with plenty of guys who've informed me that they were married. I was married too for many years so I know the dilemmas and challenges they face. If a client tells me he is married, I'll let them know that I was once married too. Giving them that information seems to put them more at ease and insures them that I'm not passing any sort of judgement. It also leads to interesting conversations.

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[KMEM]

I am gratified to learn that 5% is a high proportion. I have always thought that 10-15% was a minority or even 49%, but, what do I know?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[EZEtoGRU]

I am gratified to learn that 5% is a high proportion. I have always thought that 10-15% was a minority or even 49%, but, what do I know?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

Actually I said "more than 5%". But hey, you've never been big on facts or details.

[gcursor]

the "social security" issue of Escorting

 

Wow..I was surprised somebody brought this up. This is akin to "social security" in politics. it's something that you don't really touch.

 

I think you have to remember that escorts are very very very good at what they do and I'm not sure I'd want to know how they feel about me for real. As has been said on here time and time again, we aren't paying for reality as much as we're paying for a temporary fantasy.

 

Reality will still be there for us when the encounter is over.

 

I was just wondering how escorts REALLY feel about married guys. I've been on some gay chat sites where the gay guys really bitch and moan about married guys. And it made me wonder how escorts felt about them.

 

Thanks!

[corndog]

I think that on gay chat sites, the men are often entertaining the idea that they're looking for a relationship, not just a hookup. If it's a relationship they're after (or they think they're after) then it is understandable that they would want to avoid the complications of a married man. Escorts, on the other hand, aren't generally looking for anything more than a professional arrangement, so I expect that marital status isn't an issue.

[Bosguy]

I can't speak for escorts in general, but I prefer to spend multiple hours with each escort and be 100% honest about me with them. No escort I have ever been with was bothered by my married/partner status and we just enjoyed each other for the amount of time we were able.

I think that c. 5% is very low from what I have heard, but many escorts do not know the client's status.

 

Bill K.

[KMEM]

Actually I said "more than 5%". But hey, you've never been big on facts or details.

 

Ditto.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Steven_Draker]

Perhaps some of the escorts on this forum could advise what percentage of their clients are guys married to women.

 

Closer to 50% and nothing out-of-ordinary here (or at least it seems that to me)

 

Perhaps the OP ErieBear could clarify what his concerns are ...?

[BaronArtz]

Could it be that married guys are less 'clingy', and have fewer demands? They need to be with the wife-y evenings and weekends, after all

[gtx1]

I'm married and I have always been honest with my escorts concerning this status.

 

When I started this hobby not very long ago I wanted to experience a new sexual experience. I thought I was buying sex. Never in my wildest dreams did I expect to develop friendships and extended term relationships with many of these guys. I now look forward to my repeat visits to catch up and spend time with someone I genuinely like.

 

So married or not I treat these guys as cherished friends.

[EZEtoGRU]

Closer to 50% and nothing out-of-ordinary here (or at least it seems that to me)

 

Perhaps the OP ErieBear could clarify what his concerns are ...?[/color]

 

Thanks Steven. Facinating to see the number as high as that in the US. I know it is that high in Brazil but had no idea it was so high here as well.

[NYTomcat]

I think many might be surprised by the number or percentage of posters on this forum who are married. Many don't discuss it. But there are alot of us. Though I can happily report ....I have moved out of the marital residence. Small steps to big changes

[happyguy2]

As I read this thread, I remember that, over the years, a good number of escorts asked me if I was married (I have never been married) and I thought nothing of it. Is there something I do (or don't do) that prompts them to ask?

[wayout]

As I read this thread, I remember that, over the years, a good number of escorts asked me if I was married (I have never been married) and I thought nothing of it. Is there something I do (or don't do) that prompts them to ask?

 

Is there any connection related to those that ask and appointments being longer than just an hour? I imagine that if it is an evening, overnight or longer that it might come up as part of a conversation. Having said that, however, considering discretion and privacy issues, I would think it might not be appropriate for an escort to be asking that and should only be brought up by the client if he wanted to. Maybe I am just not open about things and a bit over cautious but I usually find enough things to talk about that its not an issue.

[Bosguy]

I think many might be surprised by the number or percentage of posters on this forum who are married. Many don't discuss it. But there are alot of us. Though I can happily report ....I have moved out of the marital residence. Small steps to big changes

 

Get ready guys! If the co-chair of the "making up for lost time club" has minimalized his restrictions, it should be an interesting and entertaining voyage.

 

Have a great time being who you want to be!!

 

Bill K.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Get ready guys! If the co-chair of the "making up for lost time club" has minimalized his restrictions, it should be an interesting and entertaining voyage.

 

All right Bill. Now you have my curiosity picqued. Who is his co-chair?

 

As some of you may know, I, like TC, came out to my wife, a little over 5 months ago. However, my path is quite different than his, as it is for each of us on this path. However, during this whole process, several of the escorts I have seen have been important advisers and good friends, helping me to see where I am as well as where I may be going. Their friendship and guidance has been invaluable to me, and makes me treasure them and our relationship all the more. And the thought that being a married man, either in or out of the closet, has anything to do with our relationship is almost laughable, except in a positive sense through their support through my own coming out process. Several of these escorts have been married themselves. In fact, about 50% of the guys I've hired have been married at one time.

 

Likewise, from the small sample at the DC luncheon in January, fully one-half of the guys sitting at that table were/are married. Likewise, although I never figured out the percentage, a good number of the attendees at the Palm Springs weekend had at one point been married, and perhaps some still were like myself.

 

It is odd though. I was messaging a 20-something guy I met on A4A who wanted to meet me (trust me, that's rush for mid-50's guy like me). But he was absolutely amazed that there were gay men who were married. The only response to him possible: "You have no idea".

[Bosguy]

All right Bill. Now you have my curiosity picqued. Who is his co-chair?

 

As some of you may know, I, like TC, came out to my wife, a little over 5 months ago. However, my path is quite different than his, as it is for each of us on this path. However, during this whole process, several of the escorts I have seen have been important advisers and good friends, helping me to see where I am as well as where I may be going. Their friendship and guidance has been invaluable to me, and makes me treasure them and our relationship all the more. And the thought that being a married man, either in or out of the closet, has anything to do with our relationship is almost laughable, except in a positive sense through their support through my own coming out process. Several of these escorts have been married themselves. In fact, about 50% of the guys I've hired have been married at one time.

 

Likewise, from the small sample at the DC luncheon in January, fully one-half of the guys sitting at that table were/are married. Likewise, although I never figured out the percentage, a good number of the attendees at the Palm Springs weekend had at one point been married, and perhaps some still were like myself.

 

It is odd though. I was messaging a 20-something guy I met on A4A who wanted to meet me (trust me, that's rush for mid-50's guy like me). But he was absolutely amazed that there were gay men who were married. The only response to him possible: "You have no idea".

 

Lee,

From conversations in PS, I don't think it's difficult to figure out the co-chair. Just a few clues: both super nice guys, both active Forum members, both from the East Coast, and both enjoy the same type of men.

 

Bill K.