Long time lurker - first time poster.... does everyone have to go all the way...?

[lanyc]

I dig rolling around, receiving a little oral, making out like crazy, and tons of body contact. No topping. No bottoming. Just almost high school stuff. Am I out of my mind? Or is that cool? Especially with escorts. I don't want to fuck. Waste of money if I don't? I want to play. Laugh. Make out. Feel worked out bodies. No desire to get "plowed," as some people put it so eloquently. Seems... a bit much. Sweat just as much. Just a little less... invasive. Sure, let's go with "less... invasive."

 

Granted I'm straight acting. Not straight. But straight acting. And attracted to same. And I know people have problems with that term, but... sorry. That is indeed the deal.

 

That being said... suggestions in either NYC? Or, maybe, LA?

 

The end.

 

Can't wait to see how I'm torn a new one by posting this, if you pardon the expression.

[Kevin Slater]

You don't need anyone's permission to have the experience you want, aside from the lucky fellow who gets to share it with you. I doubt any escort would insist that any specific activity has to be part of the equation, and each would be happy with a brief note describing what you're looking for, just like you typed above.

 

As far as a recommendation, since I think just about anyone would be happy to play like you describe, how about you narrow the field a bit by telling us what kind of guy you like (age, stats, race, whatever)?

 

Welcome to the forum, by the way.

 

Kevin Slater

[lanyc]

Wow. What an honest, cool response. Thanks. Okay....um.... I dig muscle. And the few times I've hired, it's been muscled-based. (God, I sound like a power point presentation.) (Which I've never done, by the way. So I'm totally guessing at the reference.) But it probably doesn't have to be crazy muscle. I've hit up Club 20 a few times and had a pretty good time. But it can get to be a bit... repetitive. Just someone who's (here we go) really hot and younger than, oh, 35. But, let's be honest, younger. Just someone who's into it. Who would bring the fun/passion/intensity. Without the going-all-the-way-ness. Does that mean purely an "erotic massage"? Maybe. A cute kid who kisses like a Ryan Adams song would be cool. But, that might be too obscure of a reference here.

 

Anyway, Butler kinda blew in the second half, right?

[Kevin Slater]

Check out Edinson:

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?74916-Edin-in-NYC...-congrats-on-getting-a-daddys-review!

 

http://www.rentboy.com/edinson

 

Kevin Slater

[seeker630]

I dig rolling around, receiving a little oral, making out like crazy, and tons of body contact. No topping. No bottoming. Just almost high school stuff. Am I out of my mind? Or is that cool? Especially with escorts. I don't want to fuck. Waste of money if I don't? I want to play. Laugh. Make out. Feel worked out bodies. No desire to get "plowed," as some people put it so eloquently. Seems... a bit much. Sweat just as much. Just a little less... invasive. Sure, let's go with "less... invasive."

 

Granted I'm straight acting. Not straight. But straight acting. And attracted to same. And I know people have problems with that term, but... sorry. That is indeed the deal.

 

That being said... suggestions in either NYC? Or, maybe, LA?

 

The end.

 

Can't wait to see how I'm torn a new one by posting this, if you pardon the expression.

 

Welcome to the forum!

 

As for 'going all the way'...as Kevin says, there are no 'requirements', it's all about doing what you WANT to do. I myself almost never f**k an escort - kissing, body contact & oiral get me where I want to go And if you read the reviews, you'll see lots of them are similar.

 

So - just communicate what you WANT and go for it! It's all about YOU, and not anyone else's expectations!

 

Happy hiring!

[+ azdr0710]

your plan for a meeting is very, very common.....it's much the way I like to do things.....no worries at all....

 

as said already, communicate in a friendly and professional way, be respectful, have fun, all that.....

[JT Brooklyn]

Whatever Floats The Boat.. "It's Your Time Enjoy it Your Way"!

[Michael Wayne]

Hi. The client sets the limits and whatever he is comfortable with the escort provides. Many times thought the client will initially not want to go all the way but as he gets to know you and is comfortable nature takes its course. THE ORGASM IS MORE INTENSE FROM FUCKING. That is a fact but some clients just are afraid of it for various reasons and that is cool.

[instudiocity]

lanyc, Welcome. FYI, you perfectly described my last 10-12 sessions with an escort. Were you a fly on my wall?

[leigh.bess.toad]

lanyc, Welcome. FYI, you perfectly described my last 10-12 sessions with an escort. Were you a fly on my wall?

 

Now why, oh why, do I have such a hard time believing that? Come on ISC, my leg can't be pulled all the way to LA from Richmond.

 

Oh but as the others have said, welcome lanyc. Don't be a stranger.

 

And as the others have said, you set the parameters. There is nothing weird about your request at all. It's all about what you want. To borrow a phrase from another thread and review "no anal insertive activities". Your requests and needs are paramount and the escort should have no problem with it whatsoever.

 

At least IMHO.

[doitb4ugo]

Welcome lanyc. Your desire to not have anal be part of the sessions is quite normal..I often do not have anal...at least on a first date...It removes so much pressure that I'm more likely to have a good time and connect with the guy...2nd date can be all anal if we hit it off...but there is no denying the appeal of a kissing, hugging session for emotional satisfaction.

[instudiocity]

Now why, oh why, do I have such a hard time believing that? Come on ISC, my leg can't be pulled all the way to LA from Richmond.

Now Lee, how could you stand were I to pull you leg? Oh, THAT ONE! LOL! I'm more on Anal Insertive Activity team than the Anal Receptive Activity team, but you know, with the right guy - huggin', kissin', snoggin' and frottin' can be PERFECT!!!

[uwsman2]

Welcome, lanyc.

Ditto, ditto, ditto.... The whole point of hiring is getting what you want. If you are doing the hiring, you are in charge (unless you are going out of your way to hire a BDSM top with the idea of putting him in charge.... and even then, technically, you're in charge). And it almost doesn't matter exactly what the escort is advertising. If you contact just about anybody who appeals to you and say that what you are looking for is a hot make-out session without anal or oral, you can undoubtedly get it. So happy shopping!

[Guest Magnus]

Check out Edinson:

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?74916-Edin-in-NYC...-congrats-on-getting-a-daddys-review!

 

http://www.rentboy.com/edinson

 

Kevin Slater

 

Lanyc, welcome to the playground! I second Kevin's recommendation of Edinson in NYC.

In LA I'd recommend Shaun Ross (his RB add is down right now, he travels ALOT), but you can read his reviews in the "reviews" area of this site. Also, here's a Forum thread about him: http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?79887-Need-Boy-Friend-Experience-in-LA-recomendations&highlight=shaun

If he's not around, my close second choice would be Kristian Elix (his RB add is also down as I write this), but you can find his reviews here too.

[Rick Munroe]

Granted I'm straight acting. Not straight. But straight acting. And attracted to same. And I know people have problems with that term, but... sorry. That is indeed the deal.

 

What does it mean, exactly? Isn't it just another term for "closeted"?

[Rapaz]

I love oral and oral only. I love nothing more or less than to be choked out by some huge pinga lol. I'm not here for anything other than that, so yeah.

[bostonman]

It's funny - this brings me back to a conversation I had when I was in the process of coming out (just before college) that i will never forget. There was this girl I kinda dated (but never slept with) who wasn't very accepting at first when I had the courage to come out to her, lol, though she tried to understand. And i remember her asking me --

 

"So, you really have sex with guys?"

"Well, yeah," I said.

"But you could get AIDS," she said (this was the early 80's, when ALL of us were still naive, lol)

"Well, I don't do anal sex."

"But that's not sex, then - everything else is foreplay."

 

And I remember being stunned by that remark. I had never really thought about the concept of 'sex' being limited to anal (or vaginal) penetration - for me there were so many other things one could do in bed that would still be sex. And I also tend to think that that's a rather "hetero" view of sex (perhaps it's just a cliche, but do straight guys tend to feel that it's not really sex if they don't actually fuck the girl? I tend to think that was Bill Clinton's argument, lol). But I guess there are indeed plenty of gay men who also feel that unless there's fucking involved, it's not really sex, or at least not "complete" sex.

 

But you know what? I really don't like anal sex very much. Every now and then I try it, and yes, I've had some nice experiences, but in general it's not something I find all that pleasureable. And I find the fantasy of it is almost always better than the reality of it - it's hot to THINK of some hot young stud plowing my ass, lol, but in reality, I might feel more fulfilled - and would hurt less, lol - if I could suck him off instead. The important thing is that I've never felt "unfulfilled" because I'm somehow missing out on something. We all like what we like, and no one should ever tell you you HAVE to like something just because a lot of other people do.

[raulgmanzo]

What does it [straight acting] mean, exactly? Isn't it just another term for "closeted"?

 

Actually no not necessarily. Unless you have a pretty rigid definition of "closeted" or "straight acting".

 

Of course some might find the term "straight acting" silly in the same way that one could pick at "flaming", "out", "gay acting", and the notion of "gaydar".

 

Also to some people "straight" is not a synonym for heterosexual. This was the case when I was a kid growing up a few thousand miles away and even now in certain neighborhoods and circles here in Chicago.

 

And it certainly was not the case with a very very hot appointment I had yesterday. One that might alienate some of the the folks on here with more strict notions of straight, gay, and bisexual.

[whipped guy]

Hey lanyc... Welcome and in many ways your approach to a session is similar to mine... just I would assume it would be without the "specialty toys"...

 

Shoot! While there is a lot that I do... there is also quite a bit that really does not interest me at all... unless the planets are aligned perfectly that is... and that does not occur often... So just remember that you are the one who should set the paramaters... and you are the one who is control of the situation... So let your fantasies run wild and attempt to live those fantasies. It's like being in the ultimate porno of your dreams... YOUR dreams... and YOU ARE THE STAR... and sometimes simpler is indeed better... but not for everyone... So what ever floats YOUR boat... the sky is the limit... the possibilities are endless... JUST GO FOR IT... and ENJOY TO THE MAX!!!

[daviddd49]

I dig rolling around, receiving a little oral, making out like crazy, and tons of body contact. No topping. No bottoming. Just almost high school stuff. Am I out of my mind? Or is that cool? Especially with escorts. I don't want to fuck. Waste of money if I don't? I want to play. Laugh. Make out. Feel worked out bodies. No desire to get "plowed," as some people put it so eloquently. Seems... a bit much. Sweat just as much. Just a little less... invasive. Sure, let's go with "less... invasive."

 

While I frequently enjoy the "invasive" activities, there are times when I'm either just too tired or too keyed up to function that way and yet I still want to be with a guy. There are also times when my interests just aren't in fucking or being fucked ... I'm just wanting to spend some intimate time, make out, feel his body on top of, under, and next to mine, caress him an feel him caress me, chat, have dinner ... that sort of thing. So, no, you're not unusual.

 

Muscle worship is a heck of a lot of fun, too. In NYC Edinson is quite excellent and, as has been said already, would probably be what you're looking for. He's adorably cute, has an amazingly worked-out body, and can be very passionate in the "making out" department. Make sure that you communicate, clearly, your interests and your likes and dislikes ahead of the session. But, above all, enjoy yourself!

[Toulouse]

I agree with others here that it doesn't always have to be about fucking. In fact, some of my most favorite escort experiences involved great conversation, passionate kissing, holding each other close, stroking/sucking the hot guy's cock and playing/rimming his tight butt...but didn't include fucking. I like the spontaneity of sex and find it more relaxing when there isn't an expectation that it must always end in fucking.

[lanyc]

Wow. That was all crazily helpful. Thanks. I'll try to be a bit more vocal around this joint. And, I might give this Edison a shot.

 

And, no. Saying one is "straight acting" isn't at all about being closeted. I'm out to pretty much everyone. It's just a word choice that helps to describe. And I totally called myself out for using the term, anyway.

 

So. Besides Edison... other NYC suggestions? (Might as well roll with this...)

[Rick Munroe]

And, no. Saying one is "straight acting" isn't at all about being closeted. I'm out to pretty much everyone. It's just a word choice that helps to describe.

 

Gotcha! So it means plucked eyebrows, diamond earrings, designer clothes, shaved body lots of perfume, and an obsession with one's own reflection in the mirror.

[gp0560]

Gotcha! So it means plucked eyebrows, diamond earrings, designer clothes, shaved body lots of perfume, and an obsession with one's own reflection in the mirror.

 

But seriously, Richard, what words would you suggest we use? And you know perfectly well what appearance and demeanor we would like to evoke, don't you?

[Rick Munroe]

what words would you suggest we use? And you know perfectly well what appearance and demeanor we would like to evoke, don't you?

 

If what you are looking for is a masculine guy, it would make sense to use that word ("masculine") since most heterosexual men are not necessarily masculine (and many are quite effeminate, esp. in appearance). It's the same thing as saying that an educated, articulate black man is "white-acting" or that a successful female business owner is "acting like a man." Why do you want to perpetuate negative stereotypes?