"Endowed" and "affectionate"

[Guest zachman]

Hi. i have been with escorts before but only as a top or just oral. I know have bottomed a few times but want to meet an escort and be bottomed. I notice in descriptions the term "endowed" without a size given. Does that mean bigger than average? Average? something else? Also "affectionate top." I have seen other threads but ultimately what does that mean and what should I expect from one? thanks guys!

[Juan Vancouver]

what does that mean and what should I expect?

 

This may at first look as a totally useless response, but I sincerely believe this may be the only helpful thing I may share with you when it comes to sex, escorts, life or human interactions:

 

It doesn't mean anything and you should expect nothing.

 

When discussing sex, expectations or even emotions, we are prone to using the most elaborate and interesting turns of phrase. While those expressions may be filled with meaning whenever we use them they don't have a predetermined value of its own. Good looking, tall, masculine, amazing, affectionate, all are adjectives that acquire value only within a frame of reference. There are also adjectives that are used to make reference to specific activities like vanilla, boyfriend experience, kinky, extreme and again they have no meaning per se. The only way to know what the person originally meant when he used it is to ask, and once you have a specific answer, explain your understanding of the answer and ask for clarification. Only then you will have a relative certainty that you understand and even then, chances are that you don't entirely know.

 

Ask, ask for a confirmation... and ask again.

 

What should you expect?

 

Since we are dealing with human beings here and there are many variables that will modify the experience that you get, you really should not expect anything at all. Not even when you are dealing with the same lover, friend or escort under very similar circumstances. The only thing you should have clear is what is it that you want to get out of the situation, communicate clearly with your partner, ask for confirmation of what you just communicated about your expectations and hope for the best. If during the actual experience you are not getting what you expected and you find it unsatisfactory then you have to communicate clearly with your partner and if it is still time, leave or you could decide to go ahead, make the most out of it and not have a repeat performance.

 

In other words, never assume you understand, and... ASK.

 

Never assume you should expect anything, and... communicate.

 

Lastly, there are lots of people who will try to convince you that they have the answers, that they know what endowed or affectionate or vanilla mean. They will try to make sense out of it and they will do their best to explain why. While this can be the definition that works best for them, it may not work for you nor for your partner.

 

Never assume, ask, confirm, communicate... and write a review so that others can know how the experience was for you.

 

Hope this is helpful.

[Guest TBinCHI]

This may at first look as a totally useless response, but I sincerely believe this may be the only helpful thing I may share with you when it comes to sex, escorts, life or human interactions:

 

It doesn't mean anything and you should expect nothing.

 

When discussing sex, expectations or even emotions, we are prone to using the most elaborate and interesting turns of phrase. While those expressions may be filled with meaning whenever we use them they don't have a predetermined value of its own. Good looking, tall, masculine, amazing, affectionate, all are adjectives that acquire value only within a frame of reference. There are also adjectives that are used to make reference to specific activities like vanilla, boyfriend experience, kinky, extreme and again they have no meaning per se. The only way to know what the person originally meant when he used it is to ask, and once you have a specific answer, explain your understanding of the answer and ask for clarification. Only then you will have a relative certainty that you understand and even then, chances are that you don't entirely know.

 

Ask, ask for a confirmation... and ask again.

 

What should you expect?

 

Since we are dealing with human beings here and there are many variables that will modify the experience that you get, you really should not expect anything at all. Not even when you are dealing with the same lover, friend or escort under very similar circumstances. The only thing you should have clear is what is it that you want to get out of the situation, communicate clearly with your partner, ask for confirmation of what you just communicated about your expectations and hope for the best. If during the actual experience you are not getting what you expected and you find it unsatisfactory then you have to communicate clearly with your partner and if it is still time, leave or you could decide to go ahead, make the most out of it and not have a repeat performance.

 

In other words, never assume you understand, and... ASK.

 

Never assume you should expect anything, and... communicate.

 

Lastly, there are lots of people who will try to convince you that they have the answers, that they know what endowed or affectionate or vanilla mean. They will try to make sense out of it and they will do their best to explain why. While this can be the definition that works best for them, it may not work for you nor for your partner.

 

Never assume, ask, confirm, communicate... and write a review so that others can know how the experience was for you.

 

Hope this is helpful.

 

Juan,

The only thing I would add to your (as usual) very insightful post, is be ready to provide to your partner, lover, escort, etc. the same level of communication that you wish from them. That will provide the best chance that both of your needs will be met and will heighten the experience.

Hugs,

TB

[ChiTown]

Never assume, ask, confirm, communicate

 

 

In other words, never assume you understand, and... ASK.

 

Never assume you should expect anything, and... communicate.

 

Lastly, there are lots of people who will try to convince you that they have the answers, that they know what endowed or affectionate or vanilla mean. They will try to make sense out of it and they will do their best to explain why. While this can be the definition that works best for them, it may not work for you nor for your partner.

 

Never assume, ask, confirm, communicate... and write a review so that others can know how the experience was for you.

 

Hope this is helpful.

 

Thanks Juan . . . Very well expressed as you always do!

[Guest Merlin]

Another misleading word is "versatile". It should mean will top or bottom, but don't bet on it. Ask.

[Steven_Draker]

Another misleading word is "versatile". It should mean will top or bottom, but don't bet on it. Ask.

 

You're right, Merlin. 'Truly versatile' means someone who will top and/or bottom.

 

Unfortunately, in my (limited) experience I've seen the term "versatile" widely used by bottoms who don't assume themselves ... Always ask and hopefully you'll get an honest answer.

[Guest zachman]

Thanks everyone and yes Juan very insightful!!!