I am running out of answers to give....

[Mocha]

I always get asked about why I moved to where I am. And although I probably should have a good answer lined up, sometimes it just gets hard to stick to the script.

 

For example, when I first moved out to where I am...The hardest part was explaining to lessors. The asking what I did for work wasn't as hard as asking WHY I moved 1,000 miles away. I try to say something truthful and generic like, "I like it out here, etc etc" but then when they ask if I have friends or family out here, then it really gets hard to come up with an answer. Which is, no I don't. And I can almost feel myself getting the raised brow.

 

But truth of the matter is, I moved because I do better as an escort where I am than the 3 other cities I previously lived in. And now I've got a place thru a private owner and I like the city for what it is and am happy here. But since I tell people I'm a personal trainer, it seems a bit hard to sell that LOL. 1 guy at starbucks I was chatting with for a good half an hour was honest enough to answer the question with, "do you do porn". All I could do was laugh.

 

In the past few weeks, I've had bankers question me (asking a question about my account in the bank turns into my whole life story), random people on the store, and the hardest part was one of the advisers at a college I'm looking to attend I'm at the point where I just try to avoid the subject all together because I HATE having to come up with explanations about what I do. 1 time, I was SOOO embarrassed because when I was on a 'date' with a client, he bought along his neighbor who asked me in the middle of the theater line, "So what do you do for work?" My mind went completely blank and I don't even remember what I told her.

 

Has anyone (preferably fulltime) been able to come up with a auto-description of their work and reason for traveling when people ask?

[josephga]

people would sometime raise the brow or the eye roll when I said I was a massage therapist. I now tell people that i work as a web designer lol not to many eye rolls with that one

[Mocha]

people would sometime raise the brow or the eye roll when I said I was a massage therapist. I now tell people that i work as a web designer lol not to many eye rolls with that one

 

See, but even those get probed into more. Like before I found my apartment, I was using personal trainer as my occupation. Then they'd go, "oh, so what gym are you going to be working at?" I would say, "I set up schedules and routines for clients and help them get into shape, I don't work out of a gym". That would generally end that conversation LOL.

[Steven_Draker]

'Consultant' works really good for me ... I don't 'advertise' what I do for a living, only people who have hired me (obviously), my close friends and my family know about it ...

[justaguy]

'Consultant' is good, but my next question would be 'What field?' How about something new-agey like 'Life Coach'. It doesn't tie you to a field or a place like a gym and has no real job description. Mike work.

[josephga]

iv said life coach b4 too

[Mocha]

Ok I could just google it, but what exactly does a life coach do?

[Bosguy]

When I am meeting an escort in Boston, I find it very easy to tell non-understanding people that I am meeting a new friend who travels a lot due to his job as an independent marketing consultant who promotes a wide aray of "products and services" nationwide.

 

It works!

[+ overeasy]

There's always....sex therapist....that should shut em up....

[Lookin]

Why not just tell them you're with the CIA and ask them why they want to know? http://th752.photobucket.com/albums/xx170/mqnina/emoticons/th_emoticon_spy.gif

[Epigonos]

Why not consider claiming that you are a permanent student with a family trust fund that allows you not to have a regular job.

[raulgmanzo]

Sometimes I say I do "odd jobs".

Which I sometimes follow up with: "And some of them are really odd".

 

But seriously I have worked so many years as a contract software engineer and consulting systems analyst in a constantly changing variety of obscure, technical, scientific and corporate projects. So friends and family long ago gave up trying to understand what I do even before I switched to "odd jobs".

 

Although a few of my closest friends and family members know as there are some people one just can't or shouldn't keep in the dark.

They never pry except to on occasion have me reassure them that I am safe and careful.

 

By the way many of us contract programmers/engineers/analysts often referred to our agencies as pimps, and ourselves as corporate prostitutes.

So while I no longer help banks plunder third world countries, or conglomerates hide their tax liabilities, at least a some of the terminlogy is the same.

[doitb4ugo]

Sometimes I say I do "odd jobs".

Which I sometimes follow up with: "And some of them are really odd".

 

But seriously I have worked so many years as a contract software engineer and consulting systems analyst in a constantly changing variety of obscure, technical, scientific and corporate projects. So friends and family long ago gave up trying to understand what I do even before I switched to "odd jobs".

 

Although a few of my closest friends and family members know as there are some people one just can't or shouldn't keep in the dark.

They never pry except to on occasion have me reassure them that I am safe and careful.

 

By the way many of us contract programmers/engineers/analysts often referred to our agencies as pimps, and ourselves as orporate prostitutes.

So while I no longer help banks plunder third world countries, or conglomerates hide their tax liabilities, at least a some of the terminlogy is the same.

 

 

Raul, very true to the reality of it all. Sometines getting fucked is more fun than other times.

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Keep It Simple. . .

 

I always get asked about why I moved to where I am. And although I probably should have a good answer lined up, sometimes it just gets hard to stick to the script.

 

For example, when I first moved out to where I am...The hardest part was explaining to lessors. The asking what I did for work wasn't as hard as asking WHY I moved 1,000 miles away. I try to say something truthful and generic like, "I like it out here, etc etc" but then when they ask if I have friends or family out here, then it really gets hard to come up with an answer. Which is, no I don't. And I can almost feel myself getting the raised brow.

 

 

Tell anyone who asks that you are:

 

a) Doing Missionary Work on a Subsidized Fellowship; or

 

b) You are on variable term Medical Contract as a Ano-Uro-Theraputic-Enhancement-Technician - Similar to

 

a Traveling RN but with a highly technical concentration dealing with extremely difficult (hard) cases.

[Toulouse]

Couldn't you just tell them you moved there to attend a particular college?

[nate_sf]

I think some of the questions you are being asked are just people trying to make conversation. If I'm meeting someone for the first time and don't know anything about them, common questions are "What do you do for a living?" "How long have you lived here in ________?" "What made you move to ________?" While your banker may have more specific reasons for asking questions, I'd bet most people are just trying to engage you in a conversation and there isn't much more to the questions than that.

 

If they wonder why you live in the city you live in, you might try to tell them you were on a road trip and sort of stumbled on it accidentally and really liked the place, or you had a friend you lived in town who initally got you to come out here. Then you can change the subject and talk all about the city. People love talking about the place they live, especially if you have positive things to say. You can also tell people you wanted to move far away from your family... that will shut them up and some will give you knowing nods.

 

Didn't you also have a post a while back saying you wanted to get a part-time job to cover the occassional downs in escorting income? That could be your cover. Someone in that post suggested you get a job at Starbuck's or in retail. Either of those could give you a cover, plus income and some benefits. But you also mentioned you have said you are a trainer, and that's as good a cover as any. I used to see an independent trainer and I wouldn't be able to know how many clients she had besides myself and the others I'd see her training. Who would know whether you had any training clients at all?

 

I gotta say your client bringing his neighbor along on the date is an odd one, though, because another common ice-breaker question is "How do you know each other?" Better come up with a ready response for that one... :-)

[Poolboy21409]

I like the trust fund aspect. Fortunate enough to have had a reasonably wealthy family that allows me to live comfortably but not extravagantly.. Or better yet. FUNEMPLOYED

[josephga]

I actually used the trust fund thing to get my apartment in 2003. Also very talented in manipulating bank records lol

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

In the past few weeks, I've had bankers question me (asking a question about my account in the bank turns into my whole life story),

 

Post 9/11, the banking regulations have tightened in the fight against terrorism, so questions about money flowing through an account, while more personal than they were last century, are to be expected. And those are on top of questions that a bank needs to ask to support for anti-money laudering laws.

[Gar1eth]

Why not just tell them you're with the CIA and ask them why they want to know? http://th752.photobucket.com/albums/xx170/mqnina/emoticons/th_emoticon_spy.gif

 

I apologize for this being off the subject, but it reminded me of a little incident. When first signed on to Facebook about 2 years ago, I made a reacquaintance with-- well let's call him Stan. Stan works for the FBI. I found him online one night and chatted with him through FB. He was in Iraq at the time. I said I didn't know the FBI was in Iraq. Stan said, " we're not!!!''. I decided to stop asking questions at that point, so he wouldn't have to kill me.

 

And now back to our previously scheduled topic...

 

Gman

[bobchitown]

I had a friend in college who applied to the CIA on a whim. When he returned to his normal college life we asked him why he didn't make it into the CIA - his answer was always "how do you know I didn't."

 

Seriously - I'd be so tempted to just look them in the face and say "I do porn, perhaps you've seen me?" While grabbing your basket.

 

Back to the question of "why did you move here"? A great answer I recently heard was "I'm young, I've got the kind of job where I don't need to be an any one place, and I'm enjoying moving around the country and seeing different places."