re: "Beautiful but Condescending" - how to cope?

[bcohen7719]

Suppose you met up with an escort who was incredibly handsome and masculine, but also condescending. Would many clients deal

with that difficulty by playing along as a bottom?

 

Thanks, guys!

 

BC

[+ deej]

It depends.

 

I wouldn't tolerate it, but it's what some guys are looking for when they hire.

[seeker630]

Suppose you met up with an escort who was incredibly handsome and masculine, but also condescending. Would many clients deal

with that difficulty by playing along as a bottom?

 

Thanks, guys!

 

BC

 

I am not a bottom by nature (control issues, probably) and I can't imagine bottoming for anyone I hired. And I don't think you should 'play along' unless that's really what you want to do. Just my opinion, of course, but in my view, the first priority is getting what YOU want from a session.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I am not a bottom by nature (control issues, probably) and I can't imagine bottoming for anyone I hired. And I don't think you should 'play along' unless that's really what you want to do. Just my opinion, of course, but in my view, the first priority is getting what YOU want from a session.

 

Seeker, I am a bottom (but becoming more versatile) but your point is dead on: the first (and second through tenth) priority is getting what YOU want from a session. Very well put and exactly right.

[+ bigjoey]

You are the customer. You get what you want or move on. There are plenty of great escorts out there. No reason to "settle" for less than you desire.

[JT Brooklyn]

You have to keep the "It's my Dime for your Time" attitude.

[Guest Spanker01]

Agree with what's been said. It's my nickel, and if he thinks he is doing me a favor in order for me to spend that nickel on him, guess what, he's be wrong.

 

Spanker

[instudiocity]

Suppose you met up with an escort who was incredibly handsome and masculine, but also condescending.

There's no way he could be incredibly handsome & condescending. Condescending is one huge load of Butt Ugly on even the most beautiful, handsome, and articulate asshole.

[leigh.bess.toad]

There's no way he could be incredibly handsome & condescending. Condescending is one huge load of Butt Ugly on even the most beautiful, handsome, and articulate asshole.

 

Amen brother ISC. Amen.

[+ Axiom2001]

You are the customer. You get what you want or move on. There are plenty of great escorts out there. No reason to "settle" for less than you desire.

 

I absolutely agree with you bigjoey as well as the others who have similar ideas. When you engage the services of an escort--you seek him out for what he can provide and nothing less.

 

Last Thursday evening I had "the best" experience with a man who is highly respected at this site and in these forums. Before we met I sent him an email as to what I enjoy doing during "playtime!" He responded in an oh so alluring and enticing manner, so by the time Thursday arrived, I was mentally ready to enjoy myself and hope that he, too, would enjoy me. Well, apparently he did: I hired him for 2hrs, and he stayed with me approximately 3.5 to 4 hours. Because we had such a wonderful time conversing as well as enjoying our time in bed together during the majority of the alloted time-- he stayed and stayed and satisfied my "needy" sexual libido.

 

I do plan to see him again, and with the suggestion of a friend, I will begin saving now in order to see him for 4-6 hrs the next time that he ventures back into San Francisco. Again, he gave me what I desired, and he in turn enjoyed giving as well as taking. He was such a jewel and was quite personable. ...superb kisser and stellar in other ways, too. Await my review of Tyger!

[jackcali]

While I agree with everything that's been said earlier on this thread, BC, I think there's a third approach in addition to either throwing the escort over or just accepting his attitude. Why not call him out on it? Why not tell him that he is exactly the sort of escort you'd like to spend more time with, but his condescending attitude gets in the way? Maybe he can change his presentation for you.

[+ newatthis]

Suppose you met up with an escort who was incredibly handsome and masculine, but also condescending. Would many clients deal

with that difficulty by playing along as a bottom?BC

I must be missing something here -- what does his being condescending have to do with being a bottom for him? Seems to be you can be condescending from whatever position you play.

[bcohen7719]

While I agree with everything that's been said earlier on this thread, BC, I think there's a third approach in addition to either throwing the escort over or just accepting his attitude. Why not call him out on it? Why not tell him that he is exactly the sort of escort you'd like to spend more time with, but his condescending attitude gets in the way? Maybe he can change his presentation for you.

 

Jackcall:

 

That's an excellent and logical suggestion--and has a bit of moral imperative as well.

I'm the least experienced or knowledgeable person on this website, but I fear that contemptuous people mostly don't care what others might say. If you think of any contemptuous women (bleh) one has known, most seem oblivious. However, the escort "pro's" on this website almost all seem to have the right stuff--and only because of this, your advice is smart. Thanks a lot--really!

 

Best wishes,

 

BC (Bill)

[Mark450]

A condescending attitude is an extreme turn off for me. I probably am missing out on some very good escorts because a lot if times their ads seem way too into themselves. I understand the need to inflate or exaggerate in marketing but if the ad is over the top I will continue looking elsewhere.

If the attitude were to manifest in person, I would probably stay for the session but not have a very good time. And my followup review would reflect the unsatisfactory performance.

[jackcali]

Bill, thanks for the sweet response. Of course, you're very welcome.

 

I think that speaking up is a good way to solve or at least clarify a lot of problems. All of us on this forum talk about how escorts are professional, and they certainly should be, but even professionals aren't perfect and can find ways to improve their service. I certainly speak out to my lawyer or my doctor if I think they're doing something that bothers me. Why not an escort?

[Guest WinsomeVic]

Tell you the truth, it doesn't really bother me unless they were exceptionally rude, in which case I'd be turned off and not book him again.

 

For me, if the guy satisfies my tastes in looks (muscular, smooth, defined, masculine, youthful, handsome), and provided he does he job well physically, I don't care if he has a bit of a condescending attitude. It's difficult enough for me to find a guy that can hit the sweet spot, anyway, that I won't throw him away because he is a little but off put by me, or has a superiority hangup.

 

Just one man's opinion.

[Lookin]

Just how condescending are we talking here? http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

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