Masseurs and Repeat Clients: How Do You Fit In?

[+ Axiom2001]

I don't like my title, so I will just tell you about my experience and ask the question to get your timely responses/advice.

 

Yesterday I had a wonderful erotic massage from Michael Soldier in San Francisco. Although the massage itself was stellar--his personality and attitude in general unnerved me. His greeting was lukewarm (for I was a mere ten minutes late after trying to contact him via my cell phone but was unable to for lack of circuitry by Verizon); his directions were matter-of-fact, and at the end and once he'd received his fee, he NEVER said anything about my having engaged his services or his wanting to see me again as a client.

 

Because of his somewhat "cold treatment--"I PLAN NOT to return because of this. His erotic massage was quite good and stimulating, but his overall attitude definitely leaves much to be desired.

 

With all of the above, I would like to know if a masseur does not encourage you to see him again (in spite of his having given a wonderful massage to you)--do you ever return to him?

[monopolizer]

I definitely dont return if I detect an ounce of attitude. I am paying for great service and want to feel like my business is appreciated. The best escorts and masseurs have mastered this part of the business. Interesting enough, some masseurs can even go overboard on this; one in particular was kissing me and flirting so much that I was saying to him "are you kidding me?" but even though I knew he was acting, I thought it was kindof cute and smart of him to do it. I definitely returned.

[josephga]

I tell them if they book their next appointment b4 leaving the next on is 15.00 off. or if someone books at least once a month after the first session they get a discount.

[nate_sf]

It depends... if the massage was really good and you felt good afterwards (other than the cold shoulder), you should just factor that the next time you are planning a massage. I love getting massages and, though I would initially be put off by attitude, if the massage was really good I might still come back.

 

There is a guy here in SF I have seen from time to time, who gives a great massage but is quite reserved in his personality. I've been seeing him for years, and have come to understand that his skills are in massage, but his pre- and post-massage conversation is minimal. He's not rude, just reserved. If one was insecure it could come off as indifference or attitude, but I don't think it's that. I still go to see him because his massages are so great, but also know when I'm booking the appointment that I'm going there for a good highly-competent massage but not expecting a great deal of conversational exchange. Other times, I might want a bit more personal interaction and might choose to go elsewhere, but would not rule out the shy guy when I just need a damn good massage.

[+ glutes]

I definitely dont return if I detect an ounce of attitude. I am paying for great service and want to feel like my business is appreciated. The best escorts and masseurs have mastered this part of the business. Interesting enough, some masseurs can even go overboard on this; one in particular was kissing me and flirting so much that I was saying to him "are you kidding me?" but even though I knew he was acting, I thought it was kindof cute and smart of him to do it. I definitely returned.

 

Then you should pipe into the thread "Are escorts just mere actors?" (Yes, they do fill a 'role')

 

Now re. Mr. Soldier:

 

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[Lewis H]

Not all masseurs engage me to return as you feel Soldier should have, although they don't necessarily give me attitude. Sometimes I find they're tired and just ready to stop 'giving' since a really good massage takes a lot out of the masseur (I know this from experience).

 

Michael Soldier gave me my first erotic massage back years and years ago. Not only was the massage very memorable, but he and I got along really well, and we had seen each other both professionally and socially for many years after that before he moved West. I've always known him to be very up front and personable, but people can have an off day. Had his attitude affected your massage, or had it been less than stellar, I'd say steer clear. But knowing how he works and how he is as a person, if you feel the massage in and of itself was worth returning for, maybe see how another session goes. Maybe his attitude will be different with more familiarity, and you can chalk his earlier indifference up to an isolated incident. However, if the chemistry between you two doesn't gel, hopefully you'll have walked away with at least two "stellar" massages.

 

Personally, I find a good masseur is hard to find, a stellar one even moreso.

[+ newatthis]

...one in particular was kissing me and flirting so much that I was saying to him "are you kidding me?" but even though I knew he was acting, I thought it was kindof cute and smart of him to do it. I definitely returned.

A friend of mine was told in a leadership course that flattery always works, even when the person being flattered is well aware of what's going on. This sounds like the same thing. (Have to admit that I love flirting and flattery myself, even when I'm sure it's part of someone's business persona. I love the the flirty waiters in Montreal's Village.)

[+ glutes]

'Flattery will get you everywhere', it is part of the acting.

[+ beethoven]

"Attitude" in a masseur

 

Not all masseurs engage me to return as you feel Soldier should have, although they don't necessarily give me attitude. Sometimes I find they're tired and just ready to stop 'giving' since a really good massage takes a lot out of the masseur (I know this from experience).

 

Michael Soldier gave me my first erotic massage back years and years ago. Not only was the massage very memorable, but he and I got along really well, and we had seen each other both professionally and socially for many years after that before he moved West. I've always known him to be very up front and personable, but people can have an off day. Had his attitude affected your massage, or had it been less than stellar, I'd say steer clear. But knowing how he works and how he is as a person, if you feel the massage in and of itself was worth returning for, maybe see how another session goes. Maybe his attitude will be different with more familiarity, and you can chalk his earlier indifference up to an isolated incident. However, if the chemistry between you two doesn't gel, hopefully you'll have walked away with at least two "stellar" massages.

 

Personally, I find a good masseur is hard to find, a stellar one even moreso.

 

Previous correspondents made some very good points: a) sometimes, anyone (even me!) can have an off-day. That's why restaurant reviewers go back several times before writing reviews. b) what you think is "attitude" is just a person being kind of reserved c) this wasn't mentioned, but you WERE late, and some of us are more compulsive than others! I once arrived ten minutes early for a massage, and the masseur was quite out of joint -- doesn't mean he's a jerk If you liked your massage, I'd think that you ought to back to Mr. Soldier, and develop some rapport. I bet that he'll be flattered that you returned, and will be a lot more forthcoming and genial -- and be on time, OK?

[+ Axiom2001]

Thanks, men! All of your points are very well taken and will definitely be considered if I decide on Massage #2 from Michael! <I felt under appreciated on Friday but feel much better after reading what all eight of you wrote!!>