To ask or not to ask...that is my question

[seeker630]

I understand many of the reasons for not wriitng reviews and obviously there is no real obligation to do so.

 

Some forum participants are content to offer feedback only in the context of this forum and don't care to address a wider audience (via the more-widely read review site). Again - that's their prerogative.

 

Reviews benefit escorts by bringing in new clients (assuming the review is favorable, of course). And new clients are as necessary as repeating clients, for many (if not most)escorts, I suspect.

 

But it's also in the interest of all the forum members to write reviews. Without reviews, Daddysreviews.com will provide no income for Daddy. If the review site ceases to generate revenue, I presume it will cease to exit - and this forum will follow, unless someone else steps up with support. And we all lose!

 

Back to the original posting - I think there have been several suggestions here for tactful and non-threatening, non-pressuring ways in which an escort can bring up the subject of a review with a client, and perhaps tailor the approach to the personality of the client insofar as they know it.

[buckguy]

If you ask, clients are likely to feel some "demand characteristics" from the situation and say "yes" but not follow through. I either write one right away or not at all. That sounds lazy or cavalier, but a lot of care goes into a review to provide enough detail to be credible but not to disclose highly personal infor or create expectations that may not be reasonable under different conditions. I also don't want to say things that may have been amusing to me but may make the escort seem ludicrous to other people. I once had an appointment with a guy known for hygeine. He also was very good about informing people as he maneuvered traffic to an appointment--in my case I was staying in a place that was in a very populated, developed area, but a tangletown that even MapQuest had difficulty untangling. Consequently, he called me in the shower as he was about to leave home and mentioned something about liking clients to shower beforehand. I was able to tell him in a non-smartass wway that he'd literally gotten me out of the shower--which was funny to me, but not necessarily to him and would have made him look silly in a review. In my day job, I do a tremendous amount of writing and, as it happens, reviewing. On my own time, I often don't have time to write much of anything and wen I do, it has to meet the kind of standard I've mentioned here. As you might expect, I've become a big fan of texting!

 

Review volume is not necessarily a reflection of quality as some escorts have ads filled with low credibility reviews (all 1st timers and/or very general) and the veracity of some escorts' reviews have long been debated. In some ways, the lack of "average" reviews or the occasional negative, but not nasty one creates credibility problems for frequently reviewed guys. Not every escort will click with every client, much as what happens in dating, hooking-up, etc.

 

In the case of negative reviews, some guys are concerned with getting a nasty rebuttal from an escort and perhaps a negative rep within their network. It's been a while since I gave a middling or negative review, but the only time it caused me annoyance was when a fan of the escort in question offered a nasty response to a middling review of mine in a subsequent review of their's----that just struck me as so much desperation on the client's part. You have to accept that someone has off days or occasionally doesn't click, no matter how enraptured you are with them. I sometimes think the middling are reviews are missing more than the negative ones. I think a lot of guys are like Bart and not sure of the value. Some guys also may be embarrassed to disclose they didn't click with someone, even though it's pretty normal no matter whom one is or what they look like.

[jgoo]

I understand many of the reasons for not wriitng reviews and obviously there is no real obligation to do so.

 

But it's also in the interest of all the forum members to write reviews. Without reviews, Daddysreviews.com will provide no income for Daddy. If the review site ceases to generate revenue, I presume it will cease to exit - and this forum will follow, unless someone else steps up with support. And we all lose!

 

I agree with you seeker. I tend to want to do reviews as my small way of giving back to the site that has proved incredibly valuable to me because it brought to my attention some wonderfully reviewed escorts that I doubt I would have met otherwise and to avoid meeting some that would have likely turned out poorly. If my reviews are helpful in any small way (to the escort or potential clients), then it is worth the effort. Most importantly, without reviews, and a continuous supply of them, the site would not exist and that would be a shame.

[+ newatthis]

When I was neweratthis, I reviewed with some frequency. Now I do so much less often...much, much less, in fact. Epigonos hit on some general reasons in his post, some of which apply, or once applied in my case:

 

...1. Some clients are undoubtedly concerned that their personal information will be compromised if they submit a review.

This was a biggy for me at the beginning because of the phone number requirement for a first time reviewer. Took me a while to devise a scheme that met my desire for privacy and this site's need to establish authenticity.

 

I review under a different alias than the one I post under. There are obvious disadvantages to that for my readers, but it helps me feel comfortable with being very explicit.

 

2. Some clients, as already stated, are simply too lazy to put forth the effort.

I'd put it another way, already mentioned by others: writing a review that conveys useful information and captures the essence of your experience takes a lot of time and effort. I need strong motivation to take the time and make the effort.

 

What motivation? Primarily having had a very good experience with an escort with few or no prior reviews here. I also need to have hit if off with him personally in a way that makes me want him to succeed in this business.

 

I would also review an experience with strong negative elements that I wanted to warn others about.

 

In the past few years, my hiring has centered around guys I see over and over again or who have quite a few good reviews already.

 

Given my proclivities, I would probably not review at all, except that I agree with what seeker wrote:

 

...But it's also in the interest of all the forum members to write reviews. Without reviews, Daddysreviews.com will provide no income for Daddy. If the review site ceases to generate revenue, I presume it will cease to exit - and this forum will follow, unless someone else steps up with support. And we all lose!...

[gcursor]

I might get in trouble for this but I'm not sure if Brandon is talking about infrequent or frequent clients. I particularly enjoy the reviews because they help guide me in my selections very much. I can't say what I'm thinking properly on here so it will probably get misunderstood and I don't want to get in any type of "flame war". All I'll say is that everybody should do their best to put their best foot forward and go from there.

 

p.s. and just because i don't review somebody doesn't mean I didn't like them. i've found all the people I met uniquely different, entertaining, stylish, warm, courteous and sensitive in their own ways. reviews for me are about ..nope still don't want to start a "flame war"..sorry

 

gcursor

 

OK, the Newcommer of the Year is seeking advice. After a bit of disappointment in the lack of reviews on my page here at Daddy's, I'm trying to tackle the age old question as to why the guys I spend my time with have not submitted reviews. And because I am not concerned it is due to lack of satisfaction in our time together as nearly everyone I see is a repeat client or continues to keep in contact with me via email, I'm stumped for a solid reason as to why I'm not receiving reviews. I'm often told by clients that they will write a review, but then I never see their words come into fruition.

 

Seeking advice from yours truly, the guy with the Best Ass in the West......(and a few other redeeming qualities)......

[+ not2rowdy]

Found it - just don't know how to link it here properly. Hopefully someone smarter will import the business card here.

 

Under user Tetsu 9/23/10

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?76502-How-do-you-get-reviews&daysprune=365