To ask or not to ask...that is my question

[Guest BrandonWilliams]

OK, the Newcommer of the Year is seeking advice. After a bit of disappointment in the lack of reviews on my page here at Daddy's, I'm trying to tackle the age old question as to why the guys I spend my time with have not submitted reviews. And because I am not concerned it is due to lack of satisfaction in our time together as nearly everyone I see is a repeat client or continues to keep in contact with me via email, I'm stumped for a solid reason as to why I'm not receiving reviews. I'm often told by clients that they will write a review, but then I never see their words come into fruition.

 

Seeking advice from yours truly, the guy with the Best Ass in the West......(and a few other redeeming qualities)......

[gp0560]

I'm often told by clients that they will write a review, but then I never see their words come into fruition.

 

They have good intentions followed by laziness and inertia. That would be my guess.

[Poolboy21409]

Good question - I don't often do reviews. I am not sure why but perhaps I regard my time together with an escort as somewhat personal and perhaps I do not want to divulge MY shortcomings in the sexual setting. I recently had a great session with a great guy and I am going to do the review. Have been slammed with many other pressing matters like IRS audit, New York trip, dog show prep, etc. Sit tight Brandon. It will be good.

 

PB

[Decatur Guy]

The top half of the form is rather tedious to fill out. I think there would be more reviews if you could get through it faster (the part with the stats) and just get to the narrative.

[jgoo]

A previous thread may offer some insights for you: http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?77773-Why-do-so-few-clients-ever-post-reviews-(good-or-bad-ones)&highlight=writing+review

[Epigonos]

I certainly understand your consternation. The problem in answering your question is that there are many different reasons. Here are a just a few.

 

1. Some clients are undoubtedly concerned that their personal information will be compromised if they submit a review.

 

2. Some clients, as already stated, are simply too lazy to put forth the effort.

 

3. Some clients may be unaware that this site exists having learned about you for another site.

 

4. Some clients may, secretly, not want to share information regarding you because they would rather have you all to themselves. Difficult to believe, I know, but this has been discussed here in the past.

 

5. Some clients may feel that they do not write well enough to submit a review. I know, reading some reviews posted here, that is difficult to believe but it is true.

 

I see nothing wrong with you asking a client if he is aware of this site. If he is, then request that he write a review. You might NOT want to take this approach with a first time client, however, with a regular client it will likely work. If the client is unaware of this site then introduce him to it. The next time you get together ask him what he thinks of the site and if he likes it ask him to write a review.

[Guest greatness]

Oh my you are so right about me Who are you?

 

5. Some clients may feel that they do not write well enough to submit a review. I know, reading some reviews posted here, that is difficult to believe but it is true.

[ChiTown]

Overdue reviews

 

Hi Brandon,

 

I'm sure it's frustrating for you, especially when a client says that they'll write a review and it never happens.

 

The prior posts in this thread indicate many plausible reasons for a client not posting a review. Personally, I am a closet perfectionist and tend to belabor over everything that I write. When it comes to writing a review, I'm concerned as to whether I'll write too much or too little, I don't want to make it sound generic, but I don't want to get too much into the gritty details . . . you get the ideas. For me, it's another version of performance anxiety manifesting itself. I want things to be perfect before I "pull the trigger". lol

 

Thanks for your post, it reminds me that I need to get off my butt, compose my thoughts and submit some long overdue reviews to some great escorts!

[jawjateck]

My friend Epigonos is spot on, as per his usual fine commentary here. It is laborious to submit a review, a real review, not one of these ridiculous, useless "met him; he's fantastic; I'll keep the details to myself" crappy wastes of internet electrons. Since I write real reviews with details about my experience with the escort, it takes about 10-15 minutes to fill in all the preliminary info, about 25-30 minutes to compose a literate text and proof it, and 5 minutes to enter my info and send it to Daddy. So a real review takes the better part of an hour, and if you're Okie, God only knows how long that man pours into the exquisite masterpieces he submits to Daddy. As for you BMW, some guys will simply over-promise and under-deliver, and some guys are not detail-oriented enough to submit a review, and some guys just nod their head when you talk to them about this site, but they don't know what the hell you are talking about. Even when I try to introduce new escorts to our little village, their eyes glaze over; they just don't get it.

 

We Hoovillains are, after all, a very niche and small subset of the overall clientele marketplace. Quirky bunch we are, we often mean well, but sadly, don't keep our word. Hmmmmm, sounds like a summary of the human condition.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Hi Brandon,

 

As a client, I was asked by an escort to write my first review. In all honesty, I never really thought about it. He broached the subject by asking me to submit the review after I sent him a thank you note for a great weekend.

 

Think of it this way. You are providing a service. In most any other service business, word of mouth referrals is the cheapest way to grow your business, so you might say to a customer, "if you enjoyed your experience today, please tell a friend." Since many individuals would be uncomfortable discussing their use of an escort with friends, the next best thing is to ask for a review.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I fall into the same problem as ChiTown. I will tend to belabor every single detail, every phrase, every nuance. It can take me days and weeks of editing believe it or not. And sometimes I get writer's block. There have been a handful of posts here on the forum that have gone through 24-36 hours worth of writing and editing before posting. Most times, it's just a spur of the moment stream-of-consciousness style. But other times not. But for the most part I'm not going to write a review like that. I think a well written review can help these guys and if it's someone I care about, I'm going to try to take the time and effort to do it right, craft it to paint the picture of my encounter that I think best describes the entire experience. I'm just not a slam-bam-reveiew ya-ma'am sort of writer. That may work well for others, in fact the majority of writers. just not for me.

[leigh.bess.toad]

(and a few other redeeming qualities)......

 

By the way, BMW, that last line is a complete and total fabrication. You don't have a few redeeming qualities. You have an entire boatload of redeeming qualities. Few? Hah!

[jgoo]

Think of it this way. You are providing a service. In most any other service business, word of mouth referrals is the cheapest way to grow your business, so you might say to a customer, "if you enjoyed your experience today, please tell a friend." Since many individuals would be uncomfortable discussing their use of an escort with friends, the next best thing is to ask for a review.

 

I think that is reasonable approach. There is a potential downside if the client doesn't do a review for whatever reason after being asked, then some may not call for a repeat because they had been asked but didn't do it (they might feel a bit awkward). One approach that I have seen used by escorts that I think is good is that after a meeting the escort follows-up with a "thank you" email and says that if the client is so inclined that a review would be greatly appreciated. I have been with a number of escorts and it is very special when they take the time afterwards to write a quick note about our time together (and to be honest, it doesn't happen near as often as it should). A link to Daddy's site and your previous reviews in the email would make it just a bit easier.

[leigh.bess.toad]

That I think is a very good way to handle it jgoo. But just out of curiosity, do 100% of the clients give the escort their email address? This sort of ties in with the question about telephone-shy clients. Are there email shy clients? Just curious. I would imagine though that most clients provide their email to the escorts and I think jgoo's suggestion is a very, very good one.

[Guest greatness]

Yes thank you notes for escorts are always appreciated. Writing reviews is a lot of work and I'm not a good writer. Most of all I want to keep my sexual activities to myself. Most escorts I have met don't need my reviews anyway. Some don't have any review here but they do extremely well.

[bcohen7719]

I haven't been with Brandon, but can tell everyone that he is one of the

two or three escorts/companions who responded to me by email in

the nicest, most charming, and intelligent manner--not just once, but

several times. This counts. There was a separate thread about

"telephone-shy" clients, and I added a new one myself today.

 

I really appreciated his communications, because they came about when I was a complete e-virgin. I hope that others who know him personally will write reviews that don't necessary have to be graphic, but describe someone who I think is a really nice person, as well as exceedingly cute.

 

Best wishes,

 

BC (Bill)

[+ not2rowdy]

I can't find it - but sometime in the past year Daddy posted a "business card" at the end of a similar forum thread. Maybe someone smarter than I can resurrect it.

[nate_sf]

One approach that I have seen used by escorts that I think is good is that after a meeting the escort follows-up with a "thank you" email and says that if the client is so inclined that a review would be greatly appreciated.

 

I have the same problem as Brandon and have thought about asking the client to submit a review. But from the client's perspective, would he then think "he was just being nice/hot etc because he wanted a good review" or am I just overthinking it? Has anyone been irritated if they have been asked to submit a review? Othwerwise I'll give it a try.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

If I am asked to submit a review then I will submit one. I don't think I will be annoyed by it at all.

[gtx1]

Brandon,

 

I am your man! Planning to travel to Phoenix in the next few months. Look for an email directly from me. Let's get together and I promise I will write it up.

 

GTX

[daviddd49]

Mea Culpa!

Mea Culpa!

Mea Maxima Culpa!

 

I saw your thread and realized that I had drafted my initial review of our wonderful last month but hadn't yet posted it to Daddy's. It's just been sitting on my desktop, waiting a re-read and posting, for at least a couple of weeks! Please accept this old man's apologies, and know that I've posted the review. It's a stellar one, my friend, and I was more than happy to write it.

 

Blessings, and I hope to have the time to see you on my next trip to Phoenix!

[Gar1eth]

Brandon,

 

I am as bad as any about not writing a formal review. I don't mind sharing a few things on the Forum here because it seems less formal. Formal writing has always been a big bugaboo of mine. In college I was a science major and had also been able to pass out of basic English because I did well at the vocabulary part on the standardized testing. Unfortunately, that never really helped me overcome my fear of writing. I liked the one English class I had to take except for the papers. In grad school I looked at the catalog and managed to 'x' out any classes that required long research papers. So if we ever get to meet you will find me to be a chubby 50 year old client with a large vocabulary, a fear of writing, and a rather short tallywacker (albeit with a mushroom head).

 

Sincerely Yours,

 

Gman

[Guest greatness]

You

 

You forgot to mention that you have a big caring heart. That's very important. I don't care how well a person writes. There are a lot of ghost writers you can hire to fix that. When you put your heart in your writings, other people can see that. Hugs~~~

[Bart]

Reviews are a funny thing. I use to do them religiously, even for repeats I would try to do one annually. Then last year I stopped and I really dont want to go back to do them. They are time consuming, you question their value and gets sort of like after going to the auto dealer to fix the car they call and want to check on their service. Or I get a call at work from an agency doing a survey for the bank, ugh I simply say I do not do surveys. Through work I am asked by the bank, our software provider, our system's analyst's firm, our auditing firm to give recommendations when someone calls. Well somehow I just sidestep it. I have great service but I just hate giving a recommendation any more.

 

I had two outings last year that I believe the gentlemen was expecting me to do a review and they asked. To be honest, initially after meeting them I had an idea to write a review but upon further reflection they were just average outings, maybe even to the point of boring for me. Again I just sort of sidestepped the issue. I think both were expecting me to rehire them as well, That is not happening.

 

I know you would love the review, but I think what would be more important to you is them rehiring you for a 2nd 3rd etc time.

 

You did get shake out the dust a bit and got one review from your general request. However, there have been threads here where clients have ranted on about gentlemen asking for reviews and they are insulted. So where one client may be okay with you asking, the next may be insulted. You do run the risk of losing repeat business by asking.

[adriano46]

As a frequent client, I often choose not to write reviews.

 

EPIGONOS spelled out very clearly above all the reasons and for me they are mixed.

 

On one side, I have often written reviews for guys I met in Europe, especially when the archives here had few - if any - for working men in Europe. Now that many of these men visit the US, I will occasionally point him out here on the Board (especially my Hungarian and Russian friends), to help them break into an admittedly difficult market.

 

But I have also learned the hard way that if I advertise there presence, it is harder for me to see them either professionally or privately (as often I have traveled with them, had them visit me etc...). To my consternation, often, a guy visiting here calls me and asks if we can get together for some down time for him. I have been out touring with one guy, or having dinner (or planning to order a dinner) or getting tickets for a show or something and he gets a call from a client (I am definately here "off the clock" with him, no date planned, just meeting and shopping, or spending time together), and so he has to up and run to get his bag of supplies and head off to the paying client. This really does happen, and often! I cannot get angry with him, as he definately needs the income, and I am simply filling in his free time. But it does bother me.

 

Another consideration is anonymity. Clients like to chatter among themselves, and I sometimes find it disconcerting when they so openly discuss escort A or B trying to compare notes with me that go beyond describing a review. I often find myself writing, "Why don't you as HIM directly?" when they ask me some pretty personal (and intrusive?) comments on an escort. So I occasionally prefer they do not know I have seen a guy (especially ones who are very popular here).

 

And yes, the BIG one for me is that I like to keep our encounters personal. I recently met two guys together -- one I have lusted for for over 18 years and was happily surprised to see he also escorts, and so I jumped at the chance to meet him "in the flesh". To my happy joy and surprise, he is much nicer than I could have imagined, super personality, amazingly beautiful inside and out, and the BIGGEST jaw-breaking dick I have ever seen in person. But since I never bottom, all I could do was try to swallow that, and I could not - my jaw muscles hurt for hours after. Thank God he is a masterful kisser and rally a ravenous pig in the best sense of the word (and a very sexy 40 something in age)... I will not name him -- he is MINE.

 

Have the same reaction with one or two others I have met who are already so thoroughly reviewed there is nothing new to add. I would just be showing off in a way to add my name to the roster of clients who have had the pleasure of meeting them.

 

As for you, Brandon, I have you short-listed and have had you on my list for some months, and it is only a matter of us being in the same city... you come across in ever way as someone worth seeing. That already comes out here on the Board and in your ads.