Another question for escorts who top ...

[Decatur Guy]

Do you meet clients/bottoms that like a good, rough fuck? Someone who actually wants the fuck to hurt -- in a good way. (To be clear, I'm NOT talking about a truly painful, damaging fuck that can lead to post-sex injury).

 

I'm talking about a hard fuck or a long, exhaustive fuck that is probably more on the "good-hurt" side of the pleasure/pain continuum.

 

Do the clients verbalize it beforehand or do you just pick up cues that they are getting off on that? And do you enjoy dishing it out that way? Is a turn-on for you if a bottom can take a "good hurt" fuck? Or do you prefer a more gentle encounter where the bottom is clearly more in pleasure mode? What feels better to you physically and psychologically?

[Bart]

Sorry to but in but as a client yes I do and yes I ask but I am open to romantic to rough and I use the term rough fuck. Which may include in my book arms pulled back, horsey style, arm wrapped around tightly the neck or body and most other stuff that adds to the intensity. I prefer to include a lot of tongue action around the neck and ears as well. Now I have had rough fucks, that I could not wait for them to be done because there just was no passion behind it. The gentlemen thought more about driving it home than connecting. I like rough but I want the connection with it. Size of dick does not determine the style.

[Phil_musc]

Yes, Bart, It's all about the connection. It can be rough and passionless at the same time or rough yet brimming with intimacy. That latter combination is stellar.

[Guest greatness]

I love gentle and soft fuck..

[Juan Vancouver]

I have to confess that I am pretty much wired for pleasure. To me, there is nothing more fun than leaving a session with the sensation that both me and my client/s found deeper and newer ways to please each other and make a connection through this enjoyment.

 

That being said, I am also aware that there is a lot of pleasure in sensations that sometimes we can see as painful.

 

Taking a big cock in one's ass, for many people, could be the most unimaginably painful horror they may ever imagine but for many of us it translates into a an intense joy that surpasses many others.

 

My mission as an escort is to find and navigate the thin line that divides these two.

 

Yes, many clients have asked me directly or indirectly to inflict pain on them in many different ways, and sometimes I have agreed to do so within the parameters of safety and my personal comfort zone. (Hell, one of the things that turns me on the most is having my nipples played with, sometimes to an extreme dangerously close to pain.)

 

When it comes to anal sex, however, pleasure is not my only concern. I also have to always keep safety in mind. (No, I don't mean that I am so unfathomably large that my thrusts may be perilous to the recipient. Instead I mean that there is so much abuse that condoms can take.) I have been asked many times to fuck a guy without lube, or just to ram it in, or to fuck a bottom with my penis and kitchen tools and hands and remote controls and anything available... you name it.

 

Whereas I have absolutely no problem fucking someone for long periods of time that for some may be quite uncomfortable and while I intensely enjoy hitting my bottom's prostate, which to some can be very painful, I find the "fuck me so hard and so fast that it hurts" scenario not interesting at all.

 

I won't hurt my bottom's ass, I won't hurt my own cock and I won't risk breaking, tearing or messing with the condom under any circumstance.

 

Fuck you so long that you won't be able to sit the next week? Sure! Anytime.

 

Entering you from every imaginable angle so that your inside feels like a warm bubble of tender lava? Where do I sign?

 

Slamming you so fast and so hard that I don't even know whether I am in or out? I'll pass. But I am sure that there are many escorts out there who specialize precisely in doing that.

 

I have found that since most of us have received all our sexual education from straight porn, we tend to confuse speed and loudness with passion and enjoyment. For that reason many of us believe that a really good fuck is really fast and busy and loud and convoluted, while most of the time a fuck like that will not leave us time to actually perceive the sensations that are arising and we certainly won't have any time to make contact with our partner/s.

 

For me the best way to make love (or have a heavy duty pleasurable fuck) is:

 

Learn about yourself

 

relax

 

breathe

 

make contact

 

relax

 

listen (to yourself and your partner)

 

relax

 

communicate

 

dare

 

repeat

 

 

That being said, whenever I remember a session where the top kept fucking the bottom for a long, long time, sometimes slow, sometimes fast, sometimes deep, sometimes shallowly, from different angles, taking pauses, trying again... whenever I remember a session after which the bottom was reduced to a pile of sore, fulfilled, proud, glowing meat swimming in a puddle of his own sweat, my cock rises in full attention and my heart pounds in my chest longingly...

 

Does this answer your question clearly?

[leigh.bess.toad]

Juan -- Concerning your post: In the immortal words of the poet:

 

Where do I sign?

 

The last paragraph sounds like an absolutely positively ideal scenario. Throw in some tender conversation during the pauses, passionate kissing, and I'm getting close to nirvanah.

 

Hell, that would be it, actually.

[Decatur Guy]

Juan -- GREAT ANSWER. I always enjoy reading your posts. Thanks for replying.

[jawjateck]

Whew Juan.....It's no wonder why Okie is often daydreaming about you.

[Phil_musc]

Okie ain't the only one daydreaming about you. . .

[Guest Spanky]

...I have been asked many times to fuck a guy without lube, or just to ram it in, or to fuck a bottom with my penis and kitchen tools and hands and remote controls and anything available... you name it.

 

I read this earlier today. It prompted a flood of frightening images that I've not been able to shake, mostly related to kitchen tools (beware the falling knife, as the saying goes).

 

Not judging, but I've never understood why some guys are so eager to shove an array of increasingly large household objects inside their bodies with no consideration as to safety and common sense. Cocks? Well of course. Tongues? Right on brother. Fingers? No problem. Bona fide sex toys? Bring it on! After that I am out though. I'm sure we've all heard the emergency room horror stories. So no remotes, no light bulbs, no hamsters, no 2 liter soda bottles, no pool balls, and certainly no kitchen tools (shudder). I even once had a partner who wanted to put a..wait for it...butternut squash up my bum. "The shape makes it just like God's natural butt plug!" he said. Honest to God, these kids today...

 

I think some guys don't distinguish between rough play and a rough fuck. If someone wants to throw me around, get a little rough, maybe administer some corporal, that's great, but when it comes down to fucking that's a different story.

 

I have one final public service announcement. I've been seeing a trend over the last couple of years of guys that want to use some sort of anal de-sensitizing cream. The belief being that they can take a bigger penis, get a deeper fuck, go longer and harder and not feel the pain. I would argue that pain is your friend here. It's your body telling you that something is not right and when you feel the pain, especially down there, you'd be wise to listen to your body.

[Juan Vancouver]

That's where I draw the line, Mister Sister!

 

I read this earlier today. It prompted a flood of frightening images that I've not been able to shake, mostly related to kitchen tools (beware the falling knife, as the saying goes)

 

The time I did lose all composure was when my bottom eagerly presented the microwave oven...

 

Still plugged in!

 

 

These kids today, indeed!

[leigh.bess.toad]

Okie ain't the only one daydreaming about you. . .

 

You could probably fill the Rose Bowl with that crowd.