Who Cums First - Escort or Client

[daviddd49]

David you are so sweet...

 

Thanks. I try! I'm not much to look at -- 50s, over weight, a burly bear -- so I try to compensate by being extra kind.

[jackcali]

In an hour session, I want to cum at least twice.

 

AT LEAST twice in a one-hour session? GTX, what are you, like 16 years old?

 

At my advanced age, I'm lucky if I can cum twice in the space of an hour, which means the escort has to get me off in the first three minutes for me to cum again in a one-hour session.

 

I bow to your amazing powers.

 

To answer the thread's question, I prefer the escort to cum first. It makes my orgasm more intense, as it's easier to think (fantasize?) that the escort is also having a good time. Also, as others have noted, some escorts think the session is over once the client cums. It matters less at a session with a regular escort, as the dynamic between us is already established, though even with regulars I'm a bit disappointed if the escort doesn't cum at all.

[Michael Wayne]

great thread! no rules- just go with the flow. Lately I have been noticing that more and more of my clients are having multiple orgasms with me which really turns me on. I never hold off cumming because I have a client later in the day- BUT- the general scenario is that most (but not all) of my clients cum pretty fast. It takes me a good 45 minutes to get there and the majority of guys are still one and done. What I do when a client pops early is to finish the session with a long and relaxing massage. Many times the massage makes the clients cock come back to life while we still have time left. Clients HATE escorts who are in a hurry.Escorts need to realize that the client is paying you FOR THE HOUR not just till he or you pop. What I enjoy most about my job is the post-sex conversations when I really get to know my clients. That is where regulars and repeat relationships are made- in the cuddling afterwards. Have a great day guys! http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[daviddd49]

But there is a deeper issue here. What if I (the client) can't cum in the session? I whack off so much (at least once or twice a day, though in late middle age), that when I am actually WITH an escort, I am so enthralled by the moment, the cum machine shuts down! Something like what Tomcat mentions (though probably not exactly the same, but "IF I CUM, which is an IF..." I sometimes feel embarrassed about this, and moreso when, an hour afterthe guy leaves, I am able to cum.

 

I also suffer from a bit of performance anxiety. On occasion I haven't been able to cum while having sex with an escort, and this has been embarrassing to me; fear that it will happen again only adds to the tension that helps to make it a self-fulfilling prophecy. The best ways I've found to overcome this fear is to (1) relax and just enjoy the sex, and (2) abstain from cumming for 24-48 hours prior to seeing an Escort. I usually cum once or twice a day when left to my own devices (hand, fleshjack, etc). However, prior to seeing an Escort I find my performance and enjoyment of the "date" is significantly enhanced by not cumming for at least a full day. So, you might want to consider something similar.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I also suffer from a bit of performance anxiety. On occasion I haven't been able to cum while having sex with an escort, and this has been embarrassing to me; fear that it will happen again only adds to the tension that helps to make it a self-fulfilling prophecy. The best ways I've found to overcome this fear is to (1) relax and just enjoy the sex, and (2) abstain from cumming for 24-48 hours prior to seeing an Escort. I usually cum once or twice a day when left to my own devices (hand, fleshjack, etc). However, prior to seeing an Escort I find my performance and enjoyment of the "date" is significantly enhanced by not cumming for at least a full day. So, you might want to consider something similar.

 

David -- I can understand where you are coming from. Because I lived there. But eventually I've gotten to a place where I realize it is the entire act, the entire arc of the session that matters most. Am I enjoying myself? Does the escort seem to be enjoying himself? But the cumming is the cherry on the top of the sundae. The majority of the enjoyment is the sundae itself. And if you can focus on that, the cumming will tend to take care of itself. And if I don't cum with the escort there, I have such strong, vivid memories of our time together that even when by myself the whole experience can inspire me, long after the session is done.

 

Where Mikey9nola says it's the post-sex conversations where he gets to know his clients, at lot of times with me its the "during the sex" conversations. By that I mean, we start getting to it and then one of us says something and we calm down for a few minutes and gently talk and cuddle and then ramp back up again. And in the up and down that occurs several times during the session is when I find I reveal the most about myself and I find out the most about my escort. Of course, most times I rarely hire for only an hour, and then due to very special circumstances. But to me, that seems the most natural course of sex anyway -- the ebb and flow of the entire act adds to the intensity of the whole. The context is everything. That's why I prefer to make love with my escort rather than fuck each other. And there is a big difference.

[Epigonos]

I have always enjoyed hiring a guy for dinner and a couple of hours of play time. As a rule I’m not terribly fond of overnights, frankly, I prefer sleeping alone. If I’m hiring a guy, out of town, and I am confident we are going to have a good time I will hire him for two consecutive evening. Under those circumstance there isn’t, at least for me, an immense amount of pressure for us to perform (cum) on cue. The whole situation becomes more relaxed and we are able to go with the flow. Along the same line, as time has gone alone, I have established a small group of guys I see on a regular basis. We know each other well and we are fully aware of what turns us each on. It is extremely important to me that the escort I’m playing with is turned on by what I am doing to him. If he isn’t half of the fun of the encounter goes right out of the window. Yes I expect the escort to cum BUT who cums first is not important to me after all cuming is simply one part of the entire experience.

 

There are two exceptions to my dislike of overnights. Those exceptions involve two very special escorts. I have traveled with and never spend less than an overnight with Steven Kesslar/San Francisco and Dane/Chicago. Sex with these guys is like a slow sensuous dance. We cum whenever we feel like cuming and sometimes we are having so much fun with the foreplay that we don’t always get around to cuming until whenever. I often bask in the pleasure of s-l-o-w-l-y bringing these guys off and am perfectly happy to wait till later to cum myself.

[adriano46]

David -- I can understand where you are coming from. Because I lived there. But eventually I've gotten to a place where I realize it is the entire act, the entire arc of the session that matters most. Am I enjoying myself? Does the escort seem to be enjoying himself? But the cumming is the cherry on the top of the sundae. The majority of the enjoyment is the sundae itself. And if you can focus on that, the cumming will tend to take care of itself. And if I don't cum with the escort there, I have such strong, vivid memories of our time together that even when by myself the whole experience can inspire me, long after the session is done.

 

Where Mikey9nola says it's the post-sex conversations where he gets to know his clients, at lot of times with me its the "during the sex" conversations. By that I mean, we start getting to it and then one of us says something and we calm down for a few minutes and gently talk and cuddle and then ramp back up again. And in the up and down that occurs several times during the session is when I find I reveal the most about myself and I find out the most about my escort. Of course, most times I rarely hire for only an hour, and then due to very special circumstances. But to me, that seems the most natural course of sex anyway -- the ebb and flow of the entire act adds to the intensity of the whole. The context is everything. That's why I prefer to make love with my escort rather than fuck each other. And there is a big difference.

 

I could not have said it better Lee. Yes, there was anxiety in the past and a bit of embarrassment when I did not cum (or tried to FAKE it -- now that is a talent).

 

If an escort really turms me on and makes me cum, that is the special surprise (and wins a nice tip too). I prefer giving HIM pleasure, as much as I can, being totally absorbed in HIM, and making HIM feel special. The conversation is very important, the mental connection as well as the physical Heck some of the best sex I have had was during a massage - when I was simply looking for the massage and not the wank at the end.

[Guest Spanky]

While these are all excellent posts, we need to remember that Doit asked question. Most of you probably know Doit's particular sexual interests may be...how should I say it...a little out of the mainstream (and don't send out the lynching party just yet because I say that with the utmost respect and admiration, which I am sure he knows).

 

So for Doit, the real issue isn't that he came before the escort. Rather, based on my read of his post, he came without permission. I hope that Doit's partner gave him the appropriate reprimand.

[gtx1]

Quick recovery I guess.

 

AT LEAST twice in a one-hour session? GTX, what are you, like 16 years old?

 

At my advanced age, I'm lucky if I can cum twice in the space of an hour, which means the escort has to get me off in the first three minutes for me to cum again in a one-hour session.

 

I bow to your amazing powers.

 

To answer the thread's question, I prefer the escort to cum first. It makes my orgasm more intense, as it's easier to think (fantasize?) that the escort is also having a good time. Also, as others have noted, some escorts think the session is over once the client cums. It matters less at a session with a regular escort, as the dynamic between us is already established, though even with regulars I'm a bit disappointed if the escort doesn't cum at all.

 

Don't really know, just that I've always had a quick recovery. I can cum and then 15 minutes later I'm horney and want to do it again.

[gtx1]

great thread! no rules- just go with the flow. Lately I have been noticing that more and more of my clients are having multiple orgasms with me which really turns me on. I never hold off cumming because I have a client later in the day- BUT- the general scenario is that most (but not all) of my clients cum pretty fast. It takes me a good 45 minutes to get there and the majority of guys are still one and done. What I do when a client pops early is to finish the session with a long and relaxing massage. Many times the massage makes the clients cock come back to life while we still have time left. Clients HATE escorts who are in a hurry.Escorts need to realize that the client is paying you FOR THE HOUR not just till he or you pop. What I enjoy most about my job is the post-sex conversations when I really get to know my clients. That is where regulars and repeat relationships are made- in the cuddling afterwards. Have a great day guys! http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

 

I like your attitude, mikey 9. If I ever get to new orleans I'm calling you and you can get me off as many times as you can.

[jackcali]

Don't really know, just that I've always had a quick recovery. I can cum and then 15 minutes later I'm horney and want to do it again.

 

Well, you're a lucky man, GTX. I'm frequently also horney and want to do it again in 15 minutes but, as the saying goes, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. I need to wait a little longer for the flesh to catch up with the spirit. I wonder if there are any exercises I can do to improve my recovery time?

[gtx1]

Well, you're a lucky man, GTX. I'm frequently also horney and want to do it again in 15 minutes but, as the saying goes, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. I need to wait a little longer for the flesh to catch up with the spirit. I wonder if there are any exercises I can do to improve my recovery time?

 

Jackcali - I think I must be just plumbed a little different. I don't necessarily lose my erection after climax. In my twenties I could fuck right through two orgasms. Made me popular with the girls. Even now I don't deflate fully and with a little help I'm standing tall in no time at all.

[Gar1eth]

Jackcali - I think I must be just plumbed a little different. I don't necessarily lose my erection after climax. In my twenties I could fuck right through two orgasms. Made me popular with the girls. Even now I don't deflate fully and with a little help I'm standing tall in no time at all.

 

I hate you-- actually no-- just envious.

 

Gman

[Strafe13]

Hate him? Heck, I think I'm in love with gtx! Maybe I should give him a call. ;-)

 

I hate you-- actually no-- just envious.

 

Gman

[ChiTown]

Cum again? . . . and again, and again!

 

Hate him? Heck, I think I'm in love with gtx! Maybe I should give him a call. ;-)

 

HAHA! I was thinking the exact same thing, Strafe

[leigh.bess.toad]

Jackcali - I think I must be just plumbed a little different. I don't necessarily lose my erection after climax. In my twenties I could fuck right through two orgasms. Made me popular with the girls. Even now I don't deflate fully and with a little help I'm standing tall in no time at all.

 

I was wondering if you've ever considered a career as a working guy?

[gtx1]

Thanks for the chatter guys! At 57 I think I'm a little past my prime for the circuit. I prefer renting now - that way I get to pick and choose what I want.

[Guest muscleboy33]

As an escort, i always ask my client whether he would like to cum first or if he prefers me to cum first and then help him get off afterwards. It's whatever the client wants and even if the client wants to cum first, and shoots, I offer to cum for his viewing pleasure if he wants me to.

[daviddd49]

David -- I can understand where you are coming from. Because I lived there. But eventually I've gotten to a place where I realize it is the entire act, the entire arc of the session that matters most. Am I enjoying myself? Does the escort seem to be enjoying himself? But the cumming is the cherry on the top of the sundae. The majority of the enjoyment is the sundae itself. And if you can focus on that, the cumming will tend to take care of itself. And if I don't cum with the escort there, I have such strong, vivid memories of our time together that even when by myself the whole experience can inspire me, long after the session is done.

 

Where Mikey9nola says it's the post-sex conversations where he gets to know his clients, at lot of times with me its the "during the sex" conversations. By that I mean, we start getting to it and then one of us says something and we calm down for a few minutes and gently talk and cuddle and then ramp back up again. And in the up and down that occurs several times during the session is when I find I reveal the most about myself and I find out the most about my escort. Of course, most times I rarely hire for only an hour, and then due to very special circumstances. But to me, that seems the most natural course of sex anyway -- the ebb and flow of the entire act adds to the intensity of the whole. The context is everything. That's why I prefer to make love with my escort rather than fuck each other. And there is a big difference.

 

Thank you Lee! What you describe has been my experience, especially with those Escorts that I see on a Regular basis. I've become very fond of several guys whom I see on a monthly or quarterly basis, and that makes the whole sexual experience so much better. I get much less nervous prior to our meetings, and I have much less in the way of performance anxiety. I'm still very nervous before a first time meeting with a new Escort, but that's ok ... the best way I have found to combat that is to treat it like a first-time date (for, in a sense, that is what it is)!

[+ Shoreboy]

I too am one that worries when with an escort as to whether or not I can come....usually it takes a long time for me. Therefore, I always tell the escort that I want him to cum but don't worry abotut me....if the session is hot enough I can easily take care of myself when he leaves which also has me relive the experience

[seaboy4hire]

Does it really matter who cums first? So long as everybody cums.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Guest irgana]

I think that cuming together is the best but I'm not sure it happens every time.

I think everything depend on the position of the client :

 

-client is top : I think the escort should cum while the client fucks him. For me, it means I'm a good top. (but I don't request the escort to cum that would be cheating )

-client is bottom : I think he would like to cum first since I don't think escorts are plumbed like gtx1 (you're not alone gtx1 ! I think I've the same brand of pipe )

-versatile : I don't know

-three some : OK good luck with this one

[hunkymuscles]

Unless requested by the client, I always put my focus on him so that he can cum first. I feel that if I wait to cum, I can do a much better job with the client. It takes me a long time to cum sometimes and afterwards I'm exhausted. However, I really don't think it makes a difference who cums first, I would just prefer that the client do so first.

Rex (San Francisco)

http://www.daddysreviews.com/review/raul_sf

[gtx1]

Does 2 in 30 = 4 in 60?

 

Thanks for the chatter guys! At 57 I think I'm a little past my prime for the circuit. I prefer renting now - that way I get to pick and choose what I want.

 

OK guys, you had me doubting myself so I ran a little experiement this morning with some help. Two full ejaculations within 30 minutes - makes me wonder if that will equate to four in 60. Maybe I should raise my expectations. Mikey9 has voluntered to see how many we can get in an hour if I ever get to New Orleans, thanks Mikey!

 

GTX

[ChiTown]

Great Expectations!

 

Two full ejaculations within 30 minutes - makes me wonder if that will equate to four in 60. Maybe I should raise my expectations.

 

GTX

 

GTX,

 

I like your positive attitude - or were you kidding? Four loads in 60 minutes? . . . Let us know if that one works out. If so, you definately are "plumbed differently" from most guys!