Here is a tricky Freudian Question.....

[bcohen7719]

How does a professional escort pick his "persona" when he advertises?

 

For example, an ad from "Rentboy" describes himself as

"cocky verbal frat dude...confident...extremely masculine...

perverted and tasty..."

 

Did the escort pick out this description because he had always

subconsciously wanted to be a cocky verbal frat dude, or

because he really thought of himself as a cocky verbal frat dude,

because he admired/lusted after cocky verbal frat dudes as a

youth and "internalized" that ideal, or mainly because he thought he found success selling himself as a tasty, perverted fratboy dude?

 

Please don't attack me for intellectualizing this too much.

 

As always, with appreciation,

 

BC

[Battle]

Perhaps he got a thesaurus in his Xmas stocking

[dfw2sfo]

My guess is that it's a combo of how he might see his appeal and the behavior that's been reinforced ($$$) by clients.

[Juan Vancouver]

Different escorts chose their public image in different ways. There are the ones that understand that what they are, who they are, what they like is marketable and special and attractive and simply choose to understand themselves and display their qualities in their advertisement, knowing that there is going to be someone out there who will be looking for exactly that... and there are escorts who do a market research (by asking other people, by their own imagination or sometimes by projecting their own desires unto their imaginary clients) and decide to create an entirely fictitious persona that they believe will sell better than themselves.

 

I personally don't think the second option is healthy or good, neither for the escort nor for his clients. They will never get what they want and their transaction will be filled with discomfort and a vague sense of unease.

 

I am convinced that no matter who you are, what you look like, how old you are, how is your body shape, what are your physical and intellectual abilities, there are many people out there who will be delighted to spend time with you and are looking for precisely what you are. By trying to conform to an imaginary or direct expectation and by changing who you really are, you are not only robbing yourself of very important self-acceptance but you are also robbing others (those that are looking for you) of the gift of enjoying you as you are.

 

Personally I think that applies to escorting and life both and I believe that the most successful men and women are those who understand this and apply it to their professional and personal lives.

 

That being said... sometimes one feels horny and chooses to heighten certain sides of one's personality just because they feel raunchy or fun or exciting. In different ads I sometimes am anything between an intelligent, well spoken and well educated man with whom people can feel comfortable and explore... and a raunchy, lust driven, insatiable, demanding sex fiend that will take you to the edge, will escort you past your limits and once you are exhausted, covered in body fluids and reduced to a quivering fleshy mess on the floor, will ask you to rise up and show your true colours once again...

 

Oh well... sue me!

[instudiocity]

...In different ads I sometimes am anything between an intelligent, well spoken and well educated man with whom people can feel comfortable and explore... and a raunchy, lust driven, insatiable, demanding sex fiend that will take you to the edge, will escort you past your limits and once you are exhausted, covered in body fluids and reduced to a quivering fleshy mess on the floor, will ask you to rise up and show your true colours once again...

 

Oh well... sue me!

 

Juan, I believe it takes the first,

 

an intelligent, well spoken and well educated man with whom people can feel comfortable and explore

to get to

 

and a raunchy, lust driven, insatiable, demanding sex fiend that will take you to the edge, will escort you past your limits and once you are exhausted, covered in body fluids and reduced to a quivering fleshy mess on the floor, will ask you to rise up and show your true colours once again...

And yes, please de-suit me.

[Guest Tristan3]

Sure, you may be over-intellectualizing it... on the other hand, kudos to you for asking a question that mostly goes under the radar, remaining unasked.

 

Personally, as an escort, I'd say I arrived at my ad description thru a combination of the 2 points Juan makes. On the one hand, I wanted to be both true to myself, and easily clear the bar i'd raised for myself. For instance, my ad is relatively vanilla simply because extreme raunch isn't something I'm really comfortable with, and I don't want to put myself in the uncomfortable position of disappointing a client because I'd bragged of experience or qualities I don't possess. (I'm in no way judging clients or escorts who ARE into this, it's just not my scene.) Rather, kindness, good communication skills, intelligence, and fantastic "vanilla" skills are things that I enjoy, that make me feel like a real person (rather than a robot or a fake), and are easily within my boundaries.

 

On the other hand, we can't totally neglect either marketing, or the reality of seeing ourselves as others see us. When I look in the mirror, I don't see someone who bears the demeanor of, or a resemblance to, Hugh Jackman. But I've gotten that comment so consistently in both my personal and professional life, that I have to assume this IS how a large number of people, at-least superficially, see me. I don't WANT to be a category or a "type" but this kind of superficial "marketing" what capitalistic culture is based on, AND I don't have the opportunity in a small ad to go on and on about my more spiritual qualities.

 

Ok, I'm tired after writing all that and thinking so much, time to take a nap