Rejected, Dejected and a Little Bit Pissed

[jgoo]

May I ask if this was a LOCAL overnight or were there travel arrangements in place? Also, the same thing happens from our perspective as escorts. Let me tell yall about this one: I had a great inquiry and booking for a 2 day travel overnight. It was booked 6 weeks in advance for this weekend by phone and by email. When I contacted the client to pay for the travel arrangements I had reserved by email I got a terse one line response to call him at 8pm the next night. He knows good and well that I can NEVER talk on the phone at night as that is prime time in my biz. All of my phone calls are in the am or early afternoon. So obviously I did not call as I assumed he had flaked out or changed his mind or hired someone else. Well, as the dates drew nearer I assumed I would hear SOMETHING from him even if to officially cancel but NOTHING! I am not mad, not at all, as I have plenty of business but I mention this to you to show that not only are clients hurt by unprofessional escorts but also escorts are hurt by clients all the time. Now, one last thing to the original poster of this important thread: I WILL SHOW UP AND I WILL BE PROFESSIONAL WITH YOU if you ever want to. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

 

The escort in question was visiting and I arranged my schedule to be in the same city for our appointment so I did incur some costs to be there that I otherwise would not have.

 

Yes I do realize that escorts probably get more than their share of cancellations. I certainly wish that wasn't the case. I think that it is important to be reminded that it is sometimes easy for clients to lose that perspective that the escorts often have many challenges to deal with in their business. And I definitely will take you up on your offer as the opportunity presents itself.

[Michael Wayne]

thanks! i find from listening to my clients that most problems like this occur with, "Visiting," escorts. Much better if you see someone in their home city or arrange for them to fly to see you in your home city if at all possible. There are some amazing guys who are very professional EXCEPT when they are, "Visiting," then they think they have a liscence to be an ass. I work in a small market (new orleans) so all the time there is at least one visiting escort here because there is much more DEMAND here than SUPPLY. You would not believe the horror stories I hear about these traveling guys. There are good ones so don't get me wrong but in my experience you are better to hire local or bring someone in to JUST see you. These guys schedule 10 appointments a day when they travel and go till they cum then cancel the rest of the appointments even if the client has gone to considerable effort to arrange to see them. I know why you are pissed and you have every right to be. BUT- don't let it ruin you weekend. Their are in fact other BIG fish in the sea who are looking for good clients like you who actually give a fuck and give a damn about people. good luck! Mikey

[JT Brooklyn]

Now that we have had a very lively discussion about a situation that has "come up" before and will defiitely "come up" again!

 

I'm actually glad the ALLEGED PERPERTRATOR was not mentioned by NAME.

 

It has always been my OPINION when this situation is brought to the Forum that unless the Named "Working Guy" is given a chance to RESPOND with his side of the situation...this is just some interesting CHIT-CHAT.

 

Most Working Guys donot follow Daddys BUT as how it was stated he is a REGULAR around here..by now he knows who he is and is probably VERY Thankful his Name was not said. LOL

[+ Axiom2001]

Yes, you were treated shabbily. He should have called or texted for a quicker response if he really wanted to carry through with the appointment. Gentlemen should keep their words (and their appointments). Sadly, this fact is lost on some people escorts and nonescorts and is quite common.

 

Option 1. Take the high road. If you are still interested, you can call (i think it's better than email tag at this point) and be somewhat conciliatory (it's not your fault but from his standpoint it probably is) and ask for a better time to meet up. If he's interested he'll probably agree to meeting or say that he's busy. Perhaps you might consider meeting him for an hour or two instead of an overnight. Maybe he's not comfortable with meeting people for an overnight without knowing more about them or already have a pre-existing relationship with. Not sure.

 

Option 2. Consider yourself 1000+ richer and spend it on another deserving escort that may be more accomodating.

 

These are fine suggestions, but if I were you, I'd go for the second option. When escorts have asked me to describe myself, and this has only been one of two out of my having to hire during the past 12 years, I've been general but somewhat creatively detailed when it came to what I would like from our session/meeting. Perhaps your detailed description bothered this man, but if it did, that is NO reason to cancel abruptly. He should have rung you.

 

I am sorry that you had to have this sort of experience, for I had one some months back. I was looking forward to meeting a very hot and studly guy who had just "come to this scene." On the day of the confirmed session, he wrote and told me that he'd forgotten that he had an important family obligation about which he'd forgotten and had been reminded by a family member about five or six hours before our meeting about this family thing. I was truly pissed regarding his supposed "forgetfulness" in his "family matter"--wrote a response and fwd'd to a good friend of mine.

 

Well, unfortunately, my friend did NOT receive the FWD but the escort did. I'd forgotten to type my friend's e address in the provided place. The escort wrote back to me that he did not like being called a liar, something that I had NOT done. What I wrote was that this whole thing on his part was truly perplexing to me. How could he had forgotten about famiily in spite of having confirmed an escort appointment with me? Well, from what you wrote, I think our situations are slightly, slightly similar in some respects.

 

From this day-- I still want to see this man and might have the pleasure of meeting him sometime during 2011. I think we could have a "hot time!" If we do manage to meet-- I will NOT mention what transpired some eight months back.

[justaguy]

jgoo, I would be interested in knowing whether sending an email of disappointment helped or not. Please keep us posted on how this turns out.

[jgoo]

jgoo, I would be interested in knowing whether sending an email of disappointment helped or not. Please keep us posted on how this turns out.

 

Update: I just got off the phone with the escort who called me to apologize and to give a little more detail about his canceling. Basically the time gap of his sending his email and not hearing from me for a few days caused him to "panic" (his words) and conclude that I wasn't a serious client and would flake on the meeting. He acknowledged that he could have handled it much better and that he did not show me the same level of consideration that I had shown to him. He indicated that my email explaining my surprise and disappointment caused him to reflect on how he needs to improve in various aspects of his dealings with potential clients. I can speculate that there are other things involved that he is not saying or question the veracity of it all but frankly that would not be very productive and I chose to accept his explanation and apology at face value.

 

There is no chance that we will ever meet and it is not because I am bitter but as some here have noted, with this situation having happened, if we did meet it would be difficult to block out completely and it would have a negative impact on the overall time together.

 

So at the end of all this, I do appreciate his effort to contact me in response to my email expressing my displeasure with his canceling, his providing a little more explanation and his apology. However, we all know that words are one thing and what counts is how he actually does things differently in the future.

[Guest greatness]

That's a great news jgoo.. Kisses and hugs~~~

[JT Brooklyn]

Well apparently the guy in question rather than have his NAME ultimately REVEALED made Contact! Did he really have a choice?

 

Most of the Working Guys do know what's Good or Bad for Biz. LOL

[wayout]

Well apparently the guy in question rather than have his NAME ultimately REVEALED made Contact! Did he really have a choice?

 

Most of the Working Guys do know what's Good or Bad for Biz. LOL

 

 

Absolutely correct there Brooklyn Guy. I wouldn't put too much credence into his apology. He screwed the pooch and now is just protecting himself so his identity isn't revealed. No surprises there.

 

Frankly, I don't think his identity should be protected as others should be made aware of who this is and they can decide on their own. Plus as this guy apparently is a member of this esteemed forum, he can also give his input if he wants.

[Gar1eth]

I'd cross the guy off your christmas list, but without knowing the other side of the story, I can't recommend nailing him to a cross in public just yet. No use in just hurting someone's business when they really didn't harm you in any way. your egomight be a little bruised, but that's no reason to retaliate like a wild monkey.

 

I disagree. This is a Forum to discuss escorts. If you cant reveal the name of a guy like this-- why have it?

 

Gman-- who is not in as good a mood as he usually is due to being taken for a ride by 2 escorts recently-- and not a good one.

[wayout]

 

Gman-- who is not in as good a mood as he usually is due to being taken for a ride by 2 escorts recently-- and not a good one.

 

Gman, do share....inquiring (curious) minds want to know

[Gar1eth]

Gman, do share....inquiring (curious) minds want to know

 

Well I was going to vent a little,but I 'powered' down right before I finished a rather long response, and I don't have the heart to re-write it now.

 

Gman

[Guest greatness]

oh my Gar1eth I'm sorry for your experience. I hope you feel better soon.. Don't let those things get to you. We have to stick together and move on... What about developing a hobby instead of hiring.. When I get hurt.. I just read and read and read... until things become a bit clear... Anyways, I hope you feel better soon. You have special big kisses and a huge hug from me..

[wayout]

Well I was going to vent a little,but I 'powered' down right before I finished a rather long response, and I don't have the heart to re-write it now.

 

Gman

 

Understood. If you're over it then let it rest and move on but if you feel like venting at some point, go right ahead when you are ready as it can be helpful. In any case, I also am sorry that you had a bad experience(s) and hope you rebound quickly.