What to do to make thing more exciting?

[rocky]

I'm on a roll tonight on Daddy's; seem to be posting every where. OK, I've been seeing an escort for over 10 years. when we first met of course we were both younger, me 15 year older (ok I'm 56); anyhow the sex was great but we extended things to an overnight and it was almost like a companion for me. Now, I do look forward to our Friday nights together and pay good price but sex has turned to hand job and not much more. While I know I'm not as exciteable as I use to be but I miss some of the old time oral and other play. What should I say?? I like the JO but sometimes enjoy more.

[justaguy]

You say just that, "I like the JO but sometimes enjoy more." A nicer approach is in your previous sentence, "I know I'm not as exciteable as I used to be but I miss some of the old time oral and other play." The thing is you need to talk to the guy, tell him what you're missing and ask him for suggestions on how to spice things up. It's your dime. What do you want with it? He can't know unless you communicate with him.

[+ Shoreboy]

I agree with justaguy...it's your dime so it your call. Communication in every realm of every relationship is vital, even if it is a paid arrangement.

 

I presume you are paying the same price but getting less and less of the sevice you expect. If this was any other sort of business arrangement in say a store or with a client, I would either speak up or move on.

 

When I hire my choice usually knows what I like, what I don't, what I envision us doing and since it is my dime I expect him to live up to what I have communicated....the ones who do get hired again...the ones who don't will not see me again spending my hard earned money on them.

 

I hate to sound a bit cold, but it appears from what you have written your consistently hired escort of 10 years is taking you a bit for granted and just giving you a minimal amount of effort since he knows you will return.

[+ sf westcoaster]

There is no substitute for communication. Let you friend (escort) know what you want. You can approach the topic by saying something along the lines of "remember when we did xyz - how about doing that again". Remember you are paying for a service and have every right to receive everything that the service entails.

[Diverdan]

It's probably time to switch to a new companion. If your current guy is taking you for granted and you want something more, find someone else that fits what you want. It sounds like both of you are in a rut (no pun intended). As in many other things in life, we often don't invest the same amount of energy in long term situations that we do when we are fresh and excited about something new. This of course, is jut MHO, but it seems to me you already know the answer to your question.

[instudiocity]

... OK, I've been seeing an escort for over 10 years. ... anyhow the sex was great but we extended things to an overnight and it was almost like a companion for me. Now, I do look forward to our Friday nights together and pay good price but sex has turned to hand job and not much more.

Just a curious question... do you like have him on BillPay from your bank account to his or are you handing him cash every Saturday morning? Sometimes the disconnect between the service and the payment, reduces the 'urgency'.

 

I once dated a guy where we set up a first of the month transaction with his agreement to show up 2-3 times per month. I did this to help him pay the rent on the 1st of every month. After 3 months, it was 1-2 times a month and by six months, I had to start making the dates. Finally, I stopped the auto-pay and he stopped answering my calls. I might have broken even, I didn't want to attempt to figure it out.

 

The sex was HOT! when it happened and I'd have continued the relationship on a payment for service basis, but I guess he was embarrassed or no longer excited.

[Guest GQ Pro]

You are the client, it's your dollar(s). I would tell the escort exactly what you said here. If he is professional, which I'm sure he is, he will do his best to meet your needs

 

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[rocky]

Great comments and I appreciate it and it gives me something to think about.