Would you rather hire a single escort or one with a boyfriend or wife?

[adriano46]

AdamSmith,

 

I had this occur to me once a decade or so ago in Amsterdam. I had been with a really sexy, great Greek guy (seen him two or three times) and he insisted I let him invite his BF along for breakfast one morning after an overnight.... which then ended up in a post-breakfast 3-way.

 

Unforiunately the BF had some pretty serious "issues" (bordering on trying to out-do the escort to prove who's the man) and it became obvious the BF, while really hot and sexy, was a nut case. It took me months later to convince the escort to drop this guy (and I was right).

 

On another level, I have met quite a few Hungarians guys who are bisexual, and I wish they would STOP talking about their girlfriends. That is a real turn off for me... I hate going down on a dick that I know has been coated in something else.....

[+ Shoreboy]

In my new quest of "hiring" it is something that I have never talked about and or asked about when I am with an escort. I will share only a portion of my life with him and respect his boundaries and could care less what he does and with whom after he leaves me.

 

If I am talking too much during my time with him then by all means stick something in my mouth and shut me up.

[Bart]

In general I dont care if a boy friend is involved, in fact since I do hire for longer periods, I like knowing the gentleman has someone to share life and life experiences with since so many I meet lead rather lonely personal life. Girl friend not so much. The worst was someone who I was seeing occassionally offered to have the girl he works with join us or knew someone who would be interested because she really needed the work and I just sort of stared with mouth open and he says "Oh I guess your not interested." I have lost interest in the gentleman a lot after that. If I see a guy is bi-sexual I tend to stay away from personal questions so not issue.

 

Mike as to the guys you are currently mentoring, they have a way to go if they dont know how to control the urges at home before servicing a client, that would be a "Never again" scenario. Guys who want a personal life usually dont put up the 24 hours a day sign, they take the midnight to 8 AM off. Business will be less but that is how you run a business.

[seaboy4hire]

Unless asked I don't bring up the bf topic. But if asked call me lazy but I wont lie about the fact I do have one.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Decatur Guy]

Yeah, I'd be fine with it. In fact, I would probably ask you questions about your sex life with him.

[instudiocity]

OK, this may actually be useful to you: I, at half a century of age, am in no wise hot any more. But i am nakedly open & emotionally honest with guys (and other configurations!) whom I hire. That seems to go some distance with people you meet.

 

Try it.

 

Me? I'm still trying to figure out 'half a century of age' is OLD? Adam, you're only as old as the ones you squeeze! Geez, sex at 54 is better than sex at 34 for me. But then, I do enjoy escorts who can go like the Energizer Bunny, too.

 

I've also found that when I'm nakedly open and emotionally honest, things tend to go off! SPLAT!

[Guest greatness]

Yes emotionally honest is a difficult thing. It may not matter if you don't know an escort well but once you get to know them well.. It's hard.. I wish I didn't have to hire.. My prince doesn't have to be a prince charming but why is it so hard to find.. I blame myself and feel miserable for it..

 

 

Me? I'm still trying to figure out 'half a century of age' is OLD? Adam, you're only as old as the ones you squeeze! Geez, sex at 54 is better than sex at 34 for me. But then, I do enjoy escorts who can go like th Energizer Bunny, too.

 

I've also found that when I'm nakedly open and emotionally honest, things tend to go off! SPLAT!

[instudiocity]

Yes emotionally honest is a difficult thing. It may not matter if you don't know an escort well but once you get to know them well.. It's hard.. I wish I didn't have to hire.. My prince doesn't have to be a prince charming but why is it so hard to find.. I blame myself and feel miserable for it..

 

Sir Greatness, I would submit that if you 'have to hire' you could be hiring for the wrong reasons, or have the wrong motivations for hiring. I hire because it's fun.

 

I view hiring as an exchange with someone for their service. It's truly a gift from me for their gift to me. Anyone can get laid for free if they behave in the correct matter and I've done that in the rural areas of the DEEP South! Getting laid is not what hiring is about for me (I'm adamant about this emphasis.).

 

Along with meeting someone worth knowing outside the bedroom, I tend to want to determine their circumstances, too. I want to know that he is healthy, lives safely, takes care of himself and isn't doing unhealthy, risky things or living on the street. If I had a boyfriend, I've have exactly the same attitude.

 

When I run across someone who is abusing himself, be it drugs or alcohol or anything else, that's the LAST he will see of me. But then again, I tend to setup housekeeping so to speak, sticking with one favorite escort and pursing that escort-client relationship. Fucking the old familiar is far more satisfying to me than the performance anxiety of fucking the new and unpredictable.

 

I humbly submit these thoughts for your consideration. Please do not consider these words a judgment upon you. I would never want to judge.

[Guest greatness]

Oh my Sir Instudiocity.. You are so sweet to share your thoughts. Anyways thank you for your input. I didn't feel any judgment from you so no worries. What I meant was I don't want to hire any more to have a real bf and a good true relationship. Anyways Kisses and hugs~~~

[Guest chilldude]

Is interesting to read all the comments, In my case I'm bimarried so when I hired an escort

I really don't mind if they have a gf or bf , actually I like to hear it but again I have someone.

[instudiocity]

Oh my Sir Instudiocity.. You are so sweet to share your thoughts. Anyways thank you for your input. I didn't feel any judgment from you so no worries. What I meant was I don't want to hire any more to have a real bf and a good true relationship. Anyways Kisses and hugs~~~

 

Thanks Greatness! Well in that case, one word of advice, You're always better laid in the head, than you're ever laid in the bed. The mental gamesmanship of sex with a person is by far better than a Michaelangelo's David in the bed! Good relationships are built between the ears, not by the wrapping.

[Guest greatness]

That's such a thoughtful comment... Thanks.

[instudiocity]

That's such a thoughtful comment... Thanks.

 

Thanks. In my experience perfect wrappers cover the blackest hearts. I've also noticed that superior voices belong to emptier heads. I have a friend that sounds like John Wayne. But after knowing him for a while I realized 'there's no there, there'!

(And yeah Mr. Obama falls in that category, too. He can give a damn fine speech, but only one someone else writes into his teleprompter.)

[EZEtoGRU]

I tend to pursue str8 guys and str8 escorts. Whilst not obligatory, I don't mind hearing about the wife or the gf. Kind of adds to the str8 guy fantasy. Of course, I am not interested in meeting her. With escorts (or sauna boys) I see more regularly in Brazil, Argentina, and Spain, I have seen pictures of the wife/kids....basically the whole family. I don't find it the least bit offputting or threating to hear about their female significant other.