Its ruining our friendship, anyone else hate stripper bars?

[JoeyBryant]

So, Im in town visiting my friend of 2 years. Well, for the past few months now he's been dancing. I understand and applaud the fact that he needs to go and make money...but Im enjoying our time together less and less now that everytime we go out, he's dancing. On my birthday when we went out, he had to dance the whole night and each time; I end up having to find some guy to hangout with for the night (which isn't that bad of a scenario).

 

I went out last night (Saturday) and he worked. Tonight, I went with him to a dead empty bar. There were like literally 3-4 customers who'd come and go. No one else. I was bored out of my mind, but in between was happy to have another (off-clock) dancer guy flirt it up with me...but his X boyfriend/best friend was being passive-aggressive about him being all into me. Then, as Im there with this guy...he's marveling at him on the pole saying how big his c*ck is, and that he has the most beautiful body. I disagreed totally as his dancer x-boyfriend was an absolute disgrace...he was thin as a toothpick and an awful dancer. I had to speak up and tell him (the guy who was flirting with me all night) that I spend alot of time in the gym, and I know a nice body when I see one, and cock size means 0 to me and that body is alot more important than how big someone's c*ck is! To sum it up, the guy looked like he just walked in from the streets, and this fairly attractive guy was actually into him.

 

But apart from that, I have no desire to sit and watch some guys hop around on a pole and get paid for it. I just find them so boring, it just interests me in no shape or fashion. I've gotten better at having fun in them, but I still dont like them. I like to dance...not watch guys who are thin as toothpicks play around on a pole.

 

And since my friend seems to be so caught up into the lifestyle himself, Im just seeing our friendship having less and less value. Its different as an escort because we can choose to be 'off' when we go out. He's working even when we're hanging out, which really gives us no time to.

 

Does anyone else feel the strip club is polar opposite of what we do?

[BaronArtz]

I agree with what you are saying. Yet, I have chatted up dancers at strip clubs in NYC and gotten their phone numbers to schedule a 'private session'. I think it's a way for some guys to promote themselves, and for clients to check out the boys in a more hands-on way than you could ever could staring at rentboy pics ... So think of it as a promotional tool.

[rvwnsd]

It sounds like your friend can't separate "work" time from "friend" time. If he told you in advance that he was working on "X-day"night and invited you along to watch, I think that would be OK. However, if every time you go out (especially on your birthday) he is dancing, I think you have a legitimate complaint. Sounds like you two might need to talk.

[Battle]

I wouldn't ask a friend to come watch me work.

[scottspearsxxx]

As a rule I do not go to stripper bars unless I am the one stripping. I really enjoy performing in bars such as Bourbon Pub in Key West and Lucky Horseshoe in Chicago and hope that whoever is watching me is getting off on it as well...