"To Talk or Not to Talk....

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

I had a discussion today that brought to mind a question when it comes to escorts accepting phone calls or answering text. I can understand a client being upset if an escort takes a call or answers a question if they only have like an hour or two hour appointment. At the point, every minutes is like gold. But what about if you are spending one or two or three days with an escort? I think that the escort is allowed to make contact as they need to as long as it is not excessive. 20 or 30 minutes of time to return important calls or answer email while you two are watching TV. I dont mind answering text as long as it isnt excessive and I am still the center of his universe! Some might say it is a question of professionalism, and i think there is a fine line between what is acceptable and unacceptable as for as the moment of time spent answering text or emails, but you have a multitasking escort who can text and talk at the same time, I dont see a problem with it. And I think if you did have a problem with an escort "taking time from you" and you told them, most professional and accomadating escorts would respect your wishes and stop texting, answering emails, or talking on the phone. Any Thoughts?

[Businessguy]

Time Off

 

I think it is very unprofessional for an escort to be distracted by his cell phone while with a client. Having said that, who among us works 24 hours a day for consecutive days? Not many I'm sure. So, if your scheduled session with an escort is longer than an overnight, it would be reasonable to give him "time off" to attend to personal business away from the client. Maybe he should get an hour or two per day to rest or answer messages or whatever he needs to do without that being an infringement on the client. The key is to have an understanding about that when the extended session is booked. For me, if it is an overnight or shorter time frame, I expect the cell phone to be off and out of sight for the entire time the escort is with me. At the normal rates per hour, I should be his only focus and there should be no other distractions.

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

I would agree Businessguy! That is why i didnt think it was unreasonable for my guy to take 30 minutes to make a phone call to his signifigant other or answer some of his email. I didnt even have an issue with him answering text message with his agent to set up a video shoot because he was still able to make me feel like the center of the universe. If I had said please dont I know he wouldnt. I feel he was very professional because he was considerate of how I felt and knew I was okay with it. It wasnt like when we were being intimate he was talking to his BFF on the phone, LOL. I guess my question really becomes, is there one set standard for professionalism or does it vary from client to client and escort to escort?

[instudiocity]

I recently spent a 12 hour period with a fine young man. Reading this today, I realize that I didn't even know he had a cell phone until the 11th hour when the battery died.

 

So it's up to the guy in my mind. If I'm not aware of it he must have it set to vibrate or very quiet sounds and he was very discrete about texting.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Indy,

 

I agree with you; in a short session or even during a 12 hour session it is ridiculous to have the phone on. It simply makes no sense at all and I believe it is disrespectful.

However when I am in engagements longer than two days, one of my conditions is to have two hours a day for myself. I can use that time to go to the gym, to answer emails, to check my phone messages or simply to go stand against a wall and be on my own. I have done many long engagements longer than a week at a time, and I think it is of paramount importance -not only for me, but also for my clients, to have time off, time to miss each other, time to be with ourselves. People have often commented on how easy it is to be with me for incredibly long periods of time, but I think this is the key.

 

Also, if you are traveling with a hot man and want him pumped and vascular it just makes sense to send him to the gym every day, doesn't it?

 

I think the key here is that this is not time that I take from my clients. I mention this upfront, as if I was only being engaged 22 hours out of every day, so those two hours are mine to do whatever I want, from the very beginning.

 

Nobody has ever complained about it, either before or during. I guess we all, no matter how badly we enjoy each other's company, want to have time to recharge and miss each other.

 

If someone wanted me to be with him for a week, 24/7 without pauses I would politely decline his offer. I don't do that even with my significant other and I don't see how it could be positive or healthy.

 

After those two hours every day, however, phone gets turned off and goes to hide back in my suitcase, and I am entirely focused on what is happening together.

 

That's the whole point of the two hours pause; it allows me to entirely focus my attention on my client and his needs.

[cany10011]

Good idea Juan

 

Juan, I like your approach. I don't think I could be with anyone 24 hours a day -escort or otherwise- without some solitary time for myself. When i went on a cruise with good friends recently, even though we spent most of our time together, we would often do something separately for an hour or so each day (i.e., gym, sauna, lounging, checking emails) and then reconvene at a designated time. It allows one to have some breathing room and not always having to be on, or entertaining, or talkative. Maybe it's just my personality, but if I were to engage an escort for more than an overnight, it would be a good idea as you suggested to have a break time in sometime during day to tend to one's own priorities- allowing each other to be energize, refreshed, and more interested in the next encounter.

 

 

 

Hey Indy,

 

I agree with you; in a short session or even during a 12 hour session it is ridiculous to have the phone on. It simply makes no sense at all and I believe it is disrespectful.

However when I am in engagements longer than two days, one of my conditions is to have two hours a day for myself. I can use that time to go to the gym, to answer emails, to check my phone messages or simply to go stand against a wall and be on my own. I have done many long engagements longer than a week at a time, and I think it is of paramount importance -not only for me, but also for my clients, to have time off, time to miss each other, time to be with ourselves. People have often commented on how easy it is to be with me for incredibly long periods of time, but I think this is the key.

 

Also, if you are traveling with a hot man and want him pumped and vascular it just makes sense to send him to the gym every day, doesn't it?

 

I think the key here is that this is not time that I take from my clients. I mention this upfront, as if I was only being engaged 22 hours out of every day, so those two hours are mine to do whatever I want, from the very beginning.

 

Nobody has ever complained about it, either before or during. I guess we all, no matter how badly we enjoy each other's company, want to have time to recharge and miss each other.

 

If someone wanted me to be with him for a week, 24/7 without pauses I would politely decline his offer. I don't do that even with my significant other and I don't see how it could be positive or healthy.

 

After those two hours every day, however, phone gets turned off and goes to hide back in my suitcase, and I am entirely focused on what is happening together.

 

That's the whole point of the two hours pause; it allows me to entirely focus my attention on my client and his needs.

[instudiocity]

That's the whole point of the two hours pause; it allows me to entirely focus my attention on my client and his needs.

Hot, smart, sexy man like you - I'd insist on four hours of apart time a day just so I could repair and prepare myself for the NEXT 20 hours!

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

Juan,

 

Do you always take the couple of hours when your with a client or are here times when you dont feel the need take the couple hours away?

[Juan Vancouver]

There's a really good book about a healthy way to create non-codependent relationships called "Conscious Loving" , and in that book, these two psychologists also recommend taking time out for oneness, for re-connecting with yourself, for charging up. They describe a process in which a couple who is having a lot of fun spends a lot of time together, and since they are having so much fun, keep doing it and doing it until something falls apart and then they decided to take time off.

 

These people claim that reaching that point is not necessary; they recommend to take time off precisely when you are having a fantastic time together, so that you can miss each other, so that you can wish you were still together, and when you come back together everything is fresh and smooth and nice.

 

I do not take two hours a day to detox myself from something that I hate (spending time with my clients) or to stay sane (because otherwise I would go crazy). I love my work and I enjoy spending time together and sharing adventures. I have been very lucky to travel with people who are fun, considerate, kind and interesting. I take time for myself every day because it is a very healthy way to be relaxed, focused, efficient, to pay attention to myself, to pamper me or exercise, or chat with my loved ones, or simply to sit and look at the sea without a single thought. Therefore, yes, I always take that time. It is part of my agreement, it is like some stars' managers: if the manager doesn't have a first class ticket, the star won't perform. (If someone doesn't agree with my taking two hours every day, I politely decline their business.)

 

I also take time for myself in my private life. Every day. Religiously. Without any exception.

 

With some of my regular traveling clients sometimes I have to skip that some days because we are flying like crazy or because of logistics or because we are on a whole day tour through the African steppes, but if that happens, I find that most often than not it is my client, not me who points that out.

 

Once, I got stranded in an island in the Caribbean with a client because of a hurricane, in a gorgeous eco-resort, where we didn't have windows or internet or anything, and we spent three wonderful days under the mosquito net watching the whole first and second seasons of "Dexter" and cuddling the hurricane away. There was nowhere else to go, nothing else to do... it was fun!

 

No matter how hot, how delightful, how intelligent, how riveting any escort (or anyone) may be, I assure you that you would get a much more fulfilling experience if you take a time off and come back with a new perspective every time.

 

Only once I traveled with someone who agreed to my two hours a day condition but when I wanted to take that time he would say things like "Great, I have to work out too, so you will train me." Or "What are you doing? I think I am tagging along." or "Do you really need to do it? Don't you like being with me?". He would also wake me up incredibly early so that we could have more awake time together. Needless to say, that trying to get more out of me didn't necessarily pan out the way he would have liked.

 

If you want a fresh man on your arm, let him rest.

If you want him muscular, send him to the gym.

If you want to travel with a successful businessman, let him answer his emails.

If you want him to be excited, and fun and interesting, let him go his own way and enjoy the time off missing him.

 

I think it just makes sense.

 

I hope this is helpful, and over all, I hope that you will have an intensely fulfilling experience with whomever you spend time.

[Okliehomo]

Does it get any classier.....

 

than Juan???

 

I mean, seriously. He's got the perfect perspective on it all... He instinctively knows how to make it all work for every client and that's a true gift, boys....

 

I have to say that I truly respect men like Juan and David that can fly off to the African steppes and to China for weeks at a time with a client.... being that one on one, constant. I couldn't have done that with my real boyfriends.... way too much... but, then again, if any of my real boyfriends had been footing the bill... might have been a different story... sadly, they never did... but I would have needed way more than two hours...

 

Oh, well.. that's what led me here...

 

To guys like Juan.... and he does have other gifts, you know...... HOT, Latin ass... that sweet Tijuana back alley and the thickest dick I have ever seen... and he also flew all the way from London once to surprise a certain blonde one and to sit on my face numerous times...... yum... ah, memories.

 

Classy, sexy, tasty..... and camera shy.

 

Damn the luck.

 

Okie

[Juan Vancouver]

Oh, Okie!

 

Must confess that I often read about your exploits and damn my acting career for not letting me do in front of the camera the things that I love to do with the men you like to watch doing them.

 

(That was an oblique way of saying that I have spanked the monkey a few times wishing that I was in one of your productions.)

 

I also miss your charm. Would be good to have pancakes and catch up.

 

Thank you for your sweet words... these midwestern boys and their sweet manners!

 

Isn't it a curse to be a shameless exhibitionist who cannot be taped for professional reasons?

 

Ah, the Humanity!

 

Hope to see you again soon and sit on your talented face.

 

Big hug and dirty wishes!

[nate_sf]

It's been a while since I've posted on the Message Forum, but wanted to jump in and contribute. Juan says it all so well, so only thing I'd add is that on longer appointments (overnight or longer) I've appreciated it when the client has asked me at some point if I need to check messages or make any phone calls, and give the opportunity. Often I don't need to so I decline, but sometimes I'm expecting a message that needs to be dealt with and appreciate the opportunity to take care of it, then go back to having a nice time. But then yes, the phone goes away.

[ncc1701d]

Just to put in my 3 cents..when I did week long vacations with my favorite it was always clear to me that he needs sometime (I never specified how long, just left it up to him to be reasonable and professional about it, and it's not failed me) on his own each day, mostly to go to the gym and pump that hot body and then to answer emails for his many many other clients besides me. Since I also workout regularly, he suggested we go to the same gym whereever we are, and we do our own routines (not like I'm gonna spot him benching all those weights that I can't remotely lift!). But it was fun as well as we would both catch each others sight sometimes during the workout and motion which hot guy we were both checking out....In fact we made it a game to try to find the top 3 guys that we think the other person is lusting after and compare notes in the changerooms/sauna to see just how much we knew each other. Oh that brought back wonderful memories!!!!!

[instudiocity]

than Juan???

I do not know, but I wouldn't mind finding out. But first, Juan! Because I need a standard for my comparisons!

 

The man definitely gives great mind! Makes me think and feel good about myself.