Question about tips

[snake28]

Hi guys. I'm new here, so I apologize if this has been discussed before. How much would an appropriate tip be for a weekend session? Thanks.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Hi guys. I'm new here, so I apologize if this has been discussed before. How much would an appropriate tip be for a weekend session? Thanks.

 

Welcome aboard snake. Yes it's been discussed before. As I was so wonderfully reminded when I asked a very similar question about 6 or 7 weeks ago. Here's the link to that discussion.

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?76163-Tipping-Practices-from-both-sides-a-taboo-subject&highlight=Tipping

 

You might also want to try to use the search tools at the top of the page. I've been told it comes up rather frequently (probably with newbies like you and me) so there are probably a whole slew of threads on the subject. But in case anyone else wants to add anything else, I'd love to hear any further comment.

 

And welcome aboard snake.

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

Well, I guess this is more of a question and a statement.

 

I purchase gifts for the escort that I see. I recently purchased a couple of very nice/rather expensive gifts including a Versace Tie to show that I appresiate him and his time. We always agree on his fee which I happily pay and then I bring gifts for him and I try to send little gifts from time to time like a gift card to Nordstroms/Bloomingdales or a card with a hundred bucks. I have even sent a Starbucks gift card because I know he is a Starbucks-aholic. I once sent a care package with the brand name (aveda) shampoo and conditioner that he likes along with nice soap, scented candles, etc. just to thank him for his hospitality. I dont know if you would consider gifts a tip, but I guess I do, but then I enjoy finding and giving gifts.

[snake28]

Thanks Lee. I read that thread. My question isn't really whether to tip, it's how much to tip. I'm flying in an escort, who is charging $2500. I realize that's a little high, but I think this guy is special. I plan on tipping him, just wondering based on his fee for that amount of time how much would be appropriate.

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

Are you spending 3 days with the guy? Hopefully the weather is nice where your flying to!

[snake28]

Two and a half days. I'm bringing him to my home, so the weather will be iffy

[jgoo]

Thanks Lee. I read that thread. My question isn't really whether to tip, it's how much to tip. I'm flying in an escort, who is charging $2500. I realize that's a little high, but I think this guy is special. I plan on tipping him, just wondering based on his fee for that amount of time how much would be appropriate.

 

Hi Snake28, welcome to the board. yes your question is quite different than the thread started by Lee. however let me just say that first of all you should only tip if the escort meets or exceeds your expectations...don't feel obligated to do so just because you think you should. Based on his rate and your expense to fly him out to you (plus other expenses you will incur during his visit), a gift or cash in the neighborhood of $250 (10%) would be very nice, in my opinion.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Two and a half days. I'm bringing him to my home, so the weather will be iffy

 

Snake -- I guess that's sort of what I was trying to get at -- I never really got a good answer either. And I've come to the conclusion that there really isn't a right answer. My gut tells me that in your case, the usual 20% you might leave for a waiter is too much. I think it also depends on how the time goes. Have you spent time with the gentleman before or is the first encounter? Because as we've seen on other threads, sometimes even with the best of intentions between the best escorts and the most sincere client there just isn't that connection. So some of what you tip may and probably be based on how good of a time you have. At least I would.

 

Now I really do like IndyMedic's ideas of gifts. That sort of kills two birds with one stone. You certainly show a great appreciation for the time you spent. And you sort of dance around the direct question of size of tip. And you can personalize it -- get him something you discover he likes while he spends time with you over the weekend. Maybe take him shopping and buy him a gift at a store he expresses an interest in.

 

I guess what I'm saying is that there are just so many variables to really say 15% or 20%. At least from where I'm sitting.

 

And one other advantage of a gift -- if it is of a more durable nature (like IM's Versace tie), he will have something to remember you by, long after the money is gone. And that may be a nice touch too.

 

But do the rest of us a favor -- try to write a review for us. And good luck and I hope you have the time of your life.

[wayout]

Don't stress about it....go with your gut feeling after spending sufficient time with the escort to first determine if he deserves a tip and then what you want to do...either a gift or cash. I think Lee is over thinking it and you should just go with what feels right to you as things progress.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Don't stress about it....go with your gut feeling after spending sufficient time with the escort to first determine if he deserves a tip and then what you want to do...either a gift or cash. I think Lee is over thinking it and you should just go with what feels right to you as things progress.

 

Well gee, wayout. There's something I've never been accused of doing -- overthinking something. :) Actually I think my nickname should be paralysis by analysis.

 

And you're right, I'm probably WAAAAAAAAAAY over thinking it.

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

However let me just say that first of all you should only tip if the escort meets or exceeds your expectations...don't feel obligated to do so just because you think you should. Based on his rate and your expense to fly him out to you (plus other expenses you will incur during his visit), a gift or cash in the neighborhood of $250 (10%) would be very nice, in my opinion.

 

I would agree with jgoo about the 10 percent, but that would be if they exceed your expectations. Is this your first meeting with this particular guy?

[snake28]

Thanks everyone. I will tip based on the experience, but I want to make sure I tip appropriately based on a (hopeful) great experience. My initial thought had been $300, which is 10 percent of fee and airfare (sucks being in a mid-sized city with expensive air --that's with a nonstop from a hub!).

 

I'll post a review afterwards. I promise.

[+ azdr0710]

snake: please go with the gift thing rather than cash....as others said here, it will be much more personal and will last a lot longer....$2500 vs $2800 or whatever is just a little more cash than what he's already getting....a gift will show you really put some thought into it and he'll get something he can probably use.....

 

and I hope you already know this guy, either from previous meets or extensive phone calls....are you both on the same page and all that??

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

If this guy you are meeting is a traveler there alot of nice things out there for the consummate traveler. I would suggest checking out http://www.redenvelope.com under gifts for travel. There are alot of other wonderful travel gifts at http://www.skymall.com just a couple suggestions. I do alot of online shopping!! LOL

[+ bigjoey]

I bring in men regularly for weekends. On a first visit, I will give them a "welcome bag" with things that are specific to Kansas City from fine chocolates, cute t-shirt, Royals baseball cap to the silly like a refrigerator magnet, etc. Once I get to know them well, on return visits it is always something small unless the visit is a birthday. One escort has a dog that is his best friend and like a child to him; Kansas City is home to several dog bakeries and I will give him these dog treats (some are personalized with the dog's name). If it is a birthday or Christmas, then I will give a larger gift.

 

Because I am paying them so much, I do not normally give a large cash tip (I did when I was first starting out but have not done so in years). When they are here, I treat them well with play/concert tickets, nice places to eat, etc. I think they appreciate the hospitality and the kind treatment.

 

Some of the men bring me gifts!! Some of the things I have gotten are really nice and thought went into them.

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

Some of the men bring me gifts!! Some of the things I have gotten are really nice and thought went into them.

 

I know that I would personally love receiving a gift, no matter the size, from my boy! I thought it was sweet of him to take me to dinner the last night of my 3 day visit. I thought it was a sweet gesture and unexpected. Reinforced what I already knew about the guy!

[+ bigjoey]

Yes, some of the men I bring in will grab the check at lunch or dinner or a movie. It makes the weekend seem more like being with a friend than an escort.

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

I would have to agree with that. He was addiment that I let him buy dinner and then he gave me 20 bucks at a club with go-go boys. He wanted me to tip them. He said he would get me a little more horny before we went back to the hotel.

 

What is the most special gift you have been given. Right now I am tickled when my boy sends me postcards that I can put on my memory board next to my desk in my apt.

[Guest greatness]

When I fly in someone for a weekend trip, I usually take him to a nice restaurants and opera/concerts. I pay for all other expenses. Thus, I don't tip them and the agreed amount is what one gets. For hourly appointments I tend to give more if I am happy with the service. I hope this helps.

[JT Brooklyn]

It's YOUR Money Tip whatever! OR don't !

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

Brooklyn, would your opinion of a client change depending on the tip? Would you be nicer if there was a tip or a nice tip or would you be less hospitable to that same client the next time if they left you no tip or a tiny tip? Would you still see that client again?

[leigh.bess.toad]

Brooklyn, would your opinion of a client change depending on the tip? Would you be nicer if there was a tip or a nice tip or would you be less hospitable to that same client the next time if they left you no tip or a tiny tip? Would you still see that client again?

 

Hey IM -- now I know that was covered in my earlier thread.

[jasoncarter_dfw]

Hi guys. I'm new here, so I apologize if this has been discussed before. How much would an appropriate tip be for a weekend session? Thanks.

 

While this doesn't actually answer your question, I thought I would just provide some insight based on some personal experiences in regards to tipping.

 

The suggestion of a nice gift is a good one! While I never enter into any session expecting a tip, of course any tip...whether $5 or 500, is of course appreciated and I make sure to thank my client if I get a tip. But, some of my best and, most useful, tips I have received have been tangible gifts! A couple examples:

 

1) A client booked me for a weekend in the New York area and, during the course of casual dinner conversation, I mentioned that I was going to the mall when I got home because the sole my pair of black dress shoes got all jacked up and I needed a replacement pair. The next day after breakfast, he made an impromptu stop at an outlet mall area and got me a nice bair of Gucci laceups for my tip. Still wearing them to this day and they are super comfortable.

 

2) A client booked me to visit him in Northern CA and emailed me when I got home to thank me for a wonderful time. He proceeded to tell me he got me a gift and told me to go to a Circuit City at a location by my house in Dallas and that something would be waiting for me in the pickup counter (of course he had my legal name due to plane tickets). I went up there...thinking he got me a DVD (we talked about movies alot) or something special like that related to our visit. You should have seen my eyes when 2 employees were carrying out the box for a HDTV...asking me where I wanted it loaded. I'm watching it right now

 

I'm by no means saying I expect these things...but I bet if you asked some of my colleagues about their tipping experiences we'd have some similar stories!

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

Glad to know that I was right about giving gifts as form of tip but even better

[JT Brooklyn]

$250-300 an Hour in this Economy is damn good Money for Sexual Favors! You want "Tips Wait Tables" like hard working Guys have been doing for Years!