People outside the industry giving unwarranted suggestions, annoying huh?

[JoeyBryant]

I love my friend, he's a great guy and Im sure he has all the best intentions. However, the other day we were chatting via text and he sent me something that I really didn't appreciate it. It was along the lines of:

 

"This seems like a bad time to be trying to get people to pay for ***. Maybe its time to find another line of work. Thats recreational disposable income people just dont have right now. Too much competition from the pros I guess"

 

Now...not only is he not in the business, but has no clue as to how it works. I got VERY irritated by this text message, and it was a result of me saying that I wasn't as busy in Vegas as I imagined (although 2 weeks later, Im strangely having people call and text me about appointments...hmmm)

 

And then, he adds on "competition from the pros" as if after 2.5+ years Im not one? Its the main reason I dont like involving people who aren't in the industry into a discussion about it because they tend to say some of the most discouraging things.

 

And disposable recreational income? Really...how would he know what type of money people have or what they choose to spend their money on? I responded back (as politely as I could) that what I do isn't some kind of fad that wears off over time, and that people can choose to spend their money as they please. He agreed, but still...it just got me a bit revved up

[AdamATL77]

Everyone likes to theorise even if they don't understand the industry. Please enlighten your friend that people will keep paying as long as there are conservative views in the world. There will be someone saying you should get married and only have sex with that person but someone is always going to want to wander. As long as someone out there wants to get some without the risk of someone else knowing, there will always be someone willing to pay for it. Sex is also one of the strongest biological impulses we have.

[KMEM]

With possibly only hunger being stronger. Now, if one is hungry for sex, is that a double whammy?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Guest mineallmine]

With possibly only hunger being stronger. Now, if one is hungry for sex, is that a double whammy?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

I do think Breathing might be up there as well...just saying. It is also said that it is the oldest profession in the book. So someone has been paying for it for a long arse time and will continue to do so.

[instudiocity]

![/color][/i][/b], Double-Whammy, indeed![/font]

[JoeyBryant]

Everyone likes to theorise even if they don't understand the industry. Please enlighten your friend that people will keep paying as long as there are conservative views in the world. There will be someone saying you should get married and only have sex with that person but someone is always going to want to wander. As long as someone out there wants to get some without the risk of someone else knowing, there will always be someone willing to pay for it. Sex is also one of the strongest biological impulses we have.

 

Exactly...so I really couldn't understand the basis for his statement. Then again, its pretty expected that comments like that would be bought up...but some people seem to want to impose on others that just because they wouldn't do it, that automatically assumes the rest of the world wouldn't.

 

But Im sure they wouldn't like it if someone dished them out about how they lived and what they spend their money on. Non of which brings them the satisfaction of hot 1 on 1 intimate sex with someone with the total package

[justaguy]

I hear your frustration, and the confusion between knowing something and knowing about something isn't limited to escorting. I got an earful often enough that finally I figured out that that wasn't a battle I was ever going to win and so just let the comments ride--unless I was in the mood for pointless debate. I don't know if that was right or wrong, and don't really care because simply ignoring the idiot comment was worth the savings in the time and energy it would have taken to try to explain what I shouldn't have had to explain in the first place. Rant, because that's good too, but then get back to living your life.

[alanalt]

Joey, I think anyone who has been self-employed or involved in running a business has been in a situation like that. For myself, I've often noted that the less someone knows about your business, the more likely they are to offer emphatic opinions on how you should operate it. I've found that there are 2 solutions: 1) smile politely and ignore the advice; or 2) let your 'friend' know that his advice/opinions on your business life is unwelcome. However, if you choose option 2, then you also have to undertake the commitment not to raise the subject of your business again in conversation with that friend. There's nothing worse than telling someone you don't want their opinion on a subject and then raising that topic again!

 

Alan

[Toulouse]

Joey,

Have you considered that your friend was not being dismissive but was instead sincerely trying to offer you practical advice? Perhaps he's heard you complain frequently about the many challenges you've faced as an escort (in San Antonio, Dallas, Las Vegas, etc.). Maybe he thought he was being helpful by gently encouraging you to consider other career opportunities. Based on your postings in this forum in the past year, I think your friend may have had good intentions and was probably trying to be constructive and not offensive. I say give your friend the "benefit of the doubt" on this one. I wish you the very best.

[JoeyBryant]

Joey,

Have you considered that your friend was not being dismissive but was instead sincerely trying to offer you practical advice? Perhaps he's heard you complain frequently about the many challenges you've faced as an escort (in San Antonio, Dallas, Las Vegas, etc.). Maybe he thought he was being helpful by gently encouraging you to consider other career opportunities. Based on your postings in this forum in the past year, I think your friend may have had good intentions and was probably trying to be constructive and not offensive. I say give your friend the "benefit of the doubt" on this one. I wish you the very best.

 

The thing is, all 3 of those places have something in common: they aren't the best places to try and escort. San Antonio lacks the disposable income, Dallas is too saturated...and Las Vegas lacks disposable income AND is too saturated. I called a couple guys (very attractive ones) myself there and they told me it sucked. You cant use those cities as a conclusion that its me who needs to quit. Results are going to vary everywhere, and its not easy to just make a split-decision on what someone should do when it may not even have to do with the person.

[raife]

Dallas or bust...

 

Dallas is too saturated...

 

Too saturated? Yee-haw! I'm going back for the holidays so I'll do my part to even out the playing field... I know Jason but other recommendations? Christian? Any cool fetish-friendly guys?

[JoeyBryant]

Too saturated? Yee-haw!

 

Yeah...last time I went to the bar Tin Room for my b-day and was surprised that there were more dancers than customers on a weekday night. Dallas is fine if you just want to do this in your spare time, because there are enough people trying to get in on it. I was happy to leave with the people I did meet, and regs that I do have.