Twinkdom - Another Hard Lesson Learned

[Guest loboguy]

I'd not seen this guy in over a year; a really sweet blond/blue twink now relocated in Texas. Not actively advertizing - says he's just 'seeing only regulars.' He reestablished contact several months ago, and we'd been planning a reunion over-night to give us time to catch up on our respective lives. He told me he's had some health problems, and just recently lost a dearly-beloved pet very suddenly. I had offered to reschedule, but he said things were "fine."

 

We spoke mid-day Friday before his scheduled arrival on Saturday afternoon, when he told me he'd lost his wallet, including his drivers' license (hence no photo-id). He promised a follow-up call later Friday evening, to include the results of his doctor's visit and the results of the search for the missing wallet. I suggested perhaps he could fly w/certified birth certificate and/or passport.

 

After that phone conversation, nothing ..... no texts, no calls, his voice maill was full, no responses of any kind to my texts. Nothing on Saturday morning. But, still hopeful, I drove into the city. At the airport, I called the airline and they told me he was a NO SHOW. My heart sank and my blood pressure went straight up. To my repeated texts, he finally responded by TEXT that he'd tried TSA but was denied boarding. Airline says NO CHECK-IN was done, either on-line (as he later claimed by text), at a kiosk or at the airline desk. REMEMBER: You can't get to TSA without a boarding pass.

 

When asked (again by text) why no phone calls, he claimed he'd been having issues with his cell phone even from the gym earlier that morning, from where he has spoken with me before. Amazingly his cell phone came back on line after flight arrival time, but he would NOT CALL or TAKE MY CALLS. Just a precious few texts that he was "sorry, but he'd tried, and ... later that the wallet had not been found." And that, "he'd call me when he (could)". We still have not spoken.

 

I really do try to be understanding .... but lost wallet and problematic cell phones ....... when there are land-lines and pay phones in airports to let me know he was not on the flight. Stupidly, I let myself feel angry and hurt. :-( Left at the curb without any notice, other than the airline telling me the reservation was a NO SHOW. Ouch! And this from a kid I'd posted a 5-star review for about a year ago, and was so looking forward to seeing again. It hurt!

 

I guess this is the HARD LESSON I've had to learn about some escorts, and twinks in particular.

 

I've emailed him and suggested "the total truth and an airfare reimbursement" will put us back to square one. I can really deal with the truth, whatever it may be and despite alllowing myself to be hurt, but feeling like I'm being lied to?! I am NOT a bad guy ... perhaps too soft. Am I being too skeptical and paranoid, or is the kid just trying to blow smoke?

 

Thoughts, suggestions, comments?

[+ overeasy]

Hey loboguy....Yup I've had the fun of waiting at the airport to no avail...I understand your anger and frustration. And I also understand that some of us are quick to overlay our senses of acceptance and foregiveness where they may not be deserved. I had a job interview once where the interviewer's question caught me pretty much by surprise: "are people basically honest or dishonest?"....in my youth, I think I answered that they were basically honest but that situations may turn them into not quite so much so....Sometimes I'm not so sure but what I would answer differently now. In this case, my suspicion is that the young man had something else he wanted to do...and there will always be another chance tomorrow to make some money....so blow it off. That's the way it sounds. Sorry it happened to you...especially after having had a good prior experience...but think it's time to demand some funds for reimbursement on the airfare (you won't see it though)..and lick your wounds...better yet, find a new fella to lick 'em!

[MsGuy]

I had a job interview once where the interviewer's question caught me pretty much by surprise: "are people basically honest or dishonest?"

 

Trick question, overeasy: People who are themselves basically dishonest often answer 'dishonest'. The reason has to do with the way they see the world. Folks give themselves away in the oddest ways.

[Guest loboguy]

I just spent about 30 minutes on the phone with my guy, and he was just caught in a cluster of mishaps that prevented him from making his flight. [ Yep, I've had those days myself, especially when I was trying to keep too many balls in the air at the same time. ] Glad to know he's the same, sweet reliable guy that I've known; and that he was not injured or seriously ill. Upon reflection, I was as much worried about him as I was miffed that he hadn't made his flight. Sorry for all the whining, guys. As soon we both clear up our lives and calendars, we're going to reschedule, and he'll be picking up his airfare tab. LIFE IS GOOD AGAIN !! Now .... onto the business of life. :-)

[Jaker27]

LOL. Well, there's 10 minutes of my life I'll never get back.

[CowboyUp]

Lobo, In late-September I had a very similar no-show experience with an early-20's, blonde/blue, 6'1", Houston-based twink. I was in HOU for business overnight and had booked this guy for a couple hours at my downtown hotel. The appointed time of our session arrived and he never showed, never texted, never called, never e-mailed an explanation or apology... Considering his stellar reviews, I was astonished at his unprofessionalism. Of course, I didn't post a review since it was a no-show. If we were both dealing with the same guy, I wish that I could have somehow saved you the trouble. Perhaps I should have posted a forum thread about the no show--It just never dawned on me to do so. Fortunately, I wasn't out any funds, just had no fun in Houston. Live and Learn, right?

[lrbigdicktaker]

Twinkdom, sounds like you had the same experience I had, and it sounds like it was the same person, WC (William Cox) (yea, I ain't afraid to name names, I was pissed). My story sounds EXACTLY the same as yours (minus the death, lost wallet, and health problems). I was stuck in the airport for an hour hoping to hell he would show up. I got fucked, but not the way I wanted to. I feel your pain.

 

I did a similar post, but daddy took it down.

[+ glutes]

So you guys were out $300 for a R/T domestic airfare?

Cheap lesson...

[lrbigdicktaker]

Try $550 for airfare, plus $230 for one night hotel room (yes, local hotel, I'd never bring a escort to my home).

 

It's about being lied too. I've had escorts cancel in the past, and re-booked them with no problems or hard feelings.

[essjay]

Loboguy - wait until he actually makes good before you celebrate. Talk is cheap.

[+ glutes]

Try $550 for airfare, plus $230 for one night hotel room (yes, local hotel, I'd never bring a escort to my home).

 

It's about being lied too.

 

Once bitten, twice shy.

[bobchitown]

I just spent about 30 minutes on the phone with my guy...Glad to know he's the same, sweet reliable guy that I've known...we're going to reschedule

 

Can I interest you in a bridge...?

[+ glutes]

Sorry for all the whining, guys. As soon we both clear up our lives and calendars, we're going to reschedule, and he'll be picking up his airfare tab. LIFE IS GOOD AGAIN !! Now .... onto the business of life. :-)

 

" Twinkdom - Another Hard Lesson Learned "

 

What lesson (hard) did you learn?

[BaronArtz]

Why do you guys allow yourselves to be jerked around like that? It's just unbelievable. In my book they would be outta there. Next !!!!!!

[cany10011]

Agree with BaronArtz

 

Why do you guys allow yourselves to be jerked around like that? It's just unbelievable. In my book they would be outta there. Next !!!!!!

 

Business should be given to those who are reliable and professional in their conduct. I know there are a lot of flakes in the "gay" world but escorts should be more responsive and timely in their interactions with potential (and confirmed) clients.

 

There are plenty of boys willing to work hard for your business.

[CowboyUp]

I agree too. I wouldn't give the fellow who stood me up another chance. There are plenty of hot, reliable, successful guys in the biz in Texas (and just about everywhere else). Why waste time on one young twink who has also proven he's careless, immature and irresponsible. I won't be calling him back next time I'm in Houston.

[dane michaels]

Loboguy,

 

It is so sad to hear about things like this. I havent been around long, but who ever you hired, seems to not take this as any sort of serious business. I think that can absolutely be due to the age issue, and not all are that way. I think that in this business we all find ourselves playing a role, whether escort or client. And we all can benefit from a good ole' fashioned mentor.

 

At the present I have a good friend/client that I love and love to work for. He has helped to nuture what naturally comes to me and "fine tweek" those attributes to be the best success in this business that I can be. I also had the priveledge of meeting Steven Draker, when he passed through Raleigh this last week and will be contacting him for tips and advice on issues that I have not dealt with, or anticipate the possibility of dealing with, just so there are no surprises.

 

I think this is where your "twink" could have used a little guidance and quite possibly a swift kick in the gluts region. I dont believe in my experience that age always brings maturity, but your open willingness to allow/recongnize the need for change, in actions, as well as thought process will always lend us to a newer and better us. I hope the best for you in your next venture. The best to you!

[Decatur Guy]

This is a good example of why I'd never consider paying for an escort's plane flight.

 

I'll call them and see if they happen to ever visit my city and wait until he's visiting anyway, but too many things can go wrong to pay for a plane ticket, including things that aren't the escort's fault.

[Pegasus]

Why I Avoid Twinks...

 

Imho, there sure seems to be more of these type problems (trip-no shows; pay-up-front scams, last-minute cancellations, etc.) with the much younger fellows. I've personally never had any problems like these when hiring more mature working guys (late 20's and older).