What Should Escorts Be Told In Advance Regarding Appearance?

[Decatur Guy]

I ask if they want me to send them a picture via e-mail. I haven't hired many, but the ones I have don't seem interested. But I usually insist. I'm late 40s, five-ten and one hundred seventy, so I'm reasonably fit for my age. But let's face it, if I were a middle-aged god, I wouldn't need to hire an escort. So I just like for them to know what I look like.

[SteveStacks]

OK. I am old, ugly and fat as well as crazy. When can we meet?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

HA!

*LOL*

You smart ass!

I'm ready whenever you are....just waiting for you to come to SF!

[leigh.bess.toad]

My question for you Steve is that not only do I look like the Jo-Jo the Dog Faced Monkeyboy wetnwild bear talked about, I actually AM Jo-Jo, the Dog Faced Monkeyboy. So do you still want to meet in DC??

 

[JoeyBryant]

I did email the escort I am going to meet and brought it up. I haven't heard back from him yet but I am hopeful it won't be a big deal for him.

 

I would be careful, because sometimes things like that can be misconstrued as being a time-waster. Most escorts (I hope) realize that their clients are probably not going to all be flawless on every spectrum on the scale.

 

For example, I recieved an email from someone claiming to have lost a leg in Vietnam and wanting to book soon. That was several days ago and hadn't heard anything back. Im thinking it was just a hoax...just to get an answer out of me.

 

I also had some nut email me awhile back saying he looked like...I cant even remember the name of the celebrity, but it was someone awful looking. the guy cancelled, and never re-booked. So obviously he was just trying to see how 'ugly' of a person I would fuck with. I found it to be sickening.

 

Some things are better left said in person. For all you know, they may not even recognize it. I've mentioned stuff to guys like pimples and what not, and they didn't even recognize it until I mentioned it LOL...

[jgoo]

I would be careful, because sometimes things like that can be misconstrued as being a time-waster. Most escorts (I hope) realize that their clients are probably not going to all be flawless on every spectrum on the scale.

 

For example, I recieved an email from someone claiming to have lost a leg in Vietnam and wanting to book soon. That was several days ago and hadn't heard anything back. Im thinking it was just a hoax...just to get an answer out of me.

 

I also had some nut email me awhile back saying he looked like...I cant even remember the name of the celebrity, but it was someone awful looking. the guy cancelled, and never re-booked. So obviously he was just trying to see how 'ugly' of a person I would fuck with. I found it to be sickening.

 

Some things are better left said in person. For all you know, they may not even recognize it. I've mentioned stuff to guys like pimples and what not, and they didn't even recognize it until I mentioned it LOL...

 

Joey, you do raise some good points I had not considered, especially about the possibility of being misconstrued as a time waster. Also, I may be overly sensitive to it myself but it may not be as big a deal as I think it is. Case in point is I had some unexpected free time today in Vegas so I contacted an escort to meet up. I did not say anything about my Rosecea ahead of time and he did not mention anything or even seem to notice. Perhaps he was being polite and/or professional in dealing with it but in any case it did not impact our time together as far as I could tell.

 

On the other hand, the escort I am meeting in a couple days got my email about informing him of my condition and he graciously wrote back saying thanks for letting him know and that he appreciated the heads up. Knowing that it was not contagious was useful info to him. Now after we meet and he sees me I will get his opinion as to whether or not it is, in my specific case, something he would have noticed had I not mentioned it upfront.

 

However, even if my case is not that severe there are bound to be clients with something that will be noticeable or sever enough that I still tend to believe being open about it up front is worth it and would be appreciated, even with the risk of being misconstrued as being a time waster.

[wayout]

I agree with Joey. Escorts, specifically those that profess to be truly professional, should be able to deal with anything that comes their way without making the client feel awkward or embarrassed. If it makes you feel better to express it up front, then that is fine but if you are hiring well known and professional escorts then I would not feel obligated to say anything in advance. As far as the quick buck escorts, I suspect they don't care either as all they want is to get their money and will deal with most anything to get what they want (that sounds harsh but I hope you understand what I am saying).

[zach_wilson]

as an escort, i never ask my client what they look like because if your a professional escort then what the client looks like is not a big issue, if you treat the escort like a person then it will be attractive to them no matter what. so just treat them with respect and like a person, and they will be more attracted to you. hope this helps

[SteveStacks]

My question for you Steve is that not only do I look like the Jo-Jo the Dog Faced Monkeyboy wetnwild bear talked about, I actually AM Jo-Jo, the Dog Faced Monkeyboy. So do you still want to meet in DC??

 

 

Awesome! So you must really know how to handle a banana! (or a bone?)

I'll book a flight even sooner! *LOL*

[leigh.bess.toad]

Awesome! So you must really know how to handle a banana! (or a bone?)

I'll book a flight even sooner! *LOL*

 

That, sir, I know how to do very well, thank you. And I can hardly wait to handle your bony banana.

 

Counting the days.

[+ Oliver]

How much information to share

 

... a client should NEVER be shamed or made to feel uncomfortable by an escort when they choose to share information ... simply ... state what the condition is in an advance email ... less awkward ... the escort's response will tell you a lot ...

 

There have been a few discussions of this in the past with some very excellent points made each time, as in the present thread. Sometime ago I ran across a discussion concerning whether one should disclose a disability. It was recommended one disclose any information that might be useful to his date so that he is not watching the proverbial pot, waiting for it to boil, and wondering if he’s doing something wrong when nothing happens. Whereas this relates to a functional problem rather than a cosmetic or visual problem, I think the advice is applicable in either case.

 

I have used that analogy for my own “minor” disability and found nothing but total acceptance. While mine is not the same as that of the OP, nevertheless I think it is wise to inform escorts.

[rocky]

bless you KMEM, being old ugly and fat I choose that when I describe myself. Rocky

[gp0560]

OK. I am old, ugly and fat as well as crazy. When can we meet?

 

Or, you could tell them you're young, handsome, and buff. Then when the door opens, you can use the look in their eyes to judge their sense of humor.

[Guest Merlin]

If you choose to hire a very young (18, 19) escort, they may have unrealistic expectations that their clients will be young and handsome. Not a bad idea to be up front with him but don't be surprised if he is a no show.

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[+ Tygerscent]

Ya... tell in advance especially if your Escort/[playmate is of irish or English decent. Those groups have a greater disposition to acquiring Rosacea then other groups. i.e. read the diagnostics: '"there are strong signs that ethnicity is a factor in one's potential to develop rosacea. In a separate survey by the Society, 33 percent of respondents reported having at least one parent of Irish heritage, and 27 percent had a parent of English descent. Other ethnic groups with elevated rates of rosacea, compared with the U.S. population as a whole, included individuals of Scandinavian, Scottish, Welsh or eastern European descent."

U know, as with anything... put the question on yourself and see how it fits... If somepone was playing with me and I was gonna get condition "X" would I be okay with it? What would I want that person to do? If I care might they as well?

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Relatively recently I have developed Rosacea. For those that aren't aware, it is "a chronic skin condition involving inflammation of the cheeks, nose, chin, forehead, or eyelids. It may appear as redness, prominent spider-like blood vessels, swelling, or skin eruptions" (ref. https://health.google.com/health/ref/Rosacea).

 

In my case it is mostly red cheeks and some pimples. Not the most attractive thing and a bit embarrassing for a 50+ year old man. It is noticeable and for sure I am very self conscious about it, so I am concerned about how others might react to it, especially with an escort I plan on meeting in the not to distant future.

 

I don't want anyone to think that it has to do with poor hygiene or something that might be contageous, so my gut feeling is to tell them in advance. Is this (or anything similar to this that is noticeable, like scars, etc) something escorts would like to know about in advance? And if so, as this is something new I am dealing with, I am struggling as to how to appropriately bring it up in an email.

 

If only the rest of me was acting/performing like a teenager, I wouldn't care Thanks in advance for your advice. If clients have an opinion on how they would handle this, I would appreciate your input as well.

[+ Tygerscent]

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That, sir, I know how to do very well, thank you. And I can hardly wait to handle your bony banana.

 

Counting the days.

[Mark450]

Ain't I A Catch?

 

I agree with the majority of posters on here. Tell your escort ahead of time briefly in an email. I usually use some sort of wording like "if this a problem, I understand". That way we haven't ended up wasting both of our time. As others have pointed out, if it is truly no big deal, then most professionals won't have a problem and you will be more relaxed having cleared it from your mind.

[Guest GQ Pro]

As an escort, I always apperciate a client telling me in advance of any health related condition they may have. The reason for that is so I won't think it's something else when I arrive, it also help me be better prepared. For instance, if it's a condition I never heard of before, I could research it and learn more about it. I've seen guys with all sorts of conditions, none of which were contagious. Knowing in advance just takes the sting out of it when a client opens the door.

 

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[Mark450]

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[leigh.bess.toad]

And for me, I always tell them about my condition, even though it's not even obvious. Having 2 artificial hips does tend to make me less flexible than a college gymnast (that and being older than dirt) so I think they should know and plan accordingly ahead of time.

[+ stevenkesslar]

Be yourself

 

I have rosacea. It's not contagious, and most of the time you can't even notice it. It only acts up for me when I get really stressed out. I don't mention it to clients but I would if it was acting up and it looked weird. One time a client who was a dermatolgist noticed it and mentioned it to me just to make sure I knew what it was.

 

I get lots of emails from clients talking about what they view as their physical imperfections. Sometimes its the obvious things - age, weight, impotence. And sometimes its almost unbelievable to me that people let things bother them. One time I got hired by a client who felt that he had to disclose that he had a "small cock" that bothered some people. He turned out to be this sexy, buff little stud who - you guessed it - actually did have a smaller than average cock. He was an absolute pleasure to fuck! I was like, "I get paid to do this? My point is that if you feel like there's something you need to disclose, you probably should. Any escort that is professional will deal with it well. And if they don't deal with it well, its a heads up that they are not professional or empathetic.

 

Here's a couple other stories about appearance that I love to tell.

 

For several years I had a client I was fairly close to that was in incredible shape for his age. He worked out just about every day, and despite the fact that he was 70, if you closed your eyes and just felt his body, you could feel triceps or abs that felt like somebody half a century younger. But he drove escorts crazy. I have no way of verifying whether what he told me was true or not, but he claimed that a number of escorts refused to meet with him a second or third time, because they could not stay hard because they were so stressed out about the demands he put on them. I do know he had a particular routine he liked that involved reciprocal anal sex in multiple rooms of his place, and while I enjoyed it and didn't feel too stressed to get or keep a hard on, I could believe that other escorts might feel a certain type of psychological pressure. It definitely struck me that at some level, it was as if he needed to fuck like he was 20, not 70. The other thing I knew was that the client did date guys his age, but he was never satisfied with the way they looked - he complained that they always looked too old. I was diplomatic enough not to say it, but I thought, "Who's kidding who here?" and I felt sad that he couldn't just accept the fact that he was an older guy with a hot body that he worked hard for.

 

One evening I had an appointment with this client and then right afterward had another appointment with a tourist who I only saw once. I will never forget the contrast. He was also an older gentleman, who had just turned 70 he said. He was in decent shape - not overweight, but not muscular. He proceeded to show me multiple scars on his body from operations he had over the course of years. And he explained to me that because of prostate surgery at no point during the appointment would he experience an erection or ejaculate, but he wanted me to know that he was going to have a really good time, and I shouldn't let the lack of a hard on bother me. We had a really nice couple hours together. He was a great kisser, affectionate, and most of all he just projected this feeling that he was incredibly comfortable in his own skin. So I felt very comfortable with him.

 

Now let me put the shoe on the other foot, or the cock on the other body. :-) Escorts have body images too, of course.

 

When I was in Rio my escort buddy Ricardo told me I had to partake in the pleasures of Thermos Lagoa, a famous brothel there. So I did. I hired this incredibly hot stud, who in my mind could have easily been a world famous fashion model - gorgeous eyes, beautiful face, probably 20ish, hung, muscular - everything. What became immediately apparent when we took off our clothes is that he was very uncomfortable being naked with me. He took a shower, dried his hair, seemed to be doing everything he could think of to avoid actually touching me. When we finally started to kiss, I could feel him wanting to crawl out of his skin. To his credit, he tried to fuck me, which is not something I asked him to do, but my guess is he probably felt like it was preferable to me trying to fuck him. He couldn't get hard and I took that as my cue to pay him and gracefully put him out of his misery. The good things about the interaction were this: I knew he felt very happy to be paid and to leave, and it was a cheap way for me to be able to personally experience what some clients have to go through emotionally.

 

Sometimes I'll get emails that say something like this: "I want you to show up for our appointment dressed well and boyish, like a young man going on a job interview, but I want you to dominate me." My perspective is people have the right to ask for anything they want, including whipping me and barebacking me, but I get to decide what I will actually do, which I also have to disclose. And requests for appointments like this I always politely turn down. I'm not a young boy, I don't want to pretend I am, and I don't want to worry whether somehow the guy has a fantasy about what it would be like to be raped by his hunky grandson. I'd rather show up at an appointment where I can be some close approximation of me. And fortunately its a luxury I can afford.

 

You can never go wrong by just being yourself and being honest about it.

[Bosguy]

Oliver is quite correct. It is better to communicate anything that you feel has a chance of creating an uncomfortable time together. Even if the "problem" is minor, it should be discussed with the other party and more specific details can be discussed later, if either party feels the need.

 

Once again, PROPER, HONEST COMMUNICATION is the key to a succesful meeting!!

[Steven_Draker]

As an escort, I always apperciate a client telling me in advance of any health related condition they may have.

 

In a perfect world it would be great if every client communicates ahead of time any serious health condition or handicap they may have, but unfortunately we live in a real world.

So many times I have been confronted to something of that sort when I open the door. I only wish that everyone was as considered as the posters on this board.

[gtx1]

I try to give the escort at least a preview of what to expect. We've got a pretty good idea what to expect at that first meeting, but the escort could be facing anything - so out of courtesy I try to give him a pretty accurate self appraisal - not that I expect it makes any difference but it does let him mentally prepare. Luckily, I'm in pretty good shape and have had guys say they would have never guessed my age if I hadn't told them - one even said I sounded "fucking sexy!" - that made my week.

[Mark450]

Excellent information from everyone. Great thread.