Tips for errections?

[Guest martye]

I was wondering if anyone could offer tips for getting an errection when encountering a client, sometimes I get jittery or nervous when meeting new clients and cannot seem to get errect. Do you have any tips? I've heard of a cockring, are there are other tips? Is it safe to take Viagra? I'm only 18 so I'm just curious. Thanks, all help is appreciated guys!

[leigh.bess.toad]

I was wondering if anyone could offer tips for getting an errection when encountering a client, sometimes I get jittery or nervous when meeting new clients and cannot seem to get errect. Do you have any tips? I've heard of a cockring, are there are other tips? Is it safe to take Viagra? I'm only 18 so I'm just curious. Thanks, all help is appreciated guys!

 

Well, as a client, personally I find cockrings very hot, but I realize that is a very personal thing. In fact, I wear one almost non-stop, around the clock. Of course, I'm 3 times your age but as a general rule I don't have any ED issues per se. It just gives me a nice feel. It adds a nice feel throughout the day because I never can tell when the stray thought will cross my dirty old mind and I get an erection that lasts a few minutes. Sort of mid-day pick-me up. There are so many varieties out there from rubber and aluminum which to a leather and hinged versions which would be easier to remove if your client did not like it. For me, I would always like to see an escort with a cock ring on, but that's just me, the thicker, the better.

 

As far as Viagra and the others in that class, I would certainly proceed with great caution and talk with your medical professional. I don't think it was designed for an extended (decades plus) periods of use. But I don't know if it is widely used by escorts for this purpose so I will yield to their expertise.

 

How do the professionals feel about either cockrings or chemical aids?

[Guest martye]

Well, as a client, personally I find cockrings very hot, but I realize that is a very personal thing. In fact, I wear one almost non-stop, around the clock. Of course, I'm 3 times your age but as a general rule I don't have any ED issues per se. It just gives me a nice feel. It adds a nice feel throughout the day because I never can tell when the stray thought will cross my dirty old mind and I get an erection that lasts a few minutes. Sort of mid-day pick-me up. There are so many varieties out there from rubber and aluminum which to a leather and hinged versions which would be easier to remove if your client did not like it. For me, I would always like to see an escort with a cock ring on, but that's just me, the thicker, the better.

 

As far as Viagra and the others in that class, I would certainly proceed with great caution and talk with your medical professional. I don't think it was designed for an extended (decades plus) periods of use. But I don't know if it is widely used by escorts for this purpose so I will yield to their expertise.

 

How do the professionals feel about either cockrings or chemical aids?

Thanks alot man, was the last question for me? I'm not sure what you were asking. ;-)

[leigh.bess.toad]

Thanks alot man, was the last question for me? I'm not sure what you were asking. ;-)

 

No, I was asking the other escorts to see what they thought about the use of cockrings and chemical aids. Best of luck

[leigh.bess.toad]

Of course, I don't think there is anyone of my age who hasn't had the discussion with our friends about that one line in the commercial: "If you have an erection lasting longer than 4 hours, contact your doctor". And the agreement is universal: There isn't one of my friends, acquaintances, or co-workers who wouldn't instead call our friends, neighbors, and the newspaper bragging if we had an erection that lasted for longer than 4 hours.

[Lookin]

How about just batting your pretty brown eyes and saying, I seem to be having a little trouble getting an erection. Do you think you could give me a hand? http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/5.gif

 

For me, I think the pleasure of getting or giving an erection is almost as much fun as having one. But it does have to be a sensual process, rather than a desperate one. Maybe starting out with a gentle hug and a few slow moves would help the two of you relax.

 

Eighteen seems a bit young to be taking Viagra, but what do I know? When I was eighteen, they had just invented spit, and I was forced to work with that. :o

[+ deej]

When I was 18, I had exactly the opposite problem: how to AVOID erections. Damn thing had a mind of its own!

 

I suspect if you just relax, take a deep breath, and concentrate on everyone in the room (including YOU) having as much fun as possible mother nature will take care of the rest.

[josephga]

A friend of mine use to say if you have an erection lasting longer than 4 hrs don't call a dr but call her lol

[doitb4ugo]

How about just batting your pretty brown eyes and saying, I seem to be having a little trouble getting an erection. Do you think you could give me a hand? http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/5.gif

 

For me, I think the pleasure of getting or giving an erection is almost as much fun as having one. But it does have to be a sensual process, rather than a desperate one. Maybe starting out with a gentle hug and a few slow moves would help the two of you relax.

 

Eighteen seems a bit young to be taking Viagra, but what do I know? When I was eighteen, they had just invented spit, and I was forced to work with that. :o

 

I think Lookin hit on the perfect solution...As a client I would certainly be turned on by getting you up and ready...a real ego boost.

[rossthebosssf]

You're too young for Viagra. If you start now it will become a crutch. Watch some porn or just close your eyes and think sexy thoughts. One guy I see often said that he had the same problem when he first started, but now has no issues with it whatsoever since he took his own desires out of the mix. Now his dick knows to stand up when he punches the time clock.

[Guest martye]

Thanks everyone! ;-)

[+ Travis69]

Some people who smoke have problems achieving erections easily. Sometimes having a full bladder will cause erection problems. Cockrings help maintain an erection and sometimes the sexy thought of wearing one will help you get the erection to maintain. I recently got a half inch metal cockring and it works much better than the rubber kind. I found taking Omega 3 and 6 fish oil pills helped my erections. I wouldn't recommend taking Viagra or any of those prescribed medications on a regular daily basis.

[+ purplekow]

Martye,

 

As a client, it is not necessary for my partner to have an erection at the onset. If you are bottoming, many of your partners will like for you to have an erection, as an indication that you are having some fun, but if your legs are in the air, where you dick is I dont care. If you are topping, asking (or better in some cases demanding) that your partner suck you till you are hard can be a turn on for both partners. The more you worry about it, the more difficult it becomes. At 18, it should be easy to be hard, just relax and enjoy yourself. No to Viagra.

[Guest LatinoRican]

Hundreds of years ago, in my mid-20s, I met a very good looking guy at a bar in NYC and went home with him. I could not get an erection for the life of me. I was not drunk or on drugs either. I was just so taken with him that performance anxiety set in and nothing happened (i.e. no hard on). It took about three more dates and a lot of patience on his part before things began to happen. Anxiety and nervousness do take their toll on getting an erection especially on first time meetings. As a client, when meeting an escort in the area for the first time, I invite him to lunch or dinner in order to see if the chemistry is there or not. I offer to pay a discounted rate for this time. I let him know that there will be no sex involved. Hey, a free dinner and money in your pocket is better than nothing! Some accept only if I pay full rate for their time and then I have to decide if it's worth it or not. The thing is that meeting a client cold turkey does not seem to be working for you, so maybe you can meet them halfway, lose the jitters and nervousness, and get on with what you want to do!

[Ryanquinn]

Thanks everyone! ;-)

 

Just say no to Viagra. You're way too young bro. I would recommend massaging your cock about an hour before your appointment. Stroke it slowly from the base to the tip and feel it start to fill up...Just don't cum--A little preparation before the action can be just what the doctor ordered.

 

Also, if you want the herbal equivalent of V, try tribulus terrestris--its pretty safe to use and boosts testosterone, so you may end up with some extra muscle after a couple months on it--A Hard cock and growing muscles...that's always good for business!

[Guest Merlin]

It goes without saying that increasing the time interval between sexual occasions (including masturbation) will make it easier for you to have good erections.

[happyguy2]

Like Deej, when I was 18, I had erections all the time, even in Church (my parents made us go). And I agree with the other posters who say you are too young for Viagra. And every time I see the commercial about the four hours, I remember my youth lol. I have had escorts who told me just that, and we went to work on it together, it really broke the ice, and the times it happened to me, the encounter went better than ever. And made repeat business a must for me! We all wish you good luck, and if ever our paths cross, I am certain many of us would like to "lend a hand .... or whatever lol"

[Guest martye]

Thanks everyone! I'm really taking in the advice! =)

[Juan Vancouver]

hey sexy,

I am happy that you ask and respect your openness about it.

I would agree with everyone else about not taking viagra. I greatly doubt that you have any kind of physical problem so what you need is not medicine. If you have to take anything, take tribulus terrestris, as Puertorican advised, but try to find the bulgarian one, which has more effects on your libido than on your muscles.

 

I am almost sure that you don't have any libido problems, though. I also agree that what is happening is that you are just tense and worried and no boner will ever grow on that state of mind.

 

I entirely disagree to try to solve this by asking people to suck you or massage you or anything at all. That would only make you and your partner nervous and goal oriented and chances are that you will leave limp and unpaid.

 

What you really have to learn how to do is relax and change your focus. I know that when one is trying to get hard the only thing one can think of is "HARDONHARDONHARDONHARDON" but that defeats the purpose. You body has absolutely no ability to make a hard on. You don't have an ability to make a hard on. Only pleasure and arousal can.

 

What I suggest that you try is as soon as you start seeing the symptoms or start thinking about that, start breathing deeply and pleasurably and change your focus to anything that gives you pleasure. Play with your nipples, kiss, caress, look into the other's eyes, FEEL your body, and find a way to enjoy this situation.

 

Relax, breathe, enjoy.

 

Forget your penis entirely and focus in all the other ways your body has to feel pleasure and in no time you will be aroused, excited and possibly hard.

 

Blood needs to flow to your penis, and when we are terrified, which is what a man feels when he is afraid of not being hard, all the blood goes to your solar plexus, your shoulders, and so on. Relax, breathe, enjoy, and relax again and breathe and enjoy.

 

Normally we escorts have internalized imaginary pressure about erections. We believe that it is expected that the minute we are in the room we have to be steel, but if you ask most of our clients, as long as you are relaxed, enjoying, having fun, giving pleasure and get hard at some point you are doing well.

 

Last thing is avoid at any cost thinking of yourself as a man with an erectile disfunction issue. You are a young man, and you were just nervous, then it happened again and now you could be making a storm in a glass of water. Forget about that and take my word for it: You have it in you.

 

Relax, breathe and enjoy.

 

I wish you the delicious enjoyment of all those steel-like erections yet to come!

[leigh.bess.toad]

Juan -- As usual, another brilliant response. I don't think anyone here would expect anything less. Absolutely everyhing in there is dead on the money. I was wondering what your thoughts are on his question about cock rings. As I said in my first response, I do enjoy wearing one and they do seem to provide a stiffer erection, at least that is my opinion. The smallest cockring in the world will do nothing if the blood will not flow to the penis. I wear my cockring 24X7 but maintain an erection only a few minutes at a time quite a few times throughout the day. For a 55 y.o. man, I'll take it. I've noticed an improvement in that since wearing it. Could it be psychological -- absolutely (I am crazy after all). And I do think they look incredibly hot on another guy, which I know is a personal preference. So what do the pros think about them? Do you use them? What do your clients think? But again, Juan, another brilliant post.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Lee,

 

Thank you very much, man. It is my pleasure to come here and engage in this kind of sharing. I love this place!

 

As for cockrings, I personally would never use one for keeping an erection. They can be very dangerous and if you get a really strong erection for a long time, the cockring (if it is a hard one) could need to be cut in order to release the aching cock. Many an ashamed guys have found themselves in the emergency room with a stubborn stiffy looking to have a sharp object near their jewels.

 

Neoprene and elastic cockrings may be a better option for this purpose, but again, something that is sustained by delicate blood vessels, should never be harshly constrained. (Unless it is constrained by a pucker.)

 

On the other hand, I always wear a cockring myself whenever I am playing. I adore it and it makes me feel sexy and hot. It is large enough so that I can even take it off in the middle of an erection if needed, but helps me keep my balls out and hanging. (Okay, here is my shameful confession; I am a tropical bird so I am often cold, and when I am cold my balls go into my body, therefore I use my cockring to have my balls out in their full glory.)

 

As for clients, maybe three have asked me to take it off, which I of course have no problem doing. One of those three looked at me and announced: "Oh, you won't need that with me, please take it off." I never fully understood what he meant. I should have asked, but I think he was making the assumption that I needed it to get hard? He was right, though, without it I was rock hard, so nothing else was said about the subject.

 

I believe sex is all about personal taste, so it serves us well to try different things and learn what feels good to our bodies.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Juan -- Thank you so much for the answer. I guess the most important thing is sizing. If you get it too small you are asking for a disaster. With mine, when fully erect I can feel the constriction it provides but it is never tight enough that I can't get a few fingers in between the ring and my package. And throughout the course of the day, it gives me a gentle reminder it's on and get a nice little "surprise" a few times a day. And of course when you get to my advanced age, it's usually easy enough to think of something that will "Free Willy" faster than you can say boo (for example, Roseanne Barr or Rosie O'Donnell in a string binkini, doing your taxes, or any other task you loathe). As I've said repeatedly since I've been here, the brain is the most potent of the sexual organs and it is where I believe most erections are generated from. Planting the seeds in the opposite direction can certainly cause the opposite effect. Of course the easiest way to avoid the whole problem and still be wearing a cock ring as tight as you can is with the 3 or 5 snap leather cock ring. Then if it gets too tight you can always just unsnap. That and the leather looks kind of hot too.

 

Juan, I love the way your mind works and I'm really pissed that you are 3000 miles away. You and I are on so much of the same page it's a little eerie. You really need to make a tour of the east coast of the US, preferably the DC area.

 

All the best.

[Guest MasculineCute]

Hi - Thanks for ll the advice!

where do you find "tribulus terrestris The Hungarian Type? any webste?

 

Thank You

Marvin

hey sexy,

I am happy that you ask and respect your openness about it.

I would agree with everyone else about not taking viagra. I greatly doubt that you have any kind of physical problem so what you need is not medicine. If you have to take anything, take tribulus terrestris, as Puertorican advised, but try to find the bulgarian one, which has more effects on your libido than on your muscles.

 

I am almost sure that you don't have any libido problems, though. I also agree that what is happening is that you are just tense and worried and no boner will ever grow on that state of mind.

 

I entirely disagree to try to solve this by asking people to suck you or massage you or anything at all. That would only make you and your partner nervous and goal oriented and chances are that you will leave limp and unpaid.

 

What you really have to learn how to do is relax and change your focus. I know that when one is trying to get hard the only thing one can think of is "HARDONHARDONHARDONHARDON" but that defeats the purpose. You body has absolutely no ability to make a hard on. You don't have an ability to make a hard on. Only pleasure and arousal can.

 

What I suggest that you try is as soon as you start seeing the symptoms or start thinking about that, start breathing deeply and pleasurably and change your focus to anything that gives you pleasure. Play with your nipples, kiss, caress, look into the other's eyes, FEEL your body, and find a way to enjoy this situation.

 

Relax, breathe, enjoy.

 

Forget your penis entirely and focus in all the other ways your body has to feel pleasure and in no time you will be aroused, excited and possibly hard.

 

Blood needs to flow to your penis, and when we are terrified, which is what a man feels when he is afraid of not being hard, all the blood goes to your solar plexus, your shoulders, and so on. Relax, breathe, enjoy, and relax again and breathe and enjoy.

 

Normally we escorts have internalized imaginary pressure about erections. We believe that it is expected that the minute we are in the room we have to be steel, but if you ask most of our clients, as long as you are relaxed, enjoying, having fun, giving pleasure and get hard at some point you are doing well.

 

Last thing is avoid at any cost thinking of yourself as a man with an erectile disfunction issue. You are a young man, and you were just nervous, then it happened again and now you could be making a storm in a glass of water. Forget about that and take my word for it: You have it in you.

 

Relax, breathe and enjoy.

 

I wish you the delicious enjoyment of all those steel-like erections yet to come!

[Guest martye]

Well I no longer have problems with errections anymore when I'm with clients and it's very easy to feel relaxed with them and they just keep coming back for more! Thanks everyone! =)

[josephga]

Id never had a cock ring b4 but they interested me. So One day I was in the adult shop and saw some. I got one of the med size steal cock rings. I thought it looked kinda small. i have really huge balls about twice the size of some but anyway i thought its just in my head get the med. I got the medium got home and decided to try it on lol. I finally get it on feels really tight but i figured that's the purpose. phone rings. i go to talk and forget its on. about an hour passes and i go to pee. I see its still on and worse I can't get the bitch off. olive oil nothing works. it finally takes icing my balls to shrink them down and applying silicone lube to slip out of that thing..