Need a hobbysists opinion

[Ryanquinn]

I've recently reconsidered my stance as a top. What I'm wondering is are there any hobbyists out there who prefer a tight/inexperienced bottom?

[instudiocity]

I've recently reconsidered my stance as a top. What I'm wondering is are there any hobbyists out there who prefer a tight/inexperienced bottom?

Ha! I prefer tight AND EXPERIENCED but wouldn't kick you out if you were a quick learner!

[wayout]

I, for one, find someone who is exploring being a bottom to be very erotic and exciting. I think you would find quite a few hobbyists, myself included, out there who would like to be part of your exploration and helping you get past being tight and inexperienced.

[Ryanquinn]

I, for one, find someone who is exploring being a bottom to be very erotic and exciting. I think you would find quite a few hobbyists, myself included, out there who would like to be part of your exploration and helping you get past being tight and inexperienced.

 

That is good to hear. Thank you Wayout. I'm new to the forum so I'm just taking it all in (no pun intended). I've had alot of great massage sessions that turned into erotic sessions with me as the top. I tend to attract guys who like a take-charge young man. The skill that I'd like to perfect is being a take-charge bottom as well.

 

By the way wayout i sent you a private message...look forward to hearing from you

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey stud!

 

I really applaud your desire to explore different ways to receive and give pleasure and I wish you all the success in the world doing so. I would like to suggest something, though. Even though it is exciting and a lot of fun to escort someone into new territories into his own body and his own mind, I would like to stress how important it is to take your body under your control.

 

While having an experienced and kind top helping you open up to anal pleasure could be great, you will never be able to fully open up unless you take time to learn and study your own body first. There is no magic that the top can do if you are not already familiar with the sensations, with the muscles involved, with the idea of having something inside. If you leave your getting used to all that to the time when you have a top pushing inside you, no matter how kindly, chances are that you are going to waste precious time that could have been used in getting used to the actual fucking.

 

Play with yourself when you are alone and with no pressure from a partner. Get a small, thin dildo and get used to the feeling of having something inside, learn to douche, learn how to get lube inside of you before anal sex, learn to contract and relax your anal muscles untill you can create whatever amount of contraction is comfortable for you and for your partner, play with bigger dildoes... there is so much fun work that you can do that can prepare you for the moment you have a top trying to get inside your body.

 

Believe me, no matter how thoroughly you prepare yourself, there is nothing that will quite prepare you for a guy fucking you, however, the more used you are to the sensation, the bigger the chances you will be able to enjoy it and have a good time.

 

A lot of people like a tight ass, and some like the feeling of breaking in a virgin bottom... but believe me, if you are faced with a hard cock pushing against your virgin hole, you may not have a lot of fun.

 

Become a hobbyist in your own ass, in your own body, and you will have the key to your pleasure (and your partner's pleasure) at all times.

[Ryanquinn]

Hey stud!

 

I really applaud your desire to explore different ways to receive and give pleasure and I wish you all the success in the world doing so. I would like to suggest something, though. Even though it is exciting and a lot of fun to escort someone into new territories into his own body and his own mind, I would like to stress how important it is to take your body under your control.

 

While having an experienced and kind top helping you open up to anal pleasure could be great, you will never be able to fully open up unless you take time to learn and study your own body first. There is no magic that the top can do if you are not already familiar with the sensations, with the muscles involved, with the idea of having something inside. If you leave your getting used to all that to the time when you have a top pushing inside you, no matter how kindly, chances are that you are going to waste precious time that could have been used in getting used to the actual fucking.

 

Play with yourself when you are alone and with no pressure from a partner. Get a small, thin dildo and get used to the feeling of having something inside, learn to douche, learn how to get lube inside of you before anal sex, learn to contract and relax your anal muscles untill you can create whatever amount of contraction is comfortable for you and for your partner, play with bigger dildoes... there is so much fun work that you can do that can prepare you for the moment you have a top trying to get inside your body.

 

Believe me, no matter how thoroughly you prepare yourself, there is nothing that will quite prepare you for a guy fucking you, however, the more used you are to the sensation, the bigger the chances you will be able to enjoy it and have a good time.

 

A lot of people like a tight ass, and some like the feeling of breaking in a virgin bottom... but believe me, if you are faced with a hard cock pushing against your virgin hole, you may not have a lot of fun.

 

Become a hobbyist in your own ass, in your own body, and you will have the key to your pleasure (and your partner's pleasure) at all times.

 

Juan,

 

Thanks for the advice--Great minds must think alike. I just picked up a small dildo today and played with it this morning for the first time. Also, I got a streemmaster and had some fun with that in the shower.

 

I will definitely be able to take it like a man!

 

Next question: How do you hold off orgasm when the prostate's stimulated (I came quicker with a small dildo than my usual j.o. sessions? ) I know there's no magic manual, but thought maybe you or somebody else would have some insight into this.

[Juan Vancouver]

It is possible that you came that fast because your body was shocked by so much pleasure. (I think your body may be telling you that you found a great way to please yourself.)

 

As you get used to anal stimulation you will be able to relax and enjoy the ride without having to ejaculate. You can practice while playing with a dildo and as soon as you start feeling the familiar anticipation of an orgasm, breathe deeply, relax your ass, relax your pelvic muscles and imagine that you hold the orgasm in. Stop playing with your cock and stop moving the dildo. Sometimes relaxing and contracting alternately the muscles of your ass helps dispersing the energy of orgasm and can delay ejaculation. Every body is different and now you have ahead of you the delicious task of learning about yours. (Or is it behind you?)

 

Chances are that the first times you may not be able to hold it back and you will cum. Oh, well! One has to make sacrifices during the learning process, however with practice you will be able to control when, how and how much you cum while getting fucked.

 

Once you are comfortable getting fucked and familiar with your instrument, you can go to the next step: getting fucked while fucking someone else. But I digress... Have to go do something urgent.

 

Congrats, stud!

[Guest Spanky]

Stop it

 

Juan.

 

Please cut it out with these titillating posts. They are mean and tortuous. We can only take so many cold showers in one day.

 

Thank you.

 

(p.s. don't stop)

 

 

It is possible that you came that fast because your body was shocked by so much pleasure. (I think your body may be telling you that you found a great way to please yourself.)

 

As you get used to anal stimulation you will be able to relax and enjoy the ride without having to ejaculate. You can practice while playing with a dildo and as soon as you start feeling the familiar anticipation of an orgasm, breathe deeply, relax your ass, relax your pelvic muscles and imagine that you hold the orgasm in. Stop playing with your cock and stop moving the dildo. Sometimes relaxing and contracting alternately the muscles of your ass helps dispersing the energy of orgasm and can delay ejaculation. Every body is different and now you have ahead of you the delicious task of learning about yours. (Or is it behind you?)

 

Chances are that the first times you may not be able to hold it back and you will cum. Oh, well! One has to make sacrifices during the learning process, however with practice you will be able to control when, how and how much you cum while getting fucked.

 

Once you are comfortable getting fucked and familiar with your instrument, you can go to the next step: getting fucked while fucking someone else. But I digress... Have to go do something urgent.

 

Congrats, stud!