Is oral sex to be received with a condom on?

[Guest martye]

Oral sex.

[Boston Guy]

There is a rather low but not zero risk of transmission of HIV through oral sex. However, it's my belief that a man who is receiving oral sex and who does not have sores or otherwise broken skin faces an even lower risk than the party who is performing the oral sex. A fact sheet on this subject is available at the CDC at this URL: http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/factsheets/oralsex.htm

 

BG

[raife]

Hey Martye, welcome to the forum. From a client's perspective, although I really want to hear from escorts too.

 

Cognitive dissonance abounds on this one (completely safe+sterile vs mostly safe+enjoyable). As I client I really want to play safe, and as I've been hiring for 30 years now (hired my first guy @ 19) I think I have succeeded pretty well (no VDs, HIV-), but the stats say if you don't have tooth/gum problems you can stay pretty safe giving BBBJ if you spit or swallow immediately. I discreetly check for Herpes/cold sores though - and beg off the oral if I spot any.

 

I somewhat sadly admit this (along with not kissing) is a total deal breaker for my hiring, only 3 guys I've hired over the years have ever asked me to wear a condom when receiving oral, and since I already started the session without asking about this, we diverted to other activities. I try to ask up front if it is a requirement for them, usually first if they go down at all, second if condom is needed (though I often forget this part).

 

Most clients I've compared notes with say the same thing, though I'm really interested to see if anyone here requires it. It certainly drives down business unless perhaps you advertise as a "total top" (who often doesn't give BJs anyway). From what I've read kissing and BBBJ (healthy dental assumed) are close to the same risk level. Anal, though always always with a condom (I mostly prefer a well performed dildo+simultaneous BJ for that part of the festivities) the 10" monsters still scare me after all these years.

[orbital sander]

Is oral sex to be received with a condom on? I would imagine the answer to this would be yes, correct? Everything is supposed to be completely safe right?

 

I hate to sound preachy here, but there is very little that is considered "completely safe" when engaging in sexual activities with another person. Oral sex without a condom, as stated by others here, is considered lower risk. There are, however, people who have claimed that they have become HIV positive from Oral Sex.

[Guest Merlin]

Those claiming to have become positive from oral were more likely to be the ones giving oral sex and receiving cum in the mouth. Tops who receive oral are less likely to become infected. But studies, mostly involving heterosexual vaginal sex, show that those with uncircumcized penises are more likely to become infected, and, strangely, that those (uncut) who wash often are even more vulnerable. The skin of the uncut head is much thinner and, it is said, viruses can invade through microscopic tears etc. Possibly washing reduces the ability of skin oils to be protective. I am not sure any of this is relevant to oral sex, but in theory there would appear to be no difference.

It is said that acids in the stomach and saliva are injurious to the virus and that his why oral sex is relatively safe. So perhaps something mildly acidic afterwards may help. A Chardonnay, for instance, or orange juice, perhaps vinigar.

[Luv2play]

There was a thread here recently and someone, perhaps an escort, said they washed their penis frequently with anti bacterial soap, 5 to 6 times a day. I replied that I thought this was counterproductive and in fact less washing was the better route unless they were having sex 5 to 6 times a day. I knew I had read somewhere that too much cleanliness exposed one to infection more than the contrary. Funny, isn't it!

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Martye,

 

By the way in which your question is phrased, I get the sense that you are looking for a perfectly agreed on consensus that you can from now on use as a guide to make your choices.

 

Life and sexuality are so much more complicated than that, I think.

 

I strongly recommend you to not ask for our personal opinions. This is not a medical forum in which health professionals come to educate. Go read as many SexEd websites as you can, talk with as many sexual health nurses and doctors as you can, and only then you will have enough information to make your own choice.

 

Even when talking with sexual health professionals, you will be shocked by how different and sometimes conflicting their opinions are. Some well researched professionals claim that there is not a single case of HIV transmission through oral sex, while others adamantly insist that you wear a condom every time.

 

You are a very young guy, starting your sexual life, embarking upon one of the most demanding and conflicting professions in the world, and I recommend you to take on this responsibility only after having done extensive research.

 

if you decide to only receive oral sex with condom on and people get outraged, claiming that you will never have a client who will accept that, simply be thankful for their opinion and be sure that there is always a market for everything.

 

Be true to your, do extensive research, evaluate all different opinions, and ultimately follow your heart and respect your own body.

 

Whatever choices you may make, whether you become an escort or decide it is too risky to do it, whatever your path, I sincerely wish you all the best, and a long, happy, fulfilling life.

 

A big hug to you.

 

Juan

[orbital sander]

or you could also gargle with Chardonnay all the time.....

 

it sounds about as effective as not paying your water bill

[Guest Merlin]

If you will google "acid kills hiv virus" you will find websites and studies which say that the acid in the saliva and stomach kill or inhibit the HIV virus. One danger is that the virus will find an opening being killed. Some sites mention lemon juice etc as source of acid. So I cannot prove that common acids will help, but it seems logical, and there is no suggestion that it will hurt. Along this line, washing the penis in a mild acid may also be better than doing nothing.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey guys,

 

I would respectfully suggest that we stop making fascinating guesses. This is a teenager who needs information that will help him make informed choices, and a teenager's tendency is often to accept adult people's opinion as gospel and guide.

 

Martye, in this website you will find invaluable information about almost anything an escort needs to be safe, successful and healthy, but I sincerely recommend you to go and educate yourself about HIV and pay very little if any attention to whatever we write here.

 

We are an incredibly well meaning group of people but we are used to the idea that we are all adults and know that what is said here has to be taken with a grain of salt.

 

I don't want to belittle your intelligence or patronize you in any way. I just believe this is not the right place to educate yourself about this subject.

 

I hope that soon we will be talking about all sorts of subjects, and I sincerely wish you all sorts of success and fulfillment.

 

A big hug!

 

Juan

[josephga]

Martye I think you should do some research. Visit the cdc online or talk with a physician or 2. weigh in the risks and decided what levels of risk are acceptable too you. imo everyone is responsible for their own health and well being.

[rickinoc]

Re:Oral Sex with or without Condom

 

While I believe the risk of getting HIV is low to none; I think all should be aware that there is a high risk of getting Hep A or Hep B (and lower possibility of Hep C) from BBBJs - particularly in SE Asia or in Latin America

 

So if you are planning a visit to these parts I would suggest you have your local physician check your titers and innoculate you against Hep (especially Hep B) which is rampant in these parts of the world.

 

RickinoC