Role Play?

[NYTomcat]

OK As compared to so many clients I am still a newbie at hiring so...

 

My experience thus far have been very focused of just getting comfortable in my own skin in action with men. Now that I am seeking branching out I had never thought about the possibilities role play might open up.

 

That said.... I often wonder if that sort of an encounter wouldnt feel to awkward and staged. So artificial as to be limiting. So I wonder from an escorts point of view and I have asked a few that I have been in contact with and gotten a wide variety of answers.

 

Generally what do you prefer. A diverse role play scenario that takes some of the pressure off what or how to react. Or a more organic experience no role play involved? does that change with the client... or maybe how long you have known the client? Are there some roleplays you find easier, harder, etc... Thanks

[Diverdan]

Depends on Your Desires

 

I don't have a lot of experience with "Role Play". I have tried it a couple of times with mixed results. In some ways, every experience with a new escort is a new "role play" as they each bring a unique set of talents and expectations and I suspect that may be different with different clients. I suspect that true "role play" works best when you are with someone you have been with several times before you begin to play out your respective roles. Much like regular acting, the actor has to "live the part" and not very many escorts are really able to do that, and I suspect many clients are not able to live a role for an hour or two either. The only times my experience with role play has been successful has been with someone I have seen several times over a period of time. But, that may say as much about me as it does about my companion. But like most things in life, nothing ventured... nothing gained. Good luck in your search and in playing out your roles..

[whipped guy]

Much like regular acting, the actor has to "live the part" and not very many escorts are really able to do that, and I suspect many clients are not able to live a role for an hour or two either.

My experience... if it does not come naturally it does not work... Actually at times if you request even a certain demeanor it does not work if the guy is not comfortable depicting such a personality... and especially if it is 180 degrees contrary to his normal persona. I guess it is possible to hook up with a porn star… but then again not all of those guys can act either so I guess we’re back to square one… Perhaps hiring a theatre major might be the answer... but then again he might not be up to snuff regarding the other aspects of performing?

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I have never engaged in a role play but here is what I saw in Sex and the City..

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dcXLauGT1-Q

[NYTomcat]

My experience... if it does not come naturally it does not work... Actually at times if you request even a certain demeanor it does not work if the guy is not comfortable depicting such a personality... and especially if it is 180 degrees contrary to his normal persona. I guess it is possible to hook up with a porn star… but then again not all of those guys can act either so I guess we’re back to square one… Perhaps hiring a theatre major might be the answer... but then again he might not be up to snuff regarding the other aspects of performing?

 

Well I think for me it would be more a situational role play than a personality one. I dont think I'd Want to be anyone but me in personality and the same with the partner. Of course I've Always been the kind who just enjoyed the organic experience. But perhaps raising the orgasmic experience through role play? ... that why I wanted the more experienced take on it. Thanks for the start. Any other opinions

[adriano46]

Well I think for me it would be more a situational role play than a personality one. I dont think I'd Want to be anyone but me in personality and the same with the partner. Of course I've Always been the kind who just enjoyed the organic experience. But perhaps raising the orgasmic experience through role play? ... that why I wanted the more experienced take on it. Thanks for the start. Any other opinions

 

NYTomcat,

 

I went through a stage some years back (in my Eropean dating phase) where I thoroughly enjoyed certain role playing scenes with escorts.

 

B UT what one guy said here already is worth repeating -- you have to know the guys, and they you -- before doing it.

 

For instance, I was working with one of the more established agencies in Amsterdam back in the 90's and wanted a "scene" with 3 guys -- a LOCKER ROOM SCENE. I was very specific on what I wanted: guys who would get dressed in tight T-shirts, gym shorts and jock straps, engage in some foreplay wrestling, and then get into some great sex once the togs came off. Geez on the few times I tried this, it always failed.

 

I puchased all the "gear" (brand new, top of the line labeled things), but the first time I was sent 3 guys of whom only one even knew what sports were (one was soooo NELLY he is still my point of reference for the term, while the third seemed to be on his first gig and was trembling and shaking so much he made ME uncomfortable, and his dick seemed to recede into him as the night went on).

 

Repeated this more recently in Prague with more disasterous results (partially lingual, more for again getting 4 losers: one smelled, one was sweaty and drunk, one was into being worshipped but no interacion, and one was just plain GAY FOR PAY. )

 

I did find that when I knew a guy more (or in one case, two guys) and then after we had rompe around for a few times suggested a scene, they were much more into it. One short story - I was once with one of my favorite (at that time) guys, a Canadian name Brad who often worked in Amsterdam. Had really amazing sex with him. One night we decided to call a 3rd guy - a real medical student in lat year of med school), amazinlgy muscular body, nearly perfect. "Brad" was having a problem with one of his balls (really!!!), and this guy started giving him a more professional look over (all the while we were all 3 wearing jocks under gym shorts and T's), and all of a sudden, the doctor had his fingers probing us both and... and... well you get the idea. It was 4 hours later (obviously no clock watching on this date) when we emerged from the sweat soaked sheets. Always wondered where that doctor is today???

[adriano46]

Well I think for me it would be more a situational role play than a personality one. I dont think I'd Want to be anyone but me in personality and the same with the partner. Of course I've Always been the kind who just enjoyed the organic experience. But perhaps raising the orgasmic experience through role play? ... that why I wanted the more experienced take on it. Thanks for the start. Any other opinions

 

NYTomcat,

 

I went through a stage some years back (in my Eropean dating phase) where I thoroughly enjoyed certain role playing scenes with escorts.

 

B UT what one guy said here already is worth repeating -- you have to know the guys, and they you -- before doing it.

 

For instance, I was working with one of the more established agencies in Amsterdam back in the 90's and wanted a "scene" with 3 guys -- a LOCKER ROOM SCENE. I was very specific on what I wanted: guys who would get dressed in tight T-shirts, gym shorts and jock straps, engage in some foreplay wrestling, and then get into some great sex once the togs came off. Geez on the few times I tried this, it always failed.

 

I puchased all the "gear" (brand new, top of the line labeled things), but the first time I was sent 3 guys of whom only one even knew what sports were (one was soooo NELLY he is still my point of reference for the term, while the third seemed to be on his first gig and was trembling and shaking so much he made ME uncomfortable, and his dick seemed to recede into him as the night went on).

 

Repeated this more recently in Prague with more disasterous results (partially lingual, more for again getting 4 losers: one smelled, one was sweaty and drunk, one was into being worshipped but no interacion, and one was just plain GAY FOR PAY. )

 

I did find that when I knew a guy more (or in one case, two guys) and then after we had romped around for a few times suggested a scene, they were much more into it. One short story - I was once with one of my favorite (at that time) guys, a Canadian name Brad who often worked in Amsterdam. Had really amazing sex with him. One night we decided to call a 3rd guy - a real medical student in lat year of med school), amazinlgy muscular body, nearly perfect. "Brad" was having a problem with one of his balls (really!!!), and this guy started giving him a more professional look over (all the while we were all 3 wearing jocks under gym shorts and T's), and all of a sudden, the doctor had his fingers probing us both and... and... well you get the idea. It was 4 hours later (obviously no clock watching on this date) when we emerged from the sweat soaked sheets. Always wondered where that doctor is today???

[+ Shoreboy]

My experience

 

Ah my dear friend NYTomcat

 

I too am a relatively newbie at hiring, although I am not too sure what the time limits are on being a newbie??

 

I love role playing and one reason I do it when I hire is simply that I do not have to think and just hand over everything to the person I have hired.

 

I have found some guys in various cities that are excellent at it after I send them a tentative script...and others that are clueless...i is a roll of the dice.

 

Mystery, the unexpected and the unknown is a major part of successful role playing...therefore I have found that it does not work when I get to know the escort...then it becomes too staged.

 

Email me NYTomcat and we can discuss this one on one and or get together since I think we can both share our journeys of becoming comfortable in our own skins or else simply sip coffee and share erotic adventures

[Zapped]

Been a long time since I stopped by here. I've hired for years, but only occasionally, and while I've been having sex with men for 35 years (wow!) it's been a long process of healing from internalized homophobia and allowing myself to enjoy the fantasies I have.

 

In terms of role play, I got used to it with phone sex, both paid and unpaid. I found there were psycho-sexual drama buttons to be pushed that I didn't know I had.

 

I've had a couple of good role-play hiring experiences, and in the best I was very up front with the escort, sent him a long email, etc., and he fully got into the character (which was, he said, very different than his own personality) and it was a fantastic experience for me.

 

I was submissive and being humiliated and used in the fantasy. But I communicated so clearly to the escort (and he was a good actor and really enjoyed escorting) that he was able to take over and take the scene to a different place than I had imagined, and it really worked. In this case, the escort (now retired from escorting) was very well reviewed here.

 

I don't know if this of any assistance or not--but the topic did make me want to share. Wow--it was a great time.

[Juan Vancouver]

Generally what do you prefer. A diverse role play scenario that takes some of the pressure off what or how to react. Or a more organic experience no role play involved? does that change with the client... or maybe how long you have known the client? Are there some roleplays you find easier, harder, etc... Thanks

 

Hey Mister Tomcat!

 

I find your question very interesting.

 

First of all only attempt roleplay with an escort who is enthusiastic about it and if you are going to test the waters, start with one escort instead of many. Many escorts together has the risk that they are all talented in different levels and they may be uncomfortable with each other. (Great escorts, however, would be thrilled to be doing this together.)

 

As for what do I prefer? I am also a professional actor, so I am very comfortable with all sorts of scenarios. I find it fun, interesting and if the scenario turns you on, I find the sexual tension that comes from it incredibly alluring.

 

I have had amazing role play sessions both with people I have never seen before, and with people I knew perfectly well, so there's no rule about that. Again, it depends on what you think you may prefer. Some prefer to start from the moment the door opens till the door closes, some like to start after having had a couple drinks, some like to stop it when the "real" sex starts happening, some keep it running but every now and then stop it to give directions, the amount of permutations is infinite, really.

 

One thing, however got my attention from your post. You wonder if a role play scenario would take some of the pressure off of how to react, and if that is the reason for trying role play I would not recommend you to do it. Sex and intimacy become ever more fulfilling the more we learn to open up, relax, understand what we want in that precise moment and find a way to honestly communicate it.

 

Playing a role or a script in order to not have to go through that process of communication with yourself and the other would only hinder your ability to enjoy yourself, and in time you would become one of too many who need a specific crutch to find if not fulfillment, at least some release.

 

If what you are nervous about is not knowing what to do, how to communicate it, how not to be uncomfortable, then I would recommend you to tell your escort precisely this, so that you together, little by little, gently and having fun, can explore and exercise your ability to be yourself and fully expose yourself in an intimate situation.

 

This would give you immense freedom and confidence. And this would for sure help you find the numerous ways in which your body and your soul can be pleasured.

 

Now, in another post you say that you want a situational play rather than a personality role? What do you mean with this? How would this look like?

 

The last thing that I was going to suggest is to try this kind of play with escorts that have been reviewed for this kind of play, but then I went to check my reviews, and even if twenty percent of the reviews that I have published are reviews for a role play session the reviewers chose to keep that out of the reviews.

 

Whatever you end up doing, remember that this is about what is exciting for YOU. A really good escort will be excited about this, and will be able to tune himself into your enjoyment and he will also have a great time, if you have a great time.

 

I wish you toe-curling fulfillment.

[+ Lucky]

Juan role-played with me. He was the hard stud and I was the willing recipient. Novel, eh?

[hunkymuscles]

Role Play

 

I sort of just fell into the daddy (me)/ boy (client) role play. Months ago I had a client who wanted to meet but really didn't get into much detail of what he wanted. His main concern was that I be okay with his smoking. Once I arrived at his place, I was asked if I could take on a daddy role and he be my little boy. I figured I better say yes and see what happens. I sort of took cues from him, expanded on it, and quickly was able to add to it on my own. I find there is lots of verbal required, which I enjoy. Apparently he enjoyed it so much , he wrote a review about me. From there, another was written and now I seem to be getting more request from clients who are in high decision making jobs and just want a break from that. They want me to take on the role of being in charge, telling them what to do, rewarding them for good behavior, and providing lots of verbal of what a dad would say to his boy. I'm finding myself enjoying it more and more!

Rex in San Francisco

http://www.daddysreviews.com/review/raul_sf

[NYTomcat]

Hey Mister Tomcat!

 

I find your question very interesting.

 

First of all only attempt roleplay with an escort who is enthusiastic about it and if you are going to test the waters, start with one escort instead of many. Many escorts together has the risk that they are all talented in different levels and they may be uncomfortable with each other. (Great escorts, however, would be thrilled to be doing this together.)

 

Oh No Juan Im fairly certain that except for a very unusual group scenario where the feel is totally organic... Im not looking for a multiple partner role play. To me the role play would clearly be to enhance the feeling of intimacy which is not something I would be looking for in a group scenario

 

 

 

As for what do I prefer? I am also a professional actor, so I am very comfortable with all sorts of scenarios. I find it fun, interesting and if the scenario turns you on, I find the sexual tension that comes from it incredibly alluring.

 

I have had amazing role play sessions both with people I have never seen before, and with people I knew perfectly well, so there's no rule about that. Again, it depends on what you think you may prefer. Some prefer to start from the moment the door opens till the door closes, some like to start after having had a couple drinks, some like to stop it when the "real" sex starts happening, some keep it running but every now and then stop it to give directions, the amount of permutations is infinite, really.

 

One thing, however got my attention from your post. You wonder if a role play scenario would take some of the pressure off of how to react, and if that is the reason for trying role play I would not recommend you to do it. Sex and intimacy become ever more fulfilling the more we learn to open up, relax, understand what we want in that precise moment and find a way to honestly communicate it.

At the time that I wrote that... I was aiming at whether it takes the pressure off the escort on how to react with a new client. That said you hit the nail on the head that I have had my own varied issues. In fact its taken years to get me to open up and just accept my own interests. and now months beyond that to strat exploring what truly turns me on. The reason I ask about the role play at all now is that I am only begining to see those moments and experiences which truly excite me

 

 

If what you are nervous about is not knowing what to do, how to communicate it, how not to be uncomfortable, then I would recommend you to tell your escort precisely this, so that you together, little by little, gently and having fun, can explore and exercise your ability to be yourself and fully expose yourself in an intimate situation.

Oh I have... and it has been those multiple encounters that have gotten me comfortable enough to consider expanding outside what I had already felt was a monumental leap into having sex with men at all. One that hurdle was crossed and my comfort level grew... I have been expanding out... slowly... from there. The role play scenario is just my next interest. I have spent a great deal of time as the voyeur here watching the different fetishes, body types, scenarios that different posters and escorts find appealing trying to envision whether those scenarios or some variation therof would work for me.

 

I can honestly say... Ive grown very comfortable in my own skin... enough to start to try different expressions of intimacy and sexual activity. And I'm not one to write off anything until I've tried it (Though I'm still not convinced watersports is my thing even enough to head down that road thanks. but You never know what situation will arise to make that an option as well. Trying not to close any doors yet)

 

This would give you immense freedom and confidence. And this would for sure help you find the numerous ways in which your body and your soul can be pleasured.

 

THus this is where I stand today.... I am only know begining to feel the confidence and freedom to expand beyond my more generic sexual expressions and look for something more exciting and erotic. The question is in what direction do my interests lie. That is the question I am hoping to find answers on and role plays was one way I thought of finding those interests.

 

Now, in another post you say that you want a situational play rather than a personality role? What do you mean with this? How would this look like?

 

What I mean by this.... I wouldnt per. se want either myself or the escort to be taking on a different persona or attitude or personality just to satisfy the role play. Im not looking to hire a sweet person and have him portrait the marquis de sade. Or be the marquis myself. To me the role plays that are intriguing are those that put oneself in a different situation. Not changing who we are by personality but the situation we find ourselves in. I think its a much easier and more honest role play to ask you for example to be Juan the international catburgler and jewel theif with a heart of gold, than to ask you to be Dr Mengela. I personally enjoy the honesty of getting to know the personality and emotions of the guy I am with which I think would be hampered if I was direct those emotions and not just the ancillary role.

 

Does that make any sense or is that only me?

 

 

The last thing that I was going to suggest is to try this kind of play with escorts that have been reviewed for this kind of play, but then I went to check my reviews, and even if twenty percent of the reviews that I have published are reviews for a role play session the reviewers chose to keep that out of the reviews.

 

Whatever you end up doing, remember that this is about what is exciting for YOU. A really good escort will be excited about this, and will be able to tune himself into your enjoyment and he will also have a great time, if you have a great time.

 

I wish you toe-curling fulfillment.

 

Oh may your wish come true for me as well. Thanks so much for the advise as always you are a fount of great advice.

 

Tom

[tktk1999]

I also great advice recently from both escorts and clients on this thread where I posted asking for advice for beginners on role play:

 

http://m4m-forum.org/showthread.php?t=75074&highlight=role+play

 

Hopefully I'll get to use the advice soon. Hope it helps!

[NYTomcat]

I also great advice recently from both escorts and clients on this thread where I posted asking for advice for beginners on role play:

 

http://m4m-forum.org/showthread.php?t=75074&highlight=role+play

 

Hopefully I'll get to use the advice soon. Hope it helps!

 

Oh thanks tktk. I've been following that thread closely too lol