Why did I fall head over heels for this escort?

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I'm sorry.. I was just sharing my answers with CFW and board members... I thought sharing my answers with CFW would somehow help him but I have not thought about your point of view. I am truly sorry. :o

[+ purplekow]

Cynical if you are in an area where this is possible and where there is a selection of escorts, to avoid focusing too much on the next escort, I would plan a weekend with a Friday hire and a different escort for Saturday or Sunday. No matter how great the experiences, do not rehire either one until you hire a third one down the road a bit. Once you have opened yourself figuratively and perhaps literally to three different escorts, my guess is you will find variety a lot more fun than mooning and pining away for a single escort.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I believe Ryan was just expressing his opinion and I don't think it is necessary to attack his personality and integrity. I do think Ryan is a sincere guy.

 

Of course, no one needs to be specifically asked to participate.

 

However, the Original Poster was quite upset about his feelings over an escort he barely knew. I tried to help the Original Poster by offering suggestions to him. Others from this site offered opinions and suggestions.

 

Much of my post was in a form of questions for the Original Poster to consider.

 

Given that my recommendations (questions) were addressed to the Original Poster, I found it odd that someone else (Greatness) would answer for him.

 

As to your response - -

 

("God do you have to be so ungrateful for his willingness to participate. UGH! GOOD MORNING!!") - - unquestionably brings into question the sincerity of other posts you made in other threads on this site.

 

Particularly, your post about your supposedly being stalked and in financial perils makes me wonder if that was sincere.

 

In subsequent posts, and in your post wherein you alleged being stalked, you appeared to be a friendly and reasonable sort of guy, however, your hostile comment about my being puzzled why someone else would answer questions not directed to them shines a light on another side of your personality.

 

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[imrthr]

 

I believe Ryan was just expressing his opinion and I don't think it is necessary to attack his personality and integrity. I do think Ryan is a sincere guy.

 

 

Of course, he was expressing his opinion. However, he expressed his opinion in a nasty and unfriendly manner. Ryan’s choice of words tells a lot about the true Ryan.

 

His nasty and unfriendly post shows a different side of his "sweet innocent victim persona" that he managed to show to this site when he allegedly was stalked and penniless not long ago.

 

Based on Ryan’s recent posts, he made a remarkable disentanglement from his alleged stalker and the financial crisis.

 

I think you should take time to understand what you read before you respond with superficial answers.

 

I did not attack Ryan's personality and integrity. Go back and read what I wrote. Remember, Ryan wrote "God do you have to be so ungrateful for his willingness to participate. UGH! GOOD MORNING!!"

 

Ryan’s post is inconsistent with posts he made when he claimed to be a victim of a stalker and in financial crisis. During that period, he was civil and gave no hint of a person who would post the type of remark he made in response to my remarking about you answering questions I directed to another poster.

 

To point out an inconsistency in one's behavior (or posts) is not attacking one’s personality and integrity. How can you logically believe this?

 

Furthermore, you wrote that "Ryan is a sincere guy." Other than for numerous posts he made on this board, you have no basis to support your statement that Ryan is sincere. You do not know anything about him.

 

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[Guest greatness]

well

 

I tend to read and write fast so I thank you for your constructive suggestions.

 

Can you give the benefit of the doubt? What Ryan said could be just a spur of the moment statement. I have read Ryan's posts and he seems to be a sincere guy. I am sure other posters will agree with me on that. I take full responsibility for causing this discomfort. I should have read your post carefully.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Of course, he was expressing his opinion. However, he expressed his opinion in a nasty and unfriendly manner. Ryan’s choice of words tells a lot about the true Ryan.

 

His nasty and unfriendly post shows a different side of his "sweet innocent victim persona" that he managed to show to this site when he allegedly was stalked and penniless not long ago.

 

Based on Ryan’s recent posts, he made a remarkable disentanglement from his alleged stalker and the financial crisis.

 

I think you should take time to understand what you read before you respond with superficial answers.

 

I did not attack Ryan's personality and integrity. Go back and read what I wrote. Remember, Ryan wrote "God do you have to be so ungrateful for his willingness to participate. UGH! GOOD MORNING!!"

 

Ryan’s post is inconsistent with posts he made when he claimed to be a victim of a stalker and in financial crisis. During that period, he was civil and gave no hint of a person who would post the type of remark he made in response to my remarking about you answering questions I directed to another poster.

 

To point out an inconsistency in one's behavior (or posts) is not attacking one’s personality and integrity. How can you logically believe this?

 

Furthermore, you wrote that "Ryan is a sincere guy." Other than for numerous posts he made on this board, you have no basis to support your statement that Ryan is sincere. You do not know anything about him.

 

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[NYTomcat]

Of course, he was expressing his opinion. However, he expressed his opinion in a nasty and unfriendly manner. Ryan’s choice of words tells a lot about the true Ryan.

 

His nasty and unfriendly post shows a different side of his "sweet innocent victim persona" that he managed to show to this site when he allegedly was stalked and penniless not long ago.

 

Based on Ryan’s recent posts, he made a remarkable disentanglement from his alleged stalker and the financial crisis.

 

I think you should take time to understand what you read before you respond with superficial answers.

 

I did not attack Ryan's personality and integrity. Go back and read what I wrote. Remember, Ryan wrote "God do you have to be so ungrateful for his willingness to participate. UGH! GOOD MORNING!!"

 

Ryan’s post is inconsistent with posts he made when he claimed to be a victim of a stalker and in financial crisis. During that period, he was civil and gave no hint of a person who would post the type of remark he made in response to my remarking about you answering questions I directed to another poster.

 

To point out an inconsistency in one's behavior (or posts) is not attacking one’s personality and integrity. How can you logically believe this?

 

Furthermore, you wrote that "Ryan is a sincere guy." Other than for numerous posts he made on this board, you have no basis to support your statement that Ryan is sincere. You do not know anything about him.

 

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I dont think it shows anything about his personality except that he disagreed with your choice to confront people responding to your posts. Maybe its me but I firmly believe that anything I post to a thread I am laying out for public comment by either the OP or anyone else on the board who feels like chiming in. If I was interested in only communicating or receiving comment from the OP then a private message would have been the vehicle for communication.

 

Now I understand your desire to have your comments only commented on By the OP butif I follow your chain of logic. ...I would start saying that your attacks on Ryan and greatness show an aggressive side to your personality totally out of character with the thoughtful posts I've read by you in the past. Should That Make me believe your prior posts are insincere or untrue as you now posit Ryan's to be. I choose not to do either and assume like most people you and Ryan and greatness are complex individuals who have different moods on different days. And who view different situations from totally uniquf points of view. That is why comments from all posters not Just the OP are so interesting.

[Guest greatness]

wow

 

Tom I have to say that you know me so well... I change my shoes depending on my mood of the day.. lol...

 

greatness are complex individuals who have different moods on different days.

[NYTomcat]

Tom I have to say that you know me so well... I change my shoes depending on my mood of the day.. lol...

 

Thus the need for the overwhelming amount of shoe shopping we like to do. God knows women dont have a monopoly on mood swings. I mean have you ever met a man. Lol

[cynicalflannelwearer]

Cynical if you are in an area where this is possible and where there is a selection of escorts, to avoid focusing too much on the next escort, I would plan a weekend with a Friday hire and a different escort for Saturday or Sunday. No matter how great the experiences, do not rehire either one until you hire a third one down the road a bit. Once you have opened yourself figuratively and perhaps literally to three different escorts, my guess is you will find variety a lot more fun than mooning and pining away for a single escort.

 

Thank you for the advice, seeing an escort multiple times does not mean you are dating them, but it could mean I THINK I am dating them, so it's not healthy for me at all.

 

But, I think I will stop hiring for awhile and focus on other things, like my own sanity.

[+ purplekow]

Thank you for the advice, seeing an escort multiple times does not mean you are dating them, but it could mean I THINK I am dating them, so it's not healthy for me at all.

 

But, I think I will stop hiring for awhile and focus on other things, like my own sanity.

 

As long as you have other ways of getting laid because not getting laid is the quickest way to go insane. Lots of luck

[imrthr]

 

snip snip

 

Maybe its me but I firmly believe that anything I post to a thread I am laying out for public comment by either the OP or anyone else on the board who feels like chiming in.

 

You are absolutely correct that anyone should feel it is appropriate "chiming in" to a post. However, this thread was started by a very unhappy and confused person. Several people offered comments and suggestions. My response to the person was more in keeping with questions for him to consider so that he could possibly see the facts laid out and could more easily extricate himself from the situation. The Original Poster's situation was grave. In hindsight, it would have been better to have sent the Original Poster a private message.

 

 

 

snip snip .I would start saying that your attacks on Ryan and greatness show an aggressive side to your personality totally out of character with the thoughtful posts I've read by you in the past.

 

 

Attacks? You have totally lost me with that accusation. There was no attack on Greatness. I expressed my surprise that he answered questions addressed to another party. You have presented a new definition for the word ATTACK. You and I obviously do not use the same kind of dictionary.

 

With respect to Ryan, I reread the pleading posts he made some months ago when he claimed that he was being stalked and had no money. That initial pleading post together with his subsequent posts indicated that he was above writing such a nasty response to why I questioned why Greatness answered questions directed at the Original Poster.

 

Here is the response by Ryan "God do you have to be so ungrateful for his willingness to participate. UGH! GOOD MORNING!!"

 

This is an attack by me? If an attack was made, it was made by Ryan.

 

You were correct when you wrote that I, Ryan and Greatness are - - - individuals who have different moods on different days - - - and who view different situations from totally unique points of view. However, I believe those words apply to most people in the world.

 

Nonetheless, if I read another thread that is as moving and pleading as was (is) the instant tread wherein a fellow member of this site was confused about an affair with an escort, I would again respond with my opinion.

 

If, while reading responses from various posters, I certainly would not take it upon myself to answer questions that clearly were directed at the originator of the thread.

 

Please remember, reasonable people can disagree, and often do.

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[cynicalflannelwearer]

As long as you have other ways of getting laid because not getting laid is the quickest way to go insane. Lots of luck

 

LOL. True.

[NYTomcat]

You are absolutely correct that anyone should feel it is appropriate "chiming in" to a post. However, this thread was started by a very unhappy and confused person. Several people offered comments and suggestions. My response to the person was more in keeping with questions for him to consider so that he could possibly see the facts laid out and could more easily extricate himself from the situation. The Original Poster's situation was grave. In hindsight, it would have been better to have sent the Original Poster a private message.

 

 

 

 

 

Attacks? You have totally lost me with that accusation. There was no attack on Greatness. I expressed my surprise that he answered questions addressed to another party. You have presented a new definition for the word ATTACK. You and I obviously do not use the same dictionary.

 

With respect to Ryan, I reread the pleading posts he made some months ago when he claimed that he was being stalked and had no money. That initial pleading post together with his subsequent posts indicated that he was above writing such a nasty response to why I questioned why Greatness answered questions directed at the Original Poster.

 

Here is the response by Ryan "God do you have to be so ungrateful for his willingness to participate. UGH! GOOD MORNING!!"

 

This is an attack by me? If an attack was made, it was made by Ryan.

 

You were correct when you wrote that I, Ryan and Greatness are - - - individuals who have different moods on different days - - - and who view different situations from totally unique points of view. However, I believe those words apply to most people in the world.

 

Nonetheless, if I read another thread that is as moving and pleading as was (is) the instant tread wherein a fellow member of this site was confused about an affair with an escort, I would again respond with my opinion.

 

If, while reading responses from various posters, I certainly would not take it upon myself to answer questions that clearly were directed at the originator of the thread.

 

Please remember, reasonable people can disagree, and often do.

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I agree with almost everything. In fact you and I usually do LOL. I just dont think Either you or Ryan or greatness did anything unusual. Other than start a little bickering. .. better term than attack. My mistake.... but I dont see greatness response as unusual for any of us. .

like me sticking my nose in here LOL.

 

And I dont find in disingenuous of Ryan to stand up for greatness. When he felt you were wrong in asking that he not respond to your post. Which does seem like what you were saying. In fact, I often find Ryan rather outspoken when he disagrees with someone or sees something he thinks is incorrect. Its a trait I rather admire in the escorts I hire. Going back to some of his original posts he got himself in some tight spots that others would have avoided completely merely because he felt speaking out was correct.

 

Of course you are right I only know him from what he posts here,his emails, and a few text messages. But I promise to report back after I remedy that on Monday while he is here in NY.

[Guest greatness]

lol

 

NYTomcat, you must be one of my college friends... You know too much about me.. lol.. Imrthr.. I don't think you attacked me. Can you please give Ryan the benefit of the doubt though? He has been contributing great posts on here.

 

 

" but I dont see greatness response as unusual for any of us. .

like me sticking my nose in here LOL."

 

[NYTomcat]

NYTomcat, you must be one of my college friends... You know too much about me.. lol.. .

 

Well it is certainly possible G. God only knows.... I told you one poster already ended up being my neighbor.

 

In either event. I just hope CFW finds the best way through falling and feeling heartbroken. Lifes too short... ultimately.

[Guest greatness]

I agree

 

I hope he finds peace..

 

In either event. I just hope CFW finds the best way through falling and feeling heartbroken. Lifes too short... ultimately.

[cynicalflannelwearer]

 

In either event. I just hope CFW finds the best way through falling and feeling heartbroken. Lifes too short... ultimately.

 

Well thank you,Tomcat.... I really do feel much better now,no better wake up call than the reality of the situation.....on a side note, this meatloaf I got at Albertson's is terrible! Serves me right for buying red meat and having some at this time of night lol

[NYTomcat]

Well thank you,Tomcat.... I really do feel much better now,no better wake up call than the reality of the situation.....on a side note, this meatloaf I got at Albertson's is terrible! Serves me right for buying red meat and having some at this time of night lol

 

LOL You gotta make your own... I have a great recipe. But I must admit at this hour...... Nothin's gonna sit well

[Guest RyanCade]

I would love to understand your thought pattern bringing yo to that conclusion.

 

Of course, no one needs to be specifically asked to participate.

 

However, the Original Poster was quite upset about his feelings over an escort he barely knew. I tried to help the Original Poster by offering suggestions to him. Others from this site offered opinions and suggestions.

 

Much of my post was in a form of questions for the Original Poster to consider.

 

Given that my recommendations (questions) were addressed to the Original Poster, I found it odd that someone else (Greatness) would answer for him.

 

As to your response - -

 

("God do you have to be so ungrateful for his willingness to participate. UGH! GOOD MORNING!!") - - unquestionably brings into question the sincerity of other posts you made in other threads on this site.

 

Particularly, your post about your supposedly being stalked and in financial perils makes me wonder if that was sincere.

 

In subsequent posts, and in your post wherein you alleged being stalked, you appeared to be a friendly and reasonable sort of guy, however, your hostile comment about my being puzzled why someone else would answer questions not directed to them shines a light on another side of your personality.

 

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If you have any questions as to the sincerety of any of my posts you are welcome to call me and I will offer irrifutable evidence to reassure the validity to my claims. Where you found this post to bring into question my sincerity has got me. Sounds to me like you questioned it before and this was a good catalyst to express that. In my eyes there is no relation and it's a shot in the dark attempt to discredit me.

 

My post in this thread with regard to Greatness answering your questions to the original poster were not as pointed and hostel as you have apparently perceived them to be. I simply felt you snapped at Greatness and I have not to this day read anything Greatness wrote that was not kind or in some way trying to help. That is not to say he hasn't, as I am not one to pour through old posts, I can barely keep up with the current posts. And you seemed offended that he would feel he was entitles to answer YOUR questions to the ORIGINAL POSTER. The questions to the OP were still there and he was and is still welcome to answer them.

 

Those who are close to me and WERE THERE FOR ME during my times of need know what I went through was VERY serious and VERY REAL. I did not move out of my beautiful apartment and stop taking in call at home because it was gonna somehow benefit me. If you recall I came to the MC to say fairwell because I was leaving the business. I did receive an amazing but unexpected response and it literally saved my A**. to those people I am forever greatfull.

 

I harbor no ill will toward you and wish only the best for you as a fellow human being as perfectly imperfect as we all are.

 

I have always and will continue to offer my HONEST OPINIONS here in the MC. I have learned that honest posting attracts those I enjoy spending time with and keeps the others away.

 

Many Love me and many can't stand me. and for that I am grateful...

 

Respectfully

[Guest RyanCade]

You do not know anything about him.

 

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And somehow you do?

[JT Brooklyn]

IF you do it long enuff!

 

For those of us who have been involved in "The Wonderful World of The Working Guy" the INFATUATION is a Definite at least once!

 

Just be Thankful for all the kind words on Daddys and "Move On".

 

Because really that's all you can and will do as most of us have learned