When you miss your favorite escort

[Guest hardnights]

Hey guys, my favorite guy retired or left the scene a few years ago. I saw him once a month or around that for about four years. Now he's been gone or at least not seeing me for a few years. He was an amazing red headed Aussie -- I bet a few of you had him help carry your luggage too :-)

 

Anyways, too bad he's gone. Do you find it is hard to become a regular with a new guy? Sometimes I check out a few new men, but it isn't quite the same as with J.

[doitb4ugo]

Trying to have it all

 

hey hardnights, I am too new at this to have experienced what you are going through. I too have started seeing a local guy regularly..we are just comfortable together. A number of friends on this forum advised me to keep mixing up my escorts occasionally so that I have a number of different experiences as well as having a relationship with some other local working guys who I like in the very case that my regular guy leaves the area or leaves the business.

 

I can't tell you if it will work out in the end, because having your favorite escort leave the business is all too inevitable. I at least will not feel like I have to start over finding some guys to play with. I realize I'm trying to have it all but it doesn't hurt to try to have it all.

[JT Brooklyn]

Moving On!

 

"Working It" is a Biz Situation! Best not to forget that, for some it is easier than others!

 

It does get easier the longer you "Work It" with the Boys!

 

I have stayed in touch with only 1 Hunk over the years after he Retired.

 

But I am sure there are those who have kept Friendships going long after the "Biz Arrangement" has ended.

[LoveMidwest]

I'd seen an escort for 4 years regulaly. He retired and moved last year. We knew each other, so we still stay in touch. But I can't see him like I did before. We know there can be some relationship and friendship, but it is different from real one. I felt a kind of loss when he retired. I tried to look for my new favorite. Then I saw several guys and I now have the one. I took awhile, but the new guy is even better to fit to me. He is more intellectual and hotter...

I don't want to feel the loss again but I am addicted to him. What I learned from the experience was I should have two guys in local. I don't start this yet though.....

[cmennow]

I have a regular that I see and I can't even think what it would be like if he moved or retired. I've been seeing him for the past two years and it has been great. I know eventually he will move on. I occassionally try a new one here and there but the locals in my area are not what I am looking for.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I recently ended my meeting with my regular~~ It was time to move on. You will be fine. I hope you can get over him soon.

[cynicalflannelwearer]

It' not healthy to get too attached to these guys...

 

We have to remember that this is a business transaction, not a real relationship. It's all too easy to think these guys are actually interested in us as a person, but it's really all about the money for them. I know this may seem obvious, and has been said many times before, but keep a clear head and don't let your emotions or hard on get the best of you.I let it get the best of me one time, and one time only. Won't let it happen EVER again.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

Let's just say that they are doing their job. I don't want to say that they are all about money because it makes me sad and I don't think that is the case all the time. We don't ask our hair dressers to be our friends because they cut our hair well. BTW my hair looks terrible right now. Anyways, I know it hurts but the pain eventually goes away and we all be fine. Money doesn't buy us love or friendship.

[JT Brooklyn]

Let's just say that they are doing their job. I don't want to say that they are all about money because it makes me sad and I don't think that is the case all the time. We don't ask our hair dressers to be our friends because they cut our hair well. BTW my hair looks terrible right now. Anyways, I know it hurts but the pain eventually goes away and we all be fine. Money doesn't buy us love or friendship.

 

greatness Very True..BUT $$ can get ya some Great Memories!

[Guest greatness]

sure thing~~

 

You are right Brooklyn Guy~~ Anyways, I hope you are doing well. I need to make myself feel better. I think I will get a hair cut~~ Kisses and hugs~~

 

greatness Very True..BUT $$ can get ya some Great Memories!

[JT Brooklyn]

Great One...Back at Ya Big Guy!

[rocky]

What Happens When

 

Well I've been with an escort for 10 years. We both were younger (duh);

he 31 me 46 although according to escort rules you still advertise at least

5 years younger than you really are, come on we know that. Anyhow, I

wonder what happens when we both tire of each other; it's no longer

the sex but the companionship, what happens when? Do we part friends,

I'm not sure.

[Pegasus]

It's Not Always ALL ABOUT THE MONEY...

 

I don't think ALL escorts are just "in it for the money." That's like saying you do your job, whatever it is, just for the money. Hopefully, you also receive from your career 1) personal job satisfaction, 2) flexibility of schedule, 3) exciting travel opportunities, 4) meaningful relationships with colleagues and clients, 5) sense of enjoyment and purpose, 6) recognition for top-quality performance and many other intrinsic rewards. Likewise, I have hired a hand-full of first-class male escorts (several based here in Dallas and some just traveling through) who seemed to truly love their job and the intrinsically motivating benefits it afforded them well beyond the money. Sure, many are in it solely to make the almighty dollar. But it is unfair and inaccurate to cast that general characterization on ALL working guys.

[skynyc]

Plain and simple...

 

after reading this thread yesterday, I told my regular last night that he absolutely can never retire. We both chuckled. And then I said..."No, seriously...you can never retire." :^D

We met at Stellas about 12 years ago. And we love discussing the other escorts we like.

[Guest hardnights]

I hear ya. It is a business kind of thing, but it is easier to say that feel.

 

I had some of the best sex of my life with this guy. He was totally my type, had a perfect body. He was game for trying on underwear and showing off for me sometimes before we had sex. We had a great connection and I miss it.

[Damascene]

I've seen a number of escorts for a few years, but usually I have a main escort. Some have lasted two years, one lasted off and on ten years. It is hard to find a new main escort, so while most of my patronage goes to one escort, I see a few others to find a possible future replacement.

 

The best was one escort found a replacement for himself. It worked nicely.

 

It is possible to stay friends with them after they retire. You have to accept the new dynamic though it might be tempting to try and go back, it undermines the changed relationship.