Beyond sex.. The romance

[gp0560]

 

Perhaps I will try to verbalize it, but it won’t be easy as it is so enriching when it is possible to relate to an individual on several levels. First, there is a certain sense of delight that the guy exudes, which draws one into his world of enjoyment. In addition, while he certainly gives the impression of being a super hero, it is also heartening to know that he has the exact same hopes, dreams, fears, foibles, and aspirations as any other mere mortal… Yes… Sean is one of the gods who has come down from his perch on high to mingle with us mere mortals… However, unlike the flawed gods from Valhalla… and my Wagnerian analogy is certainly intentional… the larger than life Sean certainly can provide a leitmotiv to be emulated, developed, and repeated by the rest of those “working it” out there…

 

Actually, you are correct, it is impossible to verbalize what makes Sean (and I am sure a number of others) so special… so all you musicians out there think of the end of Wagner’s Ring Cycle where a fragment of the bold and brazen Siegfried motive appears which then evolves into that final glorious redemption theme which brings the work to a close… That is Sean. That passage always makes me shiver with ectstacy... and again that is Sean... and as I said, I am sure it describes a number of other quite special individuals out there as well...

 

Tomcat... thank you for starting this thread.

 

WhippedGuy,

 

Musically speaking, I myself would have said the Hallelujah Chorus, the last movement of Mahler's Second Symphony, or Nessun Dorma. To each his own, of course. In the end, however, bottom line, to get to the point, we must shoulder our load, face the facts, and say it's abs-solutely true that we share the a-pex in taste for Knighties.

[whipped guy]

WhippedGuy, Musically speaking, I myself would have said the Hallelujah Chorus, the last movement of Mahler's Second Symphony, or Nessun Dorma. To each his own, of course.

Good choices as well... but actually, musically speaking for our knight in shining armor I really should have chosen for its orgasmic crescendi... drum-roll please... the overture to Rossini's La Gazza Ladra.

[+ purplekow]

Ultimately, if you are hiring for longer periods of time a few words must be exchanged. I find, "pass me the lube" to be particularly charming and the always heartwarming: "if I could move, I would do that again only harder and for twice as long." is a particular favorite. What I find most attractive in a conversation with an escort, whether it be over dinner or over his back, is the ability to listen intently and then respond intelligentlyly (okay in those over the back conversations grunts may be considered intelligent replies). Sean, Romann, Steve Kesslar are definitely guys who involve themselves in the conversation. They seem authenticly interested. They also seem to be able to segue from speaking of everything to speaking little nothings in your ear without missing a beat.

[dapurplebear]

Good choices as well... but actually, musically speaking for our knight in shining armor I really should have chosen for its orgasmic crescendi... drum-roll please... the overture to Rossini's La Gazza Ladra.

 

consider these as well:

 

The end of Das Lied von der Erde - Mahler

Carmina Burana -- keep it going for the whole 50 minutes - no stopping

though, the others are good as welll..

[gp0560]

consider these as well:

 

The end of Das Lied von der Erde - Mahler

Carmina Burana -- keep it going for the whole 50 minutes - no stopping

though, the others are good as welll..

 

Into the Woods -- Happy Ever After (without "I wish.")

[Racketjock]

Tom,

 

Thanks for bringing the subject up. Certainly has brought forth some opinions. I am happy for you that you have made a connection and through that benefitted from sharing time with someone that has profoundly impacted you. I consider myself lucky to have done the same with AndrewD. I contacted him by a very fortuitous mistake and one that has changed my life. Needless to say, I have spent too many of the past years with some heavy baggage and issues to work through, the least of which is my feelings about sex and connecting with another man. Andrew helped me to realize that and although I don't believe I ever accurately articulated the effect our connection made has had on me, I consider him a special guy and I a VERY lucky man. He will forever mean something special to me, and whatever time we have had and hopefully get to spend together makes this cowboy a happy, happy man. Which reminds me, I need to give him a call.....

 

Thanks for sharing big guy!

[NYTomcat]

Racket. Thanks so much. I've taken some flack. None too bad for this post but sometimes other things are important to remember. Like the overall effect not just the momentary. AmdrewD huh. Hmmmmm

[+ sf westcoaster]

Tom, Thanks for starting this thread. You are fortunate to have established an escort - client relationship that goes beyond, but does not exclude, the physical aspects. I too, have been fortunate in finding an escort with whom I have a relationship that is many times more than sex. It would be inaccurate to describe the relationship as "boy friend", but certainly not wrong to say that it is a deep personal connection - a friendship that includes a sharing of our intimate thougths, our life experiences and a complete trust in each other. I could go on about the concern and care we have for and give to each other, but I think I have conveyed, as you have that a client - escort relationship can be more than physical.

 

The lyrcis you have sent along to Romann are 100% appropriate for me to send to David, with whom I have just completed an eighteen day Safari in Tanzania! Heaps of thanks to you David for being the special person you are.

[NYTomcat]

OK SF. I just knew you guys were out there. 18 day safari how incredible OK im jealous. How great for you both. Some day. You should have seen what just a few days in NYC took lol

[Guest EthanKing]

Response to Beyond Sex: The Romance

 

After reading this amazing post, I really began to ponder my life as an International Escort. I want to begin by thanking the author. I commend your courage in bringing up this very pink elephant in the room. I admire courage, independent thinking and not being afraid to go against the grain. Kudos.

 

You know early in my career, I struggled with "image" and what others thought, perceived as real and most likely gossiped about on message boards, much like this one. I took it very personal that more often than not, my words, feelings and emotions were dismissed by those to whom I gave them, simply because I was an escort. I struggled to find logic in the school of thinking that I was not capable of real emotions, just because of my career. "Am I not still a human too? Are my feelings not worthy of the same respect and tender care as yours?" Why just because you think everything I say is empty, spoken only to make you feel better, with little regards to my actual feelings? These are the questions that I pondered and struggled with.

 

Some 3 years later, I have a much wiser, realistic outlook on the topic. I no longer seek acceptance or approval in order to validate my own feelings. The fact is this: Yes, escorts are actors by many rights. We are expected to look perfect, smile perfect, sit perfect, act perfect. It is part of the package that our reality is supposed to change by the hour and we are to keep business the business. My escort mentor in my early days, warned me repeatedly, "Clients are clients. They are your job. Protect yourself and your emotions."

 

Today, I object to that opinion. I want to know where it is written that we aren't allowed to develop real emotions and feelings and connections with those who we meet? Why must we be so guarded that we deny ourselves and the client the beauty of true and real emotions. Just because naturally I have to be diverse enough to always at minimum appear to love any situation afforded me by a client, it is so much more meaningful for all, whe I actually am enjoying myself. Just because it is expected doesn't mean that my feelings aren't real when they do happen.

 

I feel safe in saying that most escorts would probably agree we all hope to one day fall in love, get married, have a piked fence. My clients have been the gateway to many of my most precious memorable moments. Though it is our "job" to care and do and be what others want us to do and be, doesn't mean we can't genuinely love what we do, who we meet and ultimately who we connect with. To me, I feel blessed, chosen, to be one of a select few who have enough faith to know that loving what I do today will lead me to where I am meant to be tomorrow. To think I didn't genuinely get to experience my own emotions within these experiences....this life.....now that would be a tragedy.

 

We can't dismiss "people" or faith or hope simply because of what we are "supposed" to think they are. Just because of what they do, where they live, who they are or the color of their skin. Do we not define those characteristics we refelct? Surely we don't let those mostly unfounded perceptions define who we are. REAL HAPPENS and it can be beautiful. Cheers to all.........

 

Ethan