Escort too busy ??

[Guest Eduardo]

After reading several glowing reviews of a new talent in Charlotte, I e-mailed him regarding an overnight in either Charlotte, or Atlanta. I included a recent face pic and my (private) cell phone number. I received a prompt e-mail reply, explaining that he was terribly busy with personal and job 'issues', and he promised a return call as "soon as the dust had settled," no less than a few days. As the proposed date was some weeks away, I put it on the back burner. Now, several weeks have gone by without an email or returned call. While I'm hardly a pro at this, I've enjoyed spending time with some of the highest rated guys here. This is a first.

 

What's the message here .... his way of saying "no thanks." Is this the common method for "sending the 'no' message" to prospective clients? I'm not unreasonable; I've been told "no" several times in 68 years. Is this routine, discourteous, rude, unprofessional, typical, whaaaat ..?? Help me here, guys.

 

Thanks!

[jackcali]

I think there are two possibilities. One is that there's a message in his not calling you. The second is that he forgot to call you. In my experience (not limited to escorts but in all sorts of business and personal endeavors), the second one is more likely than the first. It's easy to 'lose' emails after a few days, especially if you live on an iphone or blackberry.

 

Did you try contacting him a second time? Why not do that and see what happens? If I were you, I'd much rather know that he was saying 'no' to me than to assume it.

[Guest TBinCHI]

I would contact him again, remind him that your proposed dates are coming up and see what happens. Does he have a phone number in his ad? Perhaps a phone call would work better than email.

[whipped guy]

Did you try contacting him a second time? Why not do that and see what happens? If I were you, I'd much rather know that he was saying 'no' to me than to assume it.

 

At this point I usually send a "perhaps my email fell through the cracks" message and take it from there... if he fails to respond it would not have worked anyway... If he does you'll hopefully know where he is coming from and you can take it from there.

[Mark Gordon]

Pick up the phone

 

He's probably either lost track of your email or is going through some kind of crisis which is interfering with his ability to cope with escorting. A quick phone call is likely to tell you more than we can.

[Boston Guy]

I would contact him again, remind him that your proposed dates are coming up and see what happens. Does he have a phone number in his ad? Perhaps a phone call would work better than email.

 

I agree.

 

BG

[Guest Spanky]

I've only hired a handful of times (pathetic, I know, but we've all got to start somewhere) but this actually happened to me. I emailed an escort who almost immediately replied and said he had gone out of town on personal business but would email when he returned. I just let it go because I was traveling. He finally did reply a month or so later with an overly apologetic email. Said he had just lost track of all the emails (I guess it was a family emergency - I'd lose track of emails too). I actually ended up meeting with him next time I was in his city and was glad I did because it was a great time.

 

So I vote to email him again. Worst case you don't hear from him, but best case you end up having a great time with a new friend.

[devonhunter]

He's probably just a frazzled ninny at the moment. xo

[Romann]

All you have to lose is he will say no or simply not reply. Give it a try!

[Guest Eduardo]

I decided to swallow my pride and "go for the answer." I emailed him and he promptly replied, including a sincere apology and his cell phone number. I called him after lunch this afternoon, and we had a delightful conversation. It seems that both of our worlds are wobbling a bit off-axis right now; it felt like we really clicked and I'm delighted! I'm going to email proposed dates and he'll check his calendar (as he travels often). As the old adage goes, and as you gentlemen reminded me, "it never hurts to ask." Based on his reviews and our phone conversation today, I'm anticipating an excellent visit with a sincere, thoughtful guy who just happens to be a bit frazzled right now. xo

[whipped guy]

...it felt like we really clicked and I'm delighted! ...I'm anticipating an excellent visit with a sincere, thoughtful guy who just happens to be a bit frazzled right now.

It is always heartening to make a connection on a level other than the obvious... It is also moving to realize that many seemingly “larger than life” escorts have the same problems, fears, dreams, hopes, joys, and desires as we “normal” folk. Some of my best hookups have occurred when we were able to commiserate about similar trials and tribulations. On more than one occasion guys have even bared their breasts in the figurative sense and asked for advice. Conversely it is always great to discuss and revel in the enjoyment of a shared pastime.

 

I get good vibes and especially since you refer to the guy as being "sincere and thoughtful"... those usually end up being keepers. I hope this pans out for you.

[Guest TBinCHI]

Please let us know how it turns out! I think we are all excited and pleased for you. Good luck!