Is it just me?.........I just canceled, was that the right decision?

[GoodFella69]

You did the right thing, Ryan.

 

Ryan,

You were right on. If he disrespects you on the phone, there's a strong chance he will also disrespect you during the appointment. Don't look back and keep up the great work you're doing. Clients and escorts must treat one another with the utmost respect.

 

By the way: when you cancelled, did you tell the client "why" you were declining the appointment? If so, how did he respond?

[whipped guy]

Hmm, I think you may have meant "genteel" unless, of course, you are also into water sports, as a gentile sprinkling water is a whole different ball of wax!

 

"Gentle" also works.

 

LOL!!!! Yes, "genteel" would work, but I really did mean to type "gentle"...

However, I think "gentile" (could it have been a Freudian slip?!?!) is much funnier...

 

PS: It just goes to prove that "Spell Check" is not infallible.

[Guest Eduardo]

From a client perspective, I belive it was the right decision. You deserve respect - this was not respect. Don't look back!

[Guest PWIT]

À la carte!

 

or is it prix fixe

[JT Brooklyn]

So this is soomething I have come across several times and it just doesn't sit well and I can't seem to see it in a different light no matter how much I think about it.. I just booked an appointment with a guy who asked me "Do you suck cock and get fucked?" The answer to that is yes but after I hung up once again the language he chose to use made me uncomfortable and I just canceled the appointment. Does that not seem disrespectful at best to address someone you don't know like that? would you guys book an appointment with this guy. I seek the opinions of escorts and Clients. Am I being too touchy?

 

As others have said..We all prefer the "Do you get into Mutual Oral and like to Flip Flop or Bottom" Approach!

 

The guy did sound more like he was talking to a Working Girl on 11th Ave for $50 from a Car!

[orbital sander]

However, I think "gentile" (could it have been a Freudian slip?!?!) is much funnier...

 

Goyim sprinkling of water would have been over the top...

[whipped guy]

Goyim sprinkling of water...

 

Yes! A "goyim spritz" would have been way over the top!

[Dave]

i've found that sprinkling of water from goyim can be as hot as from jews. now, if they're catholic, you run the risk of slut remorse afterwards. but i'm a professional, and can deal with that

 

as for the original post...

when i teach my class How to ***** i always emphasize the "go with your gut" strategy as the bottom line. but i also like to stress different ways to talk about sex. a very effective way is for one of the parties to express himself in terms of what he likes to do. that guy was not, as far as i can tell, saying "hey man, will you suck my dick? and can i fuck you?” instead, he was asking about you and your activities. but i think the WAY he said it - with his next line something like “how much do you charge” - might have been the red flag for you. because although he didn’t technically ask “what do you charge to get fucked up the ass?” he effectively linked the two things, sex and money.

 

if he had structured the conversation in a different way, clearly sectioning out the two topics (“what activity do you get into” and later, “what do you charge for your time”) i would probably have talked with the guy. i am happy to tell someone on the phone what i like to do (ie, “i like to get fucked, i also like to top... i’m totally into oral, and i also get off on kink and fetish.”) but when i hear something weird - like what you heard - i might’ve replied with “hey man, i don’t talk like that on the phone. i mean, i don’t know you... i don’t know if you’re a cop, or what...”

 

when i do that, virtually everyone on the other end of the phone says, “i’m not a cop!”

 

yet it’s during the time they’re saying those four words, the more clever ones will realize what i mean. and they’ll re-adjust their speech so we can continue our conversation, modified to fit my needs as well as theirs.

 

if they don’t get it, i write them off the way you did - as either a possible set up, or a person who is just not ready to see me.

 

i very much view escorting as a learning opportunity for both clients and ‘scorts alike, and that’s why i try, in that little police discussion, to help them learn the finer art of speaking with escorts. but if they can’t pick up on my cue at that point, then i wish them luck in hiring, tell them i don’t think we’re a match, and move on with my life. yes, it’s an appointment that i’ve lost, but it’s peace of mind i’ve still kept.

 

RyanCade, i think you made the right decision.

[Guest RyanCade]

Thanks!!

 

Thank you all for your contributions to the thread... I really love the fact that I can post here and get responses from all of you to help sort things out. a lotto of 500+ active members. what an incredible resource. It helps a great deal.. Thanks Again Guys;)

[mansniffing]

So this is soomething I have come across several times and it just doesn't sit well and I can't seem to see it in a different light no matter how much I think about it.. I just booked an appointment with a guy who asked me "Do you suck cock and get fucked?" The answer to that is yes but after I hung up once again the language he chose to use made me uncomfortable and I just canceled the appointment. Does that not seem disrespectful at best to address someone you don't know like that? would you guys book an appointment with this guy. I seek the opinions of escorts and Clients. Am I being too touchy?

 

You have to go by your gut feeling. The same goes for both client and escort.

 

Here's an adage on wisdom:

Pain makes man think.

Thinking makes man wise.

Wisdom makes life endurable.

[Guest RyanCade]

I like it...

 

I like this A LOT...

 

 

Here's an adage on wisdom:

Pain makes man think.

Thinking makes man wise.

Wisdom makes life endurable.

[Guest KevinMead]

Cancell right away: that is your right

 

As professional Escorts, we must keep a professionalism of grammer, dress and higher education at all times. You had every right to cancell that session. When a client makes a appointment with a escort or massure; The client has the right to cancel ANYTIME he/she wants. I've been a escort for over 3 years now, I have never had a bad complaint because I know how to treat people and speak and talk with people. Any idiot can do tricks for 60, but a real escort will take their time to get to know you, speak with you, become true friends with you. I would never book a session with a ecort who just blurrted out those words.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So this is soomething I have come across several times and it just doesn't sit well and I can't seem to see it in a different light no matter how much I think about it.. I just booked an appointment with a guy who asked me "Do you suck cock and get fucked?" The answer to that is yes but after I hung up once again the language he chose to use made me uncomfortable and I just canceled the appointment. Does that not seem disrespectful at best to address someone you don't know like that? would you guys book an appointment with this guy. I seek the opinions of escorts and Clients. Am I being too touchy?

[JoeyBryant]

Any idiot can do tricks for 60, but a real escort will take their time to get to know you, speak with you, become true friends with you. I would never book a session with a ecort who just blurrted out those words.

 

Apologies if you weren't meaning it this way, but I dont think someone should be considered an idiot just because they happen to charge 60. Price is not a barometer of how well an escort can fellowship with a client. Around this time last year I was charging $220, and now I'm charging $180 yet I'm even better than I was back then. And if someone was to decide to charge $60 just to strip and jerk off in front of someone...that doesn't make them less of a person. Nor does that make the client a 'trick'.

 

As for the OP...I hear ya. The guy who called you was a timewaster. I just know them the moment they speak. There's some guys who do say some explicit things, but 99.99% of the time they dont. Sometimes I find myself trying to pry more info from them!

 

Whats funny too, is TW all say the same shit. Its like, I just heard that line last week, give me a break. A bit off topic, but last Sunday some dumbass called me, asked about my services, and then said "you're not a psycho are you?" I hung up, and he called right back...bad, bad choice.

 

The words that followed were enough to send the pigeons flying. Usually I ignore em, but anyone who calls me in the morning with nonsense is forfeiting all mercy.

[Guest wl22]

Reasons

 

Ryan,

Everyone should go with their gut feelings, is you feel uncomfortable then go with that. On the other hand some people are very tactless as I'm sure that you already know. But I still believe in going with your gut instinct:)