Is an orgasm worth it?

[Guest gaybor]

Is It worth the possible STD's, ostracism from friends and family If they found out that we hire male escorts, divorce, loss of your livelihood, etc.

What about the dent it may or may not make in your pocketbook, or the possible loss of self respect and self esteem that comes from having to pay for sex, um, excuse me, time.

Think about it. All the possible repercussions, for what amounts to getting off.

BTW,I am NOT a troll.Just a handsome guy trying to make sense of all the craziness.

[+ Charlie]

All of the outcomes you mention in your first sentence are just as likely--or unlikely--if you have sex with any man, not just an escort. Some of them may result from sex with a woman. Are they worth it? It depends on a lot of things.

[+ honcho]

Logic versus compulsion

 

An interpretation of Darwinian natural selection might prompt one to believe that

millions of years of natural selection have favoured those creatures who are compelled to have sex.

 

There are indeed many practical reasons for humans to eschew sexual contact; however many aspects of human behavior are not conducted through reason or logic.

 

A recent nobel prize in economics was awarded to a fellow who demonstrated that most consumers made choices based on emotion rather than logic.

 

When I was in college, I read an engaging book in a class entitled "The Structure of Scientific Revolutions", in which the observation was made that although (mathematical) proofs are highly logical, the manner in which they are discovered are anything but ...

 

There are many contradictory aspects to my own psyche - people describe me as a nice sweet guy but I sure enjoy taking my cruelty out on a leash for a walk when I have torrid consensual sex (and half the time the cruelty is directed to myself), yet I try to live my life in such a way that I'm not ashamed of what I do, and try not to "frighten the horses".

 

Might I suggest that "Making peace with yourself" is a more productive concept than "Making sense of ..." ?

 

Best Regards,

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

2 cents....

 

gaybor, as Charlie has aptly pointed out, your question is so broad and has so many contexts, it is nearly impossible to answer with any satisfaction.

 

What I can offer is this:

-not all encounters are about orgasm. Many, for sure, but not all. If you can reframe your thinking you'll maybe be better able to reframe your question, and get a better answer (if that's really what you're looking for).

 

-Fear seems to be an under-lying concern that you have expressed. In my experience, being with an escort can provide you with many postive benefits....not the least of which is a journey of self-discovery that should ultimately have favourable outcomes on how you view and interact with the world around you.

 

I would, however, suggest that if you have doubts that hiring an escort can be a beneficial experience, then I suggest you don't. If all you are prepared to see are negatives, I suspect that is all you will see. You need to be open to the possibility of a positive result in order for one to occur.

 

In my experience, the "risk" provided significant reward, and I would hate to be "stuck" in a life not of my choosing, and afraid to take steps that could help lead to happiness.

 

On a side note, I generally stay clear of self-professed "handsome" men. Frankly, it's up to me to determine if you're handsome or not. It's not up to you...how do you know what I find handsome? To me it suggests a conceit that is in no way attractive.

 

Hope this helps

[Guest zipperzone]

For those of us who were waiting for his "third" post - well now we have it.

 

Is it "good" or "interesting" or merely "garbage"? You tell me.

[NYTomcat]

For those of us who were waiting for his "third" post - well now we have it.

 

Is it "good" or "interesting" or merely "garbage"? You tell me.

 

garbage, I like the feeling of I told you so:rolleyes:

[gregkidman]

Gaybor is a boor.

 

garbage, I like the feeling of I told you so:rolleyes:

 

I concur, Gaybor is a boor.

[MsGuy]

"BTW, I am NOT a troll. Just a handsome guy trying to make sense of all the craziness."

 

Deej, have you considered the possibility that TaylorKy is spending his time in exile brushing up on his typing skills.

[+ sf westcoaster]

I do not believe that the intent of gaybor's post is either good or interesting, therefore it is for me garbage!

[orbital sander]

Total crap as far as I am concerned....Reminds me of a religious wacko trying to slowly draw people into a debate.

[Guest RyanCade]

Gaybor is not very interesting

 

I do not believe that the intent of gaybor's post is either good or interesting, therefore it is for me garbage!

 

I concur..... His comments are about as relevant and useful to this form as the following, why is he still here?

 

Hey Santa claus you cunt!

 

Where's me fucking bike?

 

I've unwrapped all this other junk and there's nothing that I like.

 

I wrote you a fucking letter and I come to see you twice

 

Ya worn out geriatric fart, you forgot me fucking bike.

 

If I wanted a pair of bloody thongs, I'd have bloody asked.

 

And this cowboy suit and ping pong set you can shove right up your arse!

 

You've stuffed me bloody order up

 

It's enough to make you spew

 

And I'm not the only one who's snakey

 

Me sisters dirty too!

 

(female voice)

Hey santa clause you cunt!

 

Where's me fucking pram?

 

You promised me you'd bring me one, you remember who I am.

 

'Cause I'm the little girl who you made sit right on your hand

 

I'll give you fucking ho ho ho

 

You forgot me fucking pram

 

(male voice)

Next time I come to see ya, I'm gonna punch you in the guts

 

And I'll let your fucking reihndeer go and kick Rudolf in the nuts!

 

You just wait 'till next year, when you go to that store

 

And me and me little sister, come stomping through the door

 

And we'll say, yeah you wait for it

 

Hey mums and dads you smell his breath and check his bloodshot eyes

 

And don't listen to him boys and girls 'cause he tells fucking lies

 

He's just a piss tank and a pervert, and he's not even very bright

 

'Cause the old fucking wanker Forgot me fucking bike.

 

You wait you old cunt, I'm gonna dob you in

 

Tell me old man on you, he's gonna punch your fucking lights out

 

"I saw mummy sucking santa clause"

[MsGuy]

Hey, kid...

http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:8I8v7Q080CcDeM%3Ahttp://barnahang.freeblog.hu/files/santa_fuck_christmas.jpg

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Ryan, you wouldn't have a link to a video clip of the song would you?

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P.S. Gaybor's trolling for sure.

[Guest gaybor]

Total crap as far as I am concerned....Reminds me of a religious wacko trying to slowly draw people into a debate.

 

I am NOT a religious wacko.I don't even believe in god.

And why Is what I am asking and discussing total crap? Is It because it goes against your feelings on the matter? Too bad, so sad man.

Oh, and what are your feelings on the matter?

Oh, that's right, I am a troll, huh.Whatever.

[orbital sander]

voilà

[Guest RyanCade]

Hey, kid...

http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:8I8v7Q080CcDeM%3Ahttp://barnahang.freeblog.hu/files/santa_fuck_christmas.jpg

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Ryan, you wouldn't have a link to a video clip of the song would you?

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P.S. Gaybor's trolling for sure.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPIbLManOzs This is the youtube link

 

Is gaybor old enough to be on this site?

[+ deej]

Deej, have you considered the possibility that TaylorKy is spending his time in exile brushing up on his typing skills.

 

No, but in just three posts he's managed to bring out the absolute worst in a lot of posters and he hasn't posted anything that's fundamentally wrong.

 

There are more tactful ways to say the emperor has no clothes, but he's naked either way.

[Guest gaybor]

Is gaybor old enough to be on this site?

 

The question is,Ryan,are you old enough to sell your ass to the highest bidder ,and If so, why? Because you can?

Oh and I may look and act young, but make no mistake, I am old enough to be on this site.

Am I not using enough big words for all you pseudo intellectuals discussing the joys of paying someone to get off?

Get real!

 

deej sez: You were up to, but not over, the line until you raise the specter of underage sex trade. That crosses our zero tolerance boundary. Thank you for playing.

[+ purplekow]

The first time I read this thread, I ignored it and hoped everyone else would do the same. It seems Gaybor may or may not be gay but he is a bore, a boar and a boor. Now where is that ignore button.

[MsGuy]

Thanks for the link, Ryan. The video was even whackier than I had hoped.

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Question to those more experienced than I: If we talk about the troll but not to him, does that constitute feeding?

[KMEM]

MsGuy-

 

Of course it does.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Guest RyanCade]

Thanks for the link, Ryan. The video was even whackier than I had hoped.

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Question to those more experienced than I: If we talk about the troll but not to him, does that constitute feeding?

 

I was just discussing that with a friend/client. We agreed that it was not feeding him, but rather an appropriate response. Further no response is not appropriate when boing attacked in ones own home. Though I may not have more experience.. :-)

[+ deej]

Question to those more experienced than I: If we talk about the troll but not to him, does that constitute feeding?

 

Yes, absolutely.

 

If you really feel the need to reply to a troll, play the pizza game!

 

This is an ancient trick from the early days of Usenet.

 

Any time a flamer/troll posts, do not react. DO NOT REACT IN ANY WAY! That's what they want! Just start talking about pizza. Toppings. Thin crust vs. thick. Delivery vs. DiGiorno... it doesn't matter. Just talk about pizza.

 

If only a couple of posters do it, others will pick up on it unbidden.

 

It will completely frustrate the troll (particularly if nothing is ever said in public about WHY we're talking about pizza -- kinda blew that here), and it can actually fetch up some pretty interesting conversations. ;-)

[justaguy]

Short answer: Is it worth it? Hell yeah!

[Guest RyanCade]

Thanks once again Deej.

 

Yes, absolutely.

 

If you really feel the need to reply to a troll, play the pizza game!

 

This is an ancient trick from the early days of Usenet.

 

Any time a flamer/troll posts, do not react. DO NOT REACT IN ANY WAY! That's what they want! Just start talking about pizza. Toppings. Thin crust vs. thick. Delivery vs. DiGiorno... it doesn't matter. Just talk about pizza.

 

If only a couple of posters do it, others will pick up on it unbidden.

 

It will completely frustrate the troll (particularly if nothing is ever said in public about WHY we're talking about pizza -- kinda blew that here), and it can actually fetch up some pretty interesting conversations. ;-)

 

Thanks Deej, that makes perfect sense.  I kind of thought that's what we were doing, but I now see the difference. The road to success is always under construction. There is always room to grow. Lesson learned, I will follow that advice next time. Pizza pizza pizza Yumm

[Guest TBinCHI]

Thanks Deej, that makes perfect sense.  I kind of thought that's what we were doing, but I now see the difference. The road to success is always under construction. There is always room to grow. Lesson learned, I will follow that advice next time. Pizza pizza pizza Yumm

 

I love pepperoni. And let's face it, we all love sausage.