A Regular Lowers His Rate

[+ newatthis]

...and another was canceled on the moment he mentioned a rate increase. both were mentioned in this thread...

That was me. To clarify: this was someone I had never met or hired before; there was no prior relationship. I made a decision to explore hiring him based on his ad, one component of which was his rate. I dislike haggling over rates (one reason I never pick up the phone to call someone whose rate is listed as "ask me"). The fact that he was tardy in updating his ad and/or expected to be able to negotiate a higher rate on the fly made me worry about his professionalism in other ways.

 

The equation would be very different with someone I knew well and had seen several times. Ryan is correct (for me) that even then, asking for a higher fee could lead to hurt feelings and damage the relationship. That's reflective of my own personality and hiring style; I don't hold those up as universals. In my case, the only reason I would be a regular with someone is because there's been a connection on multiple levels, and the rate change would have to be approached in way which acknowledges that.

[+ newatthis]

...I will reiterate my desire not to be offensive, but i will be honest about how I feel and just hope it will be taken in a non offensive way...

Ryan, I appreciate your honesty and have never been offended by anything you've written, whether I agree or not. What counts for me is your thoughtfulness, self-awareness, and insight.

[JT Brooklyn]

Ryan...My Comment about "Sticking his New Rate without Lube" was made justifiably by the fact that..He "Cancelled" 15 mins before "Showtime" and then had the nerve to say IF you want to Resked you NOW have to pay a higher Rate!

 

This was not our "First Hangout" which really pissed me off! He has since Semi-Retired and I have wished him well!

[Guest RyanCade]

That was me. To clarify: this was someone I had never met or hired before; there was no prior relationship. I made a decision to explore hiring him based on his ad, one component of which was his rate. I dislike haggling over rates (one reason I never pick up the phone to call someone whose rate is listed as "ask me"). The fact that he was tardy in updating his ad and/or expected to be able to negotiate a higher rate on the fly made me worry about his professionalism in other ways.

 

The equation would be very different with someone I knew well and had seen several times. Ryan is correct (for me) that even then, asking for a higher fee could lead to hurt feelings and damage the relationship. That's reflective of my own personality and hiring style; I don't hold those up as universals. In my case, the only reason I would be a regular with someone is because there's been a connection on multiple levels, and the rate change would have to be approached in way which acknowledges that.

 

Fair enough, I understand that postion completely and would have felt it unprofessional as well., didn't get the fact you had never previously met.

[Guest RyanCade]

Ryan...My Comment about "Sticking his New Rate without Lube" was made justifiably by the fact that..He "Cancelled" 15 mins before "Showtime" and then had the nerve to say IF you want to Resked you NOW have to pay a higher Rate!

 

This was not our "First Hangout" which really pissed me off! He has since Semi-Retired and I have wished him well!

 

Again, clarification means everything, Point well taken and understood, I don't believe in raising rates on regular clients it's a practice I would never consider. .

[Guest zipperzone]

I don't have a problem with an escort raising his rates - if he does it in what I consider to be a business-like way.

 

I once had an escort that I had been seeing on a fairly regular basis. I always paid him the same rate as when I first started seeing him. After one session, while I was paying him, he mentioned that as of the start of the following month, he was raising his rates by $25.

 

That to me was a fair way of doing it. Politely giving his client due notice.

 

If you have been seeing an escort for several years at the same rate, and his current rate is much higher - every heard of inflation? - it is unrealistic to expect to be exempt from paying him his new rate. If you went to the grocery market where you always shopped, and found the price of mayonnaise had gone up 20%, how successful would you be if you demanded to pay the previous price because, after all, "I've been buying this mayo for years and I should still be entitled to the same price"? Dream on.......