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[Guest webdaddy69]

Most men who are hobbyists should know that you never fall in love with an escort. We are here to provide financial stability and you are here to provide fantasy fulfillment. -Simple as that

 

WD Now I have got to get some work done today!!!!!

[Guest Paul-Dallastopnoaklawn]

Are You Being Served?

 

The lady in the front row doesn't look like she agrees but thanks! I am so happy~~~

 

Kind of off subject, but,........

 

Greatness,

 

If you don't know who "The lady in the front row" is or what that picture is from, you should click on this http://tv.blinkx.com/show/are-you-being-served/KYrwxiq0rgMfhTl9 and go see what you have missed! It was/is a totally hilarious, British sitcom called "Are You Being Served?"

[Guest zipperzone]

Kind of off subject, but,........

 

Greatness,

 

If you don't know who "The lady in the front row" is or what that picture is from, you should click on this http://tv.blinkx.com/show/are-you-being-served/KYrwxiq0rgMfhTl9 and go see what you have missed! It was/is a totally hilarious, British sitcom called "Are You Being Served?"

 

 

Sadly the lady in the back row recently passed away and most of the rest of the cast are also deceased. These sitcoms are still playing on my local TV stations and they must be close to 35 yrs old by now.

[xxxdude]

Good thing this topic had been brought-up.

 

I wonder is it not really possible for an escort to fall inlove with a client??or somehow nurture or nourish a relationship? Sometimes we do meet our "partner" in the most strange way. In the course of time, feelings do get involve and develop inevitably. It may not be LOVE, but it could be the feeling of FRIENDSHIP, that some escorts are having a hard time to accept. Well, ofcourse clients are aware that escorts already blocked themselves from developing this kind of interaction with a client. However, actions are sometimes being noted as otherwise. Escorts are only human, they too have emotions and could "fall inlove" with whoever the person will be. it may be on this business or outside of it. Having said that, as for the clients, learn how to control your emotions. We should know where to put our limits, so that in the end, we wouldnt get upset and hurt.

 

I have a common friend who fell inlove with an escort. I guess the escort was popular in Los Angeles. Despite all the BAD incidents that occured between them (including the humiliating, degrading and cursing statements that the escort had uttered), arguments and fighting , they kept and keep on seeing each other, regularly until now. And for me, that is really bizarre.

 

My common friend was rushed in the hospital caused the escort tried to kill him by choking him to death cause he didnt give a big tip. This is a true story, I even saw the medical records that he got from the hospital. He didnt file any charges or case towards this escort, caused he said, he dont want to ruin the escorts business. And he doesnt want to see the escort behind bars , cause he said, HE'S INLOVE with the escort.

 

After this horrible experienced that he had, their encounter still continues. And I guess the escort is already abusing the kindness of my common friend. Since he had told the escort that He's inlove with him, the escort keeps on demanding on so much things, like, 500-600 per hour, buy me this and that, etc. And just recently, the escort asked for a new phone.

 

ok, i wouldnt give anymore further details. So for everyone, just be super cautious. And for those escorts that has a good heart, thumbs up guys!

 

And please before you say a word, think twice first.

 

I just hope my common friend will wake up on the reality that it'll take a lifetime before an escort would definitely fall inlove with a client. Atleast in my own opinion.

[jackcali]

What a horrible story, xxxdude. I agree that we never know how or why we fall in love, and that we can't always control it, and sometimes we fall in love with the wrong person. Whether your friend loves the escort or not, he is in a dangerous and abusive relationship that he needs to escape from immediately. Support services and other resources for battered men in these kinds of relationships are not as accessible or as easy to find as those for battered women, but they do exist. You should encourage your friend to seek out those resources and get help.

[xxxdude]

I guess he's really inlove with that guy since he doesn't care if they'll have sex or not, what's important for him is the happiness of the guy. Which is kinda great yet so stupid as well. He's happy by simply seeing or talking to d escort, knowing if the guy was fine and all that stuff. Oh well, we told him, there is someone out there who's more deserving of your care, concern and love. But still at the end of d day, my friends decision will the one that'll only matter.

[xxxdude]

What a horrible story, xxxdude. I agree that we never know how or why we fall in love, and that we can't always control it, and sometimes we fall in love with the wrong person. Whether your friend loves the escort or not, he is in a dangerous and abusive relationship that he needs to escape from immediately. Support services and other resources for battered men in these kinds of relationships are not as accessible or as easy to find as those for battered women, but they do exist. You should encourage your friend to seek out those resources and get help.

 

 

I guess he's really inlove with that guy since he doesn't care if they'll have sex or not, what's important for him is the happiness of the guy. Which is kinda great yet so stupid as well. He's happy by simply seeing or talking to d escort, knowing if the guy was fine and all that stuff. Oh well, we told him, there is someone out there who's more deserving of your care, concern and love. But still at the end of d day, my friends decision will the one that'll only matter.

[+ nycman]

I would argue that what your "common friend" is experiencing

has nothing to do with love and everything to do with being

in an abusive relationship. He needs professional help and if

your a true friend you'll help him get it.

[GoodFella69]

Update: Resolution?

 

Hey Devon,

 

Here's hoping you are doing well. Just curious if you have had an opportunity to address (or resolve) the situation with your "L-word client" which prompted your original posting. Were you able to employ any of the advice/suggestions provided here? Hopefully, this dilemma has a positive resolution for you and your client. Take care.

[xxxdude]

I would argue that what your "common friend" is experiencing

has nothing to do with love and everything to do with being

in an abusive relationship. He needs professional help and if

your a true friend you'll help him get it.

 

I totally respect your opinion the same way we respect his choice. People learn from their experiences and we can't just simply shut them from doing their choices. Having said that, each of us are responsible for our own actions. As friends we can't dictate what they need or he needs to do! They may seek an advise and we could give it to them, yet at the end if the day, they still have the last say on the matter.

 

I wouldn't blame him for standing firm on his chosen endeavor, if he's happy, then who are we to blame and deprive him from what makes him happy. We know along the way, he'll absolutely learn and say stop! - it's really easy for us to say what needs to be done and to do, but once we're on the situation ourselves, then I know it'll be hard as well.

 

My common friend knows what he's doing. And we are confident that he'll be able to pull himself up from all these. - if it wasn't love That he's feeling, then I don't know what to call it anymore. atleast in my own opinion.

[devonhunter]

Hey Devon,

 

Here's hoping you are doing well. Just curious if you have had an opportunity to address (or resolve) the situation with your "L-word client" which prompted your original posting. Were you able to employ any of the advice/suggestions provided here? Hopefully, this dilemma has a positive resolution for you and your client. Take care.

 

 

I asked him delicately what he meant, and I feel comfortable saying it back once or twice in the course of an overnight. He says he meant it as "friendship," but I am not totally convinced that's completely true; however, when he says it and I don't, he corners me about it. So I have told him what I mean by it in saying it back, and that has provided a tenuous (though not totally satisfactory) resolution. I am still decidedly uneasy about it, but as long as I am saying it back within the context of a friendship comment it seems to be okay. I wish it hadn't come up.

[+ nycman]

....however, when he says it and I don't, he corners me about it.

 

That doesn't sound healthy.

 

But I'm guessing you knew that already.

 

Thanks for sharing the follow up. Hope every thing

turns out well, but I'm betting this will end in tears.

[AdamSmith]

I am still decidedly uneasy about it, but as long as I am saying it back within the context of a friendship comment it seems to be okay. I wish it hadn't come up.

 

You make an important point. If the client is seeking genuine friendship from you, parallel to or intertwined with your contractual relationship, does that seem any less fraught with danger than if he were seeking romance?

 

I've built what I think are genuine friendships with 1, maybe 2, escorts. Alongside ongoing sex for pay. To work, and not to bleed over into pathology, it requires high conscious attention from both parties. As with psychotherapy, the energies put into that attention can be exhausting. But the insights gained can be pretty rewarding. Mutually, in my experience.