Things you would have done differently?

[socalboy2283]

I've been wanting to start escorting for a long time now and the time has finally seemed about ripe for the taking so I'm in the process of setting everything up. Now I have a question, escorts/and even clients, are there any things you would have done differently when you first entered the biz?

 

Thanks guys

[Kevin Slater]

There is at least one thread on here about phone numbers, the general consensus (though I disagree) is that you want a separate number for work purposes. You can search for that thread for the arguments in favor.

 

My first concern is about the name you chose. Your name is your first opportunity to brand yourself: Bobby Tubesox sets up a very different expectation than Rocco Steele. I say pick a first and last name; that just strikes me as more professional and perhaps even personable. Do not hamstring yourself by your city (Jamie Miami may build up a great rep but what happens when he moves to NYC?) or proclivities (Twinky Austin's career may outlive his name). Many sites list working guys alphabetically, so Aaron is a popular first name.

 

Other posters will have thoughtful insights toward client interactions. Listen, but then decide what fits your personality. You may burn out fast striving to be something that isn't you.

 

If a prospective client calls from a blocked phone number, he's wasting your time. Period.

 

You'll make more money if you show your face, have a car (unless you're in NYC), can host, and spend some bucks on advertising. Find the combination that works for you. Get good quality pics (see http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?t=70013 for suggestions; these don't necessarily have to cost a dime).

 

You may want to send a respectful email to some of the established working guys in your city and ask if you can take them out for coffee and pick their brains. It always helps to have friends.

 

Hope some of this helps,

 

Kevin Slater

[Txpaytoplay]

A Clients perspective....

 

Hey Socalboy,

 

First, let me say Welcome. I think it's great that you are looking for some insight before taking the plunge. I am sure you will get some great advice and direction from here....and if you stick around long enough you will probably get some criticism as well (I hope you have thick skin). Take it all in stride.....know that it will be very difficult to live by the expectation of others and everyone will have their opinion or spin on a topic. So, here are the top five things that I think you should know or do if you want to be an extremely successful escort.

 

1. Be true to yourself

2. Make sure the pictures you post of yourself are accurate

3. Be honest and upfront with your clients on their and your expectations of the session

4. Do not be afraid to say No Thankyou...I am just not able to meet your expectation.

5. Always be courteous and professional.

 

I am sure there our hundreds of other things that can be added...not canceling, returning emails promptly, not flaking on appointments...or the ever frustrating tardy issue and numberous others. But, I believe the ones I numbered for you will put you well on your way to success.

 

I can't wait to see your ad. Best Wishes on your new endeavor.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I'm sure there are other people giving you great helpful pieces of advice. My advice as a client is know when you will quit and learn to invest and save how small it may be. For me it is not important how an escort dresses. Clothing, how beautiful it may be, can't cover what's inside that person. That being said. Good luck with your business.

 

I've been wanting to start escorting for a long time now and the time has finally seemed about ripe for the taking so I'm in the process of setting everything up. Now I have a question, escorts/and even clients, are there any things you would have done differently when you first entered the biz?

 

Thanks guys

[JT Brooklyn]

Beginning in the Biz!

 

I've been wanting to start escorting for a long time now and the time has finally seemed about ripe for the taking so I'm in the process of setting everything up. Now I have a question, escorts/and even clients, are there any things you would have done differently when you first entered the biz?

 

Thanks guys

 

IF you are located in SOCAL? My advice your best "Learning Ground" is to "Work It" for an Agency in the beginning.

 

Check with DAVE from MantoMan and you will undoubtedly get the Best Advice around Face to Face! Plus getting to know a few of the Guys who do "Work It" will give you the Start you need.

 

Just remember there are SOME guys who after a short time realize this isn't for me! IF it was as much FUN as some of these "Working Guys" say it is, there would a much larger Percentage of Working Guys!

 

"Mistakes"...LOL There's gonna be a few NO MATTER WHAT! ..that's called experience!

[Guest OCBeachbody]

Good luck in starting your escort business!

 

As I told my friends, if you have the looks and personality go for it. It can open a lot of doors, you are providing a valued service, and you can make some wonderful contacts. Some great advice in the previous posts btw!

[Boston Guy]

It depends on who and what you want to be -- and who you want to cater to.

 

I've been hiring guys for eons and have had tons of fun with lots of guys in the US, Canada and elsewhere in the world. I've met many interesting guys, gotten to know some of them very well over long periods of time and am very careful about my personal security. From time to time, I've met guys who were just starting out and have offered them my advice and perspective.

 

If you want to become a "Name" escort, then perhaps Kevin's advice is the right advice to follow. "Tommy Cruise" (don't take that one; it's been used) is easier to remember than "SoCalGuy". But that can be a problem later, especially if you plan to escort on a part-time basis or in any way where you'd like to maintain at least some anonymity. Ditto the advice about someone calling from a blocked phone number wasting your time. It seems to be conventional wisdom these days but I question it.

 

Years ago, most escorts wanted to call you back in your hotel to verify that you were actually in your room. Well, calling from a hotel is no longer good enough for many since they insist on having a number that isn't blocked and many hotel numbers come over as blocked. I had one escort in NYC a couple of weeks ago insist that he would not come to my hotel unless I gave him my cell number. It didn't matter that he could call my hotel, talk to me and know that I was standing in the room. He wanted my cell number and that was it. Needless to say, I decided to move on to the next guy, who turned out to be eminently more reasonable to deal with and I had a great time.

 

For a period of time, I had relented and was just calling guys from my cell. Then I met an escort in LA who had a greatly inflated estimate of his own talents and who bragged about all of the famous guys he was seeing and his great condo, etc., etc. Well, I was happy to see him go -- which is really unusual for me because I like everyone. Unfortunately, he took to calling my cell phone on a very regular basis for close to three months. He'd leave voice messages, texts, etc. trying to set up another appointment. I finally stopped answering his messages and he eventually gave up. The entire experience left a very bad taste in my mouth. Today, I've gone back to contacting escorts via email and have found that generally works well for me. I'll only give my cell to someone who I've actually met and want to see again. There are enough guys out there who want to get together and who don't impose strict rules on how I should communicate with them that I can fortunately ignore the others.

 

I prefer to hire the boy next door type instead of the professional escorts. I like the guys that haven't had their pictures posted all over the internet for years and who still have fun escorting. I prefer getting to know guys over the course of time and meeting them on a regular basis as I travel back to their cities. Over the years, I've met quite a fair number of guys who had a small number of clients, a low profile and who always planned to escort for a few years -- and who did.

 

I guess what I'm saying is that if you follow some of the advice and paths taken by other high-profile escorts, you will find yourself stamped with a brand that you might end up regretting at some point. If you want to be a high profile escort, then go for it by all means. On the other hand, if you want to have a small number of clients who enjoy the fact that they can take you out without other people pointing and saying "Oh, look, he's with Scott Adler!", then you might want to consider a lower profile.

 

Definitely have a separate phone for all of your escort work. Try to be as easy to contact as possible and impose as few rules as you can. Respond promptly to real messages and, for sanity's sake, learn to distinguish real messages from fakes. When you meet a decent client, do whatever you can to encourage them to become a repeat client (if that's what you want) but by all means do not become a stalker. If you are contemplating calling someone after you have gotten together with them, ask if it's ok to call him in the future while you are still together. Some guys will not mind while others will.

 

Trust your gut. If something doesn't feel right, leave. Right then, without delay. There's always another client but there won't be another you. If anything makes you question your safety, leave immediately. Don't accept a drink from a client out of a bottle that you haven't seen opened. Be wary even if you have seen it opened -- guys have been drugged from bottles that had drugs added to the contents via hypodermic needles (I kid you not). Safety should be your number one criteria -- always.

 

Be completely and totally discreet. Don't share details of your personal life that will allow a client to become a stalker until you are sure you can trust the client. Don't share details a client has given you about themself with anyone. Don't even let other people know that you saw so-and-so. Loose lips sink ships and escorts.

 

Don't go on long trips with people you have never met. Don't travel to see someone unless they've sent you either a round-trip ticket or enough money to ensure your return home. When someone books you a ticket, the safest way is for you to book the ticket through a travel agency and then have them call up and pay for it. Be very wary of people you haven't met or gotten to know at least a little.

 

I'll probably think of more but that's a start.

 

BG

[Guest greatness]

wow

 

You are an expert!

 

It depends on who and what you want to be -- and who you want to cater to.

 

I've been hiring guys for eons and have had tons of fun with lots of guys in the US, Canada and elsewhere in the world. I've met many interesting guys, gotten to know some of them very well over long periods of time and am very careful about my personal security. From time to time, I've met guys who were just starting out and have offered them my advice and perspective.

 

If you want to become a "Name" escort, then perhaps Kevin's advice is the right advice to follow. "Tommy Cruise" (don't take that one; it's been used) is easier to remember than "SoCalGuy". But that can be a problem later, especially if you plan to escort on a part-time basis or in any way where you'd like to maintain at least some anonymity. Ditto the advice about someone calling from a blocked phone number wasting your time. It seems to be conventional wisdom these days but I question it.

 

Years ago, most escorts wanted to call you back in your hotel to verify that you were actually in your room. Well, calling from a hotel is no longer good enough for many since they insist on having a number that isn't blocked and many hotel numbers come over as blocked. I had one escort in NYC a couple of weeks ago insist that he would not come to my hotel unless I gave him my cell number. It didn't matter that he could call my hotel, talk to me and know that I was standing in the room. He wanted my cell number and that was it. Needless to say, I decided to move on to the next guy, who turned out to be eminently more reasonable to deal with and I had a great time.

 

For a period of time, I had relented and was just calling guys from my cell. Then I met an escort in LA who had a greatly inflated estimate of his own talents and who bragged about all of the famous guys he was seeing and his great condo, etc., etc. Well, I was happy to see him go -- which is really unusual for me because I like everyone. Unfortunately, he took to calling my cell phone on a very regular basis for close to three months. He'd leave voice messages, texts, etc. trying to set up another appointment. I finally stopped answering his messages and he eventually gave up. The entire experience left a very bad taste in my mouth. Today, I've gone back to contacting escorts via email and have found that generally works well for me. I'll only give my cell to someone who I've actually met and want to see again. There are enough guys out there who want to get together and who don't impose strict rules on how I should communicate with them that I can fortunately ignore the others.

 

I prefer to hire the boy next door type instead of the professional escorts. I like the guys that haven't had their pictures posted all over the internet for years and who still have fun escorting. I prefer getting to know guys over the course of time and meeting them on a regular basis as I travel back to their cities. Over the years, I've met quite a fair number of guys who had a small number of clients, a low profile and who always planned to escort for a few years -- and who did.

 

I guess what I'm saying is that if you follow some of the advice and paths taken by other high-profile escorts, you will find yourself stamped with a brand that you might end up regretting at some point. If you want to be a high profile escort, then go for it by all means. On the other hand, if you want to have a small number of clients who enjoy the fact that they can take you out without other people pointing and saying "Oh, look, he's with Scott Adler!", then you might want to consider a lower profile.

 

Definitely have a separate phone for all of your escort work. Try to be as easy to contact as possible and impose as few rules as you can. Respond promptly to real messages and, for sanity's sake, learn to distinguish real messages from fakes. When you meet a decent client, do whatever you can to encourage them to become a repeat client (if that's what you want) but by all means do not become a stalker. If you are contemplating calling someone after you have gotten together with them, ask if it's ok to call him in the future while you are still together. Some guys will not mind while others will.

 

Trust your gut. If something doesn't feel right, leave. Right then, without delay. There's always another client but there won't be another you. If anything makes you question your safety, leave immediately. Don't accept a drink from a client out of a bottle that you haven't seen opened. Be wary even if you have seen it opened -- guys have been drugged from bottles that had drugs added to the contents via hypodermic needles (I kid you not). Safety should be your number one criteria -- always.

 

Be completely and totally discreet. Don't share details of your personal life that will allow a client to become a stalker until you are sure you can trust the client. Don't share details a client has given you about themself with anyone. Don't even let other people know that you saw so-and-so. Loose lips sink ships and escorts.

 

Don't go on long trips with people you have never met. Don't travel to see someone unless they've sent you either a round-trip ticket or enough money to ensure your return home. When someone books you a ticket, the safest way is for you to book the ticket through a travel agency and then have them call up and pay for it. Be very wary of people you haven't met or gotten to know at least a little.

 

I'll probably think of more but that's a start.

 

BG

[Edward]

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If you advertise a service. Make that service available to all clients. I have been disappointed a few times in an escort advertising he will do certian things and at the appointment they never happen.