phone sex

[farfaraway]

lurking on daddysreviews and trying to pick the right muscle top for my first time. wondering whether any escort would do (paid) phone sex as a safe introduction.

[alanalt]

You'll probably never know unless you ask them...

 

 

Seriously, I've seen some escorts offer this service and I expect most would, at least, consider it on a case-by-case basis depending whether they're open to taking CC payments or paypal, etc. So, if you have someone in mind, I suggest you contact him directly. You might also want to post this in the 'ask the escort' forum and see what kind of feedback you get there.

 

Alan

[farfaraway]

You'll probably never know unless you ask them...

 

 

Seriously, I've seen some escorts offer this service and I expect most would, at least, consider it on a case-by-case basis depending whether they're open to taking CC payments or paypal, etc. So, if you have someone in mind, I suggest you contact him directly. You might also want to post this in the 'ask the escort' forum and see what kind of feedback you get there.

 

Alan

thanks

[whipped guy]

Interesting question!

 

shyguyny... Welcome and thanks for raising an interesting topic! Plus, alanalt makes a very good point that there would have to be most definitely some sort of pre-paid arrangements.

 

Now frankly one of the most frequent complaints that I hear from working guys concerns the fact that many "potential clients" (read that as really not being a potential client) call and try to get phone sex for free... Most recently a guy complained of an individual who called and asked a series of questions... fair enough. He then called back wanting to have a reconfirmation on the answers received... possibly within the realm of reason. He then called a third time wanting a more explicit and graphic description of each individual act... the escort politely declined to answer... He subsequently called a forth time and then things had to be nipped in the bud. Of course on a related topic some also attempt to have email sex as well... I guess to each his own.

 

So as alanalt suggests, be up front and honest and see what the response will be...

 

Also, it would be interesting to see how escorts who monitor this forum will respond.

[Guest RianB]

Now frankly one of the most frequent complaints that I hear from working guys concerns the fact that many "potential clients" (read that as really not being a potential client) call and try to get phone sex for free... Of course on a related topic some also attempt to have email sex as well... I guess to each his own.

 

So as alanalt suggests, be up front and honest and see what the response will be...

 

I'd find it hard to take anyone seriously who asked for phone sex. And those who sneak it in always find out "I'm in line at the store, cant talk about it". When someone calls, all whats required is they explain what they are interested in, and I say whether I can accomodate it. Asking to describe a list of my services, my do's and don'ts, my limitations, blah blah blah...I dont get into that.

[Guest TNT Ted]

Seems to me that shyguyny is not trying to get his rocks off by using free phone sex. He’s willing to pay for this contact, and if I understand him correctly he’s doing this to ease his anxiety about a first hire -- sort of a prelude to an eventual face-to-face meeting. If that’s correct, I think it’s a great idea.

 

Just off the top of my head, it seems there could be benefits for any escort willing to do this. He gets paid to tell the client just what and how things could go. Gives him an opportunity to sell himself. If the client is comfortable enough to book an appointment, he most likely would not be a no-show. And if the escort isn’t able to sell a face-to-face meeting, at least he got paid trying. From what I understand, escorts often spend lots of time e-mailing back and forth and it goes nowhere.

 

Downsides? Payment, I suppose. Not sure how that would work. Entrapment maybe?

 

Other thoughts?

[JT Brooklyn]

All this would work fine a "Phone Sex Interview" BUT ONLY IF the Working Guy has a Phone Sex type Voice!

 

Physically alot look Great BUT...their voices aren't what gets most off!

 

I'm thinking maybe there should be a "VOICE TYPE" Checkoff Box right after Dick Size! on the Review Form....

[+ purplekow]

Well I have a great voice and a great technique at phone sex. I would be happy to tell shy guy just what an escort would do to him. I would act as a paid surrogate for one the escorts with whom I have been Since I would not be doing it, there would not be any entrapment

[whipped guy]

Acting it out...

 

I hope I did not give the wrong impression that I somehow thought that shyguyny was looking for a freebie... that was the furthest thing from my mind... However, many other guys out there certainly are and that is a quandary for many escorts. In fact most escorts say that the most difficult and time consuming part of the job is taken up with the phone, email, and scheduling aspects of the business.

 

Also, JT mentions the escort must have the right voice type... and I dare say he must be able to act with his voice as well... and I assume that is what purplekow is referring to when he uses the phrase "great technique". Many escorts are good at what they do and have dirty minds, but not all are expert at role-playing. In fact some escorts who have done porn are not even good actors!

 

Now if TNT Ted is correct and shyguyny simply wants to ease himself into a first hire I would suggest a simple frank and sincere phone call just to see if there is any chemistry. I recall my first hire and it was the kindness in the voice that convinced me that I was making the right decision... and especially so given the activities that we would be pursuing.

 

At any rate, I am sure that we all wish shyguyny all the best no matter what.

[Sean Knight]

In fact most escorts say that the most difficult and time consuming part of the job is taken up with the phone, email, and scheduling aspects of the business.

 

I would agree but without the communication we'd have no business. I personally rarely talk on the phone initially. I have found email is more conducive to staying organized and keeping on top of the details. I would LIVE on the phone if I had my number posted. Plus, I have found that email allows for more thorough and relaxed conversation. It's easier to forget details when talking on the phone. Get the details covered then talk on the phone if necessary to build more rapport.

 

In regards to phone sex, it depends on how it's approached and ultimately the way the escort handles the situation. There is an appreciation to be had when a client is upfront about their interests and expectations. If it's not brought up by the client it will certainly be brought up by me. I have never understood how either person could feel comfortable going into that type of encounter, unless you are a major thrill seeker and looking for disappointment . Certainly sounds like a recipe for disaster. As an escort, I would never agree to a meeting without knowing the details of what the client was looking for and what their interests were. Conversely, I wouldn't hire an escort that was evasive or refused to discuss the details.

Granted, some clients might be new to the whole process and might not know exactly what they are looking for. A patient escort will guide them through the process and the client will most likely be very appreciative that the escort took the time to understand their needs. For me, the time-wasters are very few and far between and certainly not worth begrudging potential clients.

I think that there are those on both sides that are terrified of the legal ramifications for being specific about certain topics. It's all in how you have the discussion. A mature, professional escort should be able to navigate those types of situations or else they will place themselves in a position to be very limited with appointments.

[+ purplekow]

... and I dare say he must be able to act with his voice as well... and I assume that is what purplekow is referring to when he uses the phrase "great technique".

 

Not to steal this thread and make it one about phone sex, but you are exactly right. You need to be able to envision yourself there and just explain what you are feeling and what you want to do and what you want done to you. As for Mr. Knight, he would make a perfect escort for a first timer. Considerate, thoughtful and sexy as hell.

 

So Sean, tell me what you are wearing.....I see.....your skin is so soft and your shirt is clinging to your body...let me peel that off of you..... well you get the idea.

[Sean Knight]

... and I dare say he must be able to act with his voice as well... and I assume that is what purplekow is referring to when he uses the phrase "great technique".

 

Not to steal this thread and make it one about phone sex, but you are exactly right. You need to be able to envision yourself there and just explain what you are feeling and what you want to do and what you want done to you. As for Mr. Knight, he would make a perfect escort for a first timer. Considerate, thoughtful and sexy as hell.

 

So Sean, tell me what you are wearing.....I see.....your skin is so soft and your shirt is clinging to your body...let me peel that off of you..... well you get the idea.

 

That's a mighty fine "persuasion" you have about you.

 

You DO have great technique! You talked me right out of my clothes!

[whipped guy]

Right on the money...

 

...witout the communication we'd have no business... I have found email is more conducive to staying organized and keeping on top of the details. I would LIVE on the phone if I had my number posted. Plus, I have found that email allows for more thorough and relaxed conversation. It's easier to forget details when talking on the phone... There is an appreciation to be had when a client is upfront about their interests and expectations. If it's not brought up by the client it will certainly be brought up by me. ..I would never agree to a meeting without knowing the details of what the client was looking for and what their interests were. Conversely, I wouldn't hire an escort that was evasive or refused to discuss the details... Granted, some clients might be new to the whole process and might not know exactly what they are looking for. A patient escort will guide them through the process and the client will most likely be very appreciative that the escort took the time to understand their needs.

 

I hate to hijack this thread, but as usual Sean is right on the money and has the perfect recipe for success... and that makes things a winner for both client and escort. Would that all escorts thought and acted accordingly...

 

You DO have great technique! You talked me right out of my clothes!

 

Plus Sean not only offers sagacious advice... but has a sense of humor as well.

 

However, Sean does unwittingly perfectly illustrate the limitations of 'phone sex', 'email sex', or even 'message-forum sex'... as simply hearing about, reading about, or imagining Sean "out of his clothes'" will certainly not totally satisfy quite a few of us on this board...

[farfaraway]

i appreciate your responses. i respect escort's time and would never abuse it; hence the willingness to compensate. phone-time and real-time can't be compared but i do respond to person's imagination and attitude, which could, i think, come through in a phone encounter. and, i imagine it as a friendly icebreaker for a potential meeting. of course, this is just me - people take different routes, scenic or shortcuts, to reach the same goal.

thanks for being considerate and helpful.

[+ purplekow]

Shyguyny it is trite to say, so I will say it as I rarely have an original thought. everyone has a first time at everything. It may not be your best encounter, but it will definitely be one of your most memorable, so relax and enjoy it. I remember an old commercial, a woman slipping into a tub full of bubbly water murmurs.... "Calgon, take me away" and she relaxes and lets the waters do the work. My tip....think "Escort, take me away" and relax and enjoy letting the man do his work.

[whipped guy]

... i respect escort's time and would never abuse it...

 

Being respectful of an escorts time is indeed the key... it is important to always get that point across.... so in that regard you are right on the money. Just be specific, forthright, and honest in your approach and most escorts who are true professionals will be glad to work with you as long as they feel comfortable in such a role.

 

...i do respond to person's imagination and attitude, which could, i think, come through in a phone encounter. and, i imagine it as a friendly icebreaker for a potential meeting. of course, this is just me - people take different routes, scenic or shortcuts, to reach the same goal...

 

It is important to do your homework when deciding on an encounter... and that is true for not only a first hookup but for the one hundredth and first as well. It sounds as though you are in the process of doing that legwork... perhaps in an unconventional way... but as you say we all take different routes to reach a given goal. Your goal is to find an escort who is up-front and sincere (see Sean's comments above) and many are, but not all. So remember the more research the better and don't be shy at all when doing that research... Remember the more information about yourself that you supply the better the encounter will be... and that goes for a live or "long distance" encounter as well. Just be honest about what you like and don't be afraid to be candid about any caveats or even foibles on your part. Making sure that you and the escort are on the same wavelength is the absolute key to achieving total success and absolute enjoyment and gratification. Hopefully this posting didn't come off sounding as a lecture, but you sound as though you are a sincere individual and hopefully you will be able to be completely and utterly "taken away" and not just by some magic bubbles, but (as purplekow notes) by the magic a great escort is capable of providing!

[JT Brooklyn]

Never have so many said so much about Verbal Foreplay & getting LAID!

 

Too bad the Majority of "Encounters" are rarely as long in thought and words lasting but an HOUR!

[whipped guy]

Prepare!

 

Never have so many said so much about Verbal Foreplay & getting LAID!

 

Well there is a saying... "The better the preparation, the better the presentation..."

 

So inquire, investigate, research, study, and prepare! It applies to all things in life...