Flying Him To Me

[Guest ryan2552]

I live in a Southeast city where not many escorts ever travel to.

 

Recently I have been thinking, for the first time, to bring an escort to me. I have read some earlier posts on this subject but this year the economy being quite different maybe has changed some of whats involved financially speaking.

 

Also what if I bring him here and cannot stand him lol?

 

Just interested in what I should expect for a 24 hours session, any tips, ideas and cost involved.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I rarely invite people to where I am (it is totally isolated) but I do overnights whenever I travel. I usually try to get to know escorts well before I do an overnight. One escort was nice for hourly sessions but not so great for an overnight. I am not blaming him. Even though you are physically attracted to a person just sleeping together on a bed that one is not used to can be stressful for both parties. I like to cuddle but some people just want to be left alone after sex. So communicate with them what your expectations are and what is important for you. It will save a lot of troubles for both parties. Most escorts I've done an overnight was good but it required a lot of work on both parties. I hope you have a great time.

 

 

I live in a Southeast city where not many escorts ever travel to.

 

Recently I have been thinking, for the first time, to bring an escort to me. I have read some earlier posts on this subject but this year the economy being quite different maybe has changed some of whats involved financially speaking.

 

Also what if I bring him here and cannot stand him lol?

 

Just interested in what I should expect for a 24 hours session, any tips, ideas and cost involved.

[stripfan]

Generally speaking you will be responsible for all costs associated with a "fly2me". I have had some escorts waive any travel fees/time if they are driving to me for an all-nighter but as far as a flight, I would be prepared to pay airfare, meals, drinks plus escort fees. Of course everything is negotiable and maybe in this economy you will find some good deals. I would suggest that you might want to add up the cost of a fly2me and maybe take a trip yourself to see an escort. Fly somewhere for the weekend if you can swing it and see an escort for an hour or two and spend the rest of the time seeing the town (or other escorts!). Just a thought.

 

I would not recommend flying someone to you who you haven't met before. As the other poster said spending an hour or two with someone is alot different than entertaining someone (or them entertaining you) for an evening.

 

Good Luck and report back.

 

stripfan

[Guest ryan2552]

Good advice guys.

 

@stripfan I also like your idea of going "there" for a few days. You make a lot of sense related to cost and seeing maybe two guys instead of one plus spend sometime in that city. I'm going to look into that.

 

I have wanted to visit Chicago for a while now and one of the escorts I'm interested in lives there.

[lrbigdicktaker]

As my ear drums don't pressurize right when I fly, it is sometimes impossible for me to fly without tubes in my ears. Unless you have a medical condition that prevents you from flying, and as stripfan mentioned, your best bet would be you flying to him. At least when you fly to him, if he chickens out, you can always hire another willing escort. If he chickens out flying to you, your out at least $200.

 

If your doing an overnight/24hr, you would still usually have to pay for drinks & meals, it's courtesy. Don't sell yourself as cheap to the escort (just my opinion).

 

If the escort has a lot of good reviews, I usually fly them even though I have never flew them in before. I have been stood up by a well-known escort before, and its not a matter of if it happens, it's a matter of when. They use every excuse in the book, "Family Troubles", "Someone died", "Didn't make the plane", "ticket was bad", and so on, and so on, and so on.

 

If you do fly him to you, you're best bet is to get a hotel room, that way, if you cannot stand him, you can dump him.

 

If it's a 24hr session, Don't plan for sex/foreplay the entire day. If he has not been to your city, take him around to different places of interest, talk, chat, really get to know him. Make people around you turn heads. I am very discreet, but will flirt out in public if nothing else comes between us.

 

If it's an overnight, plan for sex/foreplay the entire time except for dinner. Get your moneys with Gurl! Make him earn those coins! LOL, just kidding (that sounded so gay). When flying, some escorts extend their hours a little further (they like to arrive around 4/5/6pm, get washed up, then start a little foreplay). Generally, if you go to them, some like to begin around 8/9pm till 9/10pm in the morning.

 

If they are from the West Coast, they will have a long travel time, so they might not want to leave until around 1pm their time, which if your in the Southeast, will be 4pm or 5pm your time. It all depends on what the escort is willing to do, and some will cut deals with you if flying west to east.

 

Good luck! I've got tubes in my ears now and I'm flying myself to New York at the end of August and gonna have a buffet of guys!

[JT Brooklyn]

Flying & Overniter

 

The whole "Overnite Deal" can be a real crapshoot! Starting with whether or not the guy is really geared for it!

 

There are some "Working Guys" who are Honest about NOT really being into Overniters. Some just hear "Ka-Ching" and off they go!

 

It really is alot of "Planning"..Airfare/Questions and an Expense" that IF thought about for Maybe just a few Hours of "Playtime" may not be a wise choice especially NOT knowing the Personality of a Guy you never met?

 

Taking a couple of days Vacation & Meeting a Working Guy at your Hotel for a Session may be a Better Option

 

P.S. Flying him in...The getting a "Hotel Room" is a very good idea!

[Racketjock]

I echo lgbigdicktaker's remarks about a matter of time and when. I don't advocate having an overnight with someone you haven't met before. I have been "burned" by this twice. Once with a well known/ named escort who stood me up twice (once and then when rebooking) and once with an escort where the chemistry just didn't work. I learned from both and consequently haven't done it again.....until recently. Although one can never know how two people will mesh, I have come to trust this site and particularly a couple of my heroes here whom I admire and share similar tastes. Having said that I am completely guilty of not following my own advice and hired AndrewD recently (review posted) and was blown away by how we meshed and how he nocked my boots offs. Needless to say, he has glowing reviews and a deserved following, and I was a very lucky man indeed. Covering expenses and treating a person with respect for not only the talents they have but the person they are will never steer you wrong. Having a good meal, good conversation, seeing the sights, and/or giving a bit of your honest self goes along way in making the times both in and out of the bedroom fun for all. Best of luck!

[Guest adnyuki]

This topic seems to come up every few months, and I always appreciate the new insights (and some of the old wisdom too) that many posters here offer.

 

My personal experience is to shy away from ever inviting anyone for an overnight who I do not know. The bad experiences far outweight the few really terrific ones. If I do meet a guy, and like him, and find there is more than a "wham, bam, thank ya ma'am (or SIR)" approach, I consider a second and longer encounter (eg. something that includes dinner, some common time not in a bed such as the theatre, touring, even small things like sightseeing, shopping, or just hanging out). It is amazing how much you can discover about a guy when you are not standing there all naked and sweaty, but seeing him as he interacts with people around you, his comments, his likes and dislikes.

 

I am not a demonstrative guy, and feel a bit embarassed when an escort with me for a dinner, or some other activity, makes a scene, or acts ion a campy way. I make it known up front that - in public - I do not like to hold hands, cuddle, kiss or do anything else (yeah... I am very CLOSETED).

 

I remember one escort in the past who I met in Amsterdam. He was terrific, and I began seeing him more and more. Finally when I was home in NY, and he was home in Canada, I invited him to visit. We went to the Metropolitan opera - which he hated, and so I had to walk out at the end of the first act of an opera I had wanted to see for months. We went to a Broadway show, and he managed to embarass me openly flirting with one of the ushers. Later, during a very good concert in Carnegie Hall, he got into a "F... you, you Goddamn $#@#$ Fuc...ing.. J... bastards" argument with a couple behind us, and I wanted to crawl from the theatre. (He also managed to almost get my membership in a gym revoked when he was caught by management openly cruising in the locker room, and then managed to get into a drunken S&M brawl on his "free time away from me" time down in the Village (came back with a black eye, and lots of odd marks on his body). I put out a lot of money flying him in, paying a daily fee of $500 plus all meals, tickets, entertainment, gym time, gifts... And to top it off, this gem some years later contacted me out of the blue and told me he was writing a "tell-all" about his years as an escort, exposing the true identities of his most frequent clients (including me). Thank God the book either never saw the light of day, or he just passed away (he had some serious health issues, I sadly learned) before it was done.

 

Sorry for the saga here - but it is a lesson tale for those willing to listen... Now, back to advice: better to fly to him, than to have him fly to you if you do not know him. Consider putting him up in a hotel - so you have a place to leave him if it does not work out (obviously leaving him sufficient $$$ for the time he is spending there, even if the sex is cancelled).

 

Some of us who are older and single know that, after sleeping most of the time alone, sharing a bed with someone (especially when you usually wear some kind of pajamas and now are next to a Greek God and you are absolutely butt naked), can be daunting, and often means you do NOT sleep well (or sleep at all). There is the snoring aspect to consider (how many of us single guys KNOW we snore? I mean who will tell us?), the idea of wanting to cuddle when he is hugging the edge of the bed and pretending to be dead asleep, the issue of morning breath (and groin and ass) smells... AH THE LIST GOES ON AND ON.

 

BUT THEN, there are those times when you find a gem, a guy you feel comfortable with and who knows your own likes and dislikes, and who can easily be with you without either of you feeling awkward or out of sorts. This is the escort you cultivate (but do NOT forget, no falling in love please!!!). You save him for the long weekends, the once in a lifetime cruise, the few days off to some exotic location. He learns to appreciate you as a person and not an ATM machine (or at least can keep the illusion up and you actually believe he sees you as an individual).

 

I have been lucky meeting a handful of guys both in Europe and here (although those who are European seem to be a bit better at this), who are superb overnight and longer escorts, class acts that you enjoy being around, ones with whom you can converse, enjoy down time with, even sit and be comfortably quiet with each other. I admit (:o) I shower these guys with too many gifts, because their company, and their companionship give me great pleasure.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

You really had a bad experience. I provided escorts with spa massages, took them to upscale restaurants, got them the best wine in the restaurant and etc... But if there is no chemistry, nothing works. I don't blame them. I know it is hard for escorts to be with a stranger they barely know so I try to include activities they like and give them free time. It's difficult.

 

This topic seems to come up every few months, and I always appreciate the new insights (and some of the old wisdom too) that many posters here offer.

 

My personal experience is to shy away from ever inviting anyone for an overnight who I do not know. The bad experiences far outweight the few really terrific ones. If I do meet a guy, and like him, and find there is more than a "wham, bam, thank ya ma'am (or SIR)" approach, I consider a second and longer encounter (eg. something that includes dinner, some common time not in a bed such as the theatre, touring, even small things like sightseeing, shopping, or just hanging out). It is amazing how much you can discover about a guy when you are not standing there all naked and sweaty, but seeing him as he interacts with people around you, his comments, his likes and dislikes.

 

I am not a demonstrative guy, and feel a bit embarassed when an escort with me for a dinner, or some other activity, makes a scene, or acts ion a campy way. I make it known up front that - in public - I do not like to hold hands, cuddle, kiss or do anything else (yeah... I am very CLOSETED).

 

I remember one escort in the past who I met in Amsterdam. He was terrific, and I began seeing him more and more. Finally when I was home in NY, and he was home in Canada, I invited him to visit. We went to the Metropolitan opera - which he hated, and so I had to walk out at the end of the first act of an opera I had wanted to see for months. We went to a Broadway show, and he managed to embarass me openly flirting with one of the ushers. Later, during a very good concert in Carnegie Hall, he got into a "F... you, you Goddamn $#@#$ Fuc...ing.. J... bastards" argument with a couple behind us, and I wanted to crawl from the theatre. (He also managed to almost get my membership in a gym revoked when he was caught by management openly cruising in the locker room, and then managed to get into a drunken S&M brawl on his "free time away from me" time down in the Village (came back with a black eye, and lots of odd marks on his body). I put out a lot of money flying him in, paying a daily fee of $500 plus all meals, tickets, entertainment, gym time, gifts... And to top it off, this gem some years later contacted me out of the blue and told me he was writing a "tell-all" about his years as an escort, exposing the true identities of his most frequent clients (including me). Thank God the book either never saw the light of day, or he just passed away (he had some serious health issues, I sadly learned) before it was done.

 

Sorry for the saga here - but it is a lesson tale for those willing to listen... Now, back to advice: better to fly to him, than to have him fly to you if you do not know him. Consider putting him up in a hotel - so you have a place to leave him if it does not work out (obviously leaving him sufficient $$$ for the time he is spending there, even if the sex is cancelled).

 

Some of us who are older and single know that, after sleeping most of the time alone, sharing a bed with someone (especially when you usually wear some kind of pajamas and now are next to a Greek God and you are absolutely butt naked), can be daunting, and often means you do NOT sleep well (or sleep at all). There is the snoring aspect to consider (how many of us single guys KNOW we snore? I mean who will tell us?), the idea of wanting to cuddle when he is hugging the edge of the bed and pretending to be dead asleep, the issue of morning breath (and groin and ass) smells... AH THE LIST GOES ON AND ON.

 

BUT THEN, there are those times when you find a gem, a guy you feel comfortable with and who knows your own likes and dislikes, and who can easily be with you without either of you feeling awkward or out of sorts. This is the escort you cultivate (but do NOT forget, no falling in love please!!!). You save him for the long weekends, the once in a lifetime cruise, the few days off to some exotic location. He learns to appreciate you as a person and not an ATM machine (or at least can keep the illusion up and you actually believe he sees you as an individual).

 

I have been lucky meeting a handful of guys both in Europe and here (although those who are European seem to be a bit better at this), who are superb overnight and longer escorts, class acts that you enjoy being around, ones with whom you can converse, enjoy down time with, even sit and be comfortably quiet with each other. I admit (:o) I shower these guys with too many gifts, because their company, and their companionship give me great pleasure.

[KMEM]

adnyuki-

 

Not a shot at you but just curious about how it happened that you spent more and more time with this guy and never knew he didn't like the opera, might go off into S&M and could get into heated arguments with strangers? Did he conceal all those personality traits from you during your several conversations in AMS or what?

 

Nothing personal, just curious.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[JT Brooklyn]

IMHO..Let us not forget Who is actually "Working It" for WHO?

 

IF the right "Reciprocation" is not FULLY given you have really wasted Time & Definitely Money!

 

"It's Not What You Do for the Working Guy..It's What He Does For You"

[+ sf westcoaster]

I agree with most of the other responses - go to the escort. It is much easier to terminate a session if things are not working as you hoped and you usually will be in an area in which there are other escorts so you can catch two or three while there. Also, if you do an overnight, be certain you have made your expectations known, otherwise you can find yourself paying for hours of sleep time and not much satisfaction.

[JT Brooklyn]

I agree with most of the other responses - go to the escort. It is much easier to terminate a session if things are not working as you hoped and you usually will be in an area in which there are other escorts so you can catch two or three while there. Also, if you do an overnight, be certain you have made your expectations known, otherwise you can find yourself paying for hours of sleep time and not much satisfaction.

 

Exactly..Some Guys Advertise "Overnite 12 Hours" of which they think 7 Hrs should be the "least amount" as far as their Beauty Sleep Goes!

 

A nice "Long Session" 2-6 Hrs in duration and let them get their Beauty Sleep OFF MY CLOCK!

[Guest adnyuki]

adnyuki-

 

Not a shot at you but just curious about how it happened that you spent more and more time with this guy and never knew he didn't like the opera, might go off into S&M and could get into heated arguments with strangers? Did he conceal all those personality traits from you during your several conversations in AMS or what?

 

Nothing personal, just curious.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

KMEM,

 

Excellent question. I first hired him through a pretty reputable agency in Amsterdam. I had already been with 4 or 5 other guys and his visit was an afterthought, but one that ended up being very interesting (chemistry in the sex??) What was supposed to be 2 hours "on the clock" became 8 hours "off the clock" just walking around, talking, seeing sights, and enjoying a dinner. He himself volunteered for a good night kiss - also off the clock.

 

We got together the next night for an overnight (that also included a 3-way for 2 hours with a really great muscle guy who is also a real MD).

 

A year later we met again twice in Amsterdam, and again, both meetings were very special. This guy was a really special escort - body was so-so but he brought toooo much to the encounter, the body was not even a concern. He himself suggested some months later the visit to NYC.

 

I asked him about going to the Met, Carnegie Hall, films and asked him what he wanted to do as we would not be 24 hours a day togethr (I usually give a guy quite a few "free hours" on his own to do whatever he wishes, paid for by me, of course, such as gym time, touring, just hangin out, even going out to see friends in the area, if he wants.)

 

From the time this guy landed in NYC I knew there would be problems. He bitched about the taxi (expected me to meet him with a limo!!!), bitched about the check-in, and made snide and somewhat patronizing comments to staff. Over dinner in a very upscale French bistro near Lincoln Centre, he became very "queenie" and campy with an obviously gay waiter, embarrassing theheck out of me as everyone near our table could hear the double-entendre conversation.

 

Next day - he asked if he could go out alone -- that was when he ended up in some S&M bar and was pretty badly "abused" (and obviously consented). At this point, I wanted to drop the entire charade of the date (5 days), but he begged me to forgive him (mistake #2 or #3 at this point??)

 

That night was Met night - and it was awful.

 

Following day he was cruising at the gym, and management called me....

 

That night was the scene at Carnegie Hall. Oddly he wascursing and swearing at an elderly Jewish couple, calling them really foul names (and I knew all along he himself is Jewish!!!). What a mess. I feared the couple would call the cops on him (and me). That night, when we returned to the hotel, I told him I was leaving, but the room was paid for, and handed him his ticket home, plus enough $$ for meals and entertainment, but I was out the door.

 

The final mess was three years later when he somehow found my e-mail address and contacted me threatening to "out" me and ruin me. I cancelled hi name, marked it as "spam" and never heard from him again.

 

KMEM, it was like Jeckel and Hyde. I suspect he had a drug habit I never saw in Amsterdam... but which was very prevalent in NYC.

[KMEM]

I think you must be right about a drug problem. Sorry you had all that grief but thanks for the revelation.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I don't mind not getting the right reciprocation when that happens. Simply don't hire that escort any more. Do I regret spending a lot for a bad service? Not really. I am just glad that I'll save my money for next time and I do hope those escorts well.

 

 

 

IMHO..Let us not forget Who is actually "Working It" for WHO?

 

IF the right "Reciprocation" is not FULLY given you have really wasted Time & Definitely Money!

 

"It's Not What You Do for the Working Guy..It's What He Does For You"

[Guest ryan2552]

Thanks to all for the info. I think I'm going to take the advice of some here and travel to him as I mentioned yesterday. It gives me an excuse to visit Chicago and also meet possibly more than one companion. I can see how flying someone here might be an ordeal I don't wan o deal with.

[JT Brooklyn]

Thanks to all for the info. I think I'm going to take the advice of some here and travel to him as I mentioned yesterday. It gives me an excuse to visit Chicago and also meet possibly more than one companion. I can see how flying someone here might be an ordeal I don't wan o deal with.

Ryan.. Enjoy your Chicago Visit. You definitely will enjoy what the City has to offer!