Has someone gotten upset at you for taking an appointment?

[Guest RianB]

Have you ever been out, say hanging out or something with friends and then all of sudden you get a call? Its great if someone calls and I can go ahead with an appointment but at the same time seems like many times I'm out and having fun is when a client calls!

 

Well coupel weeks ago I was out with a group of friends and the nightclub was 30 minutes from closing. I take late night calls on weekends especially when already in the 'happening' part of town so it wasnt like I'd have to drive across town anyway. So then I had a call from client I had already met before and wanted an appointment.

 

So I had come with a friend and I had driven myself and my friend, plus the people he was hanging out with had lived in the same apartment as well. At that point I told them I had to get going. My friends transportation was taken care of since technically it was 2 cars that we had taken.

 

So then after not hearing from the person in 3 weeks I was then told that he was upset because I had left early. But the thing was, before I had left out it seemed as if they were already going to be on their way without me had I showed 30 seconds later. In addition we had already hung out for several hours prior and things were already coming to a close. It wasnt as if I was leaving this person stranded.

 

I found the whole thing to be very trivial because I had provided the transportation for me and this person for months whenever we'd go out, and the 1 time I decided to accept an appointment then Im seen as being un-reliable. The way I see it, is after a couple of hours or so at a nightclub, then its importance of me being there wears off. Im not the type to flake out on anyone for business, but at the same time when the end of the night comes around and everyone is just sitting around lolligagging and doing nothing I get into 'call mode' because I may decide to take a call that night instead. And with another person driving who lived in the same apartment, I cant see why it continues to be an issue.

 

Prime of example of ya just cant please everybody.

[Romann]

Ahhhh... the continual battle between one's personal and professional life.

 

Have you ever been out, say hanging out or something with friends and then all of sudden you get a call? Its great if someone calls and I can go ahead with an appointment but at the same time seems like many times I'm out and having fun is when a client calls!

 

Well coupel weeks ago I was out with a group of friends and the nightclub was 30 minutes from closing. I take late night calls on weekends especially when already in the 'happening' part of town so it wasnt like I'd have to drive across town anyway. So then I had a call from client I had already met before and wanted an appointment.

 

So I had come with a friend and I had driven myself and my friend, plus the people he was hanging out with had lived in the same apartment as well. At that point I told them I had to get going. My friends transportation was taken care of since technically it was 2 cars that we had taken.

 

So then after not hearing from the person in 3 weeks I was then told that he was upset because I had left early. But the thing was, before I had left out it seemed as if they were already going to be on their way without me had I showed 30 seconds later. In addition we had already hung out for several hours prior and things were already coming to a close. It wasnt as if I was leaving this person stranded.

 

I found the whole thing to be very trivial because I had provided the transportation for me and this person for months whenever we'd go out, and the 1 time I decided to accept an appointment then Im seen as being un-reliable. The way I see it, is after a couple of hours or so at a nightclub, then its importance of me being there wears off. Im not the type to flake out on anyone for business, but at the same time when the end of the night comes around and everyone is just sitting around lolligagging and doing nothing I get into 'call mode' because I may decide to take a call that night instead. And with another person driving who lived in the same apartment, I cant see why it continues to be an issue.

 

Prime of example of ya just cant please everybody.

[Guest AndrewJames]

It is worse when it happens on a date.

 

I have had even other working guy friends act annoyed when the client phone goes off while we are hanging out. It comes with being in an "on-call" profession. I once broke up with a boyfriend who was a surgeon, because he would leave during dinner if the Emergency Room called. (it happened more than a couple times (I was young and didn't want to marry a doctor?)) Different people place different expectations on the people around them. Some guys I know have banned friends because they hooked up with someone while out together at a gay bar. Some friends are very understanding and will get that, for a guy who is working, the client comes first.

It is not all on them though, how we handle ourselves and properly excuse ourselves, if we get a call to work when with company, makes a difference. Having manners can get you through alot.

[Guest RianB]

It comes with being in an "on-call" profession. I once broke up with a boyfriend who was a surgeon, because he would leave during dinner if the Emergency Room called. (it happened more than a couple times (I was young and didn't want to marry a doctor?)) Different people place different expectations on the people around them. Some guys I know have banned friends because they hooked up with someone while out together at a gay bar. Some friends are very understanding and will get that, for a guy who is working, the client comes first.

It is not all on them though, how we handle ourselves and properly excuse ourselves, if we get a call to work when with company, makes a difference. Having manners can get you through alot.

 

That is true, technically it is on call. but the leaving right during dinner? It would take a very patient person to deal with that.

 

For someone to ban a friend because they hooked up with someone at the bar seems controlling. Thats why sometimes its good to just go out solo and meet as I go along so I wont have to be obligated to anyone. I like going out with people I know but at the same time I dont like to be restrained, so rarely would I want to tag along LOL...

 

But like I said I try not to just walk up and leave everytime somebody calls. It just depends on the situation. A friend who I hang out with every weekend would see it differently than someone I just met. I also know what its like to be on the other end of it too as I hung out with friends who've had to dip off on me for various reasons but everyones different.

[KMEM]

Friends won't like it when one suddenly leaves during either a planned or unplanned event, but friends understand. Acquaintences often let their own egos rule their reaction; use your own judgement about how often you see them.

 

It is becoming more rare for anyone to be in a job or profession where they don't have regular days and hours off. Even the relatively few who do "have" to work at night, week-ends or holidays want "extra" pay.

 

Pilots in some phase of their careers have almost surely been on call 24/7. The sound you hear all over America at 5 PM is the sound of corporate pilots opening one can of beer, after which they can no longer fly that day.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[seaboy4hire]

Most of my good friends live out of state and since I do not have kids and my sched is usually more flexible then theirs I travel to see them. They also know that I "work" and they are ok with that. But also I make sure to set aside for some friend time where I do not answer my texts or phone unless I know who it is like Boobers. Be it escorting or a day job it isn't healthy not to have some you time or just hang out with friends. All work and no play (down time) can age a person fast.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[jackcali]

It is becoming more rare for anyone to be in a job or profession where they don't have regular days and hours off. Even the relatively few who do "have" to work at night, week-ends or holidays want "extra" pay.

 

That may be true in the airline industry, but I don't think it's true in the finance, legal and media industries here in New York, which covers a lot of the working population. Everyone in those industries, from admin assistants to CEOs, carry blackberries and are expected to answer calls and emails 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. And in this environment, when companies are looking for people to lay off, nobody is willing to take the chance that they don't respond to an important call. So here we're more accustomed to last-minute cancellations of social get-togethers or even walking out of one because of business.

 

I won't say it doesn't tick off the people you're with when you leave, but I think most people are understanding about it.

[KMEM]

jackcall-

 

I was astonished to learn that currently doctors don't have to learn Latin any more. Soon, I think only lawyers (with their semi-latin) will be the only ones, other than teachers and students, who will learn any thing about Latin. What does this mean? It means that many "professional" people are not meeting the previous goals of their stated professions.

 

As a matter of information, the airlines still have many of their employees who work on the "back side of the clock" and that is necessary not only for international trips but for coast to coast trips, etc.

 

Personally, I answer email and phone calls 24/7/365 but that doesn't mean I work those hours. It means that I am only on call for those hours for answers to various questions which may or may not impact my next "professional" work event.

 

I think we all have to adjust to whatever suits us best and no one knows what that might be, except the person involved.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Guest zipperzone]

It comes with being in an "on-call" profession. I once broke up with a boyfriend who was a surgeon, because he would leave during dinner if the Emergency Room called.

 

A surgeon? Were you crazy? That's every mother's dream. She must have been furious with you!

[MsGuy]

You can count the number of Latin phrases the ave. attorney knows on your fingers!

All things considered, I don't regret my two years of H.S. Latin. Reading Cearsar's propoganda piece about his adventures in Gaul sparked a life long interest in the Roman Republic. I'm puzzled though why you think knowing "Omnia Gallia in tres partes divisa est" would be of much use to a physician?

[KMEM]

I never thought that attorneys knew Latin but only used a few phrases for so called legal principles. Physicians much the same. However, perhaps running upon sentences more difficult than Gaul is divided into 3 parts might slow down their often inflated egos.

 

Now, I am sincerely hoping that the well educated posters on this board (and you know who you are) will not take this as an excuse to start off an unending round of Latin phrases or sayings that will cause all of us to go into MEGO.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[KMEM]

BTW-

 

One of my favorite Latin phrases is Veni, Vidi, Visa. I came, I saw, I charged.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ purplekow]

Vidi Vici Veni I saw I conquered I came Sounds like a good hook up