Where the hell do people get these 'rules' for escorting?

[Guest RianB]

Do any of you ever talk to someone, whether it be a friend, co-worker, or associate who gives you some advice about your work that you know is B.S. and makes no sense?

 

For example, the other day I 'came out' to a good friend because the last time we hung out, I had to attend a 'meeting'...and he questioned me about the early departure. So I told him what was up with me, that I work and thats why I ended up leaving. He then says, "Oh...well I used to do that also, I understand". I told him that I only tell good acquientences, not everyone I meet, as not everyone agrees and etc....So he goes on to say, "well the only person you should tell is if you're in a relationship with a person".

 

Other things I've been told is that "things are supposed to be in and out (quick)", "you're not supposed to show your face"...and all these other assumptions.

 

Now, I been in it now for over a year so I know most of that is rubbish, but I be wanting to say, "how do you know". Usually it comes from someone who's done it shortly or from someone who hangs around escorts regularly. But still, its like...where do these people get this from. Dont they know we're all independents and run it like we choose?

[jackcali]

Ha, Rian, don't sweat it. Whatever the subject, you can find people who think they're experts and know everything. That know-it-all attitude is very frustrating, particularly when you realize that the person who's lecturing you knows less than you do about the subject and in fact may know nothing at all about it. I used to call people on it, which I now realize was rude especially if the person was trying to be helpful with their advice, but now I just listen attentively (they might actually say something worthwhile), thank them for sharing their wisdom with me and then move on to the next topic of conversation.

[Guest AndrewJames]

Rule #1, You are the Boss

 

Hey Rian-

 

We are all running our own business here, so we get to have what ever rules we like. I like to talk to other guys in the work, and compare notes, but I don't necessarily model my business after anyone else's.

Personally I like to spend a few minutes chatting with a client, some guys don't like to talk to clients.

Personally I don't pay alot of attention to the clock, some guys are very strict on an hour ending right on time.

Personally I like the guys I meet in this work, and that guides me to be friendly and makes the time with clients fun for me. I have known working guys and girls who don't like the clients so much, and I see that they have a different way of working than I do.

I do listen to other people in the work on a few subjects, like critiques of my ads and photos, but I think how each of us conducts ourselves, when we are in a scene with a client, is totally an individual thing.

 

Cheers

Andrew

[devonhunter]

this is how i feel about exotic dancing... i've not taken the plunge yet into escorting, but that is going to change very soon. lately i've been reading, thinking, and cogitating... when i make the transition it will be on my own terms.

 

but back to my original thought: i've been doing dance for a long time. it cracks me up when short timers give advice, especially when it's particularly bad (or worse yet, bad on purpose in an attempt to handicap me, so that they can have an easier time). free advice is often worth exactly what you pay for it (and it's worth less than that if you didn't even ask for it).

[Guest zipperzone]

this is how i feel about exotic dancing... i've not taken the plunge yet into escorting, but that is going to change very soon. lately i've been reading, thinking, and cogitating... when i make the transition it will be on my own terms.

 

but back to my original thought: i've been doing dance for a long time. it cracks me up when short timers give advice, especially when it's particularly bad (or worse yet, bad on purpose in an attempt to handicap me, so that they can have an easier time). free advice is often worth exactly what you pay for it (and it's worth less than that if you didn't even ask for it).

 

Don't be so quick to write-off free advice. Listen and if you don't agree with it, so what, just ignore it. On the other hand, you might just pick up a tip that could prove useful in the future. We can all learn from others (unless of course you're perfect)

 

And be completely honest with yourself now - have you NEVER given unsolicited "FREE" advice?

[Guest RianB]

it cracks me up when short timers give advice, especially when it's particularly bad (or worse yet, bad on purpose in an attempt to handicap me, so that they can have an easier time). free advice is often worth exactly what you pay for it (and it's worth less than that if you didn't even ask for it).

 

exactly... I call it the answer to a question never asked. And I've also had that happen to me as well.

 

Zipper, we're not saying that people's advice are worthless. But there's a difference between giving advice and giving arbitrary guidelines. There has been times when a person has said one sentence about something, and I took it and ran with it (meaning I used it to my advantage)

 

Some people like Devon mentioned, just talk shit to try and make you feel like shit or that you're not doing enough, or something wrong. But the ones Im talking about, actually sincerely believe that their 'ideas' are sincere, that its supposed to be this or that way, and that I should do it like that too. Thats when Im like, well who said its supposed to be like that?

[Romann]

I agree on listening to the free advice. While someone may not know everything or much about a topic, there is still the opportunity to learn something entirely new or give you the tools and information to expand on the given advice.

 

I wasn't there to witness what transpired but it's quite possible this person was just trying to be nice. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and in this situation, they didn't need to share anything but chose to.

 

Just some thoughts.

 

Don't be so quick to write-off free advice. Listen and if you don't agree with it, so what, just ignore it. On the other hand, you might just pick up a tip that could prove useful in the future. We can all learn from others (unless of course you're perfect)

 

And be completely honest with yourself now - have you NEVER given unsolicited "FREE" advice?