The Ten Commandments Of Escorting?

[NoahDriver]

As a newbie escort to the industry, I'm always trying to figure out the best do's and don'ts with the guys I see. Common-sense in personal situations dictates, but what are some of the majors you guys experience (negative and positive)?

 

I'd like responses if possible from both escorts, clients and everything in-between

 

 

 

Noah

[Guest Musclestudoh]

Where to begin????? The two things that come to mind at this late hour are IMHO, the two biggest factors that have helped shape the way I go into every session.

 

I can tell you that early on I found out very quickly what my limits were and what types of clients and scenes i would be most comfortable in. Going against that grain too often and I knew I would be headed down the path of burnout and complacency.

 

Know what your client expects from you and what you expect from your client. Be clear and make sure they are clear with you. Don't leave things to chance or up in the air. Not knowing what might happen makes a potentially tense situation even more tense. There is nothing worse than unclear or unmet expectations and that dreaded awkwardness when something comes up that either one or the other didn't anticipate. This has been a fundamental for me so that I would know if I was going to be able to provide the best experience and that my client was going to have the most amazing time.

 

There are more but I am tired and should have been in bed hours ago. When I am thinking more clearly I will write more.

OH, organization, follow-up and follow-through are important too.

 

As a newbie escort to the industry, I'm always trying to figure out the best do's and don'ts with the guys I see. Common-sense in personal situations dictates, but what are some of the majors you guys experience (negative and positive)?

 

I'd like responses if possible from both escorts, clients and everything in-between

 

 

 

Noah

[Rick Munroe]

Going against that grain too often and I knew I would be headed down the path of burnout and complacency.

 

Musclestud, you are the master of mixed metaphors.

[+ glutes]

As a newbie escort to the industry, I'm always trying to figure out the best do's and don'ts with the guys I see. Common-sense in personal situations dictates, but what are some of the majors you guys experience (negative and positive)?

 

I'd like responses if possible from both escorts, clients and everything in-between

 

 

 

Noah

 

Well N. Mini Driver, start with not taking dirty dildos in you mouth whilst strapped in a sling! Can't your San Antone side-kick impart some common-sense do's and don'ts?

 

 

"What escort hires a nobody, flies them to San Antonio, pays them big money and the nobody decides to relocate to San Antonio so they can become best friends and take photos of/for one another?"

[uwsman2]

From a client's perspective

 

What I'm looking for when I hire may differ greatly depending on the pre-meeting conversation, the nature of the escort's advertising, etc.

 

But in terms of universal do's and don't's --

 

I expect an escort who is clean. Unless a client has specifically requested smelly pits, post-workout stench, etc., escorts should assume as the default setting that immaculate cleanliness is a must.

 

I expect an escort who, having committed to spend an hour or whatever with me, makes that an absolute commitment once it begins. I understand that before our meeting begins, exigencies can arise that require a postponement, a reschedule, etc., so no hard feelings as long as the escort COMMUNICATES and doesn't just leave me hanging. But once our session begins, I expect that the escort is totally present, totally in the moment, cellphone OFF, answering machine set to take messages silently (if I am in his place), mind engaged, etc.

 

I expect an escort who does not so over-book himself that he is not fresh and ready for his client. I know the economics of this may be quite tempting for a popular escort to book as many sessions a day as he can squeeze in, but holding back on the first client in order to be able to get it up for the next one is cheating the first client who is paying the same fee, and booking somebody for a session when you know you'll be exhausted from prior sessions that day is cheating the next or last client you see.

 

And I expect and hope that escorts will be honest in their conversations about what they will do and won't do and use their own photos in their ads... Is this too much to ask?

 

Anyway, those are a few of my universals. The best way to achieve them, of course, is to find a few escorts -- or even one escort -- with whom you have had a good experience and then to become a repeat customer.... Which I've done. At this point, there is one local guy who I see several times a year, and a few travelers who I try to see when they come to NYC. Every now and then I'm tempted to experiment with somebody new, but over the past year or two I've stuck with my reliables....

[JT Brooklyn]

10 Commandments

 

As a newbie escort to the industry, I'm always trying to figure out the best do's and don'ts with the guys I see. Common-sense in personal situations dictates, but what are some of the majors you guys experience (negative and positive)?

 

I'd like responses if possible from both escorts, clients and everything in-betwe

 

 

Noah

I really wouldn't call "Working It" a Religious Experience. IMHO..Just don't forget your Undies and Get Paid.

[Racketjock]

My opinion

 

Do: be clean, on time, communicative, responsive, and honest

Don't: be unclean, disrespectful, late, dishonest, and a scammer

 

In my opinion, these do's/ don'ts can apply both to the escort and the client. BTW, I initially typed "dirty" instead of "unclean" and then out of honesty I had to change it to make my meaning clearer, as a dirty minded escort can be a good thing in my book.

[Guest Musclestudoh]

HAHA Yeah, I was sleep deprived and had just gotten back from a 17 hour road trip. Not exactly the most articulate or cognitive at that point. My point was that although you might be very successful, you might become discontented at the fact that you were occasionally going against your comfort level or nature. You might become complacent even with so much success.

Musclestud, you are the master of mixed metaphors.

 

And Rick....you are the Master. You remind me of an English teacher I once had. Although I think you would bring a a whole new dimension to Corporal Punishment!. *Sean prepares for his 3 lashings and thinks....it will only hurt for a minute? *

Musclestud, you are the master of mixed metaphors.

[NoahDriver]

Thanks

 

For the info guys. It's always good to hear both sides. Hope everyone has a great week.

 

 

Noah-

[Guest Musclestudoh]

I have heard a few biblical phrases shouted out during my sessions a few times!!!

I really wouldn't call "Working It" a Religious Experience. IMHO..Just don't forget your Undies and Get Paid.

[JT Brooklyn]

I have heard a few biblical phrases shouted out during my sessions a few times!!!

I might have BUT my Tongue was way to busy "Praising" something else other than The Lord!

[Guest Musclestudoh]

"Father Sean" forgives thou from your remissness of praising HIS name. However you weren't remiss in praising anything else!!! I will give you the details in private of how you may repent!

Oh my does this feel like blasphemy.

I might have BUT my Tongue was way to busy "Praising" something else other than The Lord!

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Make Your Word Your Bond!

 

Basically - this will help you be successful in most anything you attempt in life.

 

Keep your promises

 

-An 8:00 appt is a promise to be with your gentlefriend at 8:00

 

-Kissing means tounges - not a peck on the cheek - otherwise say dry kissing only

 

-For me an escort session is something for which I set expectations and share them with the escort as to what I would like to partake in during that session.

 

-I deliver my side and expect the escort to deliver theirs. So if you don't "get into" a particular activity - don't tell a gentlefriend - No Problem on the Phone - Then back out live. You may get a fee - but you won't get a repeat call and may get some bad press as well.

 

-If you do fck-up - Don't blame the client - Take responsibility - Apologize and try and

save the situation with an honest effort. If the situation is damaged beyond repair - don't expect and demand a full payment - offer the adjustment before the client asks.

 

-If the client fcks-up try and be gracious - offer remedies and be sincere (this goes for clients as well)

 

-Don't show up drunky-poo, or high - If you and your gentlefriend agree to party together -that is how it should be done. If you are buzzed let your gentlefriend know when making arrangements (this is particularly true for late night/short notice calls).

 

-When doing extended visits/weekends communicate upfront what you need in the way of personal time for biz/excercise - etc., Also ask your gentlefriend what is their expectation of your time together. If he expects to spend 22hrs a day in bed with a break for room service and to shit - and you need to go to the gym, check your email and want to go shopping for a new leather thong - both of you are going to be unhappy.

 

-Don't take anything from your gentlefriends home/hotel when you leave without permission - this includes towels, ashtrays, suntan lotion, liquor, party supplies, etc.

 

-Keep your pictures current and don't lie about your cock size!

 

-Be Honest - Communicate - You may have to take the lead and gently lead people thru the communication process - Some of your gentlefriends will be scared, novices, married, ugly, old, fat, etc - You are supposed to be their Dream Date - not the other way around!

 

-Treat People with Respect - act in ways that people will want to treat you with respect in return.

 

And most important - Never Shit on the Rug!

 

 

As a newbie escort to the industry, I'm always trying to figure out the best do's and don'ts with the guys I see. Common-sense in personal situations dictates, but what are some of the majors you guys experience (negative and positive)?

 

I'd like responses if possible from both escorts, clients and everything in-between

 

 

 

Noah

[Rick Munroe]

And Rick....you are the Master. You remind me of an English teacher I once had. Although I think you would bring a a whole new dimension to Corporal Punishment!.

 

I actually did teach English once upon a time (ESL) but I got fired for teaching the students dirty/sexual words (which the students loved, but the school frowned upon....not sure why).

 

Btw, I agree with your point, too!

[+ nycman]

I have heard a few biblical phrases shouted out during my sessions a few times!!!

 

Just to clarify...

 

"FUCK ME SWEET JESUS"

 

...is NOT a Biblical phrase.

[jackcali]

 

Some of your gentlefriends will be scared, novices, married, ugly, old, fat, etc - You are supposed to be their Dream Date - not the other way around!

 

 

Some of us are all of those things.

 

All the advice on this thread is great, but I'd like to add one thing about attitude. You ARE supposed to be a Dream Date for your clients, and many of them (especially if they're ugly or old or fat or all three) want to pretend that you're there for the enjoyment and not the money. They know they're going to pay you, they know that that's the only reason you're there, but during the session they'd like to forget that they're old or ugly or fat and instead feel that they are attractive. You've got to help the client pretend that for whatever reason you're into him and that the money isn't an exchange but just a favor that the client is giving in return for your interest.

 

That means not talking about money if the client doesn't, not looking at the clock or appearing bored or mechanical during the session, not disagreeing with the client (which is why setting expectations before the session is important), and complimenting him sincerely on something (anything!!) during or immediately afterwards.

 

Good luck to you.

[+ purplekow]

Some of us are all of those things.

complimenting him sincerely on something (anything!!) during or immediately afterwards.

 

Good luck to you.

 

 

My favorite post coital complement compliment: I am not as sick as I thought I was going to be. It edged out, for a fat, bald old guy, you didn't smell as bad as some other guys I have done.

[Guest Musclestudoh]

Attitude

 

WOW! How did I forget this one! You hit the nail right on the head regarding attitude. It's all about respect and treating everyone like a human being.

 

I can recall two times that I was objectified to the point of being disrespected and it can absolutely can change the tone of a session in a heartbeat. I know that a session can be perceived as "it is what it is" but I do my best to treat it like it's much more than a "wham bam thank you maam," Even if that type of session is what a client wants they should still be treated well. But I have found, for me, those types of sessions are the exception and not the rule. Other than those encounters EVERY client treats me with respect. I can usually tell very quickly during initial communication what the tone of the session might be. The money isn't worth losing my integrity or feeling degraded and belittled. That goes for both sides.

In a profession that is frowned upon by societal standards we can at least have respect for ourselves and for the people we choose to spend our time with.

 

The great thing is I don't have to fake sincerity because I truly am appreciative of every person that has an interest to see me out of the vast "sea" of quality escorts.

 

Some of us are all of those things.

 

All the advice on this thread is great, but I'd like to add one thing about attitude. You ARE supposed to be a Dream Date for your clients, and many of them (especially if they're ugly or old or fat or all three) want to pretend that you're there for the enjoyment and not the money. They know they're going to pay you, they know that that's the only reason you're there, but during the session they'd like to forget that they're old or ugly or fat and instead feel that they are attractive. You've got to help the client pretend that for whatever reason you're into him and that the money isn't an exchange but just a favor that the client is giving in return for your interest.

 

That means not talking about money if the client doesn't, not looking at the clock or appearing bored or mechanical during the session, not disagreeing with the client (which is why setting expectations before the session is important), and complimenting him sincerely on something (anything!!) during or immediately afterwards.

 

Good luck to you.

[Guest RianB]

I'd say another thing is balance. Its easy to get caught up in this especially when new and making lots of coins. But I think trying to have off time is good too. One thing that annoys me (and this is just me personally) is when I'm with some of my 'co-workers' and we could just be hanging out doing something completely un-related to escorting and then the phone rings, and all plans have to change because they get a booking.

 

When things are steady and busy, value your off time. It's good to have a separate phone for client calls, even if it's just a pre-paid something. Pace yourself so it doesnt take over your personal livelihood. I'm working on that myself

[+ purplekow]

What about: "Geez you have quite the large serpent"

"Roman, nail me again"

[N.N.]

I have heard a few biblical phrases shouted out during my sessions a few times!!!

Get thee behind me, Satan!

[Guest Musclestudoh]

That gives a new meaning to "Given' it Hell!!"

Get thee behind me, Satan!

[+ glutes]

Q.: Why can't atheists have orgasms?

 

A.: "Oh God! Oh God!"

[dcguy20]

Travel

 

If you're traveling to cities you are not familiar with:

 

1. Make sure your hotel is in a decent area of that city;

2. Make sure your hotel is easily accessible (close to subways, etc.);

3. If you're unsure about an area ask someone before booking your hotel.

[Guest boiworship08]

Also, don't text the client asking if they're "around". I find that really annoying. If I want to see the guy again, then I will initiate contact. I always feel a twinge of alarm when I get those texts or emails from someone who I've only seen once. With me, if you're hot, you'll get multiple sessions!