Escort Interviewing and Hiring Process

[rvwnsd]

Tom Isern raised an excellent point about different "models" of the escort/client relationship in the main forum . I think there are also multiple models of selecting an escort and suspect that the model used to interview and hire can affect the success of the encounter.

 

Here's a question to the guys who hire...What process do you go through before hiring an escort? Let's hear about how you determine whether a guy is a potential right fit, what kind of questions (if any) you ask, how much mind you pay to "Spidey sense" versus a really hot picture and a big, thick dick/tight, deep asshole. How has your process served you and what you think you could do to improve it?

[+ Tygerscent]

Improving the Process...

 

Oh Yes! Ask questions... Lot's of them and to improve the process... allow the Escort to ask questions about you and be willing to answer them back with the same honesty.

( I sound so bitchy tonight... What's up with that??? I really don't mean it to sound that way~). I mean... there's the obvious foreground sex compatability questions but then there are the middle ground ones: ie. are you both sex all the time people or is one more honry at night but the other most horny in the morning? Is discussing incompatable religeous or political views a factor. These things come more into play with longer sessions. Does the Client just want to stay in the hotel and not eat or sleep but does the Escort require nurishment and a few hours to recharge? Sounds silly but those things can be important.

You know who has this down pat? It's Okie!!!! A model Client. If there was a Client recomendation area I would put him at the Top of the list! He's organized, Respectful to himself and his Escorts, communicates what his expectations are and his needs and desires... the only surprise being that you cum away from the experience with him thinking: "Damn~ What a Great Guy!!! How incredibly Honored and Lucky I was to be hired by him!!!!". He would be a good one to ask about this.

Tyger!

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[JT Brooklyn]

Hang Time

 

LET ME SAY FIRST OFF..IF the Photo's catch your eye THEY ARE responsible for 80% of your even thinking of contacting someone. IF they are fraudulent the rest is moot. That's why No Emails No Contact for starters! Some Working Guys do send an extra Photo which is always a nice touch to SEAL THE DEAL..

 

I just am very suspicious of Calls Only...It's always for whatever it is worth BETTER to get it in writing. IF You get "Yes'd to Death" over the phone be prepared for a not so good experience!

 

IMHO of course how long you plan on hanging out may add a few more questions from both sides. The Longer the appointment the longer the list would probably be, IF your SMART and not looking to be disappointed!

 

IF it is the usual and preferred by many due to Rates... HOUR of Slam-Bam which at most you may enjoy 30-40 mins of ACTUAL SEX, a few Basic Questions usually "suffice".

 

This is why the "Reviews" IF available can be of help. BUT NOT ALL EXPERIENCES ARE THE SAME! "A" had a good time doesn't mean "B" will also as we have read from time to time..

Watch out for the Working Guys who like to TALK UP the time! There are quite a few with that M/O!

[pierrot]

client's point of view

 

Several things impact my hiring. Photos certainly grab my attention, although it's odd how some of the best escorts have poor photos posted, and vice-versa. Maybe the one's with plenty of clients don't want to bother.

Second, I check out their basic info and how that jives with what I want: top/versatile/bottom, well-hung or not (although this requires photos to verify, because basically they all exaggerate), whether they do both in/out calls (sometimes I want one or the other), sometimes height matters to me, although secondarily.

Third, I want to read at least one or two good reviews on this site. I might go with a recommendation from someone on the forum too, if it's someone I've read a while and have some trust in.

Fourth, I contact the guy by e-mail. Most are pretty laconic the first time you write. But I put in there what I'm looking for in general terms, including date and time, to see if they're available.

Finally, I call if they want to speak. Because of legal issues, I DO NOT discuss sex with them on the phone. This is to protect us both. Generally my phone conversations with escorts are short, just enough to confirm a date and time.

Only once have I wished that I had discussed more in advance. But this is a problem if you want something very specific or unusual. In my case, I usually just describe it as vanilla, indicate that the position I want to take (top or bottom), and that has been ok. I think it's obvious.

Anyway, mostly I've had good experiences. The best is, of course, to go back to the same escort more than once, then you know the drill (so to speak).

[Okliehomo]

Many thanks, Ty..

 

Seriously, that was very nice of you to say.... though I think that there are some out there that would beg to differ. In fact, just a couple of months ago, I was given a series of pointers on how I could improve the experience, from the escort's perspective... I was like, "Really??? The first 110 guys seemed ok with it..." But, I was all ears, of course... as in, knees to...

 

Your post did make me laugh, though... the Okie has it down pat part... reminded me of my favorite old joke... "Did you know that Richard Nixon had to see "Deep Throat" 13 times before he could get it down Pat...?" Ah, the 70's...

 

Will post about the original question later so as not to be accused of hijacking...

 

Okie

[Epigonos]

Interviewing is an interesting choice of words. I don’t think I would ever use it in reference to the selection process I use for choosing an escort. I agree that the first thing that attracts my attention is the escort’s photographs. If his physical appearance appeals to me I then look at his profile. If his profile adds to my interest I continue. My next step in to look for reviews on this site and on MER. In reading reviews I try to read ones from clients in my own age group. For some potential clients the age of reviewers might NOT be important BUT I’m 68 and I want to know if an escort plays well with someone my age. Next I contact the escort by email, ALWAYS by email. I ask if he is interested in the type of get together I want and if so what his fee would be. If his answers are positive I then email him a description of myself and ask if after reading that he is still interested to let me know. Now if his response is again positive we make telephone contact and arrange a meeting. I have just gone through this process with Romann /Dallas (he was reviewed here earlier this week) and we have made plans to get together. I realize this process may seem complicated BUT it really isn’t in practice.

[rvwnsd]

Sorry that I didn't catch any of the replies until today. It has been a busy week.

 

Although I am eagerly awaiting Okie's post, I can say that perriot's and Epigonos' methods pretty much match mine. Aside from one truly bad experience (it was looooong before I heard of this site) and a less-than-stellar time a few months back, I've had a great time with most every guy I've hired and simply a good time with the rest. I chalk it up to the way I go about selecting the guys I hire. (The less-than stellar time was my own fault. I wasn't clear on what I wanted and the guy delivered what he THOUGHT I wanted. It was fun, but not a ton of fun)

 

Like the others, I read the guy's profile and pay attention to what he says. I usually skip over those that say "no e-mail," as I always make the first contact by e-mail. Of course, a guy's looks are important and I am on the lookout for consistency and also for photos that appear to be of various vintages (or appear to be "vintage" themselves.) I also cross-checking a guy's profiles on different sites and compare reviews, although I don't always rely on reviews because they describe someone else's experiences which could be different than mine. Then again, reviews are a good way to learn from others' mistakes especially in the scam artist department. After all that, I send a guy an e-mail describing what I like and ask if he can accommodate or if it is something a guy would get into. I was lectured once that I shouldn't discuss sex for money and in my reply I pointed out that there was no mention of money. I didn't hire that guy. Once we talk on the phone I've pretty much made up my mind and the conversation usually seals the deal. A couple of times I've changed my mind based on a phone conversation.

 

A couple of questions I always, always ask, no matter what the ad says, are:

 

- Do you smoke? (I'm OK with a smoker as long as he doesn't smoke with me and doesn't reek of it)

- How old are you? (Not that I expect someone who is fudging to tell me the truth, but its fun to hear some of the answers. If I thought I could get away with asking for the year of birth I would.)

- What is your rate? (That way there is NO confusion)

- Is there anything you would like to know about me? (Apparently, no one asks this. Many guys have been surprised by that question)

- What really turns you on? (I ask this because if a guy really gets turned on by being fucked like there is no tomorrow then we probably aren't a match.)

 

A few times I have been curtly told to read the ad, to which I replied "I have, thank you, and am just confirming. Oh, by the way, we won't be meeting. Thanks."

 

Epigonos, I used the word "interviewing" because I thought it put the up-front work into perspective. I think if we look at it as an interview it makes more sense to ask these questions and do our homework. Would anyone hire a job applicant solely on his resume? Probably not. Then why the hell would we hire someone to fuck around with when we haven't done our due diligence? I had thought about "screening," but that sounds like something they do in the doctors' office.

 

Tyger, you bring up some excellent points...mainly the importance accepting questions from the escort. As I said above, it baffles me when a guy tells me that most prospective clients don't ask if the escort has any questions. Judging from what you said and from comments I have seen on other threads in the forum, some clients take offense at being asked questions of themselves. Personally, I think that is a sign of disrespect. There are two (or more!) people involved and both should have a chance to learn. One of these days I will get up to Portland or you will be in San Diego and I will get to hire you. You exude uber-sexuality and I would love to take a spin with you one of these days. (Hmm...I'm hijacking my own post)

 

Anyway...I hope someone reads this before they hire and avoids some of the bad experiences that have been chronicled in the reviews and forum.

[rvwnsd]

Hijacking

 

"Will post about the original question later so as not to be accused of hijacking..."

 

Okie, I don't think you are hijacking my post...hope no one else thinks so, either. I guess one could think it was hijacking if you started getting replies and they were unrelated to the thread. Oh my God, I've hijacked my own post!

[uwsman2]

selecting an escort

 

I find these reviews very helpful, but I have hired guys who were not reviewed here as well. The first thing that is important to me is the photographs - although I date back from a time when the escort reviews were little classified ads in the "pink pages" of the Advocate and many did not have photos. Then I check to see if they have reviews on here, ads on multiple sites, etc. Of course I am looking for guys whose self-description fits what I'm looking for at that time. But, most importantly for those guys who advertise, I never contact anyone who does not advertise a rate, because I don't like to talk money on the phone and I don't like to meet somebody without knowing what the rate will be. My one or two times making exceptions to that rule have been disasters.

[Guest Musclestudoh]

Selecting an escort

 

As an escort, I think it is very important from my vantage point to ensure compatibility with my clients. So asking the prospective clients what they are like and what they enjoy is extremely important. I am almost certain that not every escort is compatible with every client. It would be a disservice to the client for the escort not to ensure they are going to provide the best experience. In my first response to every potential client I ask them what their interests are and what they enjoy. This helps to ensure that I am the right fit. I would prefer a client to find EXACTLY what they are looking for so they have the best experience, even if it isn't with me.