To Answer The Inquiry Or Not?

[+ Lucky]

Several weeks ago I received a private message from someone who made no attempt to identify himself, and whose handle was foreign to me. The person wanted me to provide him details of an encounter he assumed I had had with a named escort. I wondered why someone would send this without so much as a how do you do, or without making any attempt to suggest why I would want to provide this info to him, even assuming I did know the escort in question. Here's the message; what would you have done?

 

Lucky,

 

Can I ask some advice from you re: ******. I was thinking of hiring him for an hour or an overnight when I go to ****** but I would like to know some tips in advance so that the my time with him would be memorable like a dream date. What are the little things that I should do to at least surprise him?

 

Does he like flowers or gifts to be given to him? What turns ****** on sexually? What does he like the client to do with him? What are his fetishes in your time together? In short what should I do to turn him on? What are his kinks? what sexual positions does he like?

 

I don't know if your time with him is an overnight or short term, but if it is what are his likes and dislikes, what kind of food/cuisine does he like, what topic of conversation should I read on so I can talk to him and make a good connection?How was your time together?

 

Sorry for asking much, but I like doing some research on the escorts I hire, like me re-enacting a fantasy date. If I would tip around how much would it be. I appreciate your advice.

 

Thanks man.

[pegasian]

That sounds like a script from one of the CSI's....RUNAWAY RUNAWAY!!!

 

The guy sounds like he is TRYING to sound like a STALKER..... OR it is ANOTHER type of set-up to build CONFIDENCE in ADVANCE...and THINK WHY/WHO would want to do THAT?!?!

 

BEWARE! CODE RED! DANGER WILL ROBINSON DANGER!!!

 

LUCKY, Go with your GUT FEELINGS. You can ONLY have REGRETS IF you DID SOMETHING that CAUSED a PROBLEM/DANGER for this escort....OR didn't TAKE ACTION to PREVENT a PROBLEM.

[+ Charlie]

Ignore it.

[Scorpio]

I received the exact same message. I found it to be strange as well since to my knowledge I had never even commented in the forums on that particular escort.

 

Although I did reply by private message (not email) that he obviously had the wrong person. I too debated whether to reply or not.

[raulgmanzo]

Why not give him the benefit of doubt?

 

Possibly the person who wrote asking these questions assumed you knew him. Maybe he simply didn't realize you wouldn't recognize his handle. Maybe he has confused you with another person, maybe one of the other LuckyXXXX or whoever. Perhaps you have met him and you don't remember.

 

Why not simply send an email to him saying "hey I'm sorry but I don't recognize your handle, who are you?".

 

His questions may seem a bit much, perhaps he is too concerned with pleasing the escort in question. Maybe it is a bit of an obsession but that doesn't make him a stalker. Most of us have probably at one time or another been obsessed with something or someone. Sometimes it is just bad or awkward communication, a crazy time in life or just some magic combination of things that push all the buttons. So what?

 

I say assume the best, perhaps he is actually a friend of yours who just had a couple of beers or maybe you overlooked some previous email that would make it all seem more sensible.

 

If I ignored emails that seemed odd, confusing or forward I would not only have a whole lot less business but I would have missed out on meeting an awful lot of very interesting and kind people.

 

Raul

http://daddysreviews.com/finder.php?who=raul_g_chicago

[Guest ront3943]

Lucky, no we don't know each other, I'm one of the other guys who are not active here. I was the one who asked you and several others, I was just randomly asking people.

 

Sorry lucky and to the other people if I made you feel at uneasy or wary for asking for advice with regards to that particular escort. I didn't mean anything bad or to harm to anyone at all.

 

I've been with escorts and have always been pampered and pleased so that my needs are always satisfied. I just felt this time around I want to reverse situations and act out a fantasy of mine on being a "caring boyfriend" just in my dreams even for a short while. I am getting older and I want to at least experience a fantasy of mine, I just don't want to be the only person who is being pleased, the feeling of being caring for another and being cared about is something we all look for. I just don't want to be selfish this time.

 

I've had several escorts here that I want to have this fantasy dream date of mine, I'm just slowly doing it to each one of them.

 

It was a private email and I would be pleased if we don't discuss it publicly. Thank you Raul for being so open-minded.

[pegasian]

ront-

 

What Lucky did was admirable. The request seemed suspicious. It showed CONCERN and CARING on his part to post his worries about it here. Lucky did NOT disclose your name or the escorts. However, NOT knowing you he had JUSTIFIABLE FEARS. You should understand this. Think about it. How would you feel IF someone YOU did NOT KNOW was asking your friends questions about you with no PRIOR relationship?

[Guest ront3943]

I understand where you are coming from pegasian and where Lucky is coming from.

 

I'm so sorry I just want to clarify I don't have any bad intention or whatsoever.

 

My bad, I think I have a problem in communicating in writing because I appear to be too forward and I apologize for it. I don't want to be misunderstood.

 

We are brothers in this forum and there is no need for us to be fearful of one another, maybe just wary a little bit until we get to clarify some matters and I would clarify it.

 

Peace.

[+ Lucky]

ront- thank you for coming forward, not that I know any more about you than before. The information you sought would be personal to me if I had indeed been with the escort that you mentioned. Why would you assume that I would share my personal, intimate experience with someone I not only did not know, but who did not even identify himself to me?

One suspicion I had was that it was the escort himself,wondering what I might say about him. Another thought that occurred to me was that the message came from law enforcement, trying to involve me in something of their own concern. I just couldn't understand why I would share a private detail of my life with a stranger.

 

May I suggest that you get your information from the reviews of the escort, or simply make an inquiry here and find out who might be willing to respond. But to hit up a perfect stranger for personal information did not sit well with me. Thanks for allowing me to get this off my mind.

 

Since I seem to have Raul's permission, I can say that I have indeed met him and found him to be an engaging fellow, clearly of great intellect, and apparently willing to explore new avenues of the mind.

[Bart]

Dear RonT:

Rather than finish this thread on a negative, I would like to respond to your question which generally holds true for all the gentlemen I meet.

 

Communicate directly with the escort and tell him of your desires, especially those that direct to you want to make them feel comfortable. I always ask guys in longer appts, to please give me an idea of what foods you like, more importantly dont like, beverage of choice, I direct them to website of hotel so they can see the facility, would they prefer a place near a gym, downtown nightlife or quiet suburb, etc. It does enhance the meeting to show that you have an interest in what the escort desires as well. You just have to present it in a fashion that makes them feel comfortable talking to you as opposed to asking too many personal questions that are not relevant to the meeting.

 

Just know as you open the door to this type of meeting, intimacy may well follow in as well and that it will generally involve emotion and connection. The gentlemen usually are bit better able to deal with this than us clients, just have to keep things in perspective, if so these meetings can be more fulfilling.

[Gar1eth]

>It was a private email and I would be pleased if we don't

>discuss it publicly. Thank you Raul for being so open-minded.

 

 

 

Just for the record, I want to admit to having contacted fellow Message Center members occasionally to find out more information about an escort I am interested in. I haven't done it for awhile--but when I have done it--I have always identified myself by my screen name--and I think my initial e-mails aren't usually quite as "intense" as RonT's initial e-mail--but maybe I am wrong and my initial e-mails are intense--again I haven't contacted anyone in awhile.

 

I also want to say that one of my dearest e-mail buds--our friendship started because he privately e-mailed me with his personal experience of an escort I was considering a weekend with. Since then we've carried on a lively e-mail correspondence--probably at least 3 years or more and have met in person twice (I will also admit that I was apprehensive at our initial meeting thinking about meeting a totally unknown person from the "net"--pick your favorite Movie of the Week Murder Mystery here), but in my case--my friend's initial private message to me has led to a cherished friendship and ultimately to a quite satisfying 3 way--friendship silly--after about a year--we added another friend to our e-mail discussions and now the 3 of us usually e-mail each other on a several times a week basis and we even manage to communicate about things other than (whisper it) escorts and sex.

 

So in my case, things worked out well.

 

 

Gman

[+ Charlie]

I also met Lucky this way, when he emailed me out of the blue and asked if I would like to meet, but he had identified himself to me clearly, and he was not asking for personal information about my activities, which is very different from what happened in the incident he brought up here.

[JT Brooklyn]

Lucky..Kudos to RONT the Originator of the email! Otherwise this may have turned into one of those "Never Ending" email conspiracy Threads! ;-)

[Chuck50]

We are Lucky to have Lucky HUGS

[+ Lucky]

Thanks, Chuck. I feel lucky to be here.

(I also feel Lucky every day!)