Negotiating

[TruthBTold]

I have read a lot of posts where people suggest negotiating with the escort for a price. How is that done? What is the best tact to take?

[Guest zipperzone]

>I have read a lot of posts where people suggest negotiating

>with the escort for a price. How is that done? What is the

>best tact to take?

 

The best "tact to take" if you want the best encounter is to pay his asking rate. Beating him down will cause resentment and probably a less that expected encounter.

[Guest Merlin]

I agree. But if you are looking to hire for travel or a weekend or something other than a short meeting, some discussion of fees may be necessary. I suggest you decide in your own mind what is fair and offer it to him.

[+ g56whiz]

The converse is also true. I engaged a well known escort for a two hour session and thoroughly answered this escort's well thought out questionnaire. There were several follow up questions resolved; and then, several days before the date, I got an e-mail informing me that if I intended for him to cum during our session, the first of his day, the fee would be $100 more than the significant fee already quoted. I canceled immediately informing him that he had just destroyed any bit of magic or fantasy I had expected. He did not respond.

[Guest ncm2169]

I agree with both Zip and Merlin. Trying to negotiate on a "published rate," i.e., 1 hour, 2 hours, standard overnight, etc., can be dicey. But where travel is involved (short or long distances), or you're looking for an extended session, etc., be prepared to make an offer, but make sure it's fair. :*

[KMEM]

Ah, but what is a "fair" price? There is another thread on "Ask an Escort" that attempts to answer this question.

 

Negotiating to my way of thinking is somewhat how you "feel" about doing so. Another poster suggested that a reply to the escort's price might be, I cannot afford or do not feel comfortable with that price, followed by a suggested price. The difficulty might be not allowing yourself to become upset if the answer is no and making a good faith effort to not upset the escort. That still begs the question of what is a "fair" offer.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[raulgmanzo]

As an escort I don't mind a client negotiating for longer sessions. But I'm not interested in negotiating for one hour. Though I try not to get bothered by it.

 

What does bother me is when I don't know where the appointment will be (down the street or a two hour trek to the exurbs), what they are interested in, if they are even real and they start saying they want a reduced rate.

I don't want to play guessing games. In fact I've gotten emails that said nothing more than "I don't have much cash can you cut me a deal?"

 

My suggestion for anybody wanting to suggest a rate other than what is published is to be upfront about the particulars such as when, where and what. That way the escort can easily and diplomatically say "I'm sorry but I can't at this time" etc. But sometimes we might be nearby, bored, horny, hard up or find that the inquirer catches are interest.

 

Raul

http://daddysreviews.com/finder.php?who=raul_g_chicago

[Guest nycblondtop]

An interesting tale, slightly off-topic:

 

A few years ago, I was regularly seeing one of NYC's most often and well-reviewed escorts (usually every 2 weeks or so). We were having a very good time, and eventually he started calling me to see if I wanted to play. We made a deal that if I called him, it would be his usual rate; if he called me, I'd cover his cab fare and that was it. This went on weekly for close to two months, and then he suddenly ended the arrangement. It was very fun while it lasted... I'm interested if anyone else has had a similar experience.

[Bart]

First my basic philosophy is I lay out the ground rules, my expectations, dates, travel arrangements and timing (I do not actually spend the whole time for overnights, I go home for sleep and return in morning)and say tell me what your "Donation Level" Now I always just accept or decline and do not submit a return quote because as was mentioned I feel in the past when a gentleman asked me to counter offer, I have been burned. I get a lower rate and reduced service and one time the following comment was made to me on the phone and in person a total of three times prior to actually starting "I am really giving you a good rate and I usually ask for more." Well the entire meeting I was given reduced services.

 

Now I will be asked "How much are you willing to spend" and I just simply ask "please tell what you are comfortable with and I will respond yes or no and we can move on."

 

I agree negotiating 1-2 hour rates I am not sure is putting the best foot forward. I do agree if everything is agreed upon and then gentleman comes back and just prior to the meeting states "If you want me to cum it is $100 more" that is in very poor "taste."

 

I have over time have had several escorts willing to cut me deals but I have always felt a bit uncomfortable doing that I just dont want to feel indebted to a guy. Yes one guy is very nice to actually pays all his travel for a 3 hour appt to me and I have told him that it is not necessary since it is 100 mile distance and a couple of hours.

[lookin4hotties]

Price is relative. If an escort I want to hire

is asking $2500 for an overnight, I will bargain

down. If that doesn't work, I might tell them

them they are overpriced and for sure will not

hire, even if they're REALLY hot. If some

other guy that I would enjoy meeting only wants

a few hundred, I will likely add to what they

are asking for or maybe take them shopping, or

throw something else in, if they are flying in.

Above that low end, and I pay without really

feeling a need to bargain or add anything.

 

If I really felt the need to see someone whom

I think is "overpriced", I would just travel

to them and book a few hours, rather than

pay their whopping overnight fee.

 

Lookin4hotties

[Bart]

Dear L4H:

What is generally the reaction you receive from the escort as you try to chew down their rate? Secondly, when you have consumated the deal at a lower rate did the escort generally perform up to your expectations? I mean I have had such terrible luck and I am not even the one that has offered. I can think of only one occassion where an escort lowered his rate to me and it worked great but I think my lifetime total when rates were negotiated is 1 great and 8 terrible. I find it easier just to say no.

[Epigonos]

I never have one hour appointments with an escort. I always arrange to have lunch or dinner (his choice) and then a couple of hours of play time. I simply ask the escort if he is available for this type of arrangement and if so what his fee would be. If he is available and interested but quotes me a fee higher than I am willing to pay I simple reply that the fee is higher than my budget allows and apologize was wasting his time. Only one or two escorts have countered with a lower fee. I NEVER respond to counter offers.

 

I only spend extended periods of time (weekends or longer) with escorts I know well. In these cases, because of familiarity, it has been easy to explain to the escort what I have in mind and ask him if he is interested. I always try to select a destination we will BOTH find interesting. I have, thus far, always found the quoted reasonable.

 

I speak ONLY for myself here but I have always found haggling demeaning. I have lived abroad in countries where bargaining was expected and I hated it.

[MiamiLooker]

>I have read a lot of posts where people suggest negotiating

>with the escort for a price. How is that done? What is the

>best tact to take?

 

 

Negotiation does not necessarily need to lead to haggling. As with any negotiation, you need to determine what you have to offer that might benefit the other party. Assuming you're asking about a one or two hour session, perhaps you live close by the escort (if this is an outcall for him)? Are you flexible with your availability for a session (such as midday on a weekday rather than requiring an evening or weekend session)? Can you be available on short notice? If he offers "full service", he may be willing to lower his fee if you're only interested in specific activities. Also, he may be more willing to consider negotiating toward the end of the month when bills are due.

 

I would suggest you email your offer, and even if he's not interested, you can ask that he save your email in case he reconsiders in the future, and you should include an easy way to contact you.

 

The end result should be that both parties are satisfied with the arrangement.

 

 

ML

[pegasian]

I think Some Escorts MAY do the SUPER CUTS approach : Pay for SEVEN sessions and get the EIGTH ONE FREE

[+ Billsboy4]

While I realize that some people are not comfortable negotiating, I don't think it's tacky or demeaning.....it's BUSINESS. I always try to negotiate and in most cases, get the rate reduced. With the economy the way it is, I have found it even easier to negotiate downward. I also don't think it's insulting to the escort to be asked, because he has the right to say 'no.' Again, I remind you all that this is a business where the client has the right to ask for the lowest price and the service provider can either agree to it or not. I find this to be true is everything you pay for whether it's Macy's or Best Buy or an escort. Nothing is written in stone. Again this is just to present another view of things on this subject. To quote Joan Rivers: "If ya don't ask....ya don't know."