Yes or No to an Escort

[mansniffing]

Is there an understanding between an escort and a client on how one or the other says no? How does a client handle it when the escort arrives and he knows they are not a match? I asked one escort how he handles it. He said he leaves. But how does a client handle it when he wants to say no? Would it be appropriate to discuss the subject when arranging an appointment with an escort?

[+ purplekow]

I think discussing an exit strategy to an escort encounter with the escort is setting yourself up for failure. If you can tell it is not going to work, grow a set, tell him to his face that you don't want to proceed with the encounter and offer to pay a portion of the fee to cover travel time and expense.

 

 

I have never seen a purplekow;

I never hope to see one;

I can tell you anyhow;

I'd rather see than be one

 

Help there is a purplekow in my mirror

[+ glutes]

With CL listers I tell them that if they don't add up to their picture(s) I most likely will turn them down. That cuts out a lot of the flakes and phonies!

Ask them, 'What happens if we don't get along?"

Also, take the tips that CL posts for arranging a meeting:

 

The overwhelming majority of craigslist users are trustworthy and well-intentioned.

 

With billions of human interactions facilitated through craigslist, the incidence of violent crime has been extremely low.

 

Nevertheless, it's very important to take the same precautions online as you would offline.

 

When meeting someone for the first time, please remember to:

 

* Insist on a public meeting place like a cafe

* Tell a friend or family member where you're going

* Take your cell phone along if you have one

* Consider having a friend accompany you

* Trust your instincts

[+ ArVaGuy]

I've had this happen to me twice over the years. In both instances I realized as soon as the guy arrived that it was not going to work out. Neither resembled their photos and one guy had run multiple ads with different names and was using a new name to cover a bad reputation. The multiple ad guy was well known on the bar scene at the time and so it was easy to identify him when he arrived. Also both these incidents happened during the pre internet days.

 

Before they bearly stepped inside I told them that I did not think this session was going to work out. Both were flustered and on their way to being upset I'm sure. To ease the situation I gave each of them $50 for their time and travel costs. This seemed the easiest and fairest way to deal with the situation.

 

Fortunately this has never happend again to me thanks to this site and others where one can research before the hire.

[AaronEdwards]

The Escort:

The escort has to walk a very fine line in this situation. On one hand, you do not want to give the client anything less than they have read about you and what they expect from you. On the other hand, you do not want to insult them, offend them, or hurt their feelings either. I am very fortunate to have not had to turn many people away. When I have a client that I immediately can tell it is not going to be a match, I tell them that with the appointment, their has to be a mutual connection and I feel that the two of us are both in different mind sets at this time. I would however like to give you a recommendation of a person that I believe can best fit your needs and desires though. Then I give a recommendation of another escort and sometimes will even contact the other escort for the client. IMPORTANT NOTE... not all escort handle situations the same. That is why it is always best to make sure your escort is both personal and professional before meeting them.

 

The Client:

The client does not want to offend the escort because, let's face it, you want discretion and any situation is too much situation. If an escort does not look like their description, does not look like their pictures, does not offer the desired service you hired him/her for, or is just not a match when they arrive for you, you have the right to cancel the appointment. It is not a one way street on that issue. It is your hard earned money and anything less than what you want and are paying for is scamming you from your money.

 

The best way to handle the situation is to immediately tell the escort that you appreciate the fact that they came over or that they prepared for you however, you do not feel that this is going to be a match at this time. Then the best course of action is to pay a fraction of the rate to the escort for his/her time in preparing for the appointment and then tell them goodbye.

 

ONE IMPORTANT NOTE: If an escort cancels the appointment and tells you it is not a match, you have no obligation to pay him anything! He is the one that has not followed though with the appointment and therefore you do not owe him/her anything. If you cancel the appointment you are not obligated to give any money to the escort BUT it is the respectable thing to do. If the escorts rate is 200, it is respectable to give him 50 for his troubles. After all, he did prepare, put fresh sheets on the bed or showed up on time (we hope) and spent gas and time to get to you etc... 50 is a polite way to acknowledge them yet save your money from services that are not your desire. It is the typical and respectable course of action.

 

The best way to handle the situation though is to e-mail with your escort, speak to your escort before meeting and read the reviews of your escort. It saves you from having this situation happen in the first place 75% of the time. :7

[adriano46]

In orchestrating a "theme party" with 5 escorts through what I thought were two reputable agencies in Prague, I faced this situation in a very bad way recently.

 

1) The agency asked for Euros 100 for a clean, furnished apartment for the scene. They had the floor plan and some photos on site, although they said it was Euros 80 originally. I paid this up front before the date began (Mistake #1)

 

2) Since I was on a business trip, I contacted an agency, wich then referred me to a second one (same escorts it seems) and the agent I dealt with was a guy named Martin who represents http://www.TopCzechEscorts.com. After handing over another 100 Euros for "refreshments", as well as giving him 2 bottles of expensive vodka for the party, he promised to arrange everything. (Mistake #2)

 

3) The scene originally involved 5 escorts. I should have been suspicious when in a matter of a few days, of the orignal 5 I requested, only 1 was available (see below). Soon there was a difficult back and forth of e-mails and text messages offering alternatives, genrally men I was not originally interested in meeting. With about 24 hours to go before the meeting, the final list was agreed upon - with the demand on my part to remove one particular guy I absolutely did not want.

 

I was picked up late for this scene - and driven to a remote section of the town (moving to Mistake #3) to a dingy apartment. Two of the escorts were in the car (of the 5). On arrival, as we went in, Martin tells me yet another of the 5 escorts is unavailable (see above - the ONLY ONE of the original 5 I requested making the score now 0 for 5!!!) Then on entering "the apartment" came Mistake #4, as I was stunned to see the guy I previously said "absolutely NEVER" to was standing there smiling. It was HIS APARTMENT, not something clean and light, but something rather messy, with two dogs underfoot (I am not a lover of dogs), little or no lighting, and 4 guys - not 5 - standing around in a very tiny space with one uncomfortable couch.

 

HERE IS WHERE I SHOULD HAVE TURNED AROUND AND LEFT, but they already had 50% downpayment (1000 Euros) + the fee for the dingy apartment and the refreshments.

 

The scene was a disaster. The 4 escorts (all of whom work in porn) were among the worst possible I have met. None of them interacted with each other as requested, the agent never explained the theme, which was the guys dressed in new gym clothes (provided by me, gratis) who would then get into a locker room scene with me. All smoked (cigarettes and, sadly, some marijuana when I explicitly said not smoking... and no drugs...), one in particular had not showered - but seeing the bathroom, I understood - not a single clean towel anywhere, no soap, no nothing...

 

I learned my lesson the hard way. I tried t make the best of a nightmare - and it became only worse.

 

BUYER BEWARE of any escorts advertised on Prague Gay sites such as http://topczechescort.com/ and http://www.callboys.cz/ or http://www.lovepinoy.com/allescort/default.htm ... and be wary of those in porn. No matter how cute, how muscular, how tight, etc... they seem, many have attitude problems, and from the talk in clubs, they also seem to have problems in other areas. The 4 I had here were among the worst I have ever met.

 

I am the fool - they were all paid generously for hardly any work whatsoever - I just wanted to get back to my hotel safely.