Unprofessional escort conduct?

[uwsman2]

Several weeks ago, an escort named Andrew D (San Diego) posted on the Traveling Escorts board that he would be visiting New York City beginning January 31. After checking out his very positive reviews on this site, I emailed him to set up an appointment. We agreed on today (Sunday) at 6 pm. A short time after, he emailed to ask to adjust the time earlier to 5 pm, and I agreed. Earlier this week, I emailed to confirm that he was still planning to come to New York, and he responded, confirming my appointment, and stating he would be back in touch a few days before. I have not heard from him since. I tried emailing again the other day, but got no response. I tried calling him twice today, and was bounced to voicemail, and have had no call back.

 

It was unclear to me if there was a place on this site these days specifically to report about escort "no-shows" so I thought I would post here.

 

One frequently reads escorts lamenting about clients who don't show up for appointments without any notice to the escort. Well, here's a turnabout, an escort who made an appointment and then went incommunicado.

 

I have no idea if anything happened to Andrew D. There may be a perfectly good explanation, involving him being non compos mentis for the past several days, or perhaps finding himself in a situation where he has no access to email or his cellphone (like getting arrested, or being hospitalized due to an accident). I hope that he will get in touch, because I enjoyed our email exchange, was looking forward to meeting him (excellent reviews on this site), and hope nothing bad has happened to him.

 

I've been hiring escorts for decades, and have been reviewing on this site (under a different screen name) since "the beginning." This is the first time I've had an escort disappear without any word after confirming an appointment.

[+ Lucky]

Join the club. I made an appointment once to see Caesar Mancini in LA. He let me drive all the way from Palm Springs, get a hotel, and then wouldn't answer his phone. I know he has his admirers, but it sure was a skanky thing to do.

[Kevin Slater]

>One frequently reads escorts lamenting about clients who don't

>show up for appointments without any notice to the escort.

>Well, here's a turnabout, an escort who made an appointment

>and then went incommunicado.

 

It is extremely disappointing when someone doesn't show for an appointment. To be fair, the no-shows we escorts so frequently lament happen far more often than one every few decades.

 

Here's wishing you luck on your next booking!

 

Kevin Slater

[Epigonos]

Damn Lucky it is nice to know that I'm not the only one that Caesar Mancini has stood up. I made an advance appointment to meet him. We were to get together at his place, go out to dinner and return for a couple of hours. We corresponded several times by email and even spoke on the telephone -- all seemed set. When I attempted to confirm the day before our appointment all I got was dead silence. I tried emails and telephone calls -- NOTHING. As far as I'm concerned this guy, though cute, is one major FLAKE!!!!! I can be burned by a guy ONCE never TWICE!!!!!!

[JT Brooklyn]

uwsman..Sorry to hear of your disappointment. Hopefully you will be contacted as to why Andrewd became a No Show. There also could be a very good reason for it.

 

He does have good Review's around here! Traveling as we all know, sometime's is really a hassle! ;-)

[uwsman2]

Actually, that's why I posted this in the first place. He hasn't responded to my email and my phone calls, and I'm hoping that by posting here I may eventually hear from him. He seemed like a really nice guy, and the reviews were excellent on him, so I'm concerned that something happened to him.... The header on the posting was to attract attention.

[uwsman2]

So this posting seems to have achieved its purpose .... after my last post here, I went out to see a movie. "Michael Clayton" - definitely worth seeing, although not the best picture of 2007. Anyway, just got back and checked my email, and there was finally an email from Andrew D.

 

He claims he's been hospitalized with meningitis since Wednesday and had to cancel his trip. Claims he thought he had notified all his NY clients, but he seems to have somehow overlooked me.

 

Well, I'm not sure I believe that, since the last email I had from him was on Wednesday, indicating the NY trip was still on.

 

He mentioned he's going to try to reschedule a trip to NYC in case I was interested.

 

I decided not to repeat this experiment, and responded that I'd pass on this opportunity.

[swallowU]

I, too, had a similar experience with Caesar Mancini. Setup an appointment for him to come to my home in Orange County. He called the day before to confirm but on the evening of the appointment was a no-show. He didn't pick up his phone nor reply to any email inquiries.

 

I've never bothered to attempt a reschedule

 

swallowu

[uwsman2]

In further clarification, Andrew D says that when he responded to me on Wednesday he was still planning to come, but his doctor sent him for tests in the afternoon, confirmed meningitis, and put him in the hospital, where he is still. I'm finding this all puzzling. If he's in the hospital, how does he come to be emailing, unless he has a portable device that can do email from the hospital? And if he does, why didn't he contact earlier? Anyway, if he's in the hospital I hope he gets better, but I don't plan to schedule with him if/when he finally comes to NYC.

 

But I just wanted to be sure his side of the story appears here.

[Guest andrewd]

Short story version is I am back on my feet and nearly recovered except for being a bit tired and some what dismayed by this post, but I am a big boy and will get over it and move on.

 

I am a very professional person and conduct myself and my business accordingly. My reviews speak to that and my many happy repeat clients do so as well. I pride myself on always showing up, phoning if I am running late and providing top notch service to all my clients. I am not perfect and have a couple of mix ups that have always been speedily corrected. Never have I not shown up or stood up a client. I have been on the receiving end of this situation and wouldn't do this to someone else. I was sick, I have no reason to lie about it. As I mentioned in my first posting about this trip it would have been my first and I was very much looking forward to it.

 

As to how I was able to access email, it's called a laptop and wireless internet access, no special device required. I wasn't much in a mood to be conversing on the phone, nor is a hospital a place to have a discreet conversation on the phone.

 

Hope this clears things up a bit....looking forward to rescheduling some time in March.

[uwsman2]

Wireless laptop internet access in a hospital? In my experience, hospitals don't even want you to use cellphones... something about interference with their sensitive equipment.

 

But perhaps things are different on the Left Coast.

 

Anyway, it's good to hear Andrew D is on the mend. Best of luck.

[DCR]

Just back from my second stint at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota, and I can assure you that cell phones and lap tops can be used in the hospital. Mayo has done studies and concluded that they do not interfere with their equipment (and doctors with cell phones are easier to contact), In fact, the place is set up for WiFi, and they will loan a patient a lap top if requested.

[uwsman2]

Good to know. I hope the word spreads to other hospitals. I have a recurring appointment at New York Hospital (monitoring the old prostate) and there are prominent signs at the elevator banks about cell phone use being prohibited.

[uwsman2]

Good to know. I hope the word spreads to other hospitals. I have a recurring appointment at New York Hospital (monitoring the old prostate) and there are prominent signs at the elevator banks about cell phone use being prohibited.

[Rick Munroe]

>Just back from my second stint at the Mayo Clinic in

>Minnesota

 

That's where Fred Mertz took Ethel to get her gallstones removed. You know, just in case anyone ever asks...

[rvwnsd]

My mother was just released from an older hospital located in the far hinterlands of suburban Chicago and they have free WiFi, allow the use of cell phones, and the nurses all carry wireless phones...even in the ICU. Clearly not just a "left coast" thing. Perhaps NYC is simply behind the technological times.

[arthur]

A couple of years ago I spent two very boring days as a guest at Beth Israel Hospital in New York City and had no problems at all using my cellphone nor did I get any complaints from the hospital staff.

ag

[Guest zipperzone]

A word of caution. There have been several reports lately about laptops in patient's hospital rooms vanishing overnight while the patient is asleep. Chain them to your bed - too lumpy to be stuck under you pillow.

[stevekorgman]

And I recently spent a few days at Clarian North Hospital in Indianapolis (of all places) - they have internet access via a laptop that is on a pull-down holder right by the bed - no extra charge and fully 'net capable - now that's service, boys - of course I was a tad bit discrete in which sites I visited ...

[Guest carter07]

In light of all this info, strikes me that uwsman2 could be a bit more forgiving, IMHO.

[uwsman2]

What this all means, of course, is that the guy may have had his laptop the entire time he was in the hospital but never bothered to contact me and tell me he wasn't coming to NYC after all... but perhaps his condition was such that he couldn't use it for several days... Or he may be telling the truth, thought he had contacted all his NYC appointments, and just somehow overlooked me.

 

No real way to judge.

[ariadne1880]

Just to play devil's advocate here, but I was hospitalized several times while undergoing cancer treatment. Sometimes it was unexpected. As much as I might have liked to, often my clients were not uppermost on my mind. My recovery always was first. Hope that doesn't sound selfish.

 

I have been a resident of the "Hotel Sloan" in NYC many times and they have always let me have my laptop and my cell phone. They don't like it to be honest but they have never taken it away from me.

 

Mark

[+ purplekow]

There have been several recent articles on the relative safety of the newest cell phones and medical equipment. These phones seem to interfere less as they have a tighter band frequency or some such. In any case, there has been a rapid movement to allow cell phones and lap tops in hospitals. There are however, privacy issues which remain. The age of the hospital equipment may also be a factor.

Let us not forget the plain old boorish behavior of people with their cell phones and lap tops and the stress which those kinds of contacts may cause on patients.

So as to the original post, either believe and forget or disbelieve and not hire again. Either you respect the person and his veracity or you don't and if you don't you certainly shouldn't hire him again.

As to cell phones in general, I believe that they make many people feel much more important than they are and they allow people to nearly maximize their self involvement. I have one. I use one. I try to limit it to necessary calls and necessary conversation in public and I keep those calls as short as possible.

Any escorts have a client take a call during the act, not just during foreplay or afterplay but during the main event? Clients, would you tolerate an escort taking a call mid stroke?

[Guest zipperzone]

>As to cell phones in general, I believe that they make many

>people feel much more important than they are and they allow

>people to nearly maximize their self involvement. I have one.

>I use one.

 

It would be interesting to hear if anyone who uses this site does NOT have one. Brave unconformist that they may be.......

 

>I try to limit it to necessary calls and necessary

>conversation in public and I keep those calls as short as

>possible.

 

The two types of cell phone calls that drive me bonkers is the guy in Blockbuster discussing with his wife which movie to rent, and the same guy in the supermarket discussing the merits of every can of peas and loaf of bread with the missus. If he's that fucking stupid, he souldn't be sent to do the shopping.

 

>Clients, would you tolerate an escort taking a call mid

>stroke?

 

Well there may not be much you could do about it at the time other than throwing a hissy fit - but he sure as hell would not be hired for a repeat performance.

[uwsman2]

I've had a few -- luckily very few -- occasions where an escort took a cellphone call during an appointment. I think it is totally unprofessional for the escort to leave his cellphone turned on during an appointment, much less to actually take a call. And, when I have an appointment as a client of an escort, I always turn my cell phone off.

 

Many escorts emphasize in their advertising that rates are for time only. Well, the converse of that is during the appointment it's my time, not the escort's time, and he shouldn't be using it for phone calls. (Especially conversations with other potential clients about scheduling their appointments.) That's what voicemail is for. Even leaving the phone on is an annoyance, since the ringing breaks the concentration of whatever is going on at the time.;(