"Escort Etiquette" by Mark Perkel

[Guest ncm2169]

I saw this link on Patrick Bogan (Dallas)'s website:

 

http://www.patrickbogan.com/escortetiquette.html

 

I've been hanging here since 2001, and I can't remember ever seeing this.

[Guest josephga]

iv seen it b4 even though iv never hired an escort i disagree with a few things on his page..

[lookin4hotties]

I mentioned it about 2 months ago here:

 

http://mc.daddysreviews.com/dcboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=5&topic_id=15948&mesg_id=15948&page=1#15965

 

in this thread:

 

http://mc.daddysreviews.com/dcboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=5&topic_id=15948&mesg_id=15948&page=1

 

I don't agree with all of it, but it's still a great read

for someone to read who has not hired before.

 

Lookin4hotties

[mark]

Several guys paste this article into their websites. I guess it's helpful to the "newbie". I think it would helpful if there was some advice out there about being careful when frequent-clients call a guy for the first time, such as:

 

(1) check for reviews;

(2) don't give your hotel room number to the escort until he calls your cellphone from the hotel lobby;

(3) when the escort first enters the room (or the client first enters the escort's place), give some sort of affectionate hug (or even a little kiss)...I'd figure cops would jump back in reaction to it.

(4) My attitude is that the escort has advertised; you've responded, and you both know what you want. Therefore, I've never felt the need to discuss anything but time/location/fee over the phone...if a guy persists in asking "what I want", I usually cut things off right then, because he's either avoiding any caution, or he's a cop.

(5) If the guy turns out to be not what you expected (looks-wise or performance-wise)then all you've lost is a couple of hundred bucks.

 

My pet peeve continues to be that guys who pay good money to advertise either don't respond to messages/emails...or are a no-show.

 

All in all, I've had dozens of very fine experiences over the years...and expect to continue to have them...but always with precautions.

[SteveStacks]

You raise some great points!

 

There are a few things that I wanted to point out from the escorts perspective as well...

 

If a client won't give me his room number, I would never bother to go as far as the lobby of the hotel.

I realize that guys may be "gun-shy" after having bad experiences with shady escorts, but as escorts, we very possibly have had to deal with flaky clients as well and while clients have reviews to establish that we can be trusted, we typically have no such assurance about the client.

(Although if a client is abusive or dangerous, word can and does get out among the guys.)

If I'm trusting the client enough to put in the efforts and time to travel to see him, he needs to trust me enough to give me a room number.

As you astutely point out, it's a bad idea to hire someone who isn't reviewed....if after reading the review, you're not sure if you can trust the guy with your room number, it's probably a bad idea to see him at all.

 

The hug idea is a great one!

But something "too affectionate" (and a kiss may or may not fall into that category?) could fall under the "act of furtherance" that is required for charges to be brought. It's a silly argument, but in light of the inherent silliness of the very existence of vice police it's something to consider....it's probably totally ridiculous to quibble over such things, just a thought.

 

Finally, along similar lines, while I wholly understand reluctance to go into details about what one is into, a client would do well to always make it clear in some way whether they prefer to be on "top of things" or want the escort to "be on top of things."

Many escorts are versatile, but if you're expecting the former, you'd

be smart to give him the chance to prepare for that before he shows up.

 

Thanks for posting that....you bring up some great ideas and make some great suggestions....

 

Happy holidays everyone....

[Guest josephga]

heres a big one with my massage services and escorts should follow it as well. trust is a 2 way street. avoid any client that calls from a blocked phone number. if they have a problem with you having their number then you should have a problem going to their place or having them at yours..

[mark]

Well, Josephga is most likely right on the notion that if, after reading a review, you can't trust an escort, you ought not to call him in the first place. I guess I should have thought it all the way through...it's sort of the same thing as going to an escort's place for an Incall appointment: many times I've been given an address (and even an electronic "gate" code)and then asked to call the escort when I'm inside the apartment complex...and only then will he give me the apartment number.

 

I understand one of the reasons for that: for the cops to get a warrant, they need to be specific as to the apartment...theoretically no judge would issue a search warrant for a complex containing 500 apartments.

 

Also, about the "hug" or other affectionate gesture upon arrival: this would take place before any money is out of the client's pocket, much less laid on the table. I guess nothing's foolproof, but if the escort shies away from the arm-around-the-waist or other touch/kiss/hug, then the client does have some reason to suspect a set-up and proceed with due caution. Again, with favorable reviews, risk is minimal...

 

I understand the pre-preparation that has to take place for certain activities to be enjoyable; again, since I'm neither a top nor a bottom, I don't think along those lines...I have remarked that "Personally, I'm not a top or a bottom." But josephga's suggestion about want you (or me) to be on top of things is a good way to put it.

 

I guess everything's a crap-shoot...but that's probably one of the reasons we all like to do these things...there's a whole lot of intrigue in doing something we're probably not supposed to be doing. Ha!

[CT Dick]

I've never been reluctant to give a hotel room number. I have to give in a little to the escort.

 

If I don't know the escort or he hasn't been well reviewed, I often start with a massage. That is not a commitment to anything illegal and it gets things started. It is then the escort who does the erotic touching and the segue from massage to escort session.

 

Dick

[Guest josephga]

some of my massage clients told me this. when they go to someone new for the first time. they will write the address down with a note saying thats where they went and will leave it on the fridge at home then toss it out once they get back..

[Guest zipperzone]

>Finally, along similar lines, while I wholly understand

>reluctance to go into details about what one is into, a client

>would do well to always make it clear in some way whether they

>prefer to be on "top of things" or want the escort to "be on

>top of things."

>Many escorts are versatile, but if you're expecting the

>former, you'd

> be smart to give him the chance to prepare for that before he

>shows up.

 

If the escort is versatile, I would expect that he would always be in "good condition"

[SteveStacks]

Unfortunately, it's not an option to prepare for those sorts of activities every time before you see a client without long term health risk.

 

Cleaning out doesn't just remove unwanted er... "stuff"...it also removes healthy bacteria and will eventually lead to health/digestive problems if you do it too frequently....

 

You just can't prepare in that way every time you see a client unless you're only seeing a couple clients a week....

 

Argh! The slings and arrows of versatility!

[a_nice_guy]

>Unfortunately, it's not an option to prepare for those sorts

>of activities every time before you see a client without long

>term health risk.

>

>Cleaning out doesn't just remove unwanted er... "stuff"...it

>also removes healthy bacteria and will eventually lead to

>health/digestive problems if you do it too frequently....

>

>You just can't prepare in that way every time you see a client

>unless you're only seeing a couple clients a week....

>

>Argh! The slings and arrows of versatility!

 

Steve,

 

That's certainly good info to know--thanks!

 

I know that when I was on antibiotics a few years ago (to clear up a sinus infection (yeah, I know what you guys were thinking--HAHA)), it (the antibiotics) killed too much of my "good" bacteria...believe me, that is not something anyone would want to experience! For those that don't know what could happen, without the "good" bacteria, here is what happened to me: I could eat a bowl of soup, and it would be passing through "the other end" in 10-15 minutes...I was really disappointed that the doctors took so long to diagnose my new problem. The term for this situation is long and difficult for me to remember...any docs out there that can help with terminology for the condition???

[SteveStacks]

Hey G,

 

Sorry to hear about that...doesn't sound like fun at all....

glad that you're feeling better!

 

cheers!