Is He Cumming For Me?

[+ Lucky]

In another thread, a poster states about an escort: Lastly he did not cum during the session and that is always a turn off for me. I will not see an escort more than one time who does not cum and just gives excuses as to why they will not cum.

 

And I agree. But I don't know why. Why is it that seeing the guy shoot a load is such an integral part of the escort experience? Many times it doesn't happen and I can still walk away satisfied, but somehow it is a disappointment if the juice doesn't fly. But why?

[+ Charlie]

Because it's proof that you really turned him on (or at least one can convince oneself that's what it means).

[JT Brooklyn]

Lucky..That has "always" been a Deal Maker for me!. I also have not ever repeated with a Non-Shooter! But apparently alot really donot care. Slam-Bam-Thank You Man... works fine for them.

 

Usually hooking up early in the day as I like to do, guarantees a better chance of it happening, that and the fact I do 2 Hour hookups..more "incentive" to both Come & Cum! LOL

 

There's only been 1 Guy who in the past didn't Shoot. BUT he's alway's been so Hunky & Fun that I over look it. BUT Lately for some reason "The God's" have smiled and he has been Shooting Big Time! I guess Patience is somewhat of a Virtue! LOL ;-)

 

Happy New Year to You!

[SoCal]

>>But apparently alot really donot care. Slam-Bam-Thank You Man...<<

 

JT, a "non-shooting" escort does *not* imply a "slam-bam" experience as you describe above. Different strokes (so to speak) for different folks.

[denny]

this is just ludicrous and not the reason at all that i am interested in 'seeing the juice fly.' i am interested in the other guy cuming just because i feel that it is an integral part of the sexual experience and it is visually exciting to see also. at this stage of the game i don't need any proof that i turned the escort on. if the escort is hard he is turned on as far as i am concerned. If he is hard but won't play until completion than to me (and to alot of other guys who have already contacted me privately) something is very wrong.

[Bart]

Lucky first one question, did you mention to the escort beforehand that you do look for the money shot? If you did I can certainly understand your disappointment. Even if you did not I hope the guy at least says something about it. Yet actually there is something about the guy asking,"So do you want me to cum?" That and a few other questions or statements escort ask or say that just deflate the moment and leave you with question marks afterwards.

 

That said many times I tell the guy not necessary, if it means he will take a quick rest and get back to attacking my ass. Seems silly on my part, I would rather the guy cum because he wants to which is usually 90% of the time. As long as I get great kissing, interaction and a hot sweaty fuck, the cumming is the cherry on top.

 

But it is a good topic.

[denny]

that is the escorts little retort---to try and turn the problem around on you. they tell you its that your need to prove that you are still attractive to other men and this is just outright bullshit. Some of us are visual people meaning we get alot of stimulation from watching and seeing and to see another guy shoot his load is, for me, at least worth the price of admission. The kissing is important too as is the fucking but to see the load fly is the frosting on the cake.

[+ Lucky]

Okay, I have spent the day thinking about it. If the escort is so attractive to me that I would hire him, then I want his full sexuality displayed. What better way to see it than to watch him cum?

 

When I hire, I rarely make requests, preferring to see how the escort does without my suggestions, but I am not shy about suggestions if things start to sag. I have found that asking the guy on the phone doesn't mean it will happen anyway, at least with the cumming part. If he can't, he can't.

[Guest HonkingGoose]

To me, an escort cumming isn't "frosting on the cake," it is the cake. No cum, is "like kissing your sister" or maybe "like kissing your brother."

[Guest zipperzone]

>or maybe "like kissing your brother."

 

that could be hot.........

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Lucky!

 

This topic has been talked about so many times now and every single time it seems as if at first everyone agrees adamantly around the fact that "The escort cumming is the very goal of meeting with an escort", while there is a huge amount of people for whom the escort's orgasm is not only unnecessary but even undesirable. (I know a few men for whom the sight of another man's semen laying around is deeply disturbing.)

 

You say that you try to never request anything specific, but call me boring if I -yet again- repeat that escorts are not psychics and for you to have a stellar, fulfilling experience it is paramount that you let your escort know in very clear terms what is it that you enjoy, fantasize and desire. (Try to avoid sentences such as: "Well.. I like the usual... you know... a hot time.") I believe that communication is the most important tool not only in an escort-client relationship, but in every human interaction.

 

Now when it comes to orgasm being the center of the session, I would dare to say that this is a cultural thing. I have read many times in different media that most occidental men learnt most of what they know about sex through porn. There is a huge emphasis on ejaculation with little or no attention on foreplay or the bodily signals that the partner constantly sends to let you know what is pleasurable and what is not. Apparently most of us are totally waiting for the "money shot" and we feel a little cheated if when the event happens we don't get the cheesy re-run in slow motion... :+

 

In different cultures there is little -if any- stress on ejaculation; it is all about enjoyment, intimacy, or the beauty of the act itself... (Weird, primitive cultures, I imagine!)

 

Lastly, I find responses such as "I want him to cum to know that he is aroused" surprising. I always assume that it is very easy to determine whether your partner is aroused, having a good time or not. There are so many different sets of signals that we can read. And of course I think Denny is entirely right; if your partner is hard, then he is aroused.

 

I have been escorting a few years now and the thing that excites me the most about my profession is that it allows me to get in touch with an amazing variety of people for whom sexuality is sometimes so different than mine that I wouldn't be able to identify it as such if I saw it out of context. I believe that this diversity is what makes human interactions so rich, exciting and fulfilling.

 

And in the frame of this diversity the only thing that we have to keep us together and able to interact with each other without taking offense or being hurt is communicating clearly, fully, honesty.

 

A bit hug to you all, my best (and dirtiest) wishes for this holidays, (Whatever political, religious, spiritual or atheistic your personal persuasion.) and a wet kiss. :9

[JT Brooklyn]

Juan Babe...Cumming from someone who knows...You fill Any and All expectations! LOL

 

Happy New Year Stud! ;-)

[Guest n2colour]

... or not. (You obviously have not met my brother :+ )

[+ Lucky]

Yes, Juan, you make a good point. I guess I said that if things weren't going the way I wanted, I would speak up. Sometimes it is fun to see where the escort takes them on his own.

 

In your case, knowing that you are ever hard from the moment you enter the door to the moment you leave, and that you definitely give good cum shots, I cannot expect every escort to have your expertise and interest. But you do set the gold standard and I will try to be sure in the future that escorts know just what I want!

 

Someday I think you will be teaching escorting at a major university!

[Guest LatinoRican]

I do not give my money to escorts for THEM to cum. If they do, great. If not, so be it.