Insecure escorts

[seaboy4hire]

As not to hijack another thread I am creating this one to maybe start some dialog. First why can't an escort be insecure about himself? Even though we sale our asses or cocks for money we have many of the same insecurities many of you have. Often times what we see when we look in the mirror is not what you the client or others see when you look at us. I will use myself as an example cause well I know myself better then I would know Rick, Scott or some of the other guys. So that said when I look in the mirror getting ready in the morning for the day job I often see a short fat ball of fur. As a child growing up I was on the heavy side and teased by family members (who were fat) and by kids at school. As the years went on I slimmed down a lot! Went from a 36 inch waist down to a 30. But because of all the teasing from kids and family when I look in the mirror I still see that chunky kid to this day. I am not sure no matter who tells me I am not fat I will ever be able to believe it. As a result from all the teasing and the image that I see in the mirror there are times where I will go a day or two without really eating. Yes I do get into trouble with Boobers when he finds out I've done this but it's a sacrifice I make on trying to keep the unwanted weight off. Also this is a very image based industry. And when an escort hears or sees someone busting a nut over someone that is in a similar league image wise I can't blame them for photo shopping their cocks or maybe adding a six pack. It doesn't make it right but I can understand where they are coming from when possibly doing it. Ok I am going to step off my soap box cause I need to get some sleep.

 

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Greg

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[Guest zipperzone]

>And when an escort

>hears or sees someone busting a nut over someone that is in a

>similar league image wise I can't blame them for photo

>shopping their cocks or maybe adding a six pack.

 

Guess you're not a real big fan of truth in advertising.

[seaboy4hire]

No I am totally for truth in advertising but the pressure the working guys and I'd even go as far as the nonworking ones face it can be tough. It is about the same high expectations that woman face when they turn on or flip through the media.

 

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Greg

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Greg, of course an escort may be insecure about himself! Many are. Most are? If your fantasy is to be something other than you are or can ever be, you have a setup for anxiety. You may want to be what you are not, because you think many/most clients would like you better otherwise.

 

No matter what you are physically, tall/short, hairy/smooth, cut/uncut, light/dark, hung/not hung, younger/older, etc. you will disappoint some. It has amazed me getting to know escorts the degrees of insecurity they have. The standard comment seems to be, even from guys who have perfect bodies is, "I'm a work in progress."

 

I think the best way to combat this insecurity is to work on not thinking about it. Do not falsify at all. This will cut down on the anxiety. In your case it is cool that you are intimate enough with this group to disclose your thing about your weight, but not one on here has ever had one thought about your being heavy. It does seem goofy, but I'm sure it is true that you worry about looking fat. I have always liked your straight forward, honest pictures, and you are someone I want to hire.

 

In addition to your physical attractiveness you have the openness of your personality, which is a great attraction. The insecurities can fade in time, and the confidence can increase. You will one day be 65, though, and if you spend all your time hoping you look 45 your insecurities will only increase! The escorts should trade on their strengths, work on them, work on their shortcomings to the extent possible, accept what is.

[whipped guy]

As I posted in that other thread there are a lot of people walking around out there that are insecure… very often they are clients… and yes… some are even escorts. Escorts that the average person might kill to look like… Now the guy I was speaking about in that thread also does porn… and along those lines there are quite a few insecure individuals walking around in Hollywood as well. In fact, another well known porn star actually told me his body looked ridiculous and over done… Surprisingly, he told me he would be happier if his pecs were smaller, but his job required a different look… Now in all modesty, and I took what he said with a grain of salt, but he said he wished he had my(!) pecs… so go figure! The thought almost makes me laugh out loud very time I lust over the guy’s photos…

 

There are many reasons for a person to feel self-doubting, but based on our society and its expectations physical appearance usually is at the top of the list. I guess that’s why psychologists and psychiatrists (not to mention plastic surgeons) are in business… As I mentioned in that other thread, I am a person who is easy to talk to, and in dealing with the public often people confide in me their inner most secrets… It makes me almost feel as though I would have made the perfect bartender… When they mention a physical trait that they don’t like because it does not “conform” to what is considered perfect I usually tell them that that is a good thing… that is makes them special… and gives them a singular quality that is above an beyond the commonplace… something that actually enhances their masculinity, femininity, or whatever. Plus, often individuals have “other” non-physical attributes that compensate for any physical shortcomings. Now I’m not sure if that is the best advice, but I try to accentuate the positive and hopefully that makes the person feel somewhat better about their situation. Now I was never trained in psychology (or bartending), but I would think that individuals who try to foster positive thoughts about their lot in this world lead happier and healthier lives. Easier said than done of course…

 

Now as was alluded to above, whether it is business or just life in general, it is literally and positively impossible to please every client or be liked by everyone out there… I have learned that over many years… When something goes awry, try to figure out what went wrong, if it was based on something you did… correct it… within reason that is. If it is based on something not under your control… move on to the next customer… No individual can be all things to all people.

 

Also, as I posted in still another thread there is a tush for every toilet seat and visa versa.

 

Individuality and uniqueness are good things…

[+ Charlie]

Greg, hardly anyone can be completely objective about his own looks, so if other people salivate when they see you, trust them and not what you think you see in the mirror. In the olden days when there were only print ads, I once hired a guy who advertised himself as "handsome and muscular". When I met him, I could tell that he truly believed that self-description, yet he was pathetically homely and dumpy, so self-deluded that I actually felt sorry for him. I would prefer an insecure gorgeous hunk any day to someone who thinks he's hot but isn't.

[Andre]

As a former escort, I know the feeling very well. The pressure can be overwhelming at times due to the fact that there is a reputation on the line and most importantly MONEY to be made. To top it all off when you realize that most people can not see beyond your face and your body, you start to feel like that’s all you got to offer. Funny thing is that I never thought of my self as a good-looking guy and like my friend Greg said, I see all the defects that other people don’t seem to see when ever I stand in front of the mirror.

 

Best of luck to all of you

 

 

Andre

 

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[Andre]

one more thing. Greg, I've only had the pleasure of meeting you once, but you are a lil hottie. Keep it up kid

 

Andre

[seaboy4hire]

>one more thing. Greg, I've only had the pleasure of meeting

>you once, but you are a lil hottie. Keep it up kid

>

>Andre

 

LOL I thought the same thing when out paths crossed last year! EAK! Can't believe it's been almost a year already. Glad to see you are still around. Was actually thinking about ya the other day. Hope you are doing well my friend.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

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[seaboy4hire]

> Keep it up kid

>

>Andre

 

Kid? Son I am almost old enough to be your daddy! Hmmm }(

 

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Greg

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[Guest PWIT]

>To top it all off when you realize that most

>people can not see beyond your face and your body, you start

>to feel like that’s all you got to offer.

 

Andre,

:-) So glad to see you in the message center again. And I am sure anyone that has met you has quickly seen past your looks and knows you have so much more going for you than a pretty face. Hope all is going well for you and hope our paths cross again some time in the future.

[Guest ReturnOfS]

I kind of like it when guys have some insecurity. That vulnerability brings out the daddy in me }(

[Guest rover]

Speaking of truth in advertising, does Andre REALLY have blue eyes or is he wearing contacts?

[Andre]

No need to advertise here, just killing time

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[Lookin]

What a pleasant surprise! :-)

[seaboy4hire]

I've met Andre in person and the pics he has does not due him justice. He is even more good looking in person then he is in his pics. As for his eyes I didn't notice any contacts.

 

Hugs,

Greg

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[Guest Wetnwildbear]

To be Human and Alive is to have insecurities.

 

I agree it is endearing and humanizing to see Amazingly

 

Sensual/Sexy/Hot Men that have the same fears/insecurities/pecadillos

 

of us mere mortals/clients.

 

There is a little voice in all of us that has something negative

 

to say about some part of each and everyone of us. (SHUT UP MOTHER!)

 

 

I myself am so hideous that I have caused vanloads of pregnant

 

Nuns to miscarry with just a glance!

 

 

But as with all of nature - there is a beauty in all of us - for

 

some it is physical, others mental, some an indefinable

 

inner-beauty that comes through in our words, acts and deeds.

 

 

Young/Old, Beauty/Beast, Stud/Slug, we all have beauty and

 

we are all beasts.

 

 

Love yourself - It takes less energy than hating yourself!

 

 

PS - Eat more fiber - A Clean Colon is a Pretty Colon!

 

 

:P :P

 

I myself am a Beautiful Hideous Beast!

[Guest CURIOUS35]

:-) :-) :-) :-)

 

First why can't an escort be insecure

>about himself? Even though we sale our asses or cocks for

>money we have many of the same insecurities many of you have?

 

 

:-) :-) :-) :-)

 

I have told you in a private e-mail that I like the way you post -- it is straight from the heart!

 

You are proving time and time again, the wisdom that is innate in you!

 

I will write to you again. Perhaps one day i will have the honor of meeting you-- insecurities andf all!

 

:-) :-) :-) :-)

[+ David-SF]

Dear Greg ( sorry its a long one)

i was teased and beaten up quite a bit when i was a kid

i was super skinny i looked like i was sick all the time and i had for a long time in my early child hood a cavity on my front tooth a big black one

my single mother at the time had no money to spare for a dentist when

the tooth was going to come out sooner or later anyway.

I remember things like faggot sissy and pussy and little girl.

i must have been a nelly kid i have since grown out of that.

but it made me isolate and live in a very lonely world where i thought i was no good and was not anything but ugly and should just disappear years passed by i made it through school and many other adventures some were harder than others but i made it nonetheless. I am not sure when but along the way someone said to me "you are hot why are you hidding behind that persona"

it triggered a thought i am sure that allowed me for one second to see the real me a beautiful loving kind and generous guy

i am insecure too

but i swore to myself i would never believe the lies that were ingrained into my soul and that someday i would be very sought after and i would heal and give of myself and not pay attention as much as possible to the programming of my early years because who i am today is not who they said i was.

the best revenge is to live well and happy.

its not easy to deny or block out thoughts that harm us it takes practice and even then theres no promise that it will ever go away completely.

but heres is a solution you can try if you want

practice living in the moment and saying to yourself when these things come up

"right now in this moment i have ....... and list of all the wonderful things and people and experiences in your life that you have right now

then ask yourself what can i do to share this with someone else

where can i be helpful today .

and Greg i swear to you it works all the time 100% of the time i find relief and good joy and new friends and lots of love to share with others

i am certain you are already in some form or another a giving and loving person and when these thoughts arise its not the first thing we do as people to try to list the gifts we have and then share them with someone else we would rather do that at Christmas or Thanksgiving or when we feel like it but its also a useful tool that protects us and creates lots of good karma and brings about joy to others and relief for ourselves i dont know if that helps or makes sense i hope you give it a shot next time you see a fat kid in the mirror

sooner or later if you use this technique you will see your illusion as a gift an indicator of a time to be loving and kind to others and bring joy to another less fortunate person in any small way.

and by the way the best part about it is dont tell anyone you are doing it keep it to yourself what ever gesture or kind deed or sweet words never tell anyone you did it

your life will change so fast and grow so incredibly wonderful

i think you are a swell wonderful guy i love reading your posts i see you have many fans and friends and a boyfriend that you have been with for ten years you are a super hot sweet boy you are a gift to this world and no one can ever take that from you i totally understand where you are coming from i am not perfect about practicing either i would rather hang on to things more familiar than recognize that reief is right here and now take good care and i will step off my preaching podium now sorry for the long speech Love David/SF