Lynden Thomas

[Guest EuropTravl]

Listen, the guy was a small town boy who was very "green" and wide-eyed (he about fainted when he asked what a suite in Manhattan runs and I told him - and don't look for him around DC because he didn't live there). Obviously he wanted an out from this - he discussed some about his personal life and his future plans (I'm not going there) and he obviously thought this was the way to do it. We did some talking about escorts and escorting, and he didn't know Benjamin Nicholas from Elmer Fudd. And we spent three days often walking around in less than 20 degree weather, I'm a doctor, and I'm not buying "asthma". I say just let it "rest in peace".

 

Funny how we were watching the Anna Nichole crap on TV, and I commented she was more famous in death than she ever was in life. I know, I know, I shoulda just kept my opinion to myself - I think I planted a seed in that little brain!

[buckguy]

What "fraud". Daddy probably just posted, based on the message from Lynden's email. He wanted to put an end to this persona and he did. Not the first. Not the last.

[SAdler]

I hate to undermine someone's postings (and especially to post something relevant to someone's real name) but this seems kind of important given everyone's opinions on this matter.

 

Unfortunately it would seem that Lynden truly has passed andhe will be terribly missed. Rest in Peace.

 

Personal information removed. Barry [/font color]

[Lookin]

What sad news! I apologize for my remarks in doubting that he passed on, and offer my condolences to any of his friends and family who read this. He positively affected many on this Board.

[JT Brooklyn]

Lookin...L O L I totally agree! Alot of us would like to "Erase Ourselves" and start "Totally Over" as some of these Working Guy's Have! :P

[SAdler]

>Personal information edited out.

>Barry[/font color]

 

Thank you Barry for removing that information, I really don't know what was going through my mind when I posted such personal information. Partially it was to provide people with a way to send condolences but at the same time I don't think this is the appropriate "forum" for such things for his family. I of all people have been dealing with personal information attacks for too long and should have known better, even in the case of an escort passing.

 

To summarize what was there, it was in fact an obituary for Lynden with a picture and references to his life in the D.C. area establishing congruency to the online persona.

 

The information and obituary were sent to one of Lynden's closest clients whom I have become close to in recent times and we happened to be together when he checked his home voice messages from Lynden's roommate explaining what had happened.

 

He shared with me briefly that Lynden did regularly need an inhaler and had a tendency to not have one available at all times.

 

Again, I apologize for having the personal information posted but it was the quickest way for me to get the message out and have people know the truth instead of speculating.

 

In this community it's almost eerie to think about how if one of us were to pass then the sniping would commence before the truth got out. We're all so close to each other but in reality so removed and far away. I'm sure threads have been written in the past but when an escort/client dies, unless they are THAT well known there's not usually someone to inform those of us that would want to know.

 

Rest in Peace Lynden. I didn't know you well but the little I got to know I liked and your kindness and genuineness were hard to find in this day and age.

[MindThe Gap]

RE: An apology to management

 

Please allow this personal and public apology, to Daddy and his site management, to reflect my personal regret for my earlier comments within this thread. Although prefaced as "But if true", the content of my post placed more guilt upon, than possibility of, and for that I am deeply, deeply sorry.

[Guest O solo mio]

RE: An apology to management

 

Mind The Gap, don't feel bad, you were just believing what Ben Nicholas presented as fact. He claimed to have proof of Lynden faking his own death,with quotes from Lynden and all, so who can blame you for believing him. If anyone's credability has been destroyed, it's Ben Nicholas and I for one won't be believing everything I read from now on, it's all just gossip and hearsay.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

*Please read apology below

[MindThe Gap]

>My creditability stands strong in this case:

 

Like a fart in the wind it does.

 

>I recieved a response from someone at Lynden's account stating to be him.

 

Sooo, someone who wanted everyone else in the world to think that he was dead, told YOU, that he was faking it all, knowing that you would certainly never breach his confidence and trust to anyone else. Yep, that makes alot of sense.

 

>I'm not saying i'm not capable of being duped

 

So now you're a victim in all of this. How terribly tragic and sad.

 

>If i had to guess this minute about Lynden, i'd say that he's

>a very confused young man who simply got into a situation that

>he didn't know how to pull himself out of.

 

Disparaging the dead, in an attempt to blind others of the fact that you created a story, hoping it would play out to your benefit and when it didn't and you got busted out on it, say's to me that "You're a very confused young man who simply got into a situation that you don't know how to pull yourself out of."

 

When you find yourself in a self dug hole.....Stop digging.

[Guest O solo mio]

>Disparaging the dead, in an attempt to blind others of the

>fact that you created a story, hoping it would play out to

>your benefit and when it didn't and you got busted out on it,

>say's to me that "You're a very confused young man who simply

>got into a situation that you don't know how to pull yourself

>out of."

 

Sad but true, his immature and callous response stunned me. Here Ben had a chance to admit his mistake, instead he chose to continue to smear the dead. He's only succeeding in making himself look bad and destroying his credability.

[tazmanian5230]

Deleted by poster.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

*Please see comments below

[Guest n2colour]

FWIW, I saw the picture of the deceased (which matches the pictures of the escort mentioned here to a T) and the obituary at the funeral home site, along with the visitor's notebook entries, written by long-time friends and a few family members, and unless it is an amazingly elaborate hoax, the man is dead.

 

You can continue being confused about whether or not the man is dead or you can ask one of those who know his real name to look up the obituary for you, or give you the link. I imagine SAdler might be happy to give it to you. It will take all of about 5 minutes of your time (less time than it took for you to read and reply here in fact).

 

Or you can continue what you are doing. One route defuses the situation, the other inflames it. Like almost everything in life, the choice is yours.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I was emailed the link and immediately contacted the funeral home. As mentioned, unless a massive hoax (which it's not), Lynden has passed away. I'm still confused about a few things, but the bigger issue has been settled.

 

I apologize for any callous remarks i may have made regarding the situation. I truly feel terrible. Not only about his death, but for the additional hurt i've caused. May this incredibly young man rest in peace.

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[Guest O solo mio]

>Like i said on MER, i will NOT post anything on 15mm until i

>can get word from his family, a formal death notice or

>anything more 'official' than a user-created webpage stating

>that he has died.

 

Talk about the heighth of indiscretion. You're going to contact his FAMILY, who may not even know he was an escort? How did you switch from escort to private investigator, digging up and researching people's private information? As far as a user created web page, I don't know what that's about, many of us saw the page, it was the official sight of the funeral parlor with comments from friends and family. What more proof do you need and who are you to need it in the first place? Let him rest in peace and drop it already.

[SAdler]

I promised several other posters that for the sake of Lynden's memory and the status quo of "respect" on this board that if things got out of hand I would suggest we create a new thread and not litter this one with hate, insults, and innuendo.

 

It is completely possible that Lynden's roommate was trying to make him have a "retirement" exit. None of us beside BN and those clients can know what he actually received in his inbox. Without going into too much detail, I just know that given the primary source and how close he was to Lynden I firmly believe everything I've seen and heard in the last 48 hours.

 

I'm sure any questions will be answered and made clear but until then please either create a new thread or keep the hatred in this one to a minimum. Thank you.

[Guest EuropTravl]

I've read the obituary page too and am very sad, but it was closure for me.

And lay off Benjamin for stating "Lynden" was "confused". I'd add "tormented".

"Elmer Gantry" was published in 1927, did you know that?

In his life, "Lynden" never had anything to fear in this message board - it's not people

here or those of us who spent time with him who would have harmed him. And I don't mean to. But it's time to stop. He IS gone and he WAS tormented. Do we now have to see the death certificate?

[Lookin]

Benjamin, although you posted some stuff that wasn’t fully checked out, I also jumped right on board and ran with it. You’re not any more at fault than I am. I feel terrible about what I posted, and it seems you do too. My posts now offend me as I look back on them, and I apologize to others who are offended.

 

What Scott posted, before it was removed, was a web page from the funeral home where Lynden’s memorial service will be held this evening. It was heartbreaking to read how much this young man accomplished in his short life. If there’s a positive side to this, it’s the many people he touched in a positive way, including some on this board.

 

He’s left me with a lesson to think more carefully before I speak or post, and for that I am thankful.

 

Although I didn’t know Lynden, my thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends.

[luv2rim]

Anybody notice that escort Lynden Thomas in DC website is gone, men4rent add is gone and is no longer on rentboy.com. Anyone know what happened?

[Guest novabear22031]

>FWIW, I saw the picture of the deceased (which matches the

>pictures of the escort mentioned here to a T) and the obituary

>at the funeral home site, along with the visitor's notebook

>entries, written by long-time friends and a few family

>members, and unless it is an amazingly elaborate hoax, the man

>is dead.

>

>You can continue being confused about whether or not the man

>is dead or you can ask one of those who know his real name to

>look up the obituary for you, or give you the link. I imagine

>SAdler might be happy to give it to you. It will take all of

>about 5 minutes of your time (less time than it took for you

>to read and reply here in fact).

>

>Or you can continue what you are doing. One route defuses the

>situation, the other inflames it. Like almost everything in

>life, the choice is yours.

 

As I have mentioned, Lynden and I only had a few emails and a phone call or so. I was most heart\-broken over the weekend over the news. Now more so that it has been confirmed.

 

For the honesty he treated me, may he rest in peace. Since we never were able to meet, I do feel there is a void based on what others have said.

 

Lynden, may you find happiness in your final resting place. So sorry that such a a kind soul was taken so early from us.

[kjun]

I believe that it is time to put this topic to rest along with Mr. Thomas.

 

the Cajun

[Richard]

I have seen BN refer to an apology and have even wandered on over to his site, but it seems to be the same blog, eye candy and all. Can someone send me the link to that exchange please?