Question about rates...

[midwest44]

Have been seeing the same guy regulary for about 2 years. We communicate in between visits and have had many good times. My question is about rates. I pay the same rates that we started with, both for evening and overnight, plus I feel generous extras. Then at times I see reviews of him and the rate is less, or his ad and he will be running a special, but when we meet, even if it is the running a special week, I pay the same.

Not really complaining, but just thinking where is the appreciation for a consistent, not a one time thing client? Am I being over sensitive here?

[+ purplekow]

Have you raised this issue to him? Does he tell you what to pay each visit or you just offer the same amount each time?

If you feel you deserve more as a client of long duration then by all means ask for it.

What you can't expect is for this man to suddenly spontaneously say, don't pay me that much, pay me less.

If you have asked him about this, rather than sulked about it, and he is not amenable to any further financial consideration for you, then either pay the price or walk.

 

 

By the way, yes you are really complaining.

[Guest zipperzone]

None of us like to be taken for a fool and perhaps this is what you are feeling. Bringing up the subject with the escort could be uncomfortable. Don't know what I would do in these circumstances. Good luck!

[JT Brooklyn]

This Question will always be in the back of your mind, whenever you guys do hangout! I know it would be in mine!

 

I too had a similar situation, with a Guy who did an Overnite and it was quoted in a Review $200 Less than what my Rate was! Of course I was not a "Long Time Regular", so it didn't concern me as much as I can understand it does you! I suggest you be Upfront and just ask him!

 

In NYC we donot experience "Special Rates"...Just a FEW HOT HUNKS who know that keeping their Rates at $200-220 means Many Repeat Appointments and the Rent Paid on Time! LOL :P

[Guest larryoz]

If the rate hasn't changed in two years you should consider yourself lucky. Your rent and electricity bills would have gone up in that time.

 

Donno about the specials etc cos I would have thought regular clients would get the special every time.

[Epigonos]

Yes you are probably being overly sensitive but then that is your right. There are, most likely, several things going on here. You state that you communicate between get togethers. Does that mean you meet at times off the clock? Do you really like this guy both sexually and personally? If the answer to both is YES then why not consider the greater amount as a tip. Keep in mind that escorts rates have generally gone up over the last two years -- your rate with this guy has not. If you can afford the rate you are paying why not just pay his fee and have fun.

If this money thing is, as it appears to be, really bothering you talk to him. However, before doing so consider what his answer might be and how you will respond. If you aren't prepared for a questions possible answer then for gods sake don't ask it. Only you know how important this matter is and whether in the end it merits all this time and thought. GOOD LUCK AND ENJOY!!!!!

[+ Cash4Trash]

Another thing to consider - most of the guys I've seen over a long period of time do "extras" for no additional pay. They might stay

for a longer period than contracted, they might do something sexually (kiss, etc.) that they don't advertise. Mention rate disparity if you must but be prepared for a chill in the relationship.

[Lookin]

It’s not unlike what my cable company keeps doing to me. They’ve got all kinds of special deals for new customers, but nothing for the guy who’s been a loyal customer for thirty years. Sure it bugs me, but they’re putting a higher value on money than on loyalty. Sounds like your escort friend is doing the same thing.

 

The guy is running a business, in addition to providing an intimate service, so it’s easy to see how the lines can get blurred. He may value you as a client and as a person, but he may not be able to afford cutting back all his rates to match his “introductory rates” for new clients.

 

If it’s bothering you, and you want to say something, I think you can do it without necessarily jeopardizing the relationship. Just tell him you realize he sometimes makes business decisions to charge less for new customers, but you want him to know how it makes his loyal customers feel, and that some of them may just drift away without ever letting him know why. Tell him you’re not planning to drift away, but you’d appreciate his thinking about you and his other loyal customers, and deciding if it’s worth showing some loyalty to them as well.

 

Even if he keeps doing what he’s doing, like my cable company, I wouldn’t take it too personally. If it still bothers you, after you’ve got it off your chest, you can always cut back on the “generous extras”. Good luck!